Real love -- I'm, like, searchin' for that Queer Love -- LGBTQIA+ Love // A Thread for the Real Ones

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Just wanted to check in and say the long weekend with my kids was fantastic and my partner is really fantastic with them in terms of not letting them get away with being assholes while also following my lead on discipline and not overstepping, it’s amazing to watch really

An hour into a date it come up in conversation that he's...not vaccinated. When asked why, I get the excuse salad with the same dressing: I'm young (24), I'm healthy, FREEDOM. We did make out but after dropping me off I rinsed my mouth with kinds of Scope.

― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn),

Soooo not worth it imo. Alfred, you're a gentleman. You don't need this.

My aunt went to the Luxor once. She brought me back a mug with my name spelled out in hieroglyphics.

thank you

agreed.

HI EVERYONE. map i am thoroughly entertained by your Destinations Unknown live blog.

i don't have much to report other than i've been getting laid which is nice. this thing is happening though where i'm not sure how to disentangle myself from someone once we've hooked up and they're interested in more. like sometimes a thing is just a thing, let's move on etc. but i'm super not good at the "i'm not really up for anything more" talk - historically i've been more of a fizzle-outer. am i dick?? :/

you aren't doing anything wrong!! we need to normalize one night stands again!! i feel like it's probably worth trying to be more clear about an expectation like you say, but sometimes we need people to pick up on context clues imo. as long as you aren't leading them on with mixed messaging i think you're well within acceptable behavior.

i'm pretty excited because after years of wanting to do this i've been able to afford some leather - fun! checking out the local leather scene via a bar event and monthly party. the organizer is at least a stand-up guy so it seems promising. we went out last weekend and i smoked a cigar. i forgot it would make me nauseous so we ended up leaving early. my husband was the best buddy the whole time.

anyway what's up with all youse?

we went out last weekend and i smoked a cigar. i forgot it would make me nauseous so we ended up leaving early. my husband was the best buddy the whole time.

this was unclear, i went out with my husband, not the other dude.

omg I'm so sorry I've been away

thank you so much for your encouraging words MAPsweetz

LEATHER

wait this is so exciting, like what kind of outfit did you have on

some mr. s stuff, a bar vest, cap and fingerless gloves. also some wesco boots which i've wanted for years. they're black mister lous and they're incredibly beautiful and sexy and i'm figuring out how to wear them. i put it all on for my dj gig at the gay bar like why not?

swen how are you feeling about fall?

i'm currently bogged down with a head cold and out of sick hours so next week will be fun :P

that sounds so cool, i'm glad you did that. super sexy.
well I've already broken out "The Shining" which means i'm feeling festive for fall. i aim to continue the getting laid streak but i took a break this week to eat unsubstantiated amounts of pizza and ice cream. work sucks right now, it's a pressure cooker. so trying to connect with the creative side of what i do and also write lots of music on the side. hey map what are your thoughts on w33d?

ps i'm sorry to hear it, does that mean you have to go in sick? i just had covid and it suckkkkked

Hung out at a buddy's for most of the night doing not-so-legal things. At midnight, my idea, we went to the local karaoke joint, my first karaoke since early 2020. We hung out until before 3 a.m. I sang "She's So Cold." Got home at 3:30.

We're moving into a house
More of a cottage, really, but it's beautiful and in a great neighbourhood and reasonably priced (considering the shitty asshole that is the market right now)

houses and late night karaoke are fucking awesome.

swen, i'm going all in on edibles and tinctures lately. where are you at these days?

oof cottage jealous
yes I'm hitting the sativa edibles and resin vapes o snap
intrigued by these illicit acts Alfy

alfred, what's your scene like post-hurricane?

Miami never in the cone.

Sanibel, where I vacation every summe, was demolished.

i'm glad you weren't too affected then.

maybe it would be fun to name a recent crime we've committed. a few months ago i took a hit on my vape pen at work, like inside my cubicle. i was getting ready to leave and go for a run and forgot where i was, lol. luckily no one was in the area at the time. bad boy.

LOL I've so vaped at work
my soul is a crime tbh

what crime specifically?!

last week i went skinny dipping in a pond in the middle of the night in total silence and darkness. i accessed the pond through a nature preserve, but it mostly borders a really posh private island. someone's car alarm happened to go off (not my fault) and they must have heard me splashing around because someone on the island came out and shone their flashlight onto the water. that made me a little nervous.

omg! what a thrilling tale. I'm jealous!
xp the illicit act of existence is crime enough tbh

ok what's up today

working from home in the cold med zone

skinny dipping at night in a pond, that sounds like living to me

I've never been a big skinny dipper - but I'd be willing to try

Confession...

I've never swam in freshwater.

you know - it's really nice
I would try it

Confession...

I've never swam in freshwater.

Florida lakes and rivers are dangerous! Y'all got snakes too, and I can handle those, but you don't have flesh-eating bacteria. Maybe this explains the number of conservatives living in the Panhandle?

It's a "pond" in name only, technically a tidal marsh (so not freshwater). I've swam in it many times, including at night, but only recently discovered my strong preference for doing so without wearing shorts. The preserve technically closes at dusk but the gate is easily breached by anyone on foot, so it's a popular spot for teenagers to tag up the seawall and a couple of the abandoned buildings (and indeed, i passed a few on the way out). I'm not totally sure of this, but I think the 40 acre pond actually belongs to the private island. I've never seen anyone else swim in it, and of the laws I was breaking the only one that may be potentially kinda serious is trespassing.

fgti, congrats on the house/cottage! sounds like a good move

*passed a few young graffiti writers, not abandoned buildings lol

I get that about Florida— i still just find it surprising, but I also lived for a decade in a place where the ocean is barely swimmable except with a wetsuit or in extreme heat, whereas the lakes and rivers are simply lovely. Hell, I used to swim in a river nearly every day, for over a year. Just a different experience.

Yeah, exactly -- for me it's living 20 mins from the beach. Now, I never go to the beach in Miami -- that's for tourists.

I will say that swimming in the ocean is an absolute balm— I was jumping into the cove every chance I got this past August up in Maine

It's what I'll miss most about summers on the Gulf coast.

are you moving??

i prefer swimming in freshwater but almost never have the opportunity

I love freshwater swimming, but I’m always careful about my feet. Sharp rocks and things

My new lease was a VERY lucky score. The market is unbelievably competitive and picked over and we lucked out— or rather, the universe owes me and elected to start paying its debts this week

i love freshwater swimming! a few years ago my husband and i went on a western MA/VT road trip and our friend took us to this secluded pond that i think was technically in SW new hampshire, it was a warm humid weekday and we were the only ppl (+ dog) in this huge placid chilly pond. i dream about going back to it someday.

we went to the beach last weekend thinking it would be the last super-warm day to do so here. it was super nice but we chose a beach in malibu that had some pretty intense waves. many years ago at the jersey shore i was knocked unawares and pulled under by a massive wave towards the shore, i’m pretty sure that i would’ve drowned if i’d been underwater for even two seconds longer. to this day i have a love/fear relationship with the ocean lol

Yesterday was moving day, and I:

- gently threw out my back (it’s a quiet anger back there rather than a labour-ender)

- scrubbed the outgoing apartment’s floor too hard and tore open my fingerskin and it is infected

- realized that the bedroom of our cottage is impeded by a very steep stairwell and was required to dissemble bed and antique dresser, cart up the pieces, and reassemble them, which I handled myself in a pleasingly masc way

- suddenly hit a wall energy wise around 10pm and crashed, in my clothes, and slept for twelve hours

- predictably as we were waking up in a new place my bf woke up horny and I woke up sore and tired and I said “I can’t be both gay and exhausted, please try again later”

Vivid dreams last night, too. I dreamed about a lot of things and one of them was that I changed my DN to “my favourite “death to America” t-shirt” as my Thanksgiving tribute

Cross-posting Pumpkin spice has gone too far here since it is relevant

haha. no thanks to boutique poppers for me, pwd 4 life. i want them to smell like the back pages of a softcore mag from 1996.

I have never once thought sex would be enhanced by inhaling a Yankee Candle

“Get that gourd in me” lolol