Real love -- I'm, like, searchin' for that Queer Love -- LGBTQIA+ Love // A Thread for the Real Ones

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🙃🙃🙃 wassup y'all? i'm so happy we're all here. lots of years between the lot of you. friends, lovers, cuties welcome. 🐙🐙🐙

Swen, Friday, 18 March 2022 19:19 (eight months ago) link

Bump.

Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Friday, 18 March 2022 20:17 (eight months ago) link

feeling mighty real tbh

the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Friday, 18 March 2022 20:20 (eight months ago) link

great title swen, can i call you swenny henny?

the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Friday, 18 March 2022 20:21 (eight months ago) link

y'all I just spent 4 days in Boston w my new "friend" and it was soooo nice, we seem to really enjoy each other's company and he was v cuddly and affectionate and it just felt v lovely to have like easy uncomplicated intimacy, also while I was there I bought a golden fork to keep in my office for work lunches and I am irrationally excited abt it, it is truly so cunt

this weekend I am performing in a Kate Bush revue thing called N1ght of 1000 K4tes, it is going to be v fun (it's in its 8th year and I have attended all but the v first one and this will be my 2nd time performing!!!), it is one of my v favorite things abt Philly, every year is like going to summer camp and seeing all your friends

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jK7dW8Jf74

Stevie D(eux), Friday, 18 March 2022 20:21 (eight months ago) link

lmao at having a golden fork, it's completely perfect and now i want one. kate bush community theater sounds lovely.

the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Friday, 18 March 2022 20:28 (eight months ago) link

it's got like a sanded matte finish instead of a high-gloss sheen, I really love it

Stevie D(eux), Friday, 18 March 2022 20:31 (eight months ago) link

it's actually my friend's performance/idea and I'm just one of the performers, but it's like, about covid??? (which I'm not thrilled abt but I love my friend and am happy to contrib), it's like a sound collage based on "Aerial" (which I tbh am thrilled abt) and there's like, dancers in the audience, and mirrory things on the stage reflecting back on the audience, and there's like, contemplation and one-ness and survival and stuff I think

Stevie D(eux), Friday, 18 March 2022 20:32 (eight months ago) link

that's sooo cool and I'm jelly. I just listened to Aerial the other day. my introduction to ILX!

Swen, Friday, 18 March 2022 20:35 (eight months ago) link

so I have had my own idea for YEARS that I have told several ppl abt and have gotten a good response to and I think I am going to finally finally try to pull it off next year, I think I have maybe even talked abt it on here somewhere, but the song is this v inexplicable house remix of "Rubberband Girl" and the performance is a complete ripoff of UNZIPPED (1995) where it will be a fashion show and there will be all sorts of zany chaos and hijinks backstage but w like perfect immaculate runway walks the second they come out from behind the curtain, the performance has nothing to do w the music but maybe I'll get some LIVESTRONG bracelets made and throw them into the crowd idk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2KII-OXV86c

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFBc4rXKkTU

Stevie D(eux), Friday, 18 March 2022 20:37 (eight months ago) link

AERIAL is honestly the best Kate Bush album

Stevie D(eux), Friday, 18 March 2022 20:38 (eight months ago) link

also it is a bit $$$ (20 of them to be exact) but they are selling tickets for the livestream tomorrow night at 8:30! https://wl.seetickets.us/event/Night-of1000Kates/470113?afflky=UndergroundArts

Stevie D(eux), Friday, 18 March 2022 20:39 (eight months ago) link

stevie i still have that KB shirt you sent me! it's a lil snug on me atm but whenever i wear it ppl always ask about it

donna rouge, Friday, 18 March 2022 20:39 (eight months ago) link

omg mine too is a lil snug, I forget which one I sent you but the one I have has her face on it and my belly makes it fold in half so that it makes her look like that one picture of Aphex Twin

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/d/da/Aphex_Twin_-_Syro_main_press_photo.jpg

Stevie D(eux), Friday, 18 March 2022 20:43 (eight months ago) link

you sent me the glow in the dark one (which amazingly still works after probably dozens of laundry cycles)

donna rouge, Friday, 18 March 2022 20:49 (eight months ago) link

I just watched unzipped recently and it was so good. also did you know there's a sister documentary called catwalk that basically follows Christy Turlington all over the world?
pretty awful what's going on with Linda Evangelista. she just released the first body pics of her condition due to coolsculpting. unimaginable.

Swen, Saturday, 19 March 2022 17:47 (eight months ago) link

I was sad to miss Kates. Heard my friend Anna blew it outta the park, and saw the wacky inflatable Cathy and Heathcliff blow-up piece on film. Looked like a really fun time, but we had planned a dinner months ago with our gay friends, one of whom is going through a health scare...so it seemed more important to hang out with them.

I finished "Detransition, Baby," yesterday, and while I thought it ended much too quickly, I thought it had some really lovely moments.

we need outrage! we need dicks!! (the table is the table), Monday, 21 March 2022 14:57 (eight months ago) link

hope your friend is hanging in there <3

Swen, Monday, 21 March 2022 20:01 (eight months ago) link

xp y0ung?? she fuckin KILLED it (as per usual). I hope they post a recording of the livestream.

Stevie D(eux), Tuesday, 22 March 2022 02:46 (eight months ago) link

I've been listening to a lot of RuTH lately 🌄🌄🌄

Swen, Tuesday, 22 March 2022 04:20 (eight months ago) link

yes Stevie, that Ann4

we need outrage! we need dicks!! (the table is the table), Tuesday, 22 March 2022 14:15 (eight months ago) link

o boy what a life we lead really

Swen, Wednesday, 23 March 2022 23:14 (eight months ago) link

so I'm not sure when the next time I'll "meet" someone is, let's call it, due to extenuating circumstances

do i care?

will i ever go out to a bar and pick someone up again? i had occasional game. all of a sudden I'd love to meet someone younger than me. i usually don't gravitate to that realm. i wonder what that's about

Swen, Wednesday, 23 March 2022 23:35 (eight months ago) link

you will absolutely go out to a bar and pick someone up again, it is so inevitable

Stevie D(eux), Saturday, 26 March 2022 16:53 (eight months ago) link

Date tonight. At a (rooftop) bar. I shoulda asked if he's jabbed.

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 26 March 2022 18:22 (eight months ago) link

first date? how did you meet? brown hair, big heart, bat eyelashes?

you know Stevie it's just at first it was pandemia, and then health stuff that's going to take another 6 months to settle. just didn't realize I'd be singing the same tune for the goddamn 3-year dark ages. but whatever i'm going to get so many beauty treatments when this is all through I plan on looking like Princess Jasmine meets Bella Hadid. mark my words.

also i quit smoking forever and it's truly something else. going on 6 months.

Swen, Sunday, 27 March 2022 14:15 (eight months ago) link

my new issue of BUTT just arrived!!!!!!!!!

Stevie D(eux), Wednesday, 30 March 2022 21:57 (eight months ago) link

omg i already read some of the poems
how is it at large?

Swen, Thursday, 31 March 2022 17:23 (eight months ago) link

is it large?

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 31 March 2022 17:23 (eight months ago) link

C'mon Simone, let's talk about your big "but."

Max Hamburgers (Eric H.), Thursday, 31 March 2022 17:28 (eight months ago) link

I haven't read it yet bcz I got it at work and then *brag alert* went straight to my fuck buddy's house for a cute date and only just got home a few hours ago!!!

Stevie D(eux), Thursday, 31 March 2022 18:58 (eight months ago) link

butts all around

the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:17 (eight months ago) link

butts rule everything around me

the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:17 (eight months ago) link

OK SO
I'm not a butt man and i keep feeling more and more alone
like American men are just obsessed with them
i feel like there's something wrong with me

Swen, Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:25 (eight months ago) link

Stevo you're killin it these days

Swen, Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:27 (eight months ago) link

don't care about the outside, it's what's inside that counts imo

the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:28 (eight months ago) link

like the way it feels?

Swen, Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:34 (eight months ago) link

yeah! i mean not to get too tmi or too cliche i guess but i just think anuses are this incredible part of us lol and i really like experiencing them.

the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:40 (eight months ago) link

So! My Saturday night date sold me out. I suspected trouble when I had to text him 15 mins before meeting: he was running late thanks to a "minor emergency" at his parents', whatever that means (what's a "minor" emergency?). Luckily a friend kept me company at the bar.

An hour later, date texts: "On my way, send location address plz?" That's the last I heard of him. For a while I thought he died -- until I saw a an Instagram post Sunday morning.

He's 24, a former student who emailed me four years after class to ask about getting a beer or coffee. On determining he was queer he gushed: he praised my self-assurance, brains, looks, etc. We might've met that night had I not plans already. It's worth noting I barely remember this kid in summer 2018.

I wonder if simply not showing up is a phenomenon of the young?

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:41 (eight months ago) link

Anusii are a cliche?

Max Hamburgers (Eric H.), Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:41 (eight months ago) link

that sucks. definitely hit next. it's been a phenomenon of the young and old as long as i've been dating tbh. xp

the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:44 (eight months ago) link

Yeah, I wanted to avoid generational generalization, but a few viejos noted The Vanishing has been more prevalent in the last four years.

I've ghosted more than my share, I should note.

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 31 March 2022 19:47 (eight months ago) link

I have never done this, to my knowledge?

we need outrage! we need dicks!! (the table is the table), Thursday, 31 March 2022 22:30 (eight months ago) link

me eiths it's dumb
I'm too polite though

Swen, Friday, 1 April 2022 01:32 (eight months ago) link

wassup homieslice

Swen, Saturday, 2 April 2022 18:01 (eight months ago) link

good morning!

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 2 April 2022 18:02 (eight months ago) link

Mornin' sunshine!
What's on the platter?

Swen, Saturday, 2 April 2022 18:03 (eight months ago) link

I'm vegetarian tonight.

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Saturday, 2 April 2022 18:21 (eight months ago) link

sexually or culinarily?

Swen, Sunday, 3 April 2022 00:00 (eight months ago) link

Lady Bracknell : Well, both, if necessary, I presume!

So who you gonna call? The martini police (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 3 April 2022 00:11 (eight months ago) link

We were supposed to do an Airbender themed couples costume this year, but my weekend in hospital dashed those dreams— I can’t even eat any candy at the moment, on a “full liquids” diet until Friday

poppin' debussy (the table is the table), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:44 (one month ago) link

Negronis!

Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:46 (one month ago) link

oh no, i hope you're feeling better soon

ꙮ (map), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:48 (one month ago) link

table, I hope you got my message on the other thread. Hugs.

Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:53 (one month ago) link

I did, thanks Alfred and map! staying away from booze for a bit as i believe it might have been a booze-induced chowdown that caused the obstruction in the first place, but i am planning on hitting the vape for the first time since Friday, longest i’ve gone in years without weed ?!?

poppin' debussy (the table is the table), Monday, 31 October 2022 21:57 (one month ago) link

I'm not sure taking someone younger and more inebriated than yourself into a bathroom for sex, moments after meeting them, is the way you want that hook-up story to sound

boxedjoy, Monday, 31 October 2022 22:24 (one month ago) link

We didn't have sex. It's fine -- we talked yesterday, we're meeting for coffee tomorrow night.

Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 31 October 2022 22:28 (one month ago) link

i've never really loved halloween - the pressure to think of an original/funny costume, running all over town to get the stuff you need for it, then actually executing the idea (and in my case, more likely than not doing a shitty job of it)...i know some gays treat it like it's their christmas and i'm happy for them but it's not really my thing. i'm also really ready for those spirit halloween costume memes all over IG to be over and done with lol

donna rouge, Monday, 31 October 2022 22:50 (one month ago) link

i agree very much with all of that, except the doing a shitty job of it, i don't think that's possible for you

ꙮ (map), Monday, 31 October 2022 23:43 (one month ago) link

i look forward to the day i can hire my own temporary costume designer to execute my halloween costume for me (must have seen one too many of those vogue look back videos today)

ꙮ (map), Monday, 31 October 2022 23:45 (one month ago) link

I'm not sure taking someone younger and more inebriated than yourself into a bathroom for sex, moments after meeting them, is the way you want that hook-up story to sound


That isn’t the way it read to me, and maybe you should tone down your moral policing and assumptions about others

poppin' debussy (the table is the table), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 00:51 (one month ago) link

you aren’t allowed to have drunken bathroom sex until you’re at least 22

J0rdan S., Tuesday, 1 November 2022 00:54 (one month ago) link

xp yes, that was uncalled for imo.

shit, hope you're ok table and wish you a speedy recovery.

i've worn the same costume every year for the last 5 or 6 years, initially it was based of a playful yijing reading ("someone tethers his cow; the traveller's gain is the townie's disaster", no particular question). I had this great 1890's fringe jacket that i bought to flip but never got around to selling. a year later i added a hobby horse.

"H to the Izzo" means "I love you" (Deflatormouse), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 03:27 (one month ago) link

can we see the jacket?!

Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 09:27 (one month ago) link

omg i love all of that xp

apropos of nothing here's a hobby horse from wikipedia

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/7/7b/Morris_dancers_Thames_at_Richmond.jpg-

ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 15:29 (one month ago) link

when i'm dancing with my straight friends

ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 15:30 (one month ago) link

awww look at those straight people

Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 15:31 (one month ago) link

ok i had to laugh at the fb friend whose costume was a "spirit halloween costume" template printed out as a giant card they're wearing

ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 1 November 2022 18:36 (one month ago) link

Had sex with my husband this morning, rolled over and said “Now let’s vote.”

ex-McKinsey wonk who looks like a human version of a rat (Eric H.), Tuesday, 8 November 2022 14:33 (one month ago) link

Yeah, because all your gay friends wouldn't go https://t.co/oAV3dl1eyV

— extremely hardcore naomi (parody) (@H0NEYRIVER) November 17, 2022

ex-McKinsey wonk who looks like a human version of a rat (Eric H.), Thursday, 17 November 2022 20:54 (three weeks ago) link

Had sex with my husband this morning, rolled over and said “Now let’s vote.”

― ex-McKinsey wonk who looks like a human version of a rat (Eric H.)

Wish Morbs were here to see this

G. D’Arcy Cheesewright (silby), Thursday, 17 November 2022 21:06 (three weeks ago) link

So would he, if memory serves

ex-McKinsey wonk who looks like a human version of a rat (Eric H.), Thursday, 17 November 2022 21:12 (three weeks ago) link

the taylor swift tweet on the other head i wouldn't wish on him

ꙮ (map), Thursday, 17 November 2022 21:13 (three weeks ago) link

I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, tbh

poppin' debussy (the table is the table), Thursday, 17 November 2022 23:55 (three weeks ago) link

I miss Morbs’ sense of humor … and that he had one

ex-McKinsey wonk who looks like a human version of a rat (Eric H.), Friday, 18 November 2022 01:10 (three weeks ago) link

"At least two people inside the club confronted and fought the gunman and prevented further violence, Vasquez said. “We owe them a great debt of thanks,” he said."

ꙮ (map), Monday, 21 November 2022 00:29 (two weeks ago) link

mfer was 22 years old.

i've been to club q, once. it was the second to last day of a week i had to spend in colorado springs attending an antiquarian books seminar. i took an uber out there. i remember black and white checkered decor. friendly people. there was a bathhouse attached to it, pretty bare bones but charming. i had a great time. played hooky the next day. my best memory of the whole week by far. a little oasis stuck in the futuristic lower case sans serif gay 2000s and perfect for it. colorado springs is such a horrible place overall, has to be one of the worst cities in the u.s. that bar was really the only gay bar in the city iirc. what a nightmare.

ꙮ (map), Monday, 21 November 2022 00:38 (two weeks ago) link

how conservative is Colorado Springs, map?

Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 21 November 2022 00:54 (two weeks ago) link

i mean, i don't have numbers and i haven't checked recently, but it's the ultimate armed forces town with a whole mess of defense contractors and so forth. there's literally nowhere good to eat in the city. the whole place is basically a run-down suburb. the city itself outlawed recreational weed, you have to buy it 30 miles outside of town.

ꙮ (map), Monday, 21 November 2022 01:00 (two weeks ago) link

two weeks pass...

wyd

ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 6 December 2022 17:48 (four days ago) link

Popping Advil for monkeypox vax-induced chills.

Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Tuesday, 6 December 2022 18:25 (four days ago) link

:| feel better soon

ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 6 December 2022 18:34 (four days ago) link

i'm in a meeting

ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 6 December 2022 18:35 (four days ago) link

calling in sick in a few, air quality got me feeling crappy

ꙮ (map), Tuesday, 6 December 2022 18:35 (four days ago) link

I’m about to go into a meeting

castanuts (DJP), Tuesday, 6 December 2022 18:45 (four days ago) link

HI

Swen, Wednesday, 7 December 2022 18:43 (three days ago) link

jesus fuck i've missed you all

i'll skip the update on my life and just say - love the invocation of Morbs above, and lovely to catch up on some stories.

how are the meetings? i'm on a hybrid schedule now so there are a lot of meetings with my kitchen blurred in the background happening. i look pretty cute on camera though, i think because it blurs my features slightly so i'm ok with it.

Swen, Wednesday, 7 December 2022 18:47 (three days ago) link

o also it's so funny to see the community finally catching up to my k + caps microdose therapies. who knows if they're working but sometimes it's nice.

Swen, Wednesday, 7 December 2022 18:49 (three days ago) link

I'm going to sell my Jeep (because I can't afford it) and attempt to live a year without a car (except the one my husband owns)

عباس کیارستمی (Eric H.), Wednesday, 7 December 2022 18:56 (three days ago) link

well that should be fine, right? what does your hubby own?

that's sad about your jeep though, i'm sorry :(

Swen, Wednesday, 7 December 2022 19:10 (three days ago) link

meh, I liked it a lot but it's not going to break my heart at all ... not much of a car person tbh. My husband's car is a Beemer

عباس کیارستمی (Eric H.), Wednesday, 7 December 2022 19:43 (three days ago) link

not a fan of cars either.

i griped to my partner about how much i hate salt lake city and utah for the millionth time last night and it sounds like Project Move Out of Utah will be moving forward at the beginning of the year, with a 1.5 year eta instead of 5 years. potential destinations include colorado and oregon.

ꙮ (map), Wednesday, 7 December 2022 20:10 (three days ago) link

My husband just signed a contract so we're stuck in Minny for another 3 years at least

عباس کیارستمی (Eric H.), Wednesday, 7 December 2022 20:34 (three days ago) link

i still don't have a driver's license. my permit's still good until late january but i haven't been behind the wheel in months and tbh i'm not really feeling up to practicing rn. i find driving kind of terrifying but i also feel a little silly that literal 17-year-olds can drive with confidence and i can't.

donna rouge, Wednesday, 7 December 2022 22:44 (three days ago) link

it's ok! if you don't absolutely have to have it, why bother? my 50 year old partner hates driving and is very nervous about it, he can do it if he has to but would much rather not. i've always been a confident driver but have become very tired of and frayed by it over the past few years. people are psycho death machines out there and i feel like it's gotten significantly worse since the pandemic. i would like to live in a city where driving would be unnecessary but feel like maybe a small-to-medium sized city is a better fit for our preferred pace and it's harder to thrive in those places without a car generally speaking, at least in the western u.s.

xp to eric h. are you happy with minneapolis?

ꙮ (map), Wednesday, 7 December 2022 23:13 (three days ago) link

I'm from here originally; maybe just a midlife wanderlust crisis

عباس کیارستمی (Eric H.), Wednesday, 7 December 2022 23:27 (three days ago) link

T and I both love driving, but I drive a majority of the time because I grew up in the area where we live so know how to get everywhere without looking at a phone.

Goose Bigelow, Fowl Gigolo (the table is the table), Thursday, 8 December 2022 03:02 (two days ago) link

In case anyone has free time this afternoon, I'll be reading some poems (about anal) at the end of this event, which is a conversation between the director of Visual AIDS and Ted Kerr, an artist and AIDS activist. https://brooklynrail.org/events/2022/12/08/visual-aids/

Goose Bigelow, Fowl Gigolo (the table is the table), Thursday, 8 December 2022 18:15 (two days ago) link

(It is happening now)

Goose Bigelow, Fowl Gigolo (the table is the table), Thursday, 8 December 2022 18:15 (two days ago) link


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