This is a thread for ILXors in their 30's!!! yo yo yo breakdancing etc...

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Because 30 is the new 20, and I wouldn't want us to be left, you know? Anyway, being 30 used to be like this...
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/a/ad/Thirtysomethingcast.jpg
Now it's more like this...
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/a/a9/Skaters1.jpg/250px-Skaters1.jpg

snoball, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 19:53 (twelve years ago) link

I think I'm "emo" only I don't know what that is

admrl, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 19:53 (twelve years ago) link

You have that haunted look in your soul.

Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 19:54 (twelve years ago) link

so glad i was not 30sthing in the 80s

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:10 (twelve years ago) link

i am at the peak of 30something o_O

FAX ME, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:12 (twelve years ago) link

I am only about a year away from NOT being 30something anymore. ;_;

Pancakes Hackman, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:14 (twelve years ago) link

I am the apotheosis of thirty

Matt, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:14 (twelve years ago) link

What is wrong, in my life, that those thirtysomethings at the top look so much older than I feel? Will I ever feel grown up? Is it foolish to want to?

ledge, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:14 (twelve years ago) link

I walk around the grocery store with baby in a baby carrier. A person i know sees me and says, "you're one of those, aren't you?"

pj, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:21 (twelve years ago) link

that one dude in 30something looks like bjorn borg

pj, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:22 (twelve years ago) link

x-post -- And then that person posted on the 'Society is in the gutter' thread.

Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:23 (twelve years ago) link

What is wrong, in my life, that those thirtysomethings at the top look so much older than I feel?

Kids?

Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:23 (twelve years ago) link

Nope, I don't feel like I'm in my 30s any more. I feel like I'm 40 already.

I don't feel like either of those pictures.

I think I feel more like...

http://www.sheridoty.com/images/illustration/OldWomanReading600.jpg

Masonic Boom, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:28 (twelve years ago) link

Things a thirtysomething year old has:

VHS Tapes
Old zines
Issues of RIP and SPIN in same box.
10" records
Telephone/Radio/Alarm Clock
Gift card to Lowe's
Bottle of Mr. Bubble next to pine tar shampoo

Pleasant Plains, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:33 (twelve years ago) link

sup?

carne asada, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:34 (twelve years ago) link

it is very hard for me to understand that i am in my 30s and that i have 10+ years of experience in the career zone i wld prefer to be in and that i am good at it! in a recent job interview i had to psych myself up beforehand by reminding myself of this fact. oh and i guess it's true i'm in my 30s because i actually care about more career stuff now, eh

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:45 (twelve years ago) link

wait they don't make 10" records anymore?

admrl, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:46 (twelve years ago) link

I care less about a "career" than I did 10 years ago!

admrl, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:46 (twelve years ago) link

Actually no that's not true at all sorry

admrl, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:47 (twelve years ago) link

haha my friend had an "i'm 30!!" crisis and started skateboarding again.

Granny Dainger, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:48 (twelve years ago) link

(xpost) I have less of a career than I did ten years ago, but possibly I have more of a career that I actually care about now.

snoball, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:49 (twelve years ago) link

people in their 30's in the 80's looked much older than the 30's of the 00's

akm, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:49 (twelve years ago) link

increased sunscreen use

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:50 (twelve years ago) link

We saw teenagers sing along to a U2 song and realized we were teens when it was a hit and that those teenagers had not even been born. ARGH! This is all confusing and makes me feel OOOOOOOOOOOLD. hahah

stevienixed, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:51 (twelve years ago) link

Now imagine your daughters learning about U2!

Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:53 (twelve years ago) link

(xpost) Someone who was born the year I left school would have left school last year...

snoball, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:55 (twelve years ago) link

My wife (7 years my junior) is jealous that I got to be a teen in the 80s. I think she's envisioning some Oingo Boingo party thing when it was really all Commodore 64, D&D, horror flix and metal.

pj, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:56 (twelve years ago) link

You mean it wasn't?

Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:56 (twelve years ago) link

there are people IN COLLEGE right now who were born in 1990.

1990.

will, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:57 (twelve years ago) link

haha my friend had an "i'm 30!!" crisis and started skateboarding again.

Did I tell you I bought a mattress from J@s0n Ra1nwat3r the other day? He's the manager at a Back to Bed in Lincoln Park.

jaymc, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:57 (twelve years ago) link

pj, just tell your wife that the 80's mostly sucked. I mean, we all wish it was video games and breakdancing on street corners, but really a lot of it was grim.

snoball, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:58 (twelve years ago) link

"there are people IN COLLEGE right now who were born in 1990.

1990."

yeah and I TA for some of them and they talk to me almost as if they are going to address me as "sir"

=(

admrl, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:59 (twelve years ago) link

oh yeah, 30 and in college LOL

admrl, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:59 (twelve years ago) link

i breakdanced on street corners! and played a lot of coleco-vision and nintendo!

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 20:59 (twelve years ago) link

I would breakdance but I might do myself some kind of mischief. I have one dance move, and I still haven't got that right

admrl, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 21:00 (twelve years ago) link

there are people IN COLLEGE right now who were born in 1990

Oh I know that -- I process library cards for 'em all the time now! More en route. Couple more years and they'll've been born the year I first came here for grad school.

Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 21:00 (twelve years ago) link

And then soon after that they'll be saying things like "the 20th century? man, I wasn't even born then!"

snoball, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 21:02 (twelve years ago) link

I like that, though! It's as it should be.

Kids born right now are in a world where there has never not been an iPhone, for instance. (And, maybe next year, where there's never not been a president Obama, say.)

Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 21:04 (twelve years ago) link

I've actually wondered to myself, "I wonder if Beeps will tape songs off the radio like I did" before catching myself.

Pleasant Plains, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 21:07 (twelve years ago) link

hahaha no jaymc, you didn't! awesome. I haven't heard from him and his ilk in many a year. M@tt Pr1ce and him stole D@n Sp1nab3lla's (aka the skateboarder I mentioned above) dad's credit card and went on a spree, and that was pretty much the end of that. Tim Mur@ri stopped by a few years after that, chubbier than ever, and said him and Jason were working at some mattress store in the city. Did he recognize you? Go back there and kick him in the pants for me.

Granny Dainger, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 21:08 (twelve years ago) link

xpost -- and then she'll look at you funny when you absent-mindedly say that in a few years and go back to calling up a song via her ear implant.

Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 21:09 (twelve years ago) link

LOL I skated Alameda on Saturday.

To be honest it was the first time I've skated in a while but still rofflez.

Steve Shasta, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 21:11 (twelve years ago) link

when my seven year old son says things like, "I don't like that sweatshirt, it's hip-hop style," I lose it. When I was a kid it was your nice clothes and your playclothes, dammit.

pj, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 21:14 (twelve years ago) link

I went skateboarding for the first time in ages a couple years ago because the new town has a skateboard park. Being 32 at the time I prudently waited until my new health insurance had kicked in first.

joygoat, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 21:17 (twelve years ago) link

Did he recognize you?

Nope. I didn't recognize him, either, until he gave me his business card, and I was like, wait a minute, where'd you go to high school? He said he didn't even remember my name, which isn't too surprising since we barely crossed paths. You don't forget a last name like Ra1nwat3r, though.

jaymc, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 21:21 (twelve years ago) link

Being 32 at the time I prudently waited until my new health insurance had kicked in first.

haha! radical.

(so jaymc, did he look like a druggie? well wait, what mattress store manager doesn't)

Granny Dainger, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 21:42 (twelve years ago) link

And then soon after that they'll be saying things like "the 20th century? man, I wasn't even born then!"

This makes me want to curl up in a chair with a bottle of single malt and a glass.

Pancakes Hackman, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 23:01 (twelve years ago) link

I still have my old video tapes with the Cure and Howard Jones and whatnot on them, I even watch them sometimes!
And some 10" records.
Thankfully I never had big hair. But I did have a Nik Kershaw shirt =(

Trayce, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 23:21 (twelve years ago) link

Wait, when don't you want to curl up in a chair with a bottle of single malt and a glass? That sounds lovely.

Casuistry, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 23:28 (twelve years ago) link

wait what happened to 10" records?

admrl, Tuesday, 26 August 2008 23:31 (twelve years ago) link

Gonna be 34 next week and I feel OK about it I guess. So far my 30s have not been terribly different from my late 20s, except that I have been collecting tiny ailments, like this thing that might be a small hiatal hernia? I've always been pretty low-key so this age suits me I think.

american primitive stylophone (zchyrs), Monday, 22 February 2021 16:48 (one week ago) link

Lol theres a thought, injuries as (over) extensions of yr personality

scampsite (darraghmac), Monday, 22 February 2021 16:50 (one week ago) link

It's all one bodymind, maaaannnn

american primitive stylophone (zchyrs), Monday, 22 February 2021 17:01 (one week ago) link

@tangenttangent - what kind of falling down thing is it? i used to have problems with one of my knees kind of "giving out" unexpectedly, and eventually a doctor broke it down for me that my incredibly flat feet were leading to some tendon pulling on some other tendon, something something and as a result the muscles or tendons on one side of that knee were not doing what they were supposed to be doing. getting custom orthopedic inserts has solved that as well as seriously reduced my lower back issues.

not saying that's the case for you! just that these things are worth looking into IMHO.

also i strongly encourage everybody to switch to the most ergonomic chair with the most adjustment points, get an under-desk keyboard tray, ergonomic mouse and keyboard, monitor set at correct ergonomic height.... like get out the boring, badly-designed guides that show you how you should be sitting, how your legs and back and arms should be, and just do it. i think a lot about things i would tell my younger self if i could, and they are mostly about dating and being a nice person, but realistically this is the stuff where i could maybe make the most difference for that poor kid!

^true facts. The worst I've ever hurt my back (like unable to move or sleep, requiring painkillers & muscle relaxants) was due to sitting badly at my office job at age 34. The doctor who saw me also suggested doing some abdominal exercises, which may have also helped

rob, Monday, 22 February 2021 17:05 (one week ago) link

butt exercises help a lot
i got a knee x-ray in november and the PA identified little bumps on a bone in my right knee (osteophytes) that could mean later arthritis. she also told me "you aren't 22 anymore" since i was there about an exercise-induced injury and i felt an internal pang.

superdeep borehole (harbl), Monday, 22 February 2021 17:08 (one week ago) link

You undoubtedly know yr knees better than i obv but have you had it checked out at all

I have not. It’s a good point. I do yoga which should generally be strengthening muscles etc but probably seeing a doctor wouldn’t hurt and I enjoy some good malingering so when I’m not 60+ miles away from my doctor I’ll get it checked out.

Lol theres a thought, injuries as (over) extensions of yr personality

Definitely this. I’m big into humourism which is maybe something I can spin out into a delightful idiosyncrasy for my 30s.

On the whole I’m much less mad so far this decade.

tangent x (tangenttangent), Monday, 22 February 2021 17:08 (one week ago) link

I've pretty much mastered the low fodmap diet

Sneaking into tt to say, Urrrrgh I should do that too, or do it more. How is it? Do you still like food or are you embittered foes after all the pain & suffering? What foods make you happy?

For the general physical woes, I can't say enough--keep moving (barring injury ofc!). I stopped performing/studying dance around age 40 and arrived at 44 practically locked into place and in pain. I started taking turmeric & making time for (gentle) yoga and it's working!! The problem was stopping.

Ima Gardener (in orbit), Monday, 22 February 2021 17:11 (one week ago) link

xp to Doctor Casino: the knee ‘giving out’ is exactly what it feels like and I do have pancake flat feet that I don’t pay any attention to. That’s actually really good advice that I will consider.

tangent x (tangenttangent), Monday, 22 February 2021 17:11 (one week ago) link

34 here, feel pretty good, though that's probably because I take care of myself in a way I didn't in my 20s. I've noticed a few changes but it's kind of hard to tell if it's related to getting older or having kids...like, yeah I'm sore a lot, but I also have two gremlins climbing all over me constantly, and the big one still loves to be picked up and carried around all the time even though he's like 60 pounds now. And of course it's easy to think "I can't really handle much alcohol anymore" when you no longer have the luxury to sleep off hangovers. Mentally though, I've changed a lot...your brain no longer thinks the future is limitless, and I think the barrage of climate change/Trump/COVID-19 has convinced me that very bad things can and will happen. It's got me thinking a lot about putting things off and the different aspects of your personality that you want to work on. Having been online since I was 14 really gives you a lot of perspective, since I can read old emails and posts & look at comics I made and reviews I wrote and cringe at how awful my writing used to be, while also appreciating the fact that people really can change a lot over time...the person I was at 18, 21, hell even 27 is pretty much dead and gone, and that makes me feel better about my own future. Really should take up yoga though.

frogbs, Monday, 22 February 2021 17:30 (one week ago) link

xpost oh i hope that proves helpful! lol when i did finally get to a specialist they concluded, on examination, "your feet ARE pancake flat..."

Having been online since I was 14 really gives you a lot of perspective, since I can read old emails and posts & look at comics I made and reviews I wrote and cringe at how awful my writing used to be, while also appreciating the fact that people really can change a lot over time...the person I was at 18, 21, hell even 27 is pretty much dead and gone, and that makes me feel better about my own future. Really should take up yoga though.

― frogbs, Monday, February 22, 2021 10:30 AM (one minute ago) bookmarkflaglink

damn otm

though of course many of my personal problems are decades long repercussions from trauma and have just taken different forms depending on their context. but even recognizing this is something younger me could not do

mellon collie and the infinite bradness (BradNelson), Monday, 22 February 2021 17:33 (one week ago) link

I use a desk chair with no real support that I found on the street. it has been with me for many years. I am the only person I know who doesn't have back problems.

i would like to see this desk chair

Zach_TBD (Karl Malone), Monday, 22 February 2021 18:30 (one week ago) link

Having been online since I was 14 really gives you a lot of perspective, since I can read old emails and posts & look at comics I made and reviews I wrote and cringe at how awful my writing used to be, while also appreciating the fact that people really can change a lot over time...the person I was at 18, 21, hell even 27 is pretty much dead and gone, and that makes me feel better about my own future.

Yeah I feel this. Re-reading old stuff - personal emails to friends, those '100 questions about you' surveys people circulated by email in the late 90s/early 00s, livejournal and diaryland (!!!) entries - comes with an odd sense of recognising myself and my past experiences in the writing while feeling removed from the person/time/place they were written. Sometimes I'm grateful for the changes that have happened to me since then, but other times I feel uncomfortable or sad about how far away I am from my past self/selves. Like, I appreciate that I'm less judgmental now than, say, 15 years ago, but I also feel that I don't really have opinions on things anymore, or that I don't challenge ideas I think are stupid, which is frustrating. Younger me was a bit bolder, maybe kind of a dick at times, and sometimes I miss that.

salsa shark, Monday, 22 February 2021 18:44 (one week ago) link

My back problems in my 30s came from an injury early in the decade, which resulted in ~1 year of serious nerve pain, it was a bad scene. Now I'm basically fine, I don't go running outside anymore and I need to be careful, but yoga has helped a ton and I have a core of iron.

I had my UC issues too, under control with medication, I basically eat what I want but try not to go too crazy with portions/alcohol/sugar.

These are essential 30s experiences apparently. Now I truly appreciate things like basic mobility without pain, a varied diet, and a single beer.

change display name (Jordan), Monday, 22 February 2021 19:00 (one week ago) link

my back problems come from being forced to carry the 3rd largest bass drum in marching band as a 100 pound 14-year-old for a summer, and then carrying an even heavier set of quints at an even worse angle for the following three years as a rail thin piece of painful shit

i don't know how i can even walk after that, it was terrible even at the time

Zach_TBD (Karl Malone), Monday, 22 February 2021 19:05 (one week ago) link

Dang, not cool, marching band.

Oh right I did play a bass drum strapped to my chest for a decade in a brass band, that probably didn't help.

change display name (Jordan), Monday, 22 February 2021 19:15 (one week ago) link

"a single beer" indeed. i only started drinking at age 28 or 29, so i only had a few years in there where having three drinks in an evening could be *mostly* counted upon to be a fun, floaty, socially limber and loose and laughing time, and only *rarely* tip over into brutal hangover territory, and/or just being too sleepy and sluggish to enjoy the night in the first place. nowadays those probabilities are reversed. but a single beer with dinner can be a mighty relaxing little pleasure.

since i started on effexor, i am invincible and beer does not hurt me, physically. my ability to write and hold a conversation and think? sure, it goes out the window. but the next morning, i am a-ok physically, every time. i think this might be a problem akin to people without a sense of touch holding a conversation while their arm is on fire on the stove, but....yep.

https://i.imgur.com/a6yXAOf.jpg

Zach_TBD (Karl Malone), Monday, 22 February 2021 20:32 (one week ago) link

i've never actually seen an episode of Thirtysomething, was it any good or just boomer yuppie bullshit?

weird how the actors were all younger than i am now, but (contrary to hollywood's weird youth complex stuff) i still look at them and see faces that feel older or more grownup/adulty than how i picture my peer group right now.

It was just nice to see a fella on tv that looked like all the adult men i knew tbh

Irish fisherman's son btw

scampsite (darraghmac), Monday, 22 February 2021 21:00 (one week ago) link

It was as good as any nighttime soap, though more character drama than soap craziness like Knots Landing or Melrose Place.

Ken Olin and Patricia Wettig being married IRL and to others on the show was interesting. Always thought the Elliot character batted out of his league to deserve ... Nancy?, while Michael and Hope seemed on track to a 40-something divorce. (Why has beer not killed off my knowledge of their names?)

The two female friends not shown in the above pic were fun, esp. the photographer character. Was most invested in the single guy Gary and Susannah (?) build to a relationship, so was a gut punch when they killed off a bike-riding Gary. Probably also why I saw the "City of Angels" twist coming and hate that version. Later years, can't remember the actor who played the dapper ad exec Michael worked with/for, but he was good in an Alan Rickman way.

the body of a spider... (scampering alpaca), Monday, 22 February 2021 21:11 (one week ago) link

interesting, thanks!

wait are you an ILXor in your 30s? i'm having a hard time imagining someone getting that invested in a show like this in 1st grade. tho not unthinkable obv.

ive had a bad back since i was a teenager. it somehow hasn't gotten that much worse over the years of terrible posture and terrible sitting at a desk 9-5. even my current covid set-up - ergonomic hell, partially because im too lazy to go get my office chair from my office - hasn't made it that much worse.

i do miss when i had my ex-wife's benefits and could get 10 free massages from an RMT each year

Dusty Benelux (jim in vancouver), Monday, 22 February 2021 21:14 (one week ago) link

xp - caught trying to hang with the cool kids! I belong in the 50s thread. Had just graduated college when it started.

the body of a spider... (scampering alpaca), Monday, 22 February 2021 21:21 (one week ago) link

I recently found one of my high school yearbooks, crazy to go through that and see how young everyone looked. It's weird because I do on occasion have dreams in which these people show up, but in my dreams they look like they're in their mid-30s (but still in high school, having flunked 20 straight years apparently), not as they actually were

frogbs, Monday, 22 February 2021 21:24 (one week ago) link

xpost - yes, we are definitely the coolest kids to hang with. in any event i appreciate the context/substance!

I did the same thing at the start of the pandemic, frogbs. It sure is weird to realize that I'm coming up on 14 years since graduation. I'm still friends with maybe a handful of people I knew in high school. I've never bothered going to any of the reunions, though I was only invited to one of them.

It's also a trip to realize that I'm one of the few people from my graduating class who is unmarried, childless, and still living in my hometown. Never lived off of the island.

It's interesting to reflect on what being 30+ (30something, if you will) meant when I was younger versus what it means to me now. I have no perception on if I look my age. I know I don't act my age. I find that I've only gotten more scattered, anxious, and inarticulate, oddly, and I have no idea where that came from.

hourspass, Monday, 22 February 2021 21:57 (one week ago) link

I live next to one of my best friends from high school, as well as one of my best friends from undergrad. We've all aged, sure, but other than some expected changes, we all look pretty decent.

What's strange is that the friend from high school is quite literally one of the only friends from high school that I am still in contact with— I might run into other people here and there, but not really. I mostly know what they look like through social media— and with several exceptions, they all have two or more kids and live in middle-class areas. A few of my musician and artist friends have stayed in it, which is encouraging, though there's also always the trained actress who married an investment banker and is now a certified life coach, which...uh. Anyway.

it's like edging for your mind (the table is the table), Monday, 22 February 2021 22:55 (one week ago) link

seems like she'd have some very specific, evergreen life advice lol

tiwa-nty one savage (voodoo chili), Monday, 22 February 2021 22:57 (one week ago) link

Re: online stuff, at my wedding my best man, whom I'd been hanging out with online since I was 14, dug out some old AOLIM chat logs to roast me with. Hell of a nuclear option for a speech.

Sneaking into tt to say, Urrrrgh I should do that too, or do it more. How is it? Do you still like food or are you embittered foes after all the pain & suffering? What foods make you happy?

The beginning is the worst part, really - spending so long w/o ANY low fodmap triggers was hell, especially because I'd try for free-from alternatives but very often those would have other ingredients I couldn't have (inulin is the worst part). The testing period was a bit of a blow to me as well as I realised I wasn't susceptible to just a few of the triggers but ALL of them. But the truth is that after a rocky start it did help me get better, no more sleepless nights going to the bathroom every 15 min, no more panic about eating and then going somewhere w/o a bathroom, etc. There's a learning curve to figuring out how to have a variety of yummy food to eat w/o going high-fodmap, and you can, though some of the advice online is simply bs - garlic infused olive oil instead of garlic, yeah that's nice if you want to smell garlic in a pan but tastewise it does nothing. The other thing is that as your stomach settles over this new diet it also gets more resistant, so these days I can happily eat high fodmap stuff because I have a good base of low fodmap stuff I eat regularly. Also, every now and then I get a fit, but because I know what to run to in those instances - porridge, steak 'n' potatoes, gluten free gnochi - I can auto correct in a couple of days instead of suffering for weeks.

But anyway this is all highly dependant on the individual! You might not have as many triggers as I do. And I feel like ibs + and ibs- are radically different experiences anyway (if you even have IBS?).

But anyway yeah I still love food and, because I cook so much more now (a low FODMAP restaurant experience is close to impossible), I'm probably MORE into ingredients and different world cuisines now.

Oh, I also stopped drinking, which I realise must be a big sacrifice for a lot of people, but frankly I've always been more of a stoner anyway.

Daniel_Rf, Tuesday, 23 February 2021 11:23 (one week ago) link

I turned 33 a month ago. I've really enjoyed my 30s - for the big birthday I had a last-minute party in my house and it was illuminating to see who wanted to come up and did, who wanted to but couldn't and made alternate plans, and who just simply didn't even bother RSVPing. It's been really good in a social sense: I have fewer good friends than I had in my 20s but I like them more because they're not just there by default from hometown nostalgia or sharing classes/workplaces together.

I hated my 20s. My degree was a waste of time and I genuinely don't feel I got anything useful from attending uni - certainly no skills or confidence to enter a working world related to it. I had custody of my brother and then stayed with him when he was old enough to be independent because he was going off the rails and needed an eye kept on him, and that only ended because his wild ways got us evicted. I went through two major episodes of depression, I got mugged at knifepoint, my house was broken into and I had my laptop and my boyfriend's laptop stolen. I had to cut my mother out of my life and haven't spoke to her since my late 20s. Some people have a gap year, I think of my 20s as a gap decade where I just persevered. I may be living through a pandemic and recently made redundant but it still feels easier than life did ten years ago.

boxedjoy, Tuesday, 23 February 2021 12:06 (one week ago) link

But anyway this is all highly dependent on the individual! You might not have as many triggers as I do. And I feel like ibs + and ibs- are radically different experiences anyway (if you even have IBS?).

I have "mild chronic gastritis" apparently, and will probably be confirmed for genetic celiac, and at least some of the FODMAP offenders cause me problems. It's difficult for me to eat out but not impossible. A diet without meat would be a serious problem for me as it's one of the only things that never gives me any trouble--meat & eggs. Anyway, cheers, non-alcoholically, from a sympathetic internet entity!

Ima Gardener (in orbit), Tuesday, 23 February 2021 12:45 (one week ago) link

i've never actually seen an episode of Thirtysomething, was it any good or just boomer yuppie bullshit?

I was actually going to post abt this but got distracted, it was on Hulu a few years ago (though it's not anymore) and I watched a few episodes and it was fascinating but utterly insufferable, everyone seems so old and boring and it's v reflective of a time when there was some fundamental life shift in ppls idk mid 20s? where they "settled down" and stopped having fun. There was so much stuffy, senseless bickering, idk I could not BELIEVE these ppl were supposed to be the same age as me and it made me reflect on how much the experience of being in one's thirties (and societal expectations of being in one's thirties) has shifted over the past 30 years

Warmed Regards, (Stevie D(eux)), Tuesday, 23 February 2021 13:51 (one week ago) link

like this was actually a scene in a TV show that was on some level supposed to be a reflection of How Things Were, barf me out!!!!!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=109i42MdAzI

Warmed Regards, (Stevie D(eux)), Tuesday, 23 February 2021 13:56 (one week ago) link

A diet without meat would be a serious problem for me as it's one of the only things that never gives me any trouble--meat & eggs.

Well there's good news there, most meat outside of sausages is low FODMAP friendly! The sauces and condiments that are usually thrown onto it, tho...

I had a phase of trying to eat more vegan after I'd sorted out my ibs troubles, but have allowed myself to wait for the end of the pandemic before picking that back up.

Daniel_Rf, Tuesday, 23 February 2021 13:59 (one week ago) link

Thirtysomethings made about a time and class of people that could own a home as thirtysomethings, basically

scampsite (darraghmac), Tuesday, 23 February 2021 14:02 (one week ago) link

Thank you for the reassurance! Yes I meant that I love and miss legumes but they cause me problems, and I try to eat less meat for the planet's sake but it would be hard to replace it, and dammit can't I have some things I like?

Anyway I'll let you whippersnappers get back to breakdancing.

Ima Gardener (in orbit), Tuesday, 23 February 2021 14:05 (one week ago) link

A bit of legrume for breakdancers

scampsite (darraghmac), Tuesday, 23 February 2021 14:22 (one week ago) link

thanks to the comments here i finally set up my work chair after 1 and a half years lol

nxd, Wednesday, 24 February 2021 18:38 (one week ago) link

My work chair has been a game changer. I spent months having RSI flare ups in my hands seemingly out of nowhere and a couple weeks after I got a decent chair it mostly subsided. RSI only threatened to return once, after a recent Hitman 3 bender during which I spent most of my spare time slumped on the couch with my hands fastened to an Xbox controller.

salsa shark, Wednesday, 24 February 2021 19:43 (one week ago) link

I must have the best desk/chair combo, or the best posture, in the world. I spend almost all my waking hours at home at my desk because my office is also my entertainment room, and I've been happily free of back issues. *knocks every piece of wood in room* *ps i'm not in my 30s*

Motoroller Scampotron (WmC), Wednesday, 24 February 2021 19:54 (one week ago) link

i've never had issues before, must be super lucky, but for the last year and half i've been working from home on a bench so that's probably not a good thing
glad i've got the chair sorted

nxd, Wednesday, 24 February 2021 20:00 (one week ago) link

Havent room to get a work chair but i must pick up a laptop stand as my neck is in bits lately

e-skate to the chapeau (darraghmac), Wednesday, 24 February 2021 20:18 (one week ago) link

Counting down the days to having a home office obv

e-skate to the chapeau (darraghmac), Wednesday, 24 February 2021 20:18 (one week ago) link

trying to use a laptop the way its name suggests is absolute murder on the 30-something neck

hiroyoshi tins in (Sgt. Biscuits), Wednesday, 24 February 2021 20:23 (one week ago) link

I really like the thread title implication that everyone in their 30s goes through a breakdancing phase

Hello Nice FBI Lady (DJP), Wednesday, 24 February 2021 20:27 (one week ago) link

I sin in three ways

- coffee table, while i sit on couch (lower back fucked)

- as laptop, legs crossed with ikea padded rest, while on bed (legs destroyed)

- kitchen table (neck in ribbons)

I employ a rotation system to ensure that i will essentially be unable to move at all by say july this year

e-skate to the chapeau (darraghmac), Wednesday, 24 February 2021 20:28 (one week ago) link

I have a laptop lap desk, and also have a standing desk. I highly recommend standing desks, btw.

it's like edging for your mind (the table is the table), Wednesday, 24 February 2021 20:29 (one week ago) link

post / username thread

nxd, Wednesday, 24 February 2021 20:49 (one week ago) link


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