I'm Only Happy When It's Gay // LGBTTQQIAAP+ // Fall 2021

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sup y'all? how was Halloween? what's everyone's November looking like? anyone else gonna get started on Thanksgiving drinking early this year? ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ฎ๐Ÿ๐ŸŒพ๐ŸŒ„๐Ÿฆš๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽญ๐Ÿงฉ๐ŸŽƒ๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ”ธ๐Ÿ”ถ๐Ÿ’ซ๐Ÿงก

Leave it here.

surm, Wednesday, 3 November 2021 03:03 (four weeks ago) link

I have to abstain from alcohol for a week due to the medication I'm taking to clear up an infection. I'm more annoyed about this than I likely should be.

Les hommes de bonbons (cryptosicko), Wednesday, 3 November 2021 03:26 (four weeks ago) link

it will be a good tolerance break! I just went on a weird self-imposed tolerance break from my psych meds lol. it feels good to be back on them!

surm, Wednesday, 3 November 2021 03:48 (four weeks ago) link

I'm now something like 7.5 months into my year of sobriety. It's a lot easier than I expected.

Milm & Foovies (Eric H.), Wednesday, 3 November 2021 04:00 (four weeks ago) link

that's so nice. sounds like married life is sating you ๐Ÿ‘ฏ

surm, Wednesday, 3 November 2021 04:17 (four weeks ago) link

Well, I mean, I'm going to have bourbon again in my life along with marital relations.

Milm & Foovies (Eric H.), Wednesday, 3 November 2021 04:19 (four weeks ago) link

Not dead yet lol!

Milm & Foovies (Eric H.), Wednesday, 3 November 2021 04:19 (four weeks ago) link

haha no i know you will. I've been drinking a hell of a lot less these days as well which is why I think I'm ready to party. I plan to be abroad at some point so I'll be in the mood ๐Ÿ’ƒ

surm, Wednesday, 3 November 2021 04:23 (four weeks ago) link

Good morning!

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 3 November 2021 12:17 (four weeks ago) link

hi sweetums! what's the story?

surm, Wednesday, 3 November 2021 14:13 (four weeks ago) link

Gonna see that boy whom I hooked up with three weeks ago this weekend, I think. Otherwise I'm grading papers and at night sipping Negronis and watching Chris Marker films.

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 3 November 2021 14:20 (four weeks ago) link

Love the beginning and end of that post.

Milm & Foovies (Eric H.), Wednesday, 3 November 2021 14:25 (four weeks ago) link

transitioning into my 'dirty old man' phase

folks, i need a vacation. to somewhere with a recognizably human culture, ideally.

Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Wednesday, 3 November 2021 16:41 (four weeks ago) link

hey all! Hate my job but what else is new.

Other than that, I'm facilitating a manuscript workshop that promises to be pretty cool with a bunch of rad writers in it. Feel like I might be smoking too much weed but oh well, makes the monotony bearable in some way.

Loosely planning some trips in the spring, and a weekend in New York later this month, maybe....

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Wednesday, 3 November 2021 21:05 (four weeks ago) link

I haven't done a proper workout in two years, but I've been five times in the past week, good full set each time, feeling great tyvm!

flamboyant goon tie included, Wednesday, 3 November 2021 22:51 (four weeks ago) link

map come to Philly

Warmed Regards, (Stevie D(eux)), Thursday, 4 November 2021 13:17 (four weeks ago) link

I've been keeping up with an exercise regimen, but more recently, I've been seeing more "results"โ€” I'm stronger and more sinewy that I was a few months ago. Climbing V6 in the gym, and either doing HIIT workouts or bicycling 20-mile circuits on the non-gym days. Not bad for a guy who nearly died two years ago.

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Thursday, 4 November 2021 16:35 (four weeks ago) link

I walk 5 miles a day and it's done wonders to fuck with my sense of time.

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 4 November 2021 16:37 (four weeks ago) link

map come to Philly

โ€• Warmed Regards, (Stevie D(eux)), Thursday, November 4, 2021 1:17 PM (three hours ago) bookmarkflaglink

<3

Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Thursday, 4 November 2021 16:49 (four weeks ago) link

been biking to the gym at least 2x a week, plus also started taking a daily supplement stack for immune system enhancement. mulling over seeing a trainer again and also have some dietary changes iโ€™d like to start making (more protein, less simple sugars and seed oils). also trying to improve my relationship to screens, reducing blue light exposure when i have to use computers and staying away from my phone/computer after 9pm. gettin into doing kind things for my body after a year or so of doing not-so-kind things to it!

donna rouge, Thursday, 4 November 2021 17:30 (four weeks ago) link

Oh, I also bought a standing desk when I couldn't sit for about a month (long story lol), but I now stand while WFH and let me tell you, I feel so much better about working. Back, shoulders, everything.

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Thursday, 4 November 2021 18:59 (four weeks ago) link

Donald Rumsfeld's greatest legacy.

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 4 November 2021 19:00 (four weeks ago) link

be good to your bodies everyone, they deserve it

Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Thursday, 4 November 2021 19:02 (four weeks ago) link

i'm contemplating doing...

foot exercises

Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Thursday, 4 November 2021 19:04 (four weeks ago) link

oh!!! what would it serve you?
it's funny all this talk about taking care of your body, I was just thinking the same. I think it's because I looked in the mirror yesterday with overhead lighting lol. T if you wanna grab a drink lmk. btw are u ok with a cod3d version of your name around here? totally understand either way. maybe only for special occasions? ๐Ÿ™‚

surm, Sunday, 7 November 2021 00:24 (three weeks ago) link

oh!!! what would it serve you?

it might help my running form.

yesterday morning i had a long in-person chat with a gay friend who i can talk about stuff with. it felt very nice.

Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Sunday, 7 November 2021 13:19 (three weeks ago) link

that's so nice. had it been a while?

surm, Sunday, 7 November 2021 16:21 (three weeks ago) link

I've mainly been hanging out with my girlfriends lately, but yesterday, I reached out to a fellow queer about some health stuff and he's having me over for a pot roast tonight โ™ฅ๏ธ

surm, Sunday, 7 November 2021 16:22 (three weeks ago) link

you sure you wanna be throwing your weed into boiling water?

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 7 November 2021 16:24 (three weeks ago) link

xp oh that's great!

it's been a while. my boyfriend is a really patient listener but sometimes you just need someone else. i remember when these threads had the title "i don't have any gay friends in town" or some such, which has always been more or less true for me, but i have one i guess! i'm going to try harder to nurture this friendship.

Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Sunday, 7 November 2021 16:27 (three weeks ago) link

i love that. I remember those titles too. and there was definitely a while (like years) where I had no idea what it was like to have gay friends. luckily over the years I've been introduced to a bunch. it's really crazy how you forget the importance of seeing and being and learning from people that "look" like you for lack of a better word

lol Alfred

surm, Sunday, 7 November 2021 16:41 (three weeks ago) link

When we moved, 7.5 years ago, to the small market town in North Yorkshire where we now live, we had to say goodbye to our gay friendship network. For several years, we knew no other gays in townโ€ฆ but then I started playing disco on vinyl every Friday night in the bar up the road. That brought them out of the woodwork. Over the summer, we invited all the town gays that we now know round to our place for drinks. Most of them had never met before. And now we have some formative sense of a community. And this pleases me.

mike t-diva, Sunday, 7 November 2021 19:47 (three weeks ago) link

that sounds so wonderful

donna rouge, Sunday, 7 November 2021 19:50 (three weeks ago) link

Wow.

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 7 November 2021 20:06 (three weeks ago) link

It was all a bit too much for one of our number, who, several drinks in, suggested that we all get our cocks out. Talk about misreading the room. The he spent the rest of the weekend messaging around: โ€œIโ€™m so sorry if I offended anyoneโ€. Ah, bless.

mike t-diva, Sunday, 7 November 2021 20:40 (three weeks ago) link

omg lol. at least the gay community specializes in non-judgement. good for you for instigating that, game changer.

surm, Sunday, 7 November 2021 22:14 (three weeks ago) link

But what would gay bars be like without judgment??

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 7 November 2021 22:33 (three weeks ago) link

ok that's true ๐Ÿ˜น

surm, Sunday, 7 November 2021 22:35 (three weeks ago) link

mike that sounds so great :)

flamboyant goon tie included, Sunday, 7 November 2021 23:25 (three weeks ago) link

talking to a cutey on grindr from the uk who wants to meet up when he's here in a week - never tapped into my thing for auburn haired brits!

surm, Monday, 8 November 2021 05:46 (three weeks ago) link

my bf is an auburn haired brit!

J0rdan S., Monday, 8 November 2021 05:47 (three weeks ago) link

omg lol
obv
you guys sound perfectly suited

surm, Monday, 8 November 2021 06:39 (three weeks ago) link

We hung out with our queer friends yesterday! One just had a hysterectomy so we brought him coffee and snacks and an edible, and we sat around and watched our dogs act like idiots while chatting like maniacs. It was great.

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Monday, 8 November 2021 20:57 (three weeks ago) link

My partner and I went to see Eternals on Saturday and then took a stroll through Rowes Wharf just in time to see a drunk bachelorette fall into Boston Harbor trying to recreate the "I'M KING OF THE WORLD" scene from Titanic. We then helped fish her out. It was wild.

talkin' about his flat tire (DJP), Monday, 8 November 2021 21:18 (three weeks ago) link

Whoa, DJP. That sounds wild!

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Monday, 8 November 2021 21:28 (three weeks ago) link

That reminds me we have to help our friend Jim retrieve his dead father's Zippo, which is down in a ditch below a tall bridge and difficult to access. He dropped it and it fell through the bridge sidewalk, one of those very intense grated metal things.

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Monday, 8 November 2021 21:29 (three weeks ago) link

obviously the bachelorette thing is not funny but i mean, it's also really funny.

Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Monday, 8 November 2021 21:36 (three weeks ago) link

It was all a bit too much for one of our number, who, several drinks in, suggested that we all get our cocks out. Talk about misreading the room. The he spent the rest of the weekend messaging around: โ€œIโ€™m so sorry if I offended anyoneโ€. Ah, bless.

โ€• mike t-diva, Sunday, November 7, 2021 8:40 PM (yesterday) bookmarkflaglink

my heart goes out to this man.

Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Monday, 8 November 2021 21:38 (three weeks ago) link

I mean, everyone came out the other end okay so I feel only a little guilty about how I keep cackling every time I think about it

talkin' about his flat tire (DJP), Monday, 8 November 2021 22:01 (three weeks ago) link

lol that's good.

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Monday, 8 November 2021 22:32 (three weeks ago) link

Also good on ya'll for saving some drunk white woman.

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Monday, 8 November 2021 22:33 (three weeks ago) link

lol

I also just rewatched Titanic the other day and confirmed my suspicion that Leo is my favorite actor

T your hang sounds so nice

surm, Monday, 8 November 2021 23:28 (three weeks ago) link

It was! We love these friends.

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Monday, 8 November 2021 23:32 (three weeks ago) link

finally rescheduling my second date with Danny, costume designer. first date was him plying me with beers, which I had no problem with. he suggested drinks for round 2, I guess that's fine? I feel like in straight land round 2 is always dinner

surm, Monday, 8 November 2021 23:37 (three weeks ago) link

a friend of mine (ahem) works at a government agency. he was in the office early on a monday morning, and the director of said agency, also known to come in early, came by the cubicle for a visit. the first words out of this director's mouth were "did you see adele last night? *gasp* *swanning*".

in a video meeting a few weeks ago, the director was talking about the mission of the agency, and referenced the words of a practioner from long ago, which were, i shit you not, "as (professionals), we are riding the horns of uncertainty." my friend responded, "and we ride the horns that we're dealt," and the director burst out laughing. everyone else looked uncomfortable.

the director has shown my friend photos of his grandkids, and is mormon of course. either closeted or on a down-low arrangement, right?

Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Thursday, 18 November 2021 00:13 (two weeks ago) link

he is a closeted married gay guy

Dan S, Thursday, 18 November 2021 00:24 (two weeks ago) link

there are many of them

Dan S, Thursday, 18 November 2021 00:25 (two weeks ago) link

true

Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Thursday, 18 November 2021 00:27 (two weeks ago) link

my friend was delighted at first that he could "tell" but now he just wants to keep his distance. he is pretty sure there are some closeted lesbians at his workplace too.

Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Thursday, 18 November 2021 00:30 (two weeks ago) link

Question for the U.S. folk:

Was ABBA a gay thing in America before "Priscilla, Queen of the Desert"?

I figure it was an Australian and probably European thing, but then American straight people saw the movie and assumed it was a thing here too.

Hideous Lump, Thursday, 18 November 2021 05:30 (two weeks ago) link

I don't know, tho Levan never played them at the Paradise Garage, according to this list:
https://x.facebook.com/housemastersmusic/photos/a.160929651951502/413817093329422/?type=3&source=48

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Thursday, 18 November 2021 19:19 (two weeks ago) link

I say this as someone who has come around quite a bit on ABBA and would even call "The Winner Takes It All" an A+ pop song ... good for Larry.

Milm & Foovies (Eric H.), Thursday, 18 November 2021 19:22 (two weeks ago) link

I love ABBA.

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Thursday, 18 November 2021 19:26 (two weeks ago) link

And I agree with you, Eric.

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Thursday, 18 November 2021 19:26 (two weeks ago) link

Can't fight the feelin'

Milm & Foovies (Eric H.), Thursday, 18 November 2021 19:31 (two weeks ago) link

Apparently, that list is hogwash and there's been some minor kerfuffle about it, from former PG DJs and party attendees!

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Thursday, 18 November 2021 20:42 (two weeks ago) link

I just found out myself.

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Thursday, 18 November 2021 20:43 (two weeks ago) link

still, what a list, phew

donna rouge, Thursday, 18 November 2021 21:42 (two weeks ago) link

true!

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Thursday, 18 November 2021 22:22 (two weeks ago) link

Anyone ever put together a good playlist of holiday soulful house music?

Milm & Foovies (Eric H.), Thursday, 18 November 2021 22:31 (two weeks ago) link

no but i want one! please share if it comes to fruition.
i had a weird phone thing happen last night -

surm, Friday, 19 November 2021 06:02 (one week ago) link

i met a guy on the phone and we had crazy conversations via text for like hours, like all night. is that weird? i feel like I'm in jr high school. like I'm 36?

surm, Friday, 19 November 2021 06:06 (one week ago) link

sounds fun!

J0rdan S., Friday, 19 November 2021 06:48 (one week ago) link

you know - fun is relative.

surm, Friday, 19 November 2021 07:38 (one week ago) link

you know j0rdy i was thinking of u today - of your reaction once when i commented on something. it was very trivial but I have an emotional memory and it made me happy so I remember it. I'd rather not go into the details so as not to spoil the magic of the moment but just know that you left an impression!

surm, Friday, 19 November 2021 07:46 (one week ago) link

i met a guy on the phone and we had crazy conversations via text for like hours, like all night. is that weird? i feel like I'm in jr high school. like I'm 36?

โ€• surm, Friday, November 19, 2021

It's fun! Exhausting too. The guy I've been fooling around with gets miffed if like a normal person I determine the texting must end. He's also in his early twenties.

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Friday, 19 November 2021 16:32 (one week ago) link

im 38 and romantic feelings toward a million people feel as intense as ever

marcos, Friday, 19 November 2021 16:35 (one week ago) link

marcos!

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Friday, 19 November 2021 16:35 (one week ago) link

"feelings feel" lol

i usually edit a little more if i know alfred is in a thread

marcos, Friday, 19 November 2021 16:36 (one week ago) link

hey!!!

marcos, Friday, 19 November 2021 16:36 (one week ago) link

i usually edit a little more if i know alfred is in a thread

โ€• marcos, Friday, November 19, 2021

dude, have you seen my typos?

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Friday, 19 November 2021 16:38 (one week ago) link

you know j0rdy i was thinking of u today - of your reaction once when i commented on something. it was very trivial but I have an emotional memory and it made me happy so I remember it. I'd rather not go into the details so as not to spoil the magic of the moment but just know that you left an impression!

โ€• s;-urm, Friday, November 19, 2021 2:46 AM (twelve hours ago)

<3 :-*

J0rdan S., Friday, 19 November 2021 19:50 (one week ago) link

Going to be in NY for 36 hours, already have the whole thing planned. I'm jamming in a lot!

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Friday, 19 November 2021 22:23 (one week ago) link

oh yeah!! i forgot. what's on the agenda?

surm, Saturday, 20 November 2021 04:24 (one week ago) link

hi marcos!!!

surm, Saturday, 20 November 2021 04:25 (one week ago) link

Well, I went to the Guggenheim with one of my oldest friends, we took a nice walk, then I went to Artists Space for a poetry reading, had an amazing dinner with friends in Chinatown, then another poetry reading at LOMEX, then a long long train ride to the Rockaways to stay with another old friend and her elderly dog (who is dying and whom I've known since she was a puppy). We had a lovely if bittersweet time. Then I left the Rockaways after a walk around Ft. Tilden and brunch, took the A straight to Penn Station and came back to Philly. All told, I was in New York for 27 hours and fit quite a lot in. I also managed to not get stinking drunk, a first for me in New York lol.

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Tuesday, 23 November 2021 18:47 (one week ago) link

I just re-read my diary from my first solo trip to NY back in 2004 and it's highly embarrassing.

Milm & Foovies (Eric H.), Tuesday, 23 November 2021 19:05 (one week ago) link

still feel like a rube when i visit big cities tbh, even though i've spent some time in them.

Nedlene Grendel as Basenji Holmo (map), Tuesday, 23 November 2021 19:09 (one week ago) link

I'm sweating now and leaning on the John door

plax (ico), Tuesday, 23 November 2021 19:11 (one week ago) link

i met a friend of a friend yesterday that i barely know, we ended up having a very friendly and enthusiastic conversation. they run sound for a new gay-ish bar here that does a lot of drag shows and they want to put together a dance night at some point. there isn't much good happening in that area here, like at all. feels like queer nightlife is the grimmest it's been in decades.

xp good luck, take care of yourself!

Nedlene Grendel as Basenji Holmo (map), Tuesday, 23 November 2021 19:15 (one week ago) link

Damn, table, for 27 hours you really covered a lot of ground. Artists Space rules, was the scene of some surprisingly wild nights (for an art galley) in my high school years.

The 25 Best Songs Ever Ranked In Order (Deflatormouse), Tuesday, 23 November 2021 20:59 (one week ago) link

Dogs should never die.

The 25 Best Songs Ever Ranked In Order (Deflatormouse), Tuesday, 23 November 2021 21:00 (one week ago) link

I read at Artists Space two months before the pandemic. They paid me more money than I've ever received for a reading, plus my train ticket and dinner. Art world money going to broke ass poets like myself is kind of cool.

I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Tuesday, 23 November 2021 22:32 (one week ago) link

that is super cool. I'm glad you had such a lovely time in ny.
also plax!! it's so nice to see you here.
I'm in St Louis seeing doctors, and relying heavily on shopping for holiday cheer
i watched a movie last night - obvious child feat. Jenny Slate - and it made me miss flirting. i had to reschedule on Danny to come here but he was beyond sweet about it, so I'm looking forward to seeing him when i get back to ny.
my friends (gay and straight) have shown me so much love in the past few weeks. i never expected to have that much love in my life. it's more than i thought i deserved. I'm trying to let them love me.

surm, Friday, 26 November 2021 13:35 (six days ago) link


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