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a thread for secondhand/used clothes (and shoes/accessories) shopping in 2012

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 14:27 (seven years ago) link

i didn't know if we had a thread specifically for current secondhand apparel shopping

A little personal tmi/history: I have had a longtime aversion to buying new clothes, and generally try to keep my acquisition of new things to new-to-me things. i have a pretty decent collection of casual-but-attractive clothes, but old clothes fall apart eventually and I don't know if I can really continue to wear this dress from The Limited that I got for my college graduation to work once a week. It has had a good run. There's nothing wrong with it, but I have been wearing it on and off since 1997.

Time for some new old clothes.

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 14:29 (seven years ago) link

I did have some serious luck at my favorite thrift store over the weekend (three totally wearable dresses, only one is ridiculous (but handmade!), for $8.50)

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 14:30 (seven years ago) link

I do buy new things -- don't get me wrong -- but I have long enjoyed the experience of thrift store shopping. It's a really homey feeling for me, for better or worse.

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 14:32 (seven years ago) link

well i guess i'll share some deets
these are the dresses i got

* Pucci-style BCBG polyester stretch dress in green, purple, yellow, and white flowers, wore it yesterday, requires NO IRONING and will not fade because it's pure synthetic material YES (comfy too)
* chartreuse cotton tank dress, the kind of thing you sleep in and then wear around to do errands the next day before finally deciding to take a shower; casual, decent, and modest enough
* homemade off-the-shoulder huge front ruffle ties in the back around the waist peasant style dress -- omg this thing, it is crazy and kinda fits but a little large in the bust, but that's covered by the ruffle. makes me feel like emmylou harris only without her head, unfortunately.

total cost $8.50

it helps to have very low standards when it comes to 100% perfect fit since basically nothing has ever fit perfectly

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 14:46 (seven years ago) link

Most interested in The Ruffle tbh. What color is the peasant dress?

purveyor of generations (in orbit), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 14:48 (seven years ago) link

It's blue and purple flowers with a lace bust ruffle. This hilarious man at the checkout next to me said, "Oh that dress is very nice. No man will ever look at you in it." and I was like O_O Mister, are you blind? He clarified by saying that what he meant was that it was very European.

So weird.

Maybe I'll give it a spin in front of the camera and just crop out my head. You'd think it's a hilariously awful dress!

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 14:50 (seven years ago) link

None of that exchange makes the slightest bit of sense but it does crack me up.

purveyor of generations (in orbit), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 14:53 (seven years ago) link

OK so what kind of thrift store do you find the best stuff in and do you generally spend a long time searching for things? $8.50 for three dreses is extremely appealing.

(✿◠‿◠) (ENBB), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 14:56 (seven years ago) link

it was good natured but very strange

other good things about thrift stores in 2012:

* when you take a spin around the blazers to see if there's anything good, you can take a little side trip to the mugs and records, maybe even lamps if there are a lot of them. tapes are everywhere too.

* there are no boxes or packaging or advertising costs involved in the transaction you make there.

downsides: sometimes the proceeds go to a charity you would not otherwise support

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 14:59 (seven years ago) link

I find the very best stuff at resale shops where the collection is pretty well curated -- things are a little more expensive, but they are also WAY cuter than your average crummy thrift store

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:00 (seven years ago) link

that said, i don't usually go there unless i want a special treat

usually it's one of two places, one independent thrift store with some kind of environmental cause behind it and a salvation army in evanston. and a lot when i go home to ohio.

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:02 (seven years ago) link

stay away from anywhere near hipsters, but near a college is good because college kids often give away their nice clothes that their parents bought them, at least IME.

there is also ebay etsy etc but

i have just found liketwice.com, and i feel like my work clothes problems are basically solved now

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:03 (seven years ago) link

OK, that's basically what I was wondering. There's a local chain of the curated kind around Boston that I've always been curious about. I will give them a try some time soon.

(✿◠‿◠) (ENBB), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:03 (seven years ago) link

i just stop by when i feel the pull, don't really shop for anything specifically, buy nice stuff when i see it and find an occasion to wear it later

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:04 (seven years ago) link

Ll, you gotta come out to the bay area - I will take you to this (sort of hipster) thrift store that has the most amazing vintage costume-y dresses

just1n3, Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:04 (seven years ago) link

Oh that site is interesting!

(✿◠‿◠) (ENBB), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:06 (seven years ago) link

i will admit to actually enjoying the looking-through-stuff part -- it's no skin off my back to just look around for a while and examine the things that people give away

j - will take you up on that if i ever find myself out that way!

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:09 (seven years ago) link

I will take some photos next time I'm in there - their stuff is insane!!

just1n3, Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:11 (seven years ago) link

i feel drooly thinking about it tbh

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:12 (seven years ago) link

oh hey thanks for making this thread for me LL

real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:14 (seven years ago) link

You're welcome! I knew you were an enthusiast, this will be our palace.

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:16 (seven years ago) link

EA do you have experience with Poor Little Rich G? I think there's one in Prov.

(✿◠‿◠) (ENBB), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:18 (seven years ago) link

Oh wait - there's only one of those. I think I was thinking of Second Time Around.

(✿◠‿◠) (ENBB), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:19 (seven years ago) link

i have a general method of approaching thrift stores.

records / tapes -> books / mags -> housewares -> art -> furniture -> shoes -> ties -> shirts -> sweaters -> blazers

real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:21 (seven years ago) link

oh you gotta have a method!

i look for magazines and books (heavy), then women's shirts --> dresses --> purses ---> hats ---> shoes ---> nighties (shut up, i found a lot of pretty things in there) then put some stuff back, then finally records and housewares.

usually. sometimes i skip the clothes because i can tell there won't be anything.

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:23 (seven years ago) link

i can't say that i've ever found anything great at 2nd time around but I'm not there very frequently, tho i recall their prices being absurdly high for non-vintage consignment

real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:24 (seven years ago) link

There's a giant Goodwill by my office that I go to usually to look for costume accessories etc when I'm goign to a theme party or whatnot.

I tend not to shop for clothes a whole lot, bc I find that a v disappointing exercise being larger than most of the stuff on the racks. I tend to limit myself to jackets, occasionally glance at skirts.

But I always get a kick out of looking at things like furniture and books and coffee mugs and framed pictures and whatnot. Years ago Mr Veg found these awesome matching coffee mugs printed with PRESBYTERIAN FAMILY CAMP :D

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:24 (seven years ago) link

also - i skip pants usually because really, like i am going to find any pants that fit me? ha. it has never happened.
i used to look for men's pants when i was a teen who wanted to disappear and even got some super sweet and durable *perfectly snug* turquoise Levis cords from the little boys section yeeeeears ago (RIP) but i think that covers my success with used slacks/jeans/trousers/pants.

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:26 (seven years ago) link

also lol because 'second time around' is just the most common predictable names for a consignment store, like that or 'second helpings' or 'second-hand rose' or whatever.

my boyfriend and i joke that when we open our consignment store it will be named 'sloppy seconds'

real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:28 (seven years ago) link

ANYWAY, my clothing scores have been limited lately, the only thing of note would be a couple vintage pendleton wool shirts and a few ties. always, always with the neckties.

real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:30 (seven years ago) link

oh, well that's not entirely true, i did buy a vintage denim jacket during my trip to the east bay (i needed a layer, so) -- it's got a navy / gold / red wool plaid for the collar and placket facings, raglan sleeves, and a drawstring waist? it's a bit odd and is fitted more like a parka than a denim trucker jacket. but it's nice & i like it.

real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:35 (seven years ago) link

I've lived in poor areas for a while, and the goodwill & second-hand stores are useless except for housewares so that's the only section I check (but housewares can be a good mine--witness the rare Fiesta candlesticks I found this summer). Would have to go way out of the city, or else uptown to rich neighborhoods to find good clothes.

purveyor of generations (in orbit), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:39 (seven years ago) link

*gold mine

purveyor of generations (in orbit), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:39 (seven years ago) link

i feel like there should be some sort of demographic analysis you could perform to locate the areas where thrift stores most likely to contain treasures

real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:48 (seven years ago) link

A long time ago, around 2001-2003, I used to take the train out into NJ to Paterson and Passaic and walk from the train station to a local Sal Arm in a building with one of those big chalet-style rooflines and an all-glass front wall. It always had THE BEST STUFF, including great furniture that I just had no way to truck home. My favorite shirt in the world in my entire life came from there, it says "Vulcan Science Academy" on it and is the perfect degree of falling-apart soft.

The Red, White, & Blue in Paterson used to be amazing as well, I bought a bunch of silk Vera scarves from there for $2 each.

purveyor of generations (in orbit), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:51 (seven years ago) link

it would depend on what you consider a treasure, no?

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:52 (seven years ago) link

as far as i am concerned, i long for the golden age of the late 80s/early 90s, when there were lots of people in NEOH giving away their old tiny party dresses
other dream area would be in california in the mid-late 80s (?) when people were giving away their crazy 60s and 70s clothes

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:54 (seven years ago) link

i think higher-than-average median income + low or negative population growth provides a pretty good starting point, tho

real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:55 (seven years ago) link

ime it helps to go where the old folks are (or had been, until recently, r.i.p.)

real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:56 (seven years ago) link

Bingo.

purveyor of generations (in orbit), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:56 (seven years ago) link

one of my best finds is an oscar de la renta shirtdress with gold tinsel and brown embroidered lederhosen
it was like $2 because it was in the kids section

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:58 (seven years ago) link

but i could reminisce about old clothes forever -- there's another thread for that

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 15:59 (seven years ago) link

i really love church & community thrift stores the most

real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 16:03 (seven years ago) link

and the old ladies who volunteer there 7 hours a week

real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 16:05 (seven years ago) link

oscar de la renta shirtdress with gold tinsel and brown embroidered lederhosen

wait is this one item or two?

(✿◠‿◠) (ENBB), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 16:06 (seven years ago) link

i love the woman who runs the thrift at the episcopal church in providence, she is always there and ALWAYS at least a little bit drunk

real men have been preparing manly dishes for centuries (elmo argonaut), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 16:06 (seven years ago) link

I love the places where they hand-write receipts and you get awesome little old lady handwriting

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 16:07 (seven years ago) link

oh, i'm kind of obsessed with boxes of old postcards...but those are more often in antique stores than thrift stores

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 16:08 (seven years ago) link

one item -- the dress had the lederhosen sewn on
i still have it

these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Wednesday, 19 September 2012 16:10 (seven years ago) link

I think there's a lot more work that can be done on predictive algorithms as far as what clothes you may/would like. Multiple sites are doing this now, as well as thredUp. I just got a promo email from thredup with "we think you will like these items" - and none of them were things I'd want, all very basic, staple-y stuff that is kinda the opposite of what I like.

sarahell, Thursday, 6 April 2017 17:50 (two years ago) link

ten months pass...

attn: tangenttangent -- this thread exists if you wanna talk about dresses

sarahell, Saturday, 3 March 2018 07:16 (one year ago) link

i scored some nice stuff at the goodwill near my grocery store recently. a few shirts for work, a red/black polka dotted cotton dress, a stretchy black a-line dress with a little white collar and sleeves that isn't too tight, and a replacement gray cardigan because mine had a hole in the armpit. can't write on a chalkboard under those circumstances!

if i had smaller feet, i would have walked away with the most amazing stash of shoes i have ever seen collected in a thrift store at once: off-white laceup granny boots (curved heel!), bright orange minnetonka moccasins, and silver pumps with the least-jacked-up dainty heel i have ever seen in a thrift store

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 15 March 2018 15:39 (one year ago) link

I just watched the newest season of Love on netflix. It's really making me want to start scouring for vintage clothes again, although I got rid of so much 2 years ago when I realized that I am never that keen to wear all polyester.

Yerac, Friday, 23 March 2018 14:14 (one year ago) link

four months pass...

scooooooooooooore today at the thrift -- muted silver pleather biker jacket in exactly my size
i got two other things as well but this jacket is totally the shit, i can't wait to wear it. it's 90+ degrees today (and thrift had broken a/c) so i give myself credit for thinking ahead to cooler temps and snagging this extremely cool jacket

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 6 August 2018 00:33 (one year ago) link

also yesterday i brought home one of those classic thrifted women's cardigans with a little shell pattern on it, totally acrylic, you know these sweaters. mine is yellow but they come in easter egg colors like light blue, pink, white, yellow.

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 6 August 2018 00:35 (one year ago) link

PICS PLEASE

illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Monday, 6 August 2018 13:47 (one year ago) link

i haven't posted a pic to ilx in ages -- idk how to do it anymore!?

this is the same jacket only it's gold and mine is silver and mine only cost $10! https://poshmark.com/listing/Express-Gold-Moto-Biker-Leather-Jacket-Small-5a49bd23daa8f68062036973?utm_source=gdm&l_con=PREOWNED%2FUSED&gdm_bottom=false&campaign_id=1068438942&utm_campaign=1068438942&enable_guest_buy_flow=true&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIqf2ttMrY3AIVStbACh1RfQFYEAQYAyABEgKPEPD_BwE

the sweater is something you probably saw on someone you knew in high school or college -- these fully synthetic old lady sweaters have been floating around since i was in high school and almost everyone i knew had one. to the point where i never bought one because we can't all go around wearing the same sweater...until now!

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 6 August 2018 14:02 (one year ago) link

oh man i want a silver jacket

Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 6 August 2018 14:18 (one year ago) link

i just googled and there are apparently abundant options -- you should get one! you can even get a puffy one a la missy

it was super weird because just a couple days ago i watched Single White Female (hilarious, awesome, template for so many USURPER Lifetime movies, that weird little orange hairdo) and Bridget Fonda's clothes were really cute in that movie (heels aside). She had a silver raincoat that would have been a holy grail type item if Jennifer Jason Leigh hadn't waltzed out with the same exact one! lol

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 6 August 2018 14:39 (one year ago) link

i saw a little girl at the farmers matket yesterday in a silver windbreaker & i nearly squueeeed out loud in envy

Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Monday, 6 August 2018 15:50 (one year ago) link

this is within your grasp -- we are living in a rich era of wacky affordable clothing. i looked around at Target the other day and marveled at the variety. It almost made me want to stock up for those times when things become more austere.

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 6 August 2018 16:48 (one year ago) link

I need a raincoat and am now looking up silver raincoats.

Yerac, Monday, 6 August 2018 17:05 (one year ago) link

thing = her coat, not her specifically

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Monday, 6 August 2018 18:46 (one year ago) link

https://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2008/03_04/EastendersBBC_468x316.jpg

(jk - the leather one looks ace)

kinder, Monday, 6 August 2018 20:21 (one year ago) link

who are those miserable-seeming people?

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Tuesday, 7 August 2018 15:27 (one year ago) link

the ginger lady is the iconic Bianca, from British aspirational soap opera 'Eastenders'

kinder, Tuesday, 7 August 2018 17:22 (one year ago) link

aha
i've heard of that but clearly not familiar with the characters

tbh i'm pretty useless at figuring out what people mean with solitary image posts

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Tuesday, 7 August 2018 17:25 (one year ago) link

sorry, that silver puffa jacket is kind of famous over here!

kinder, Tuesday, 7 August 2018 17:28 (one year ago) link

no need to apologize! i wish we all could be more forgiving of people not knowing things/needing to ask questions, self included.

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Tuesday, 7 August 2018 17:30 (one year ago) link

five months pass...

i forgot to post about this when i executed the score but i scored so huge at this very small thrift last month. i got:

* black sweater with a sexy blue/white leopard on it (i am in love with this sweater)
* bizarre gigantic black sequined shirt/dress with red feathers around the collar that makes me look like phyllis diller or a shrunken latter day liza minnelli (idk where i will wear this but it's mine now)
* amazing brown/orange peasant dress with laces that corset up the back that fits me *perfectly* and is comfortable (this is going to be nice for special occasions)
* psychedelic orange/pink/brown/green flowered skirt that has *shorts underneath it for total comfort and protection omg* (i can comfortably play drums in it!!)

i got all this for $14.33!!!! half price for the holidays, love this place so much

also let's all raise a glass to the next few months when Kondo-following people will be discarding their perfectly good but joyless items and making them available to us at reasonable prices. i feel like i could start my own store if i shopped well enough during the next 6 months!! all the vultures are gonna be out though...

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 9 January 2019 15:04 (nine months ago) link

also i will mention that upon paying my $14.33 i felt a palpable noticeable surge of whatever that good-feeling hormone is. like i felt flushed with...what is it? joy!!!????

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 9 January 2019 15:05 (nine months ago) link

yay! very much looking forward to Kondo acolyte discards ... also, tis the season for discount cashmere

got some great thredup scores this week (i bought them in December, just came in the mail this week)

* black designer coat dress with chunky beads and jewels on the collar that fits perfectly ... tags attached, priced at $380 ... I got it for about $40
* this amazing art deco looking sleeveless top, kinda like the bodice of a fancy flapper dress
* 80s-ish puffy sleeved blue & black leopard print v-neck sweater

sarahell, Wednesday, 9 January 2019 23:02 (nine months ago) link

also, a not very exciting boatneck-ish black crushed velvet blouse that I bought for exciting refashioning -- a year or so ago I got rid of a bunch of clothes that hadn't really fit me since the late 90s ... including a half dozen cute patterned bras that I took apart and kept the cup fabric, which works well as a stitched on collar for a boatneck, scoopneck, crewneck, etc.

anyway, so now this blouse has a cute collar that is black & red lacy skull & bones, plus some additional beadwork I did

sarahell, Wednesday, 9 January 2019 23:10 (nine months ago) link

omg that is so cool -- how satisfying is it to wear a garment with a decorative bra cup collar?!?!?!

we should wear our black/blue leopard sweaters together sometime!!

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 10 January 2019 00:47 (nine months ago) link

ok that is a terrible idea but i am still enjoying the idea of wearing similar but not matching secondhand sweaters

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 10 January 2019 01:03 (nine months ago) link

that is actually an awesome idea -- we could perform together wearing said garments

sarahell, Thursday, 10 January 2019 03:03 (nine months ago) link

yessssssssss
i can only travel in the summer or winter but i am fully into this idea and not even joking

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 10 January 2019 15:41 (nine months ago) link

yknow i have seen online animosity/competitive behavior between kondo-enthusiasts and thrifters -- 1) this is divisive and 2) who cares? don't fight amongst yourselves. keep giving it away/recycling your stuff and everyone's happy, the ecosystem is healthy. it's cooperation not competition!!

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 10 January 2019 17:40 (nine months ago) link

so weird! - the animosity/competitiveness - is it that the kondo-kin think thrifters are hoarders or gluttons in need of discipline or ...?

sarahell, Thursday, 10 January 2019 19:04 (nine months ago) link

idk what they think honestly -- that seems otm based on what i can glean from the snarking i have seen.

to me it just seems like "defending my 'position' means insulting yours" mindset that seems to plague some modern online discourse. unfortunate, imo. i'm sure some people would say "lighten up, it's a joke" but isn't that what people always say to excuse themselves? idk i wish we could celebrate because this is a win-win for everyone.

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 10 January 2019 19:26 (nine months ago) link

That is so strange! Yeah, it would seem like a mutually beneficial system.

Yerac, Thursday, 10 January 2019 19:32 (nine months ago) link

also there is the shared value of objects providing pleasure, er, joy

sarahell, Thursday, 10 January 2019 19:47 (nine months ago) link

it is symbiosis of the highest order, what's not to like!?

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Thursday, 10 January 2019 22:23 (nine months ago) link

also, it's not like I keep all my thrift scores forever -- I let things go when they cease to be useful or there are enough other things that have surpassed it in terms of joy and use value ... granted, I might have more things than some people believe I should, but what can I say ... i have so much love to give

sarahell, Friday, 11 January 2019 02:14 (nine months ago) link

especially when it comes to things that are relatively unique ... like the things I get rid of first are the more generic-looking items that would be easy to replace if I changed my mind

sarahell, Friday, 11 January 2019 02:16 (nine months ago) link

like i said, symbiosis!

“It’s a good time for thrift shopping. I have the people who are purging, and then I have the people that need those things and can have access to them at a lower price. It’s a beautiful, mutual symbiotic relationship,” she said.

https://blockclubchicago.org/2019/01/11/marie-kondo-has-everyone-tidying-up-and-chicagos-thrift-stores-are-reaping-the-rewards/

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Friday, 11 January 2019 15:41 (nine months ago) link

i have plenty of things to get rid of too. maybe i should organize a swap. i found the handout i made for aspiring swap organizers for my speech class last semester and i make it sound so easy! maybe it is easier than i think it is.

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Friday, 11 January 2019 15:42 (nine months ago) link

i think you just need a space and willing participants and a plan for what to do with stuff that is left behind ... clothing swaps have always been awkward for me because I'm significantly larger than most of my friends

sarahell, Friday, 11 January 2019 20:30 (nine months ago) link

four weeks pass...

since we don't have a thread for swaps, i will put my q here in the hope someone can give me a quick answer:

what is the most inclusive language for inviting women + femme people of all stripes ?

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Saturday, 9 February 2019 16:30 (eight months ago) link

is the swap just for women's clothing? Others I've seen have been "all genders/gender identities welcome" -- but if you want to specify that the clothing to be swapped is gendered, do that separately? Also, you may want to say something about sizes.

sarahell, Saturday, 9 February 2019 18:15 (eight months ago) link

opening it up to men's clothing would open a whole new can of worms that i am not ready to host in a week, so yeah -- just women's + children's at this point. the swaps that i have been to are all women's clothing but there are people of various identities there (not cis het men though)

this is why i haven't hosted before. too complicated!

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Saturday, 9 February 2019 19:25 (eight months ago) link

i am definitely going to mention that there will be diversity of sizes and style + a changing room w a mirror
it's the invitation process that is giving me hives at this point :-/

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Saturday, 9 February 2019 19:26 (eight months ago) link

then i would say, "women's and children's clothing!" "all sizes and gender identities welcome!"

sarahell, Saturday, 9 February 2019 19:28 (eight months ago) link

ok thank you -- that is helpful!!

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Saturday, 9 February 2019 19:30 (eight months ago) link

let us know how it goes!

Squeaky Fromage (VegemiteGrrl), Saturday, 9 February 2019 19:37 (eight months ago) link

someday i would like to host a monster swap for everyone but not right now. party planning is so hard for me! i get really hung up on things that aren't important and then the stress fritzes me out
i also want people to know that even if they don't have stuff to bring or don't want to swap they are still welcome to come over and hang out and meet some new people/talk with me and who knows -- maybe a free accessory or other item may fall into their laps! you never know what you're gonna get at a swap.

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Saturday, 9 February 2019 20:07 (eight months ago) link

i will def let you know how it goes.
it's a week from tomorrow :)

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Saturday, 9 February 2019 20:08 (eight months ago) link

five months pass...

i have since let go some of the items i found at the beginning of this thread almost 7 years ago! wow
time flies!
my swap failed btw. i had to cancel it!

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Friday, 2 August 2019 23:52 (two months ago) link


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