Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

(and my moon is in gemini. rising in libra.)
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who would hate us, who??

they're just jealous

I have aquarian sun *and* moon and virgo rising, apparently. Hmm.

I mean, loving a know-it-all worldly genius isn't easy but it's worth it
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lol @ 22 being too young but 25 being ok

yeah i thought that was funny too, s'why i posted it. but truth be told me and the 25 year old did actually have waaaayy more to talk about. fwiw all my friends are much younger than me as well. i'm a dj, i don't work in an office, plus bali skews kinda young, especially where fellow 'mericans are concerned.

when i'm visiting home my friends are all about my age, but i still kinda date a broad age range there, always have.

would read a thread devoted exclusively to the Bali OKC scene

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hgEJZ1dFCog

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Pass on any Geminis, Aquariuses or Leos

After reading this thread, I have decided that when I return to OKC in the next week or so I am going to tell people I was adopted, the paperwork was lost, hence my true date of birth is unknown so my star sign is impossible to know. I refuse to be judged by what day I was born on.

not sure that will help as if they can tell you're bad from when you were born then at least they can tell how bad you are and in which ways and maybe they'll still send you a message despite this info - no birthdate to judge you on just makes you too high a risk

SARAHELL --

your analysis was merciful to maligned virgos (lol boring) and also quite accurate! i'm late to respond because i forgot that i posted that, but for someone who has never met me, A+ analysis.

f. hazel you should tell all potential love interests that you were found as an infant floating down the mississippi on an inflatable slice of watermelon and you're not at liberty to answer any questions about your origin.

Something about astrology's explicit formalization of the irrational nature of human matchmaking really sticks in my craw, I guess. We really are all in darkness, grasping at stars.

Maybe I am depressed right now and should wait a few more weeks before embarking on this adventure.

would read a thread devoted exclusively to the Bali OKC scene

it's pretty underwhelming tbh i'm just too lazy/old to go clubbing more than once a month, and can't make myself get into yoga

guys, i am 99% sure i'm going to be dumped tonight, but i have no idea why. i got a "we need to talk, call me tonight" text yesterday, but i tried calling twice and no pick up. and we texted a bit this morning and are supposed to talk tonight. barf. i was having a really good time with this person!

that sucks. maybe you are just assuming the worst? there is a lot of dumb luck and timing in these things I find.

well, this morning i asked if it was something unpleasant. and he wrote "oh lindsay. this is not the time or way to get into anything. but yes, unpleasant. can we talk about it later?"

oof

look on the bright side, maybe he has cancer

jeez. i hope he is just dumping me.

urgh, i hope so too.

maybe he's going to ask you to borrow five thousand dollars.

"I'd like to talk to you about Dianetics..."

sorry, but seriously BG, that really sounds awful, im so sorry to hear it :( At least he's communicating with you, thats honest of him at the least.

:/ i hope you're doing okay, L. onwards...

oof, I don't know whether I would want that warning or prefer to go straight into the conversation. Although I probably would prefer the warning.

What's up today, bell?

we talked. he doesn't think he can fall in love with me. which, honestly is not something that i had thought about at all since it's been like a month and i'm just enjoying hanging out! but then we talked more, and i think what he is looking for in a relationship is way more intense than what i am looking for...like to fill a void in himself. and he realizes that it's not necessarily the best way to be, but hasn't internalized it yet. it was actually a productive conversation that ended with exchanging therapist information and left me feeling not so horrible despite the whole "i can't fall in love you" thing and we are going to sleep on it and get together next week to talk it through in person.

Does he really know he can't fall in love with you after only a month of dating?!

i know! that's what i said! for me love is something that develops over lots and lots of time. and it's not some intense romantic feeling, at this age. those things always burn off. i don't open up right away (mostly for my own protection) and he hasn't even gotten to all the good stuff yet!

but i can relate to the "thinking a relationship is going to fill a void in me" because i chased that idea for years and years without success. but like, i just needed to work on my own emotional issues. and now i'm pretty decent in the head and don't feel like i need anyone to complete me at all.

whoa O_O

uh my instinct is you need to clear out. Disregarding how warped and stupid and unobtainable his view is, once that cat is out of the bag it is not going to be put away easily, if at all ever.

Also can I just recommend never filling a void for someone if you can help it? I personally find it super-tempting because if they need me THEN THEY CAN NEVER LEAVE but that never ends well. I know, right?

(obv dishing cut and run advice super easy when you have no emotions involved)

Being in a relationship can make you feel more complete, but it's due to what you bring to the relationship that is brought out in yourself, not the other person filling a void.

I mean, unless you're one of those young or unrealized people who is able to grow in a relationship with another person in a similar state, but baaaaaaaah.

Um, no. Why did he make such a huge production of needing to talk to you about this? Seems like unnecessary drama and unnecessary divulgences. Urgh.

So I'm at the bar, msged my date and he forgot and can't make it?

well, at least you didn't waste any more time w/him

Dodged a bullet for sure

Geez whats with everyones bad luck lately :(

So I'm at the bar, msged my date and he forgot and can't make it?

are you at a hardcore show yet?

someone needs to invent a website like okcupid, but for emotionally available people.

kind of lol but mostly sad and otm :(

Reading this thread made me miss OkCupid so I made a new profile last night but now I'm bummed out so I think I'll just delete it. :-/

Haha there is actually no hardcore show tonight that I know of. I'm home, with beer! Which will never stand me up.

DEAR BEER,

Hi Bryan!

beer is mine -- back off, you hussy

DEER BEER PAL

You the best.

xoL

i too am hanging out with my pal beer

someone needs to invent a website like okcupid, but for emotionally available people.

I'm not sure but that might rule me out.