Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Marvellous!

xpost REALLY dl? Haha that's actually true as well.

Hey! I'm getting better at spotting virgins! 66%.

girls with teeny-emo webcam shots = 14-year-old virgins
dorky girls with dorm-room pictures = college-freshman virgins
young boys trying hard to look "nice" = virgins
people with photos in apartments or bars = not virgins

My world is all topsy-turvy now.

It says: "In general, males are about as good as females at spotting virgins. But females almost always guess correctly with female pairs."

Unless my logic is skewy, surely this also implies that men alomst always guess correctly with male pairs, unless they instead make up all the ground by getting much better scores in the mixed pair ones, which would be very odd.

Women

f/f = 90
m/f = 75
m/m= 45

Men =

f/f = 68%
m/f = 75%
m/m = 67%

Which would be mean men are better at spotting m/f than either m/m or f/f. Hmm.. that would also be weird. Other combinations I've tried result in both sexes being bettter at spotting female virgins than male ones, which seem noteworthy enough for them to put up on the website.

Can you come up with a set of average scores that fits what we know without any interesting implications at all?

ihttp://www.okcupid.com/profile?pic=0&tuid=8878330946154156249

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=12703610378878205705

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=1366843686365106737

haha

I still don't get this... Could someone please explain it to this poor foreigner?

radcliffy
 
adj.   Consisting of the broad range of personality traits normally associated with Harvard girls.

Bob's organized, ambitious, and smart. I wish I were more Radcliffy like he, because I can't get a job at Morgan Stanley. He needs to fuckin' loosen up, though

I don't like this new layout. The most off-putting part is probably the "Real Friends: None (0)" part. Sheesh.

x-post.

OMG teh oxymoron!11

You should message me if:
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------
You can appreciate this bizarre social experiment.

Plus he works on the computer field, and has kids. So it's prolly just a joke.

OKCupid.com, Pt.2- Afterparty! Hotel lobby! REMIX!

The punchline, of course, was that her profile said she was looking for someone "who could be honest with (her)".

Loads of you haven't even filled in any information, come on, that's the most interesting bit, not your moody rubbish photos, ch.

true - only about 70% of the profiles I look at involve self harm in the "most embarassing thing you'll admit" section.

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I'm not really active on OKC, maybe someday if I get bored enuff.
Those are funny pictures you posted on yr profile though.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=16444105625221119984

what do i do now? do you all tell me your names and stuff?

WTF!?!...*harumph*

FWIW though I do have a freestyle as my 'about me' section on my myspace profile, although it's way less retarded than that dude's:

"i'm a shaved wookiee on fire. check my suave attire. you keepin' it real, i ain't real, i'm a cartoon like yer messiahr. blissed-out mystifier. electric like a live wire. one day your empire will fall to the billions of offspring i will sire."

nickdastoor: ra-ra-ra
dog latin: akendoha
kathryn m: birthdaycake
lauren: missbrooke
carey: hidethehead
aldo_cowpat: aldo_cowpat
mandee: mandalion
roxymuzak: roxymuzak
melissa w: radioreverie
ronan: mr_lamouche
mark p: apropat
cozen: cozenx
davidr: draconn
carsmilesteve: carsmile
ricardo: rubalcohol
ste: bonesboy
bryan: snackwich
liz: wintryme
crackity: indieboy83
andrew farrell: andrewfarrell
dom passantino: journalis
jon w: supershine
tracer: FondantUnctious
Martin Skidmore: MartinSk
teeny: teenydreams
Ally: allyzay
Matt DC: racingsantander
Gregory Henry: 9kyuG

I'm lixenixen. Anyone who's missing from the list can post their username here.

I'm confused.

I like the idea of OKCupid being hijacked by Nigerian criminals.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?pic=0&tuid=897973704921714626

haha um nabisco I sent you a message a week ago on okcupid because it was the only way I could think to contact you! had no idea yr account had gone feral, um, could you please sent a blank email to stevie dot kaye at gmail dot com? & I'll cut'n'paste the message?

I've been clicking through photos for ten minutes and haven't found one single dirty dronerock boy yet. :-(

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=10337933922172227069

?

I've been playing on okcupid a lot lately. There are lots of funny tests now and there's pretty girls on there who are interesting and stuff.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=13276127016854857223

The complete list is here:
http://www.okcupid.com/hotlist

Number #2358 is YOU. We compile this thing every night, and you could move up or down, depending on who's born.

(but then again my profile is representative of some weird dude who cuts himself)

I recommend it.

Compared to males his age:

He's sloppier
He's less trusting
He's cruder
He's less organized
He's greedier
He's more independent
He's more introverted

Don't all rush at once girls.

although i actually met up with a girl from there one time (way way back from when it all started though). I wonder if okcupid has lost the momentum.

p.s. i just got a woo!

Funnily enough, I only seem to be finding friends and not partners. Then again, I'm far too bewildering for 99.9% of Tallahassee. I've met one girl on there and we played Uno on a deck at a local lake but it wasn't romantic in any sense. I actually ran into the girl at a concert on Wednesday and after we figured out who we were we didn't speak to each other for the rest of the evening, but personally I was intimidated because she brought along a friend who gave me one really funny look and that kept me from saying more.

I am fine with Isaac Asimov, but for some reason this is the bit that made me go "ok, no".

From a guy in my hometown:
t's bump uglies and be discreet, no commitments here, i just want some sex hardcore

robl

Juror_8

GET ONE SOMETHING ANYTHING INTERESTING TO SAY K THX BYE

He's more energetic
He's more adventurous
He's less methodical
He's more artsy
He's less mathematical
He's more indie
He's more independent

Aren't you a stoner hippy?

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=3148287009413629834

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=15844350803907121466

haha i'm not telling! you'll have to do a matches search in london and find me :)

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v655/lixnixn/p1102165508.jpg

By the way, I sent you a friendship request ages ago, but you never answered... Was it something I said?

only joking, i've had 2 beers

is my #1 match. I've never had a match above 89%. Does that make me lame?

Compared to other males my age I'm apparently:
less aggressive
less ambitious
more artsy
more compassionate
less geeky
less capitalistic
more progressive
less selfish
more indie
less kinky
more literary
more loving
more pure
less Republican
less sex-driven
less spiritual
more emotional
more political
less competitive

No surprises there.

My number one match in the world used to be Martin Skidmore (95%), but I can't find his profile anymore.

Huh? I don't even own a camera.

About forty, I think.

Care to share with us, Ken?

a) it's crap
b) nobody likes me
c) both of the above.

My money's on C, but I could be wrong.

crosspost

http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=8386974580582591271#topofim

... Matrix (obviously) ...

THESE WORDS ALL PERFECETLY DESCRIBE MY PERSONALITY AND MY PROFILE.

Maybe in between learning how to run science by herself she didn't bother learning how to read.

she's a horse!

This alteration has occured so that people reading my profile will no-longer become intimidated.

I'm on OKCupid's Stranger Arranger list this week. Matched up with someone who, according to their main comparison, is only a 13% match. What's that all about then?

I got tired of OKC, really, people saw my profile and said I was cute (like insane people), and then (like sane people) ignored my responses, thuogh that might be due to my non-committal responses along the lines of "yeah, so what?"

Surely "you can write an X interpreter (or compiler) in X!" is true for *any* half-decent computer language?

(all from ilx alas!)

Ah well, maybe I would do it if I had a picture of myself. Which I don't. So never mind. Unless I can use that hott one that Ned took where you can't see my face!

There's about... 721 things that are great about this profile.

My page - http://www.okcupid.com/profile?tuid=13374211841705807890

Incidentally, I have still had nobody at all try to contact me through OKC, and no replies to any messages I've sent out through it. Bah.

I like the first message on this thread. No new thread, etc.

Not that anyone on ILX will understand my tastes, but still.

I'm going to be having a crack at this again tonight. Once I've figured out this new linux installation and maybe watched some more comic strip eps.

http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=16973236765018718872

It's rub, but putting the pictures in there was fun!

The first post on this thread is vintage Latin.

Oh my! You're always around on ILX chat sessions, you go to FAPs when
you can, your picture's often up on those "what do you look like?"
threads, and there's more than one TITTWIS post with your name on it.
In the middle of all of ILX's crazed flame wars and dripping sarcasm,
you never stop treating it as, you know, just a pleasant message board.
Which is sort of awesome, and might just mean you're a "young Ned in
training". ;-)

vintage latin? lollers!

The description doesn't really apply to me though!

***

I am quite thrilled by this, as I am a huge fan of Ned. If Nabisco is the King of ILX, and Momus is the Queen, then Ned is the bishop: diplomatic, diagonal, works well in a tactical situation, can be used to break through pw3n structures.

so who's gonna be stroking the Ned?

You scored 63% pwnedness!

i once invited dom passantino to a hen fap through the powers of text message from a non-ilx okcupider's phone.

Someone came up to me at a dinner party a few months back and went "You're on OKCupid, aren't you? So am I". SOCIAL NETWORKING.

OKCupid makes me feel a bit Groucho Marx ish - I wouldn't want to go out with anyone I've been highly matched with. Matt and I are only something like a 67% match according to OKC, so there you go.

hi
u look female
are u gay

thanks ok cupid.

I'd rather keep on with my impossible crushes, methinks.

Anyone still doing this?

"Hurricane was named after me....
a fighter who never give up in any battle Adventurous,FEARLESS but Beloved...
Passionate but dominating ( a translusent line between LOve & Lust) a self proclaimed Hopeless Romantic,
(im misunderstood yet im still trying) in real world,
i have been complimented a thousand times, but have been insulted a hundred time..
You can love me,you can ashamed on me, But you will be proud of me...
You can hate me but probably You gonna like me..
I can give you the pleasure that you never had before..
a pleasure that can count ure Fantasy..
i can make ure libido run's through ure veins, experimenting a new world of fantasy with me..
just like taking an ectasy.. a hobby that u will look forward to..oohh
be with me to the way of booty heaven "

I still visit OKCupid occasionally, but I've only met 2 people in real life through it in the 4+ years I've been registered there. I think the more generalized nature of it actually makes it worse as a dating site, because it's kinda hard to tell why some people have put their profiles there. I think the sort of dating sites where people leave actual dating ads that only valid for a month or two instead of a general profile work better if you want actually go out on a date, because it's easier to know what they're after in that particular situation. I guess if you just want to chat with like-minded folks from other countries or do personality tests, OKCupid is ok for that.

"that are only valid"

this site was only fun just answering the questions and seeing how it matched you up, heaven for bid I'd actually *gasp* meet up with someone from it.

I thought that's what dating sites are for though...?

i made quite a few okc buddies over the years (but mainly was back when they had a messageboard going)

i met my gf on okc

link?

It seems like you'd have to invest a lot of time into it to get a little return. Still, I have dated one or two people from it, not that they were very successful overall.

i am scared to meet the people on it bc they creep me out.

girl profiles get way lot more action than boy ones (i registered the exact same profile as my real one, except changed the name to a girls name and put myself in as female, with the first google picture i found for 'indie girl', the first day i registered i received 85 messages)

cool, are you meeting up with any of them ?

no but i can refer some to you? :)

I still visit OKCupid occasionally, but I've only met 2 people in real life through it in the 4+ years I've been registered there. I think the more generalized nature of it actually makes it worse as a dating site, because it's kinda hard to tell why some people have put their profiles there.

I think this is both its greatest weakness and its greatest strength - you get a better cross-section of people who just logged in to find out what Harry Potter character they are or what their dating type is. IOW you get just everybody who is bored at work, which could include actual hot people in addition to the normal dating site lurkers (like, say, me). Now, the vast majority of the time these hot people are seeing someone or not interested, but if you can catch them in a brief window of availability....

I dunno - I've been on there about as long and I've racked up one best friend in the world (total babe & occasional lover as well) and one sweet, short-lived, super-sexy fling that didn't go anywhere and left me bummed out for a while. I think that's an OK track record for a dating site for a guy like me.

i met one person on this site and it was a disaster. she was a holy roller.

I found two people I was interested in and neither has replied to me. I have a slew of replies from young 'uns but sadly no interest in being Mrs Robinson.

I signed up at the end of June and have met a bunch of people irl, all of them cool and most of them no less cuet than their pics. It probably helps that I'm in San Francisco.

I deleted my profile last month. I met up with one person last winter who was nice enough, but realized then that I am not confident enough in my real life ability to meet people to be meeting people on a dating site. (You might think "well that's WHY you would use a dating site!" but that's not how the psychology works.) But I'm moving to a city where I'm sure there'd be a lot of interesting people on it, so it will remain a temptation.

Two dates this weekend set up via OKC. Unheard of. Both seem not scary, creepy or anything so hoping it'll be fun if nothing else. It'd better be (see co-workers bitching thread).

And...?

Got sick and missed one of them - postponed till next week. Other one was rescheduled for last night. He was a really, really nice guy, and pretty attractive. We had loads to talk about as he'd lived in Serbia for two years, knew Eastern Europe and had just bought a cat. Somehow or other this did not lead to sparkling conversation :-(

The other one is drunkenly messaging me about beer.

we have a winner!

I'm the only saddo still on OKCupid, aren't I?...

I just use it for the tests! </lie>

i'm still there but none of them ever date me. maybe we should date?

itt: dom passantino expressing the emotion "love"

actually, i'm kinda considering this

i killed my okcupid account

this means no more mandee's greatest moments on okcupid thread :(

i did make a fake name and now i just edit people's profiles

dammit WHY ONLY gay straight or bi? is there nothing between straight and bi? no sliding scale?

sorry folks, but straight it is. peace god. ;_;

a few months back i tried it and went on a couple dates, one of them turned into a two-week mini-relationship, but eh. i don't think online dating is for me.

this is a bit innocent smoothie

still on it, haven't done anything with it in a good while. I know if I update my profile I'll only get a fresh barrage of good-hearted but uninteresting 19-year-old nerdies looking my way. (I'm 27, so...) Also I'm moving soon anyway, so why bother trying to find romance?

xposts

Ken, if you can do better than message 'lol I am buzzed' or talk earnestly about Serbia, or achieve something between the two, you're on. It will be a long distance relationship.

Mandee, I have a fake name too so that I can stalk unseen without messing around with my 'real' (ahem) profile settings.

feeling this

Another date today. Don't say 'if this goes well, we could go do X' in the first five minutes for fuck's sake! (Him, not me).

On the upside my next and probably final date has alerted me to this, which at least means he'll have a sense of humour if it all goes pear-shaped.

here's hoping X was philately or Hornby trainset painting or something

X was going to Baltimore, which sent me into a hasty explanation of how much I like exploring cities ON MY OWN

wow! within 5 minutes too! way to blow your load

NB, I do live only 40 mins from Baltimore, so it's not so bad, but yeah.

lol "I will explore my local city ALONE, thanks"

dude should have been all Euro capital on you

I'm the only saddo still on OKCupid, aren't I?...
― ljubljana, Thursday, May 21, 2009 6:14 PM (3 days ago) Bookmark

I'm on okcupid but every time I use the browse feature it's the same old girls in my area that I don't want to date.
I haven't had any luck on dating sites for over 25 years now.

I had a marathon 'match' session recently and I really do think I've met the only two guys I was interested in meeting (of those that that 'match' is finding for me in the top, you know, ahemthreehundred or so), with a third later this week. And that's in DC! I really fancy the third based on his picture so I'm kind of stupidly optimistic about it.

captain lorax you have not been using dating sites for more than 25 years

NB, I am now sending stupid messages to the third guy in order to fuck things up in advance. Fucking things up when really interested must be hard-wired in.

Am yet to gauge quite how immersive this website can be, but it seems to contain multitudes of wasted time

multitudes of time

like 'a myriad of options'. That drives me up the wall.

you know, you don't have to bite the apple ljubljana. you could set an example for women everywhere (because obviously they are all sinful snake listening apple biters)

whaaa

Eh? (I'll consider it, but I'll have to understand it first).

you don't have to fuck things up

Oh. Well, I'll try not to. But it's amazing how your instincts, which seem not to be fucked up at the time, drive you to write very convoluted things in the pursuit of a good impression.

thank you

i fuck things up too

Well, that was... better than the other two dates... a bit trying-too-hard-talking-too-much (him), nodding, smiling (me)

I went on a OKC date tonight. At some point in the evening, the three dudes next to us at the bar engaged us in a conversation, which started out okay. But at some point one of them started going on and on about Freud, so my date ripped into him to the point that the three dudes left the bar in a huff. It was very strange, and honestly I was pretty impressed.

3 ILXors going on dates on the same day was evidently too much for the server facility

you too Louis? Spill all, though Freud-pusher-bashing is going to be hard to beat.

aw i just met up with a cute and extremely open american chick (born within 2 weeks of me) and wandered round london's great parks for about 4 hours, was swell :)

we had much to talk about, and talk we duly did

Oh that's luuuuuuuurvely! Seeing her again?

of course! she has big plans for me. possibly involving her male friends. lol but seriously, yeah! it's only taken us a week to become good friends...and there's obvious mutual attraction too. might not be romance of the century, but it's definitely not a prospective fuckbuddy thing either...we're tight.

tight Adj. 1. To be frugal or not generous. {Informal}
2. Drunk. {Informal}

i.e. a good friendship, with maybe a bit of sex (rather than the other way around), which might or might not develop into stronger things, but which won't prevent either of us dating/seeing others

anyway i find the best thing is not to think or talk about it too much but just to enjoy it as it comes, which is what i shall now do :)

i mean, on a final note, the golden A+ number one rule to how well these things go is obviously communication, conversational compatibility, and meeting someone awesome and on-yer-wavelength for the day is worth ten thousand empty shags

if you end up shagging* them then like haha yeah that's pretty much why i joined this website

*if they're REALLY, like, whoa-where-have-you-been-all-my-life, upgrade to dating, but hey you're only young once

My date just asked to be my friend on Facebook and I said no. No damn way I'm having my friends see potentially cringemaking wall posts. But he seemed ok about it. I think he just chalked it up to my being an uptight Britisher. So, that's how hey, whoo 'you're only young once' I am about OKC.

Erm, mind you I'm not young. I didn't think about that.

you're only young once, but it can be a long once if you want it to be :P

good luck with him, anyway. that's if you want luck.

fwiw re: my date, i do want to clarify that i would see her again, gladly, even if it was established that sex/a relationship would not be on the cards, which is how it should be with good matches :)

also, and this time really finally, she messaged me first ;)

She gets major bonus points for that. I know because I got them for messaging my date ;-)

are you seeing him again?

Prooooooooooobably

taking it slowly, eh? well gooooooood luck!

did you see her again Louis? Went on a second date with mine and decided I really like him but he is claiming overwork/no time to connect. I think I believe him but hell, I should be irresistible surely and damn the consequences.

aw yeah, where are this man's priorities?

I did see her again, yeah! Met her and her gay friends for an evening of drinking games and revelry, which was great fun, by the time we got to a club she decided she was too drunk to go in so I walked her home, whereupon she vommed and passed out in the bathroom :-/ but it was all cool and cordial the next day! I doubt anything sexual/romantic will happen there.

Last week I met up with someone else, in Oxford (so I could tie it in with meeting a heapload of old friends), and that went extremely well. She was pretty much entirely on my wavelength, loads of "oh me too!" moments. Discovered after two days that she wasn't up for a relationship as such because she'd only recently broken up (and was 'finding herself'), and indeed she quit OKC immediately afterwards, but we've stayed in touch, and it's at least, I'd hope, a friendship.

Pity about your prospective bloke L. I think you should devise some plan of action! Make a surprise visit or something! Without making it look too desperate obv.

that's nice that the 'friends, activity partners' choices can actually function as such! I think my plan of action is just to go quiet on email and see what happens....

Well, 'Activity Partners' I take to mean 'bandmates' or 'sporting opponents' or somesuch. The first of my two liaisons probably counted as a friend thing, the second as a very short-term date which blurred both friendship and activity partner lines. I guess she introduced me to The Wire, that must count for something.

Your plan is possibly for the best. But be wary of trying to tease him out! He may need a bit more convincing.

Yeah, but we exchange emails several times a day - I'm running out of witty responses to convince him with. A third date and only a third date will tell him whether he's interested or not, and he cancelled the one we had set up due to overwork, so ball is in his court... and I am no player by The Rules, but still...

Met her and her gay friends

Looks like someone is being set up!

score
Happy! but cautious

bosh

knew it'd work out for ya

:-(
It is like dating the plot of a Woody Allen movie.

I suspect this is a regular hazard on OKC.

Whatever works!

i've gotten some p good tail off okc (not posting my profile for u animals to dissect)

seen it

!! how'd u know it was me, did i unwittingly message u or something

;)

lol

i just erased my profile.

Mine's 'suspended', like my judgement on the quasi-relationship it spawned. Couldn't face erasing just yet, it took too long to answer the questions...

Couldn't face erasing just yet, it took too long to answer the questions...

haha so otm

'stalkers' are now 'visitors' wtf ;_;

Mine's 'suspended', like my judgement on the quasi-relationship it spawned. Couldn't face erasing just yet, it took too long to answer the questions...

― ljubljana, Sunday, August 2, 2009 8:27 PM

same lol

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3482/3869142549_0f740d8f8a.jpg

yeah i quit okcupid today

87% Match!!

oh hay guyz i gave up on okcupid about a year ago (the women were too intelligent!!) but out of the blue a 32 year old lady msg'd me asking why i couldnt be 5 years older

wtf

hit that imo

thx for the tip

the women were too intelligent!!

Er, what I really should have typed is that most girls on that site are very intelligent but are very serious about that intelligence and I don't think they would appreciate me shoehorning references to 70s British sitcoms in every conversation as a joke, which I have been doing a lot to annoy people!!

^I think this might be a very telling post about you, Pato.

I think I know what KBP means. It's not just the women. I read a ton of male profiles where I got as far as the lines that basically read 'I am deeply concerned with the state of the world and have an intelligent take on this that you are unlikely to fully understand' and clicked 'never show me this profile again'.

Meanwhile my quasi-relationship spawned by OKC seems to be an actual relationship, which is good since I've totally fallen for the person concerned. Wish me luck, it could still implode.

good luck!!!!

Thanks :-) Thinking about you on OKC makes me smile, I think you have exactly the right attitude to it.

and if it implodes, blame the internet ^_^

there's a fine line between taking your profile seriously as a light-hearted but well-written exposition of self, and taking your profile seriously as an uncompromising arsenal of one's unflappable wisdom. it sinks my heart when people cross this line.

haha xp aw cheers :-)

Mine profile is one of lighthearted whimsy and I think it is one that turns the ladies of OKCupid off, as 95% of them these days seem to be "I AM STUDYING FOR A MASTERS IN HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY. I CARE ABOUT THE ENVIRONMENT AND I LIKE TO LISTEN TO JAZZ. DON'T MESSAGE IF BLAH BLAH BLAH."

Which is actually good, because I refuse to have my balls cut off by some jumpy postgrad student.

my friend always fucks fat chicks off this site

I thnk I still have a really OLLLDDD OKC profile that I only created to do those quizzes and comparisons early on - I honestly didnt think of the dating side at all. My profile must show I'm completely inactive and it says "not single, not looking" and has some stupid irreverence in it. And yet I still get dodgy weirdos msging me occasionally... though I havent checked in at least 12 months so NFI now.

At this moment in time, having met a few lovely people from it and taken business to gchat or facebook, I'm only really using it for an epic and magnificent correspondence with a wonderfully-written lass from the other side of the country, who's in a similar situation to me regarding a wish for uncomplicated dating, and a desire not to rush into anything serious. The correspondence has really unlocked me as a writer, and some of my best prose has been committed to screen throughout its duration (I'm challenging the 10,000 character limit at every pop, more or less; we have 6 paragraphs in strict rotation to help compartmentalise the discussion, and her way with rendering only the most essential details in beautifully concise, witty and erudite form enables the discussion to 'reset' in preparation for another one of my expansive braingusts). Obviously I'm not expecting anything more than great conversation at the moment, but I would dearly like to meet her at some stage during the next 6 months or so, because I suspect we'd get on rather splendidly. Even then, nothing much more than great face-to-face conversation would ensue, but the value of this, as I am discovering, grows higher by the day.

KBP, stick to your guns dude, the chicks on there may be principled but some of them know how to kick back and laugh at themselves/everything else as well. Only by being true to yourself will you find people you'd benefit from meeting [/cliche] oh wait you pretty much said that yourself

Also, stridently far-left/ecological/sophisticated people are often not quite so ball-slicing in certain situations. Quite the glorious opposite, in fact. Just sayin'.

my friend always fucks fat chicks off this site

How long have you known Dom Passantino??

This thread begged me to log back on again. I did one of those advanced searches and if this one girl responds than I might be in luck :)

A.D.D., PISCES, CASUAL ENCOUNTERS, LIKES TO DRAW

could be a real winner

a self-identifying pisces with ADD sounds pretty dysfunctional to me.

yeah actually she did come off kind of dysfunctional but CASUAL ENCOUNTERS

ha! then you don't have to worry much about intricate or complex projects that never get finished.

haha. but that sounds like me also though

great! ... okay, I shouldn't post anymore astrology challops ...

She ended up being one of those people that make an OkCupid account but never log in again. Oh and I said her astrological sign wrong. She is a scorpio. I thought I was only searching for pisces with the new search engine filters but I guess I forgot that I added scorpio as well. I'm a cancer and all the water signs are compatible if you are into the astrology hoo-haa. We also get along with the earth signs pretty well.

(mind my grammar mistakes)

yeah actually she did come off kind of dysfunctional but CASUAL ENCOUNTERS

― CaptainLorax, Monday, 31 August 2009 03:57 (1 week ago) Bookmark

dude. no.

things never work out the way I picture them in my mind
thankfully I have never acted upon such things (I have never had a casual encounter from the internet or some other service)
my ego only goes so far.. like typing stupidfully in this OkCupid topic. I am done

tbh, I haven't let my ego act upon much of anything in the past few years. no sticky situations for me, at least

I've only had 2 dates from girls off the internet in the past (5-6 years ago?). one girl was exceptionally boring. with the other girl I made a bad impression but she would have never been my type anyways

nonetheless I will continue browsing these internet dating sites looking for someone compatible

oh yeah, there was a third girl, we slowly meandered away from each other.. there wasn't ever going to be anything there

'reset' in preparation for another one of my expansive braingusts

ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww yucko

I just signed up for this. First experience with a dating site, seems fairly promising. Just sent a couple msgs to matches along with some "winks" along with answering questions. Sooo...we'll see.

A couple of the conversations on other threads inspired me tonight and I got three pages in on the matches in my area and stopped here

I am a Central Florida college student, toiling daily to get by and stay high. I have a healthy interest in the lives of other people and an obsession with visual language.

I receive so many messages it is unfeasible for me to reply to all of them, and honestly I am probably not DTF.

I had to look it up in the Urban Dictionary. Girl was wearing ironic bifocals I guess? Because her other pictures were like aspiring model club kid hipster, heavily photoshopped fashion shots, stuff like that.

dtf . . . dtf. Sheesh.

And one cute girl close to my age within a few pages and I'm thinking, NEERRRRRRRRD. What's going to happen when you've worked through all those Robert Jordon books? Existential crisis, I bet. But that's mean. Just a woman trying to find someone. But the posturing and preemptive social parrying make reading the profiles kind of hard to stomach.

And what is visual language? Like concrete poetry? Typography? Gesture, dance?

I've found plenty of dates online without ever using online dating services. Why bother when you can get to know friends of friends via IRC, livejournal, facebook, forums etc?

Well its worked for me plenty.

^^ braggin

Well, yeah.

I'm curious
did you give pics before you ever met any of those online people you mentioned?

did you ever meet anyone without giving them a single picture at all?

Probably she does.

I just a second ago made a real OKCupid profile with a picture and a couple of things about me and it's pretty complete, if you were to ask me, "Do you think you need to include more for your OKCupid profile?"

so what's the most private thing you're willing to admit

I didn't do that one. It's not a very personal profile and I put a very unflattering picture up as my primary one, one of me after biking fifteen miles and dangerously depressed. I am not trying to pull to hard.

But I will admit that I tweaked it several times until I thought it sounded right. And it still probably doesn't.

did you give pics before you ever met any of those online people you mentioned?

did you ever meet anyone without giving them a single picture at all?

Hmm lemme think.. I think in a few cases, yes (nor did I see their pic). And I'll be honest - some of those were, like blind dates, complete disasters. So that I stopped doing.

But I'mn not talking about "talk once then meet for coffee", I'm talking about getting to know szomeone via other friends online over the course of days/weeks/months before dates happen.

It isnt something I'd do anymore I dont think - notwithstanding the fact I have a partner now (who, incidentally, I origianlly met via Livejournal now I think about it).

Oh geez please excuse my typing, the hell is with me lately.

I'm curious about how somebody has successfully approached someone with mutual, if not terribly close, friends for dating. My experience/theory is that unless you meet them in real life you're not appropriately breaking any ice, so I'm not sure what the FB protocol is for "Hi, I think you're cute, we went to the same school, share dozens of friends and we should hang out some time - I think we'd get along based on the fact you're always cropping up in my newsfeed and I'm totally intrigued by you,"

It should be easier than online dating (which I've never done) but there's higher risk because this person shares friends, and I'm not sure which of the mutual coolege friends could introduce us, if any.

I want to vent about my OKC-spawned 'relationship' and where it is 'going' or not etc. but this isn't the place and there are so many lurve/dating-related threads. Recommendations?

So good they named it twice: The Vagaries of Dating The Vagaries of Dating
The boring option: Internet Dating

lol pinefox: I just registered on a dating website!

Ta!

PF kind of reminding me of when Mr Logic goes to a prostitute in Viz

― MPx4A, Tuesday, 22 July 2008 20:26 (1 year ago)

Haahah.

Jesus Christ, that Internet Dating thread. I'm gonna print that thread out and hang it in my kitchen to remind myself why I don't drink any more. *facepalm*

OK, no matter how bad things are now, they are not as bad as they were when I was unemployed. I was mad as a box of frogs at that point. (Not that I'm exactly sane now, but more like, a tadpole in a matchbox mad, rather than full on rainforest of frogs in freezer box)

And I've just figured out why internet dating doesn't work for me - I only ever seem to try it when I'm miserable and unhappy about something. When I'm pretty settled and content, I don't feel the need to do it. Which is just setting oneself up for disappointment, really.

I think you could expand that to dating in general really! It works better when you're not in a black mood desperately wanting some kind of answer (in which case one comes over as IN YOUR FACE)... I mean this generally obviously K, I'm not saying this about you (hell, Ive done it heaps ugh).

No, no, that's totally and completley appropriate to me.

Oh Ive read back over some past email/post exchanges with potential dates and I just want to stab my eyes out for my stupidity :/

The problem is, when I get to the point where I kinda like my life and have managed to row my way to general OKness, those are the times I think "no way in HELL am I letting some man in here to go and stomp around and mess it all up."

And of course thats right when some hot guy gets right up into your thing and you don't know what to do, innit? sigh.

HA HA HAH um, if that ever happened, I would check for the hidden camera and the laugh track

bryce, can i see your okcupid profile?

That might just be embarrassing! I'm thinking about it.

I think it's sort of a stupid profile actually. And nobody's looked at it, apparently. It might not even be up a full 24 hours.

bryce, im not gonna judge you!! mostly i just wanted to see the pic you described.

you can email me the link, you dont have to post it for everybody to see

I have a profile on this...the people are fucking weird.

How so?

i called a girl out on there for saying she liked all music except country and rap :)

I just find they don't seem like people I ever meet...

http://www.futureshipwreck.com/pics/they-live3.jpg

xxpost Is that a joke? What is the point?

xpost You mean that there's a whole group of humans with OKCupid accounts who for some reason don't mix with the people you see on the street or in their cars or at work or at the grocery store?

xpost They Live or whatever with Roddy Piper?

only met one girl through that site and she was cool but told me she was depressed about an hour into the date...

So you bailed? Maybe she if she had met someone nice it would've picked her up considerably, and maybe you could've been that someone.

xp - yeah ... joke image to explain LG's statement about how they seem like people he never meets.

I got the joke!

sorry ...