I am too old for this...the 40 plus thread.

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Because I'm suddenly feeling pretty depressed about being 43. Tell me some good things about it.

Ned Trifle II, Sunday, 29 April 2007 21:47 (sixteen years ago) link

See you in 12 years!

Jeff, Sunday, 29 April 2007 21:50 (sixteen years ago) link

You are probably wiser than many ILXors. Am I remembering correctly that you have kids? They must be growing up! I am looking forward to my kids being older and less dependent on me...

Sara R-C, Sunday, 29 April 2007 21:57 (sixteen years ago) link

What a wonderful number! Idaho! McNugget! M43! The Horrors! Technetium!

StanM, Sunday, 29 April 2007 21:57 (sixteen years ago) link

I'll be here in 4 years which depresses me horribly.

Trayce, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:00 (sixteen years ago) link

50! 50 is better worse half a hundred.

M.V., Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:03 (sixteen years ago) link

http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a82/bobbysixer/happy.gif

Bob Six, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:04 (sixteen years ago) link

If ILX is still around in 21 years, I will be sure to post to this thread

Curt1s Stephens, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:04 (sixteen years ago) link

There must be more to life than going bre ke ke kex, koax, koax and reaching for that unattainable snail.

Frogman Henry, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:05 (sixteen years ago) link

pros are psychological: wisdom, experience, perspective

cons are physical changes, pretty unavoidable from changes in metabolism, stamina, sleep patterns, hair or lack therof and (coughs) sex drive, mortality. you make your peace w/the inevitable & adjust.

actually I feel less pressured by age approaching 50 than I did at 40. but there is that sense of time slipping and increased URGENCY to make the most of what time's left. a positive motivator I like to think.

m coleman, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:05 (sixteen years ago) link

You are probably wiser than many ILXors.

I wish this were true but more often these days when I log on here I feel like the old fart that doesn't get the joke. I can barely keep up.

The kids are 9 and 5 and seem to be super dependent on us! But it's true to say you can leave them with their friends, let them play in the street, pack them of to various clubs and things. I wish I'd started earlier. My brother had a child early and is an empty nester at 40. I'm at least 14 or so years away from that.

Ned Trifle II, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:07 (sixteen years ago) link

I'm 42 - and unless wisdom, experience and perspective are going to make a sudden appearance in the next 12 months - I don't recognise them.

I don't really believe that you get that much wiser as you get older.

Bob Six, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:10 (sixteen years ago) link

I wish this were true but more often these days when I log on here I feel like the old fart that doesn't get the joke. I can barely keep up.

Good lord, that's probably concrete evidence of wisdom right there!

Also realizing you are not "wise" might = wisdom.

My kids are 4 and 8 and I am 35 - the 8 year old is so much easier to handle. Sometimes I think I should have had my kids right after high school - maybe I would have had the energy to deal with them.

Sara R-C, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:15 (sixteen years ago) link

I think the 40s are a kind of no-man's land - too old for 'youth pursuits' and too young for early retirement. 20 years through your career and the same again to go.

I guess it's the decade when you most feel like a rat on a treadmill. Juggling career demands with elderly parents and - possiby - young kids. And still not financially secure.

Sorry to bring you down. YMMV.

Bob Six, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:15 (sixteen years ago) link

One learns to bite ones tongue - occasionally - as one gets older. And one gets to lie down in front of the big wave of lostness that rolls up the beach. And one starts to listen.

Noodle Vague, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:16 (sixteen years ago) link

and one pretends to remember. and one misses ones nan.

Noodle Vague, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:21 (sixteen years ago) link

I'm 43 too.

Downsides: metabolism grinding to a halt, balding, fat, can't handle much more than one or two drinks without feeling totally exhausted, eyesight rapidly going, mental acuity fading, creeping sense that the internet has stolen the last dozen years.

Upsides: having a partner of nearly 25 years is deeply satisfying and hard to overemphasize; no obvious health problems, good blood pressure, pretty good stamina; I can still get lead in the ol' pencil just by looking at my wife; I sleep well, no insomnia. We have successfully spawned a great kid who's already off to college while I still allegedly have my youth. After 21 years in the workforce, I'm pretty good at my job and have parleyed the talent into a great gig. And the inevitable gob of young-marrieds credit card debt is paid off.

All in all, no problems that I couldn't take care of with a little self-discipline. Except for the baldness; that really pisses me off.

Rock Hardy, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:22 (sixteen years ago) link

I had to look YMMV up. See, I'm falling behind...

Ned Trifle II, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:30 (sixteen years ago) link

I'll be 47 in a few weeks. All kids and stepkids are fully fledged and so far no amount of begging has got any of them to move back in. They are all interesting and talented people and I'm ecstatic to know them. I pack more stuff into a weekend than most of my younger co-workers, though honestly I have no real party stamina anymore. I like to think I'm going more for quality experiences than quantity, now. My bullshit filters are much better tuned than they were 20 years ago, and I'm less stressed by things I can't control. My health is fine, even though (or possibly because) I'm overweight. I've got a massive shitload of debt, but I'm also good at what I do and my skills are in demand so I don't have too many financial worries. I still listen to new music and read new books (fiction and non), not to keep up, but because I really enjoy it. I never want to stop learning. 7 years ago after several years of being fucked up relationship-wise, I met a guy I adore and we've made a pretty great life with each other. We dealt with the serious illness and death of one parent last year, which was really hard, and while I know the future holds more of that and other possible bad stuff I'm looking forward to the coming decades.

Jaq, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:56 (sixteen years ago) link

izx is 43 tto and i sense th dread of a bad life sleeeping/slipping away and more creatribve jucies flowing and less flow w otyerh hjuices..but i alaso get asked a lot of qwueastiosn by younger peoopel like i have th answeres or asomtrhong..which i do asumtymes..esp[eciallyt aboyur muxxiocnc slime..and stuff..metabolissmx is a bithc and it can be afatty drag butr swimm ,mopre and run up a staircase every o nce in awhi9le cant hburyt?..yahh...how many tymes does 43 go into 19?its fun to find out occasuionally..ui love th r melytxxer nbbookk on asging..uhh,. ilent it to skott..iyuits gross and great...43 is th new 43

danbunny, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:56 (sixteen years ago) link

I'm 40

RJG, Sunday, 29 April 2007 23:00 (sixteen years ago) link

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/179/442601003_2f35ab31c8.jpg

RJG is still standing better than he ever did
Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid

-- kenan, Wednesday, 4 April 2007 18:16 (3 weeks ago)

Bob Six, Sunday, 29 April 2007 23:07 (sixteen years ago) link

I wish I'd started earlier.

me too. esp when it turned out that one child was my limit. he's 11 I'm 49 no problem really but chasing after a toddler when I was 40 made me realize "uh now I know why people have kids in their 20s." of course I wouldn't have been any kind of good parent then. but I'm amazed at guys who become fathers in their 50s.

truth in advertising: I might be in denial about turning 50. Watch for an angst-filled thread come year's end.

m coleman, Sunday, 29 April 2007 23:17 (sixteen years ago) link

I'm 50 and I'm fine.
Just sayin'.

Beth Parker, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:40 (sixteen years ago) link

fine like wine?
or fine like silt?
or just ok

danbunny, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:44 (sixteen years ago) link

http://i.imdb.com/Photos/Events/5971/FranDresc_Dimit_13557403_400.jpg
50

danbunny, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:45 (sixteen years ago) link

I'm heading towards 40
No house, no kids, now not even a partner
Still trying to live like I'm 25
Some day this life will bite me on the arse.

I'm so depressed now.

Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:48 (sixteen years ago) link

I wish I had a magic platitude to send you Trayce. I hope you get thru this shit, anyway.

Noodle Vague, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:59 (sixteen years ago) link

Oh I'm ok, as Liz Fraser would say "I have my friends, my family, I have myself I still have me" - I'm orright, I just hate thinking about aging when I would quite like to live like a 20something for the rest of my days k thanks.

Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:21 (sixteen years ago) link

Trayce you're plenty hot so quit yr whining, some of us can't seem to stop packin' on the lbs/kgs as we age

Hans Rott, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:33 (sixteen years ago) link

Hey what makes you think I'm not! You shd see my beer gut.

Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:36 (sixteen years ago) link

thread 4 the grown & sexy

A B C, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:40 (sixteen years ago) link

I don't know T I looked you up on the "what do you look like" thread, you're gettin' off easy

Hans Rott, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:42 (sixteen years ago) link

I have been doubling in size bi-monthly since I hit 35 O woe is me

Hans Rott, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:46 (sixteen years ago) link

Actually I've just lost 6kg but being miserable'll do that. /goth.

Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:49 (sixteen years ago) link

enjoy it while you can Trayce, when you get to 40 no amount of miserablism will prevent you from packing on the lbs or kgs as you prefer...take it from an ex-goth

Hans Rott, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:55 (sixteen years ago) link

i am going to fucking rock 40

rrrobyn, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:00 (sixteen years ago) link

i'm going to stay 39

Noodle Vague, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:02 (sixteen years ago) link

I'm 49 no problem really but chasing after a toddler when I was 40 made me realize "uh now I know why people have kids in their 20s."
Haha, lovebug, I just put in a ginormous load of wash that had built up this week and then I couldn't remember whether I had added the soap or not. Now I am afraid that I put in a double shot and that when I open the washer door I will be greeted with a comedy spillout of suds.

James Redd and the Blecchs, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:10 (sixteen years ago) link

38 at the end of next month, still no kids, no partner and no career.

WHEEEEEEEEEEE!

(I hate myself.)

Oilyrags, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:10 (sixteen years ago) link

closer to 40 than 30 ... been so for the past 2+ years

;__;

Eisbaer, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:19 (sixteen years ago) link

(no-one has trotted out "40 is the new 30" line yet, either ... hmmm)

Eisbaer, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:26 (sixteen years ago) link

I don't even know what that's supposed to mean except for "LOLZERS GENXORZ SO SO IMMATUER!!!!!1!"

Oilyrags, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:27 (sixteen years ago) link

Funny thing is I had this crisis at 30 and got over it pretty fast! And I dont *want* kids, but I dont exactly want to be a crazy cat lady either. Although hmm...

Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:28 (sixteen years ago) link

Haw :D

Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:11 (sixteen years ago) link

i just turned 39 and have a bad cold so i feel very old. blech.

Mike McGooney-gal, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:15 (sixteen years ago) link

Seriously, this thread has me depressed nine ways from Sunday now.

Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:18 (sixteen years ago) link

guys rjg has boobs

river wolf, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:52 (sixteen years ago) link

^^^^ jerkstore


but rrrobyn is right, about rocking

river wolf, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:58 (sixteen years ago) link

I know who Jenny Slate is and have greatly enjoyed her work on screens large and small and on audio, but did not know why mookie was mentioning her and now gather from Tombot's posts that she has dumped her husband for a guy that plays Captain America in something

(±\ PLO;;;;;;; Style (sic), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 01:40 (seven years ago) link

Jenny Slate broke up with Chris Evans (Captain America) though?

I liked her in Married...

Carlotta's Portrait (Ross), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 01:44 (seven years ago) link

She got divorced, then dated Chris Evans for a while, and is now single again. Details here.

Don Van Gorp, midwest regional VP, marketing (誤訳侮辱), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 01:56 (seven years ago) link

"plays Captain America in something"

lol ok Tuomas

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 02:02 (seven years ago) link

I know him from the time he shouted "NAME IT, BITCH!" at Leonard Maltin on Doug Benson's podcast

(±\ PLO;;;;;;; Style (sic), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 02:43 (seven years ago) link

it seemed so unlike you to admit to not knowing a thing, i was confused

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 02:46 (seven years ago) link

Marcel the Shell with Shoes On

What what in the whattywhat? :/

Also mookie: oi!

Stoop Crone (Trayce), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 02:59 (seven years ago) link

okay i had to google the shell thing and i really wish i still didn't know what it was. so annoying.

scott seward, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 03:27 (seven years ago) link

watching her do that voice on conan is really embarrassing too.

scott seward, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 03:27 (seven years ago) link

Marcel the Shell with Shoes On and Captain America, respectively.

― Not the real Tombot (El Tomboto), Tuesday, March 21, 2017 5:03 PM (six hours ago)

I still have no idea who these people are

sarahell, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 06:49 (seven years ago) link

Jenny Slate was on SNL for one season and said "fuck" on live television, which contributed to her one season. She also did the character Tina Tina Chaneuse who sold custom doorbells and car horns that were her voice saying dumb things, which for some reason consistently cracked me up. She also played Jon Ralphio's sister on Parks and Recreation.

Chris Evans plays Captain America in the Avengers movies. He also played Human Torch in the Fantastic Four movies with Jessica Alba and Michael Chiklis and was one of the ex-boyfriends in Scott Pilgrim vs The World. He also was the lead in Snowpiercer. His uncle is my representative in the House.

Rachel Luther Queen (DJP), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 14:11 (seven years ago) link

Jenny Slate was funny on Kroll Show.

Josh in Chicago, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 14:12 (seven years ago) link

His uncle is my representative in the House.

Wait hold on

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 14:46 (seven years ago) link

Marcel the Shell with Shoes On and Captain America, respectively.

― Not the real Tombot (El Tomboto), Tuesday, March 21, 2017 5:03 PM (six hours ago)

I still have no idea who these people are

― sarahell, Wednesday, March 22, 2017 2:49 AM (eight hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

me neither

marcos, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 14:55 (seven years ago) link

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mike_Capuano

he rules

Rachel Luther Queen (DJP), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 15:05 (seven years ago) link

this discussion makes me feel young and spritely

johnny crunch, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 16:30 (seven years ago) link

none of these people seem at all cool -- I feel legitimately cooler having been ignorant of their existence

sarahell, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 18:59 (seven years ago) link

I still have no idea who these people are

^^^ also I don't really even care.

well the bitter comes out better on a stolen Switch cartridge (snoball), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 19:12 (seven years ago) link

i had a dream about jenny slate & chris evans last night, hate u guys

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 23:29 (seven years ago) link

A good dream or

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 23:31 (seven years ago) link

I can't wait to old the shit out of ILM in 60 weeks or so. WHO THE HELL IS THE WEEKND IM PRETTY SURE IM COOL FOR NOT KNOWING THE ANSWER

Not the real Tombot (El Tomboto), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 23:34 (seven years ago) link

You kids today with your streaming services and

Ned Raggett, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 23:35 (seven years ago) link

gonna imgur the fuck out of my case logics, one page at a time

Not the real Tombot (El Tomboto), Wednesday, 22 March 2017 23:37 (seven years ago) link

wait they had the SAME guy play the human torch AND captain america? that's so dumb.

scott seward, Wednesday, 22 March 2017 23:56 (seven years ago) link

it was a pretty boring dream :(

Yoni Loves Chocha (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 23 March 2017 00:08 (seven years ago) link

tbh when i first heard jenny slate's name i thought is that . . . slate dot com's advice columnist?

i was not cool for not knowing the answer

mookieproof, Thursday, 23 March 2017 00:11 (seven years ago) link

do any of you get that "ehhhh, what do you know, you're young/a kid/etc..." from people in their 60s or older? hate that shit. makes me irrationally angry. maybe i just don't look adult enough. but i'm almost 50...and my back hurts...

it has taught me to try and not do that to people younger than me. and just treat adults like adults. and not talk down to kids. but sometimes i slip up.

48 used to be ancient.

scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 00:14 (seven years ago) link

scott I think the right thing to do is to say "hey man, I'm sorry you had to grow up with lead paint and leaded gas, but I'm only 12 years younger than you - thanks for all you did to clean up the environment so we don't have to breathe that shit any more"

Not the real Tombot (El Tomboto), Thursday, 23 March 2017 00:49 (seven years ago) link

ha, i do tend to get defensive. sometimes i'll ask them how old they are and then i'll say "eh, 66, that's not that old, i actually thought you were a lot older..."

scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 01:52 (seven years ago) link

this woman came in the store and she was so healthy looking and light on her feet and quick and i figured she was in her 70s and she told me she was 90! i couldn't believe it. and then she told me she had been a dance teacher. so, there you go, everyone start taking dance lessons.

scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 01:56 (seven years ago) link

http://i.imgur.com/Pz3n8l1.png

THEY'RE STILL BEING USED IN SHOE STORES. LOOK UNDER THE BENCH, IF YOUR BACK CAN HANDLE IT, OLD-TIMER.

pplains, Thursday, 23 March 2017 02:07 (seven years ago) link

Had a 50something co-worker pedagogically explain to the rest of us in the newsroom the other day how LEVON HELM from near HELENA was in THE BAND.

pplains, Thursday, 23 March 2017 02:10 (seven years ago) link

i have always thought that the whole "you're too young to remember that..." line of reasoning was the most demented thing on earth. i get it a lot obviously having to withstand countless boomers in my record store. but people really do believe that you had to be a certain age at a specific time to know what something is.

scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 02:30 (seven years ago) link

I am 40, and I know who Jenny Slate and Chris Evans are.

tokyo rosemary, Thursday, 23 March 2017 02:32 (seven years ago) link

or more accurately they will say "you're too young to know who that is...". as if all knowledge of a person or thing just...stops?

it's all good though. it does teach me what not to do when talking to people.

scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 02:35 (seven years ago) link

unfortunately, i am at the age now where i think that most young actors are horrible and dumb and boring. which is kinda sad. broad city duo are heroes to me though. so i'm not a complete monster. there are definitely exceptions.

scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 02:49 (seven years ago) link

*makes old man breathing noises*

calstars, Thursday, 23 March 2017 03:23 (seven years ago) link

I am 51, and I know who Jenny Slate and Chris Evans are.

Elvis Telecom, Thursday, 23 March 2017 18:25 (seven years ago) link

I would think Morbz knows who Jenny Slate is cuz of Obvious Child

Οὖτις, Thursday, 23 March 2017 18:26 (seven years ago) link

slate was great on Married and is seriously hot imo

removed from the rain drops and drop tops of experience (ulysses), Thursday, 23 March 2017 18:40 (seven years ago) link

Publizity is the best.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZLMDcJxwkr0

DJI, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:14 (seven years ago) link

It's based on their names.

Josh in Chicago, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:24 (seven years ago) link

I'm 42 and I know it's based on their names.

Josh in Chicago, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:24 (seven years ago) link

I also like Mike Capuano

Guayaquil (eephus!), Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:27 (seven years ago) link

Mike Capuano rules

Rachel Luther Queen (DJP), Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:32 (seven years ago) link

is there a thread for comedy things for people that hate 99% of all comedy things?

sarahell, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:35 (seven years ago) link

The Lex probably started one somewhere.

scott seward, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:39 (seven years ago) link

Who hates comedy, it's funny.

Josh in Chicago, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:41 (seven years ago) link

"There are two kinds of comedy. Good comedy, and the other kind." - Duke Ellington

Josh in Chicago, Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:42 (seven years ago) link

I would think Morbz knows who Jenny Slate is cuz of Obvious Child

I did not see that film because I saw the trailer.

Supercreditor (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 23 March 2017 20:49 (seven years ago) link


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