This is the inevitable thread for ILxors in their forties

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Yes, I know, creeping balkanisation etc. but why should we be left out?

But please leave cheeky Ovaltines at the door.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 13:35 (fifteen years ago) link

What do we do?

Dr.C, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:03 (fifteen years ago) link

You tell us, you're the role models for those of us in our thirties, y'see.

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:04 (fifteen years ago) link

My vision has gone 'bifocalish', ie I gotta take the glasses off to read.

Dr Morbius, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:05 (fifteen years ago) link

left out we certainly be should not.

t**t, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:10 (fifteen years ago) link

Ah, the Iain Sinclair "serendipitous random art collage" problem (xp).

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:11 (fifteen years ago) link

I wish I could afford a midlife crisis -- I'd sure have one.

Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:17 (fifteen years ago) link

Wait, what were we talking about again? I must have dozed off.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:18 (fifteen years ago) link

Btw, Rock, that just means you'll have to live longer.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:20 (fifteen years ago) link

The nights are fair drawing in.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:20 (fifteen years ago) link

My toes hurt -- do yours? I think it must be this weather.

Brad C., Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:21 (fifteen years ago) link

Shit, Michael, with my genes I'm doomed to 95 years at least.

Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:22 (fifteen years ago) link

I blame it on so-called asylum seeking feral politically correct Broken Britain.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:22 (fifteen years ago) link

(the weather, that is)

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:23 (fifteen years ago) link

That monologue with Rhys Ifans last night.

What was all that about?

Eh?

Eh?

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:23 (fifteen years ago) link

I can't stop feeling all \o_O/ seeing twentysomething girls wearing essentially the same fashions that girls wore when I was twenty.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:28 (fifteen years ago) link

Actually more like when I was fifteen.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:29 (fifteen years ago) link

Haven't exactly been bombarded by deelyboppers and pop socks around these parts.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:30 (fifteen years ago) link

Shoreham - liminal, but copper messy.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:34 (fifteen years ago) link

One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me.

Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:35 (fifteen years ago) link

I had my midlife crisis from the ages of approx 15-42 so I reckon I'm due uncomplicated happiness now.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:36 (fifteen years ago) link

This thread is so much like me at an FAP that it's spooking me out.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:37 (fifteen years ago) link

Yeah, I'm drinking here at work, too.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:38 (fifteen years ago) link

One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me. -- Rock Hardy

As per suits, I don't think I've got any I fit into anymore.
On the, er, thinner side: I amn't that dirty really.

t**t, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:40 (fifteen years ago) link

Just don't recognise anything in this thread. Including the posts I posted so that suggests it was probably a crap idea. Oh well, it was worth a momentary try.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:41 (fifteen years ago) link

Please to God never let me actually become a "fortysomething."

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:42 (fifteen years ago) link

One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:48 (fifteen years ago) link

What are the characteristics of a fortysomething? (I bet I have most of them).

Dr.C, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:52 (fifteen years ago) link

I can legally have an affair with someone half my age!

so, is anyone on for it?

The Real Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:02 (fifteen years ago) link

thread is otm, though now I can also see how it mightn't be otm, and would not be surprised to find myself arguing either side of the question for fifteen minutes or so before getting completely distracted by some other stray thought

J0hn D., Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:35 (fifteen years ago) link

They say memory is the second thing to go. I can't remember the first one.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:36 (fifteen years ago) link

My drug of choice these days is Back and Body aspirin, for that extra frisson of caffeine.

Jaq, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:39 (fifteen years ago) link

Memory is going, true, but at least I remember the 70s

Brad C., Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:47 (fifteen years ago) link

Memory is going, true, but at least I have begun forgetting the 70's.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:54 (fifteen years ago) link

hi.

um, I'm OK.

Mark G, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:43 (fifteen years ago) link

What are the characteristics of a fortysomething?

Being aged between 40 and 49. Anyway I though we were all 'middle youths' nowadays.

Billy Dods, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:46 (fifteen years ago) link

sorry to have woken you oldtimers up . but. I misread Marcello's OP as

Yes, I know, creeping balkanisation etc. but why should we be left out?

But please leave cheeky Ovaries at the door.

-- Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, August 27, 2008 2:35 PM (7 hours ago)

Thomas, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:47 (fifteen years ago) link

I'll have you know my ovaries are extremely well-behaved; veritable paragons of polite ovarian society.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:49 (fifteen years ago) link

The ovaries are fine, but I'm prone to brain farts now.

Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:52 (fifteen years ago) link

The world's worst song.

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:54 (fifteen years ago) link

Comparing your ovary to a Bronte C/D?

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:09 (fifteen years ago) link

Wuthering Ovaries

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:10 (fifteen years ago) link

Thrustcrotch Minge

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:14 (fifteen years ago) link

Carry On Bronteing

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:21 (fifteen years ago) link

One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me.

-- Rock Hardy

^^^

moley, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:31 (fifteen years ago) link

haven't you all heard - us 40+'rs are saving the music industry.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/stevelamacq/2008/08/to_bb_or_not_to_bb.html

mark e, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:39 (fifteen years ago) link

Come on - you're not too old to have forgotten this thread already...
I am too old for this...the 40 plus thread.

Ned Trifle II, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:44 (fifteen years ago) link

Don't even remember that thread but this one could do with a few more ovaries...

Marcello Carlin, Thursday, 28 August 2008 08:53 (fifteen years ago) link

two years pass...

my right knee

already president FYI (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 22 June 2011 19:33 (twelve years ago) link

wait, is your right knee also my right knee. Because - my right knee.

The New Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 22 June 2011 19:51 (twelve years ago) link

I've got a painful foot/big toe. I've done some reading about gout and spoken to my dad, who suffers periodically, so pretty sure it's not that. I think it's probably a pressure/RSI from all the walking I do? It's manageable but is just another one of those 'it's always there' aches that makes up my body map.

I'm also now the proud owner of a 'bunion sleeve', which sounds like a rejected name for a 'combine two nouns' death metal band.

I would prefer not to. (Chinaski), Sunday, 14 April 2024 17:32 (one month ago) link

My left knee inflammation only really cleared up this week. Reaggravated it shortly after it got better when I went ziplining due to the upstairs climb. Can finally bend it again lol.

Now minor left hip twinges showed up but not painful, but enough to where I'm walking a LITTLE different

CEO Greedwagon (Neanderthal), Sunday, 14 April 2024 17:53 (one month ago) link

i bought a cute pair of Vans for fun after mostly wearing semi-orthopedic shoes for the past 5 years . i wore them to the movies, and i maybe walked half a block to and from my car. YET NOW I AM IN PAIN WTF

i now have this stupid pain in my instep/arch and can barely walk and it’s like cool great fuck me ever buying “fun” shoes again i fucking hate being old

werewolves of laudanum (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 24 April 2024 01:03 (one month ago) link

Gotta get into a stretching practice again, and make sure the chair I sit in for work had some lower back support. I’m paying the price for not doing these things tonight.

Marten Broadcloak, mild-mannered GOP congressman (Raymond Cummings), Wednesday, 24 April 2024 01:11 (one month ago) link

i bought a cute pair of Vans for fun after mostly wearing semi-orthopedic shoes for the past 5 years . i wore them to the movies, and i maybe walked half a block to and from my car. YET NOW I AM IN PAIN WTF

i now have this stupid pain in my instep/arch and can barely walk and it’s like cool great fuck me ever buying “fun” shoes again i fucking hate being old


Insoles!! Seriously I had a similar thing last year and I put insoles in the Vans type shoes and now I am that Katrina & the Waves song

sarahell, Wednesday, 24 April 2024 01:42 (one month ago) link

I think they have a line of vans with better support now

calstars, Wednesday, 24 April 2024 02:25 (one month ago) link

Wait til your Insoles start reeling like the devil’s breath

Piggy Lepton (La Lechera), Wednesday, 24 April 2024 02:38 (one month ago) link

Oops reeking

Piggy Lepton (La Lechera), Wednesday, 24 April 2024 02:39 (one month ago) link

these Vans were like v low profile maryjanes w glued-in insoles, i realized i would have had to semi-wreck them to wear insoles in them comfortably so i just returned them instead

werewolves of laudanum (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 24 April 2024 03:36 (one month ago) link

i tried to wear ballet flats once. _once_.

in the meantime i have all kinds of fun stretches for my feet to do. fun stretches for _everything_ haha

Kate (rushomancy), Wednesday, 24 April 2024 14:12 (one month ago) link

when I think about my feet and feminine shoes, I really wish I had insisted on wearing men's shoes much earlier in life ... I have wide feet so I have to buy wide width shoes in women's anyway

sarahell, Thursday, 25 April 2024 16:42 (one month ago) link

File under the Fear of becoming invisible dept: I ordered a slice at the pizzeria. Several minutes passed and server asked how he could help me

calstars, Sunday, 28 April 2024 17:16 (one month ago) link

Lol thought it was only me shit that happened too.

Did you say "waiting on the five slices I ordered and paid for"?

ain't nothin but a brie thing, baby (Neanderthal), Sunday, 28 April 2024 20:18 (one month ago) link

depends on how many other people are at the establishment
if 0, sure go ahead and take it personally if you must
if many, cut some slack? it's probably not about you.

Piggy Lepton (La Lechera), Sunday, 28 April 2024 20:31 (one month ago) link

Exactly… I had this experience in my 20s … it definitely isn’t middle age

sarahell, Sunday, 28 April 2024 21:19 (one month ago) link

I had this experience once, in an airport Dunkin Donuts, when absolutely no one else was in line or being served. I gave it a minute, then left and just got coffee and OJ somewhere else.

Marten Broadcloak, mild-mannered GOP congressman (Raymond Cummings), Sunday, 28 April 2024 21:50 (one month ago) link

(I’m 47 - this happened maybe two years ago)

Marten Broadcloak, mild-mannered GOP congressman (Raymond Cummings), Sunday, 28 April 2024 21:50 (one month ago) link

This can reflect the invisibility of the single person - rather than the older person, ime.

Dr Drudge (Bob Six), Sunday, 28 April 2024 21:58 (one month ago) link

A younger coworker started a coed recreational kickball team a few years ago, I was already in my forties and said to myself, I used to play lots of kickball when I was young, I’ll join and show these kids how it’s done. Well pretty early on in the season I kicked as hard as I could and pulled my quad so badly I thought I tore something. My leg swelled up and I could barely walk for weeks. I finally recovered in time for the playoffs, so of course I joined back up, and of course in my first at-bat I re-pulled my quad just as badly as the first time. I gave up on sports after that, I guess I’m too old. Nowadays I am getting ready to buy a pair of readers because I am sick of goggling blindly at fine print.

epistantophus, Tuesday, 30 April 2024 01:58 (one month ago) link

Not to be a dick, but some pretty
simple stretching can go a long way in that regard. I am 39– I stretch for 15 minutes every morning, and intend on doing so until I die

butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Tuesday, 30 April 2024 11:18 (one month ago) link

This can reflect the invisibility of the single person - rather than the older person, ime.

― Dr Drudge (Bob Six)

there are _so many different kinds_ of invisibility haha

it's something i struggle a lot with. am i being treated worse than the other people around me? am i being ignored? if so, _why_?

the whole phenomenon of the "karen" - to me it's kind of one response to not being _acknowledged_. it's one of the things that makes "passing" so hard for me - the way women of a certain age tend to be treated. there are _very much_ gendered differences here, ime.

women, like... we gotta learn to not take being ignored personally, even if there are, you know... even if we are being ignored _because_ we're women in our '40s. cuz if we don't that's when we get called "karens".

Kate (rushomancy), Tuesday, 30 April 2024 13:30 (one month ago) link

The invisibility experience for me was more surreal than anything else, a “am I on Candid Camera?” feeling.

(I didn’t throw a fit or anything - just stood there for a minute or two accepting that this was happening, or not happening, before floating away to another business.)

Marten Broadcloak, mild-mannered GOP congressman (Raymond Cummings), Tuesday, 30 April 2024 13:34 (one month ago) link

“Am I really alive? Am I a ghost?”

And while I haven’t worked in the service industry for many, many years, I get that these are repetitive, demanding jobs, and that the 6-7 people working at the combination DD/Baskin Robbins had been grinding since 5 am and were likely burnt to the point that I, a 6’4 black man, just might not have registered in the moment

Marten Broadcloak, mild-mannered GOP congressman (Raymond Cummings), Tuesday, 30 April 2024 13:37 (one month ago) link

i had my ear surgery last week. it was a big deal and i assume there are lots of people out there who have the same issue, but live in a place where the diagnosis would not have happened and the surgeon wouldn't live in their town. kind of got mad at him because right when i woke up post surgery he tells me for the first time that i'm not allowed to blow my nose for 10 days. mfer, it's mid April and pollen is everywhere. i have literal scabs on my nose from blowing it so much. not sure if it's a 40s thing, but my allergies have gone from 0 to 100 in the last few years

Heez, Tuesday, 30 April 2024 13:40 (one month ago) link

how's ya hearing?

kinder, Tuesday, 30 April 2024 19:46 (one month ago) link

I hope your surgery went well, Heez. Rather frequently, my right ear gets completely clogged up and I also cannot pick out individual speakers or tell where sounds are coming from. It really struck me how having even just a marginally difficult time hearing can immediately feel isolating.

fajita seas, Tuesday, 30 April 2024 20:46 (one month ago) link

Getting old is so f’in weird

calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 00:51 (three weeks ago) link

Seconded.

Kate (rushomancy), Saturday, 4 May 2024 04:51 (three weeks ago) link

Hope I don’t die soon!

calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 04:52 (three weeks ago) link

Planning to live to 90 like my grandparents done did

calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 04:53 (three weeks ago) link

Every time I get carded I’m like, “this is the last time I’m gonna get carded”

calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 17:45 (three weeks ago) link

/romero

close encounters of the third knid (darraghmac), Saturday, 4 May 2024 17:52 (three weeks ago) link

last got ID'd in Morrisons of all places when I was 40. I assume that will be the last time unless I go back to the USA at some point or somewhere else where they card OAPs

Colonel Poo, Saturday, 4 May 2024 17:57 (three weeks ago) link

I get that they think I’m a narc…I guess

calstars, Saturday, 4 May 2024 18:10 (three weeks ago) link

fell in the bathtub this morning. cut my chin open. i wouldn't call it a serious fall, but at my age i can't just brush off falls like i could when i was younger. scariest thing is that i live by myself. i mean i don't feel like i'm the age where i'd want a lifealert bracelet or something but yeah, if i seriously hurt myself by accident it'd be a while before anybody came to check. had a pretty bad fall last december... was on my way out to an event, it was icy, forgot something upstairs, went up the outside stairs too quickly and banged myself up. still went to the event, though, without even so much as cleaning myself up. i guess i can say i'm learning - i wouldn't do that today. i think the fall back in december was probably worse. hard to say. it's getting around. my balance has never been good. i had a fall in my garage back in '19 and my ankle stability has been really bad ever since.

anyway my QPP is gonna be over in a bit to check... in the meantime i'm just shook... got a towel in my mouth waiting for the bleeding to stop.

Kate (rushomancy), Monday, 6 May 2024 14:51 (three weeks ago) link

I turned 40 last week. Woof. For some perspective, I started reading ILX as a teenager so not only am I old, we’re all old.

Allen (etaeoe), Monday, 13 May 2024 19:45 (two weeks ago) link

I was 20 at the beginning and now 44, so I feel every year of that comment.

Jeff, Monday, 13 May 2024 21:52 (two weeks ago) link

welcome, Allen

ɥɯ ︵ (°□°) (mh), Tuesday, 14 May 2024 13:56 (two weeks ago) link

Hi!

Lily Dale, Saturday, 25 May 2024 19:24 (five days ago) link

Did you just turn 40

calstars, Saturday, 25 May 2024 19:55 (five days ago) link

yes, it's my 40th birthday

Lily Dale, Saturday, 25 May 2024 23:05 (five days ago) link

Happy birthday : )

calstars, Saturday, 25 May 2024 23:13 (five days ago) link

happy birthday!

butt dumb tight my boners got boners (the table is the table), Sunday, 26 May 2024 02:47 (four days ago) link

Thank you!

Lily Dale, Sunday, 26 May 2024 05:51 (four days ago) link

Hb!

xyzzzz__, Sunday, 26 May 2024 10:43 (four days ago) link

I will be bang on 45 in August.

xyzzzz__, Sunday, 26 May 2024 10:45 (four days ago) link

I used to sneeze in twos and threes, now its fours and fives

brimstead, Sunday, 26 May 2024 14:47 (four days ago) link

Welcome fellow kids!

sarahell, Sunday, 26 May 2024 16:42 (four days ago) link

Don't you mean welcome in?

nashwan, Sunday, 26 May 2024 17:32 (four days ago) link

One year and a summer left on my ticket

calstars, Sunday, 26 May 2024 17:34 (four days ago) link


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