I am too old for this...the 40 plus thread.

ahahah aimless I loved your advice, classic words of wisdom.

I am afraid my 40's are going to involve more full-time work than the last decade did.

Also, in your 40s, your body should still respond fairly promptly to exercise and reward you for your efforts by adding strength, stamina and energy. If you slide through your 40s, don't expect to make up lost ground very easily in your 50s. It will be 3X harder then.

Yeah. You can still get bigger and stronger in at least your early 40s. I suspect things decline in your 50s though.

(Or getting results gets much harder, I should say).

I'm certainly getting bigger.

My best advice for the ILXors in their early 40s is not to lose sight of the person you most want to be (not necessarily the person you wanted to be when you were 20 and wished you could be a rich and famous whatever-it-was). Then do what it takes to move toward becoming that person. If you do not, you risk becoming an empty husk and a very sad person.

Also, in your 40s, your body should still respond fairly promptly to exercise and reward you for your efforts by adding strength, stamina and energy. If you slide through your 40s, don't expect to make up lost ground very easily in your 50s. It will be 3X harder then.

Thanks Aimless. I think I need to pin this to the fridge and meditate on it daily. I'm in danger of this very problem, I fear.

I am too old for this...the 40 plus thread.

vs.

This is the inevitable thread for ILxors in their forties

FITE!!!!!

No contest. I apologise for starting that other one.

Also, in your 40s, your body should still respond fairly promptly to exercise and reward you for your efforts by adding strength, stamina and energy. If you slide through your 40s, don't expect to make up lost ground very easily in your 50s. It will be 3X harder then.

This is the reason I'm exercising now. I mean at age 34, not right now this minute - although I suppose I'm exercising my fingers. Put it another way, I'm doing it because I'm lazy, and it'll be a lot harder if I wait until I'm 40 to start getting fit again.

No need for apologies! xp.

In a few years time so many of us will be in their 40s we will need both threads.

Ok, that last sentence didn;t really make sense but I think you see what I mean. Unless dementia is setting in.

Every time I do any kind of activity I read, often the next day, of someone conking out or at the very least suffering a stroke while doing that same activity, mowing the lawn, having sex, doing the hoovering. Is anything safe for the over 40s?

I don't want to sound like Debbie Gibson but a little more positivity on these threads wouldn't hurt.

(there's a reference for the over-40s if ever there were one...)

grey hairs really coming in now :-\

39 now and staring down the barrel of 40 in November, and I'm in pretty much the same place as I was when I was 30. Which is not necessarly the greatest place to be. On the whole I'm a bit more chilled out about the impending Significant Birthday than I was ten years ago... Which may be a sign of increasing maturity or just resignation to my fate.

you can always ask Mariella Frostrup for advice and be sure of a sympathetic response:

Sex, cigars, travel - his 40th birthday celebrations have gone on all year. But as his friends leave, the rest of his life is looking like a hangover from hell

People can give you a lot of helpful advice about passing the big 4 0 but in my opinion this shit sucks and fuck anybody who thinks otherwise.

Get out there and start celebrating the fact that you still have another 50 per cent of your life to come. And try replacing the 'we' in the penultimate sentence with an 'I'. Talk about making a mountain out of a molehill....

There's a degree of self-pity about your plaintive cries that makes it hard to be sympathetic.

And yet Mariella on being 40 herself:

Reaching 40 didn't sneak up on me as I'd been promised. It hit me, head on, like the Eurostar at full speed. One minute I was in my early thirties, thinking that there was still so much to achieve. Next, I'm 40 and wondering why I'd wasted a decade trying so hard

(x-post)

39 now and staring down the barrel of 40 in November september.

i don't have any big hang-ups about it that i know of. could be because having two little kids keeps me too busy to think about much. 50 might be harder because i have a feeling i'm going to emerge from the fog of parenthood and be like, 'wait, i'm 50???'

44 here. coping. no kids for me, thanx. but i do have two wonderful teenage nieces; they buy me CDs (lol) and shit. it's awesome.

carpal tunnel syndrome
lower back pain
acid reflux
need bifocals

yeah lol my body is starting to fall to bits and twenty year-olds think I'm some kind of space monster. this is awesome!

it can only get funnier.

xp
need to stop kidnapping and dissecting them on your dining table then.

I'm not gonna play this stiff upper lip bullshit is all. Fuck getting old.

also usu asleep by 11

eh, it happens.

xp

damn, dude, i usually hit the hay an hour or two past midnight.

noodle if you've got ppl that love you you've made it in life.

45 was a tougher birthday than 40.

^not entirely true.

xp

noodle if you've got ppl that love you you've made it in life.

yeah, this is greeting-card hooey.

I rarely think of myself as 35 years old. It's just a number and I don't recognize myself in this. (This could very well mean, I'm really getting dumber. Hard to achieve but, if it is the case, WHAT an achievement!) So I'll be 40 in about 4/5 years. I do hope so! Woohooo, let it come! I love 4s.

I'm about to turn 38 but hey.

I just noticed that I'm getting grey pubic hairs!

youngsters these days.

x-post -- Well after you started letting them grow in after assiduously shaving them due to your porn career, something had to show up.

too olde to pron, too young to die.

For some reason didn't realise I was older than Ned or Nath. Not saying lol you guys old, just thought you were a couple of years up on me. THIS ISN'T HELPING

one thing that helps me is i'm a little under the median age for my office. having lots of 40s, 50s and 60s around me -- and only one sub-30-yr-old in the place -- makes me feel comparatively spry and youthful.

Whereas I mostly work with 16 year-olds.

It's coming for me...

yeah I'll hit the big three-five this year but my "friends" irl these days are mostly professional and they're all old, like fifties and sixties old. So I still feel like a little kid compared to them.

"For some reason didn't realise I was older than Ned or Nath. Not saying lol you guys old, just thought you were a couple of years up on me. THIS ISN'T HELPING"

this is how i feel 'bout all you guys! haha

to celebrate, I would like you all to know that I think Newt Gingrich has some really good points, and that from now on I intend to pay for everything in spare change, which I will keep in a ziplock bag in my fanny pack.

Happy celebrations, Oilyrags!

Thank you. I disapprove of the music and clothing of teenagers.

Hello dere, midlife crisis.

grey hairs really coming in now :-\
― velko

don't think i'd fancy knowing on which body parts exactly ;)