This is the inevitable thread for ILxors in their forties

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Yes, I know, creeping balkanisation etc. but why should we be left out?

But please leave cheeky Ovaltines at the door.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 13:35 (twelve years ago) link

What do we do?

Dr.C, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:03 (twelve years ago) link

You tell us, you're the role models for those of us in our thirties, y'see.

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:04 (twelve years ago) link

My vision has gone 'bifocalish', ie I gotta take the glasses off to read.

Dr Morbius, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:05 (twelve years ago) link

left out we certainly be should not.

t**t, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:10 (twelve years ago) link

Ah, the Iain Sinclair "serendipitous random art collage" problem (xp).

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:11 (twelve years ago) link

I wish I could afford a midlife crisis -- I'd sure have one.

Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:17 (twelve years ago) link

Wait, what were we talking about again? I must have dozed off.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:18 (twelve years ago) link

Btw, Rock, that just means you'll have to live longer.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:20 (twelve years ago) link

The nights are fair drawing in.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:20 (twelve years ago) link

My toes hurt -- do yours? I think it must be this weather.

Brad C., Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:21 (twelve years ago) link

Shit, Michael, with my genes I'm doomed to 95 years at least.

Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:22 (twelve years ago) link

I blame it on so-called asylum seeking feral politically correct Broken Britain.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:22 (twelve years ago) link

(the weather, that is)

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:23 (twelve years ago) link

That monologue with Rhys Ifans last night.

What was all that about?

Eh?

Eh?

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:23 (twelve years ago) link

I can't stop feeling all \o_O/ seeing twentysomething girls wearing essentially the same fashions that girls wore when I was twenty.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:28 (twelve years ago) link

Actually more like when I was fifteen.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:29 (twelve years ago) link

Haven't exactly been bombarded by deelyboppers and pop socks around these parts.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:30 (twelve years ago) link

Shoreham - liminal, but copper messy.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:34 (twelve years ago) link

One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me.

Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:35 (twelve years ago) link

I had my midlife crisis from the ages of approx 15-42 so I reckon I'm due uncomplicated happiness now.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:36 (twelve years ago) link

This thread is so much like me at an FAP that it's spooking me out.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:37 (twelve years ago) link

Yeah, I'm drinking here at work, too.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:38 (twelve years ago) link

One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me. -- Rock Hardy

As per suits, I don't think I've got any I fit into anymore.
On the, er, thinner side: I amn't that dirty really.

t**t, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:40 (twelve years ago) link

Just don't recognise anything in this thread. Including the posts I posted so that suggests it was probably a crap idea. Oh well, it was worth a momentary try.

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:41 (twelve years ago) link

Please to God never let me actually become a "fortysomething."

Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:42 (twelve years ago) link

One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:48 (twelve years ago) link

What are the characteristics of a fortysomething? (I bet I have most of them).

Dr.C, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 15:52 (twelve years ago) link

I can legally have an affair with someone half my age!

so, is anyone on for it?

The Real Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:02 (twelve years ago) link

thread is otm, though now I can also see how it mightn't be otm, and would not be surprised to find myself arguing either side of the question for fifteen minutes or so before getting completely distracted by some other stray thought

J0hn D., Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:35 (twelve years ago) link

They say memory is the second thing to go. I can't remember the first one.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:36 (twelve years ago) link

My drug of choice these days is Back and Body aspirin, for that extra frisson of caffeine.

Jaq, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:39 (twelve years ago) link

Memory is going, true, but at least I remember the 70s

Brad C., Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:47 (twelve years ago) link

Memory is going, true, but at least I have begun forgetting the 70's.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 16:54 (twelve years ago) link

hi.

um, I'm OK.

Mark G, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:43 (twelve years ago) link

What are the characteristics of a fortysomething?

Being aged between 40 and 49. Anyway I though we were all 'middle youths' nowadays.

Billy Dods, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:46 (twelve years ago) link

sorry to have woken you oldtimers up . but. I misread Marcello's OP as

Yes, I know, creeping balkanisation etc. but why should we be left out?

But please leave cheeky Ovaries at the door.

-- Marcello Carlin, Wednesday, August 27, 2008 2:35 PM (7 hours ago)

Thomas, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:47 (twelve years ago) link

I'll have you know my ovaries are extremely well-behaved; veritable paragons of polite ovarian society.

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:49 (twelve years ago) link

The ovaries are fine, but I'm prone to brain farts now.

Rock Hardy, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:52 (twelve years ago) link

The world's worst song.

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 20:54 (twelve years ago) link

Comparing your ovary to a Bronte C/D?

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:09 (twelve years ago) link

Wuthering Ovaries

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:10 (twelve years ago) link

Thrustcrotch Minge

Michael White, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:14 (twelve years ago) link

Carry On Bronteing

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:21 (twelve years ago) link

One upside: being a dirty old man sort of suits me.

-- Rock Hardy

^^^

moley, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:31 (twelve years ago) link

haven't you all heard - us 40+'rs are saving the music industry.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/stevelamacq/2008/08/to_bb_or_not_to_bb.html

mark e, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:39 (twelve years ago) link

Come on - you're not too old to have forgotten this thread already...
I am too old for this...the 40 plus thread.

Ned Trifle II, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 21:44 (twelve years ago) link

Don't even remember that thread but this one could do with a few more ovaries...

Marcello Carlin, Thursday, 28 August 2008 08:53 (twelve years ago) link

two years pass...

my right knee

already president FYI (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 22 June 2011 19:33 (nine years ago) link

wait, is your right knee also my right knee. Because - my right knee.

The New Dirty Vicar, Wednesday, 22 June 2011 19:51 (nine years ago) link

I meant to say at the time: that's an amazing gesture, Josh. I hope it all goes well.

xp

Life is a meaningless nightmare of suffering...save string (Chinaski), Wednesday, 25 September 2019 20:33 (one year ago) link

I'll keep you all informed. Procedure is ... Tuesday.

Josh in Chicago, Wednesday, 25 September 2019 20:34 (one year ago) link

Good luck Josh. Did I miss the backstory of what led you to donate?

wrt nurses, yes they are the best. My generalization is that nowadays nurses choose their profession because they truly love helping others while doctors do it for the ca$h. (of course there are many many fantastic, caring docs)

A True White Kid that can Jump (Granny Dainger), Wednesday, 25 September 2019 22:21 (one year ago) link

It was just a donor drive back in 2013. Got my cheek swabbed and forgot all about it.

Josh in Chicago, Wednesday, 25 September 2019 22:23 (one year ago) link

I just now joined the donor registry because I was "Inspired by a donor story" (you have to say why).

mick signals, Wednesday, 25 September 2019 23:19 (one year ago) link

Ah. Well, specifically, our synagogue had a drive because a family member of a temple member needed a marrow transfer.

Josh in Chicago, Thursday, 26 September 2019 00:41 (one year ago) link

Update, if anyone wants it. I've been in the hospital since about 6:30 this morning. Marrow harvest went well, my marrow is on its way to the recipient. I'm just hanging out here for the all clear, Waiting for my hemoglobin levels, waiting for a little bit of bleeding to stop, waiting to pee again. Literally hanging out, too; hospital gowns do little for the ego.

Josh in Chicago, Tuesday, 1 October 2019 22:01 (one year ago) link

good on you for volunteering; hope you have games on your phone
they're basically all that make life worthwhile

Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Tuesday, 1 October 2019 22:19 (one year ago) link

Hope the glow of righteous, selfless action exceeds any pain - what a fantastic and life changing thing to do. Huge respect.

an incoherent crustacean (MatthewK), Tuesday, 1 October 2019 22:21 (one year ago) link

The PACU where I've been stuck has so many video game like noises going on anyway, I did think it would be hilarious if i comically added to the din. Honk!

Josh in Chicago, Tuesday, 1 October 2019 22:22 (one year ago) link

I actually did overhear a nurse talking about her pet duck, which was highly entertaining.

Josh in Chicago, Tuesday, 1 October 2019 22:23 (one year ago) link

pics or it didn't happen.

Just kidding. well done and take care!

Yerac, Tuesday, 1 October 2019 22:57 (one year ago) link

one year passes...

hello. i'm new here

Specific Ocean Blue (dog latin), Tuesday, 6 October 2020 11:20 (three weeks ago) link

fuck, i remember my uncle, and various friends of my parents, turning 40. i'm not their age.

Specific Ocean Blue (dog latin), Tuesday, 6 October 2020 11:21 (three weeks ago) link

Welcome. It's not all bad. I find I only feel my age when I remember how old my kids are.

thomasintrouble, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 11:36 (three weeks ago) link

I used to belong here, but now, y’know ...

assert (MatthewK), Tuesday, 6 October 2020 11:51 (three weeks ago) link

...you can’t find the 50s thread?

Erdős-szám 69 (James Redd and the Blecchs), Tuesday, 6 October 2020 12:07 (three weeks ago) link

Come on along

Erdős-szám 69 (James Redd and the Blecchs), Tuesday, 6 October 2020 12:18 (three weeks ago) link

I’ll yet be over there in March. Having my 49th year literally be a year of COVID is weird — my birthday was one of the last classic fun days before lockdown — but in a weird way the enforced calm is probably what was needed given everything else in the world.

Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 12:38 (three weeks ago) link

Hey, dog. Pay no mind to the fact that your birth is now closer to The Blitz than it is to the present day.

Or that if Austin Powers went back in time thirty years ago now, he'd land in 1989, just in time for your ninth birthday.

Forty is a great age, to be honest. Why? Because it ain't 41.

pplains, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 12:51 (three weeks ago) link

1990. Thirty years ago was 1990.

^^ Get used to crap like that too.

pplains, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 12:52 (three weeks ago) link

Oh crap, I'm actually 41 now!

Get the point? Good, let's dance with nunchaku. (Eric H.), Tuesday, 6 October 2020 12:53 (three weeks ago) link

1990. Thirty years ago was 1990.

Watch any TV news report from 1990 and it'll feel like it was even longer ago.

Get the point? Good, let's dance with nunchaku. (Eric H.), Tuesday, 6 October 2020 12:55 (three weeks ago) link

Both of my kids have in recent years needed to dress "'90s" for something and they ran their duds by me. My reaction was that, first, early 90s were very different from the late 90s. And second, the hell I remember what anyone was wearing, that was years ago.

Josh in Chicago, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 13:00 (three weeks ago) link

The sudden realization that socked me in the gut earlier this year was that I'd graduated high school twenty five years ago. That can't be possible. A quarter century? No, no, that's not right. Try the math again, please.

OrificeMax (Old Lunch), Tuesday, 6 October 2020 13:01 (three weeks ago) link

xpost Next time, tell them to do an image search for TLC.

OrificeMax (Old Lunch), Tuesday, 6 October 2020 13:02 (three weeks ago) link

Tanky jeans, tanky sweatshirts.

Get the point? Good, let's dance with nunchaku. (Eric H.), Tuesday, 6 October 2020 13:05 (three weeks ago) link

Watch any TV news report from 1990 and it'll feel like it was even longer ago.

I dunno. A lot of it holds up!

https://i.imgur.com/k7WTP1M.gif

pplains, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 13:08 (three weeks ago) link

also, flying cars

Josh in Chicago, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 13:10 (three weeks ago) link

Xpost to the absentminded thread
My favorite part of being in my 40s is the realization, maybe once a month, that I’ve been walking around all day, going to bars and shopping etc, with my fly open

calstars, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 13:27 (three weeks ago) link

over the summer I watched a couple documentaries about the LA Riots and then the one about the Clarence Thomas/Anita Hill hearings ... and I thought, this is middle age, this is like my parents watching documentaries about the Civil Rights movement and Mississippi Burning

sarahell, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 13:29 (three weeks ago) link

Same way my granddad used to lay on the couch and fall asleep to kamikaze attacks on batteships in the Pacific theater, I'm certain my grandkids will come into my den to find me snoozing away to ash-covered stockbrokers stepping their way through fallen rubble and drifting paper.

pplains, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 13:50 (three weeks ago) link

Lol

calstars, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 14:45 (three weeks ago) link

I’ll yet be over there in March. Having my 49th year literally be a year of COVID is weird — my birthday was one of the last classic fun days before lockdown — but in a weird way the enforced calm is probably what was needed given everything else in the world.

i don't want to alarm you, but this is actually your 50th year

mookieproof, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 15:03 (three weeks ago) link

i don't want to alarm you, but this is actually your 50th year

Guy at the liquor store venting a little about a woman who came in on Saturday night, wanting to buy vodka even though she didn't turn 21 until Sunday.

I mentioned the same thing you just said and got the blankest stare, before he mumbled something about tell that to the ABC.

pplains, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 15:30 (three weeks ago) link

This is his 50th year, but he’s still 49.

This is like when people ask how old a child is and parents say something like “he’ll be 4 in December.” Is there some shame in being 3? Just say he’s 3!

/rant

calstars, Tuesday, 6 October 2020 20:08 (three weeks ago) link

Even worse when they do it in bars.

Quiet Storm Thorgerson (PBKR), Tuesday, 6 October 2020 20:12 (three weeks ago) link

Even worse when you tell the ticket lady he's 8 so he can have the free admission and your daughter pipes up "No, Daddy, he was 9 last week, don't you remember?"

groovypanda, Wednesday, 7 October 2020 07:47 (three weeks ago) link

Teenagers on tiktok are posting video of high schoolers from 2003 like it’s vintage 1950s footage and it’s making me feel unwell pic.twitter.com/sROVmfII3C

— ellory smith (@ellorysmith) October 14, 2020

Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Saturday, 17 October 2020 15:12 (two weeks ago) link

The best thing about this age is getting socks for your birthday, and being happy about it.

neith moon (ledge), Monday, 19 October 2020 09:51 (one week ago) link

damn truth! i got a birthday coming up and I should research what socks I want so that I can let my family know!

sarahell, Monday, 19 October 2020 13:44 (one week ago) link

The weirdest thing for me about getting older is reading old e-mails and realizing how much the entire way that society functions has shifted and changed so much in the past 20 years, like it's alarming

flamboyant goon tie included, Monday, 19 October 2020 15:54 (one week ago) link

i suppose that's the nature of the western world universally? Like the jump from 1903 to 1925 must've seemed impossibly seismic too.

Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Monday, 19 October 2020 16:52 (one week ago) link

there was a major earthquake in 1906 so ... otm

sarahell, Monday, 19 October 2020 17:00 (one week ago) link

Ya perhaps. I mean, the shift to having SMS being the primary form of interpersonal communication is obv an enormous shift, but it's shocking to see how huge a development it is when you, like, look back at the e-mails we were sending each other pre-2005.

flamboyant goon tie included, Monday, 19 October 2020 17:06 (one week ago) link

The weirdest thing for me about getting older is reading old e-mails and realizing how much the entire way that society functions has shifted and changed so much in the past 20 years, like it's alarming

― flamboyant goon tie included, Monday, October 19, 2020 11:54 AM (one hour ago) bookmarkflaglink

I was packing up things in our basement and came across a printout of an email from 2000 when I was first dating my wife and the email was so formal and then had lyrics I quoted to her it was like reading some letter from the civil war or something.

Quiet Storm Thorgerson (PBKR), Monday, 19 October 2020 17:27 (one week ago) link

Yeah that's what I mean, exactly. Music books films all age with some manner of gracefulness but basic communication has changed so quickly

flamboyant goon tie included, Monday, 19 October 2020 19:43 (one week ago) link

I've got a box of actual letters in my attic from my then girlfriend - and other mates - who were scattered over the UK at Uni in the early 90s. Pre-mobiles too so does indeed seem like a different world

groovypanda, Tuesday, 20 October 2020 09:18 (one week ago) link


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