Say something nice about another ILXor

Agreed LL, I see lots of cynicism on here about ILX but can't think of anywhere else I enjoy the conversation so much, or feel free to talk about the stuff that interests me.

LL says what I have thought for a while now but too much of a lurker to articulate confidently. I've been here in one form or another for over 10 years I think and keep visiting because it's like walking into a pub where you're comfortable to sit on your own or equally strike up a conversation with a likeminded soul. You might not speak to many people but you're on nodding terms with most.

(^_^;)

Well said.

One of the secretly greatest things about ILX is that it doesn't use hashtags, which really are the most banal thing about the internet

#secretgreatestthingsaboutilx

Hear, hear LL!

Still the only place I can hang out comfortably

Thank god for deathless threads, no hashtags and no avatars

^ Yes, and LL summed up ILX's appeal succinctly. This is pretty much the only form of electronic communication (or, well, communication with humans generally) that doesn't make me anxious. Usually. For the most part.

I'm literally so grateful for the atmosphere of ILX (in peace times) that I composed (and posted!) that post. Cheers!

LL well said & you rule

i don't like praising people specifically probably because of how i was raised but i feel like sarahell has been doing a lot of work to be less snarky and more open and compassionate over the last few years and i think it's paid off really well, i think she's a top poster

I'm literally so grateful for the atmosphere of ILX (in peace times) that I composed (and posted!) that post. Cheers!

― weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Friday, August 2, 2019 9:06 AM (forty-one minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink

"(and posted!)" indeed there are many times that I compose and then do not post!

We really need avatars though

check out james fuckin cameron over here

we really need five avatars

2027 can't come fast enough

Didn't realize we'd already firmly rescheduled 2012.

no need for Arrrghhh..vatars on here thank you very much. I have enough trouble brushing my teeth on a morning.

LL way otm. I have rewarding interactions on other social media but honestly a chill generalist nerd message board is the kind of online hangout space I’m most suited to. It feels like it’s senesced even in the eyeblink since I joined but it’s very comforting to me when everything else is shit to know I can go on my phone at coffee time and see a 2am darraghmac troll poll or a yerac food opinion or the mordant capering of Britain’s onlinest shepherd bizarro gazzara

i don't like praising people specifically probably because of how i was raised but i feel like sarahell has been doing a lot of work to be less snarky and more open and compassionate over the last few years and i think it's paid off really well, i think she's a top poster

I love every poster in this revive

i will take all compliments, back-handed or not? i think?

sarahell imo you have always been a good poster

yes

idk ... I have definitely had my self-indulgent embarrassing periods, and the troll the fuck out of everything periods, and honestly, I am almost expecting former posters to login just to remind me that I suck.

same here tbh, but the way i was raised was if you condescend like fuck to someone like they are one of your creatures or something.. they might just tell you to go fuck yourself [exclamation mark]

sorry if I have been condescending to you?

no!

forget it!

some of your r-word use used to piss me off but i was probably too much of a delicate flower at the time, but otherwise I've always enjoyed angry posters on here. but I found that post about you a bit of a creepy stretch. who is to say where anybody is right now just from reading their posting style on here. we are all in all sorts of different situations, but yeah i'm glad you've found the path of light by not offending my delicate sensibilities etc.. etc..

lol i think I'm doing this thread wrong .. I'll log off!

lol, if I'm the poster that turns "say something nice" into "say something kinda nice, but also kinda mean" ... as in I'm the subject of that ... I accept my fate.

This revive is so nice!! ILXers are pretty swell, for the most part I think.

brimstead has been very funny lately imo

i want to say how much I appreciate all the other "no boys" thread posters: it's one of the threads that keeps me here. ... also, whomever made the various "old" stylesheets, they are nice.

Old Lunch’s Hooch thread made me laugh like a deranged idiot on the subway today

Would 100% go antiquing with OL

i still want to go thrifting w sarahell

Yes! and drumming too?

Of course!! A noncompetitive duet!!! If it were competitive, I would 100% lose and it would be embarrassing for everyone. This thread is a perfect example of something I wouldn't trouble anyone with irl but I enjoy talking about asynchronously with ilxors i'm over here in the green section, see you by the hats

OL and Karl Malone are delights on the political thread.

You are too.

i like Alf's book recommendations as well, just finishing that excellent J jackson book on the Vichy regime.

i didn't mean it as backhanded! it's more like, idk, you were one of the people whose bad side i was specifically terrified of getting on the bad side of. ilx was just a super intimidating and scary place. oh, i don't know, that almost sounds more backhanded, doesn't it?

what i mean is that everybody here is great and/because everybody here has gotten better over time

it's cool! i can relate! you are a rad person, too!

It's a good spot, this place.

i like Alf's book recommendations as well, just finishing that excellent J jackson book on the Vichy regime.

― calzino, Friday, August 2, 2019 7:58 PM (three hours ago

oh thanks! I hope someone's read his De Gaulle bio.

i don't recall the era when sarahell claims she was sometimes trolling? she's always been a+ unless it involves semiotics, about which i'm unqualified to comment

so i woke up thinking about this (no i don't have an ilx problem) and i'm sorry if i get kind of personal here but i do want to talk a little about how ilx has grown and developed and what that means to me

i get frustrated when i see people being nostalgic for Old ILX because, particularly when one of those threads gets bumped, it was something i was always kind of conflicted about. the people here were really smart and really well-spoken and, well, the reputation was that it was sort of a critics' hangout, right?

that was kind of difficult for me. partly because i'd had some pretty terrible interactions with a music critic on usenet (he will not be named and as far as i know was never here, but he was super into kink shaming), and partly relating it to my own life

all the trauma work i've been doing the topic of the "inner critic" comes up. it doesn't mean quite the same thing as someone being a professional critic, but i don't see the two usages as being entirely unrelated. writers are people who tend to have a pretty poor self-image in the first place (one of the misguided reasons i never really pursued being a professional writer - i feel like i sort of confused correlation with causation, which i've done in other areas of my life), and then you add in a sort of work which tends to magnify the critical voice and at worst critics can become these "boys in the band" types who are utterly merciless and lacerating both of themselves and of others

well that was sort of how i saw Old ILX, and for whatever reasons - i'd prefer to accentuate the positive ones - i feel like ILX has become kinder, more compassionate, its posters more self-accepting. that makes me happy.

at the same time that experience and growth, this is the paradox, means that i feel like people here don't necessarily say as much stupid shit. people give the impression of having thought before speaking. certainly that's what i try to do, and the flip side of writing things and not posting them is that i've written some stuff where not posting was absolutely the right decision. there's less viciousness but it's still an environment where if someone talks shit, i mean speaks ad ignorantum, they stand a good chance of being called on it. it's been helpful and hopefully i talk less shit than i used to!

i feel like people here don't necessarily say as much stupid shit. people give the impression of having thought before speaking. certainly that's what i try to do

i love the 'posts you had second thoughts about posting' thread for this reason

just listened to all 50 of the songs brad has considered as being the best ever

i don't agree of course but it's an amazing list