(Not Just) Knee Deep: The Spring 2012 Gay Thread

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SUP Y'ALL

Ooh,

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holla

haaaaay

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soooo springlike in london today. went for a run in t-shirt and shorts and actually felt HOT! OUTSIDE! and have been working in the garden!

sadly it seems that transcription and blasting mariah carey spring jams are...not compatible

I am spending the day washing all the clothes that haven't been worn (or washed) since last summer </dirtbagstyle>

still sick urghhh

bf brought me beef pho last night in my hour of need tho. that was nice.

me sick too. trying to figure out what I can eat.

It became instant spring here. The moment the calendar said spring, the weather got gorgeous and has stayed that way.

Is beef pho good sick food? Sodium content?

it was hot and brothy, that was all i required

How many times must I change my screenname today?

The folks at the pho restaurant in my old neighborhood said that pho is Vietnam's equivalent of chicken noodle soup for illness.

guys, not sure if i'm going to nguzu anymore so I guess we can hang out some other time - when we can organize a fap further in advance lol

Oh no!

Ok. Next time I'm in town then.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6jpfconAdU0

xp yeah for sure - will you be at the Utopian Spaces panel on sunday? if so i'll be there so if you see me definitely say hi!

lol elmo i watched that clip at my friend's place recently! that show is just the best

I am 100% gonna be at Utopian Spaces. Been excited to hear JES' piece all week.

awesome! i'm excited about JES' piece as well, the abstract alone sounds incredible.

you want it to just gush right up into your cold, Leroy.

best part of my morning was waking up and coming to the realization that me and lou definitely smoked a j with 2 random black ladies on the street last night

pictures!

damn, EMP weekend even brings surm out

https://mail.google.com/mail/?ui=2&ik=3f3f9d701f&view=att&th=1364fe594a99829b&attid=0.1&disp=thd&zw

lou says that link didn't work so just in case here's another try

http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g192/rrawn/meandlou.jpg

i was using the "drunk filter"

it was fun!

o and tonight i get to meet tape store for the very first time! work!

i did not get to meet surm or tape store but i got to hang with lou and brainwasher

my innards ruin everything

surm, i finally bought a film membership over there.

hahaha here you are in my computer database :D

forgot they were playing the house of mirth yesterday, wanted to see that on the big screen again

plz do not share any of my info with my stalkers :)

<3 house of mirth

Me too but I can't watch it often

just watched it a few weeks ago, actually. ugh, that bertha is SUCH a horrible bitch, it gets me every single time

I highly recommend Tom Hiddleston's butt in The Deep Blue Sea

(it's a good film too)

i won't morbzy

yeah the house of mirth was really terrific, if incredibly sad

haven't seen it, book is all-time tho

oh donna, you have to

if only for gillian anderson and eric stoltz and their tragically thwarted ginger love

tape store sleep on my couch

i am in bed with the sound machine on meadow, the fan on low, Ryan at my side and melrose place on

and i have tomorrow off

i'm pretty much set

that sounds perfect/adorable.

things have been a little off with the boy lately - he's stressed with school and a few other things and fixating on like...tiny trivial stuff that i do that bothers him. i was contemplating whether we needed a bit of space and then he woke me up this morning in bed with 'i think we should take a break'

so... there's that.

I'm not even sure if it's a bad thing? Except he got really upset once he proposed it and didn't know if he wanted to. part of me feels like the only way to break out of the dynamic we've been in recently is to have a few weeks apart. but i'm not even sure if it's possible to shift the dynamic at this point.

do breaks ever *actually* work? or are they just sort of delusional?

in my very humble opinion, alex, i don't know if taking a break will 'work' in the absence of frank, open dialogue, which i think is what's needed. i mean, just the fact that he has been fixating on minor annoyances says (to me) that he could be harboring some kind of resentment or holding on to some hurt and it's spilling over into your daily interactions. some time apart might make things easier but it doesn't really solve any of the underlying issues of your relationship. trust me, "state of the union" type relationship conversations are never fun and can be v scary but they are absolutely necessary in my experience.

but maybe you've already had those conversations. i don't know, and i don't want to pry into your private life like that. i know it sounds like lame advice but sometimes you gotta talk it out until you're blue in the face and then keep talking.

just remember to stick to "I-statements" :)

so otm

yeah, fair enough. there have been text messages exchanged to that effect, including a rescinding of the 'break' and i think we're going to have a state of the union conversation in a day or two. i think i just need a day or two to figure out where i'm at.

xp

Any time I've admitted to tension between a lover or friend I became aware of it from my own snippy remarks about stupid shit, so I sympathize. elmo otm.

i don't have any advice but i hope things work out alex!

ditto

haha, i hope i don't come off like some self-appointed relationship guru, just want to share my perspective.

sounds true enough. have nearly had relationships implode on me because we didn't have that talk.

the best part is that sometimes you realize that you're having the same conversation over and over again!

He talked me into lunch today and we had a bit of the conversation. Tentatively, going well, especially compared to the totally distanced un-presence I've been getting for a few weeks. Acknowledgment of issues happened, which is new. Clearly, I'm waiting on follow through to some extent but it was nice just to feel validated about certain things. Allowing each other to ha e a bit more space is going to be key, and navigating criticism vs. defensiveness, but I think we're good?

Sorry for bombarding y'all with unnecessary drama, I guess.

'I' statements we're useful. Thanks, Elmo.

We're here to let you know you're (not just) in this knee deep, Alex.

no worries, alex! drama happens, no use apologizing. i'm glad you got to talking & i wish you & yr man many more productive 'i' statements as you hash it out.

unrelated: i was watching dune last night and was idly pondering how awesome it would be to see a queen done up in bene gesserit drag.

unrelated: i was watching dune last night and was idly pondering how awesome it would be to see a queen done up in bene gesserit drag.

― i think this is serious (elmo argonaut), Tuesday, March 27, 2012 5:20 PM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

HOLY SHIT. I wish there was a drag-queen-costume equivalent of Rule 34.

In the previous gay thread Corey mentioned the preacher in front of Old Navy on State St. (ya can't get to heaven if you're a homosexual (also, smokin' them cigarettes, smokin' dope, lookin' funny)).

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If that fella is there later tonight I'm going to give him a dollar.

I wanna give preacher dude the Judas kiss and see his reaction

well, maybe not me personally but I'd like to see someone do it.

that's too good for him, handsome

;)

Like someone else said, I hope he gets to heaven and it's like 3 a.m. at The Eagle there.

lollll

new favorite comic

http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1p11oQ8e31qc1sduo1_400.jpg

they are having a "why didn't you call me?" scene

"you went to delhi AND india?"

"yep. i sure did!"

What's good, ladies?

http://v.tumblr.com/tumblr_m0r7yq2XY21qf09eb_r1.mov

whatt up i'm tippin

Ph is visiting his family in Shreveport for his grandfather's 90th birthday and apparently his so-called xtian sisters are taking the occasion to tell him his "lifestyle" is "wrong." Fucking fuck fuck.

I'm done w/ this country

is it legal to shoot Christians in Alabama?

if they're black

can at least strip search em first

Urgh

for ref his family are batshit insane pentecostal church people

I have been missing

Damn flailing pinky!!!

I've been missing the South a bit recently, so reminder of crazy Pentacostals and other religiosos is a good reality check (not that homophobia or Bible thumpers is only a Southern thing).

I miss summer nights in the south, not much else.

When I saw The Hunger Games I really missed the NC mountains. So many stunning views and SO many waterfalls! Plus some really special culture. And gorgeous coastal towns and beaches a few hours away. But I definitely wouldn't want to live there.

I've been missing NOLA like crazy (missed what had become a late winter traditional visit) and I feel drawn to live there (again-ish).

guys i am so smitten

it is kind of gross

but mostly awesome

ugh. it sucks when motherfuckers you thought were cool go and say some ignorant shit. and kinda disappointed in myself here too, it was one thing to call him out for it but a whole nother to be like "and oh btw". i'm not even mad, just bummed as fuck cause it's like....this is my friend.

details?

(unless you'd rather not say)

so my bf and i are seeing a couple's counselor. don't worry; no crisis. we're coming up on 5 years together and this is kind of just a kick-the-tires, check-the-oil sort of tune-up.

anyway, our therapist is a v v dapper older man, probably gay, and funny as hell. it's actually pretty great! AND mostly covered by my boyfriend's health plan.

i'm feeling like a lucky man.

:D

i'm in nyc and telling everyone about my bf and showing them pictures of him and i'm starting to feel like a proud mom a little bit

coincidentally nyc gays should report to lorimer and calyer at 8pm if you wanna get drinks with meeee

yahhhhh

(I do not carry photos of my "Trolley Song"-yelping 5-yo niece)

oh hey that reminds me

DISCUS

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/06/arts/judy-garland-gay-idol-then-and-over-the-rainbow-now.html?_r=2

woof

I've always wondered why Judy was a gay icon and that story sort of answered that question (I previously thought that it was just the pills and booze) and I sort of get it, but the her music says nothing to me about my life, I guess. Or actually IDK if it does b/c like Brodie, I only really know Somewhere Over the Rainbow and "that song about the train."

LAST Saturday I invited my friend Brodie, a 30ish gay man like myself, to a preview performance of “End of the Rainbow”

lol '30ish'

i read the article this morning and for a sec i thought you were talking 'brodie' who used to post here

that means '40', right?

xp

I bleeve the Judy trolley has come and gone

however, p sure I've never heard Adele

i've liked her in the things i've seen her (i adore 'meet me in st. louis' in general) in but i haven't dug deep enough for her to have any particular resonance with me

hmmm some joke here about Adele and Judy both rolling in the deep.... xp

clearly I can only go to this Dying Judy musical w/ underrated aerosmith

I like her fine as an actress and "personality" but dunno why gays love her. Well, I do.

Not that I’m Judyism’s last adherent by a long shot. I remind Brodie of this and ask whether he even believes it’s important to preserve our cultural traditions.

gtfo of here with this, ugh

i lost count of how many times he compares gays to jews in that article

it's a LOT though

yeah "judyism" is...if people actually say that that's weird

I weep for my people.

I’m only half-kidding. I have this theory that because of the holocaust that was the AIDS epidemic and its annihilation of the previous generation of gay men, the faith of our fathers risks extinction. Today, Judyism, like Yiddish, is little more than a vague cultural memory.

like, wtf?

how many times he compares gays to jews in that article

well, aside from tourists they're the only ppl who go to Broadway musicals.

seriously, the last 6 months of Garland's life w/ her puking mid-song? I'd rather wait for The Nutty Professor musical.

p.s. i love joni mitchell more than anything else but lmao if you think she sings about 'real life'

or maybe idk what 'real life' is supposed to mean in this context

think she sings a lot about "invented life" yeah

i'm guessing the context he means is "acoustic guitars"

but I've seen them pave paradise.

http://www.adventuresofagoodman.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/Shea-Stadium-Home-Plate-in-Citi-Field-Parking-Lot-600x513.jpg

can't believe people lived through the eigties and nineties still thinking guitars signify realness

I did. Now I realize music doesn't particularly signify realness.

Thank goodness.

see: thread title

Omg Elmo 5 years!!!

Wizard of Oz is cool I guess, but I have never pretended to give a fuck about Judy Garland.

barely know anything or care about judy garland but given that i love mariah, feel like i can't exactly criticise older gays for loving an older stereotypically gay favourite

in other news i worked in an office last week until today and i don't know how anyone does it. four days of it and i feel like i have ME and might be a bit ill.

garland fanboyism (and cher fanboyism....) always seemed like a very yt gay thing to me #noshots

what makes Mariah a gay favorite other than her hysteria and EMOTIONS?

i've no idea what makes most gay favourites in any field gay favourites. never worked it out.

When I explain why I love Madonna it's often for some of the reasons lots of straight ones do, so I don't understand the special frisson.

Mariah Carey is like, the most soft and cunt person ever.

garland fanboyism (and cher fanboyism....) always seemed like a very yt gay thing to me #noshots

― Peace (peaceful) (The Brainwasher), Tuesday, April 10, 2012 4:06 PM Bookmark

ya

yeah p much

yt?

"whitey?"

cracker

Never thought about it that way, but that might explain why Cher and Judy are two icons that never really did too much for me.

never really into her 'gay icon' aspect cuz, uh, she wasn't resilient, she was a mess.

Vaginal 'Creme' Davis, now THERE's a gay icon.

I don't get the title of this thread. Is it a reference to something?

Something about the music.

(i.e. Don't make me lmgtfy)

Oh. I would have gims but it didn't seem Googlable.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-nRbshhBUwc

1. Press Play

2. http://chzgifs.files.wordpress.com/2011/08/f5593358-0c0f-47eb-a647-96c3a88d851e.gif

3. Repeat steps 1 and 2

^the realest shit you ever wrote

Real as a funk attack.

This thread title might be my proudest ILE moment.

the "now that we found love" one was better tho

Both were totally deep when they did the freak with me.

I don't care how many times I see it. I still laugh every time a gay bar's 4sq "tips" includes: "Try the gay sex."

Ah, I googled "now that we found love" and it is also a music reference. Maybe everything I don't get a music reference.

Next title should be a ref to Vanity "Pretty Mess," b/c I would get it and it would be awesome.

Keep it simple.

More water upstairs than they got sugar on their candy canes: The Summer 2012 Gay Thread

hey

it's still spring. i will hear no more talk of summer.

I'm listening to the boring Cloud Nothings album, Rene & Angela, and the Stones' "Something Happened To Me Yesterday," which sounds like it's about sodomy.

If A Gay Answers (Don't Hang Up)

i also had to look up this thread title :/

in other musical news, gays near NYC should see this with me on my 100th birthday (soon):

http://auteursnotebook.s3.amazonaws.com/multiple%20images/Gangs%20All%20Here/good%20banana.jpg

Weird framing.

Eventful Sat night considering I didn't leave the apt til 1:30...

Ran into lou in W'burg bar! Also the girl who made him gay (I forget if I thanked her).

AND Hot Mess from Park Slope was there. Now blond. Was with guy he likes but thinks it won't take bcz said dude has Satan tattoo on his chest.

Some young ladies were on the F train home, loudly going over who was drunk and who did what all night. At Jay St as they left, one announced "G'night, hope you liked the show y'all."

oh man. that sounds like fun.

i started writing a paper and turned in by midnight. and am still trying to write this paper.

Was with guy he likes but thinks it won't take bcz said dude has Satan tattoo on his chest.

Kenneth Anger?

not nearly that aged

I djed at a coffeehouse with a dude who didn't know how to dj, then hung out with some friends and at some point between the four of us, we all started singing the various parts of Herbie Hancock's "Watermelon Man". <3

damn

that's not a bad movie either

aw man, my friends and i jammed out on 'watermelon man' all the time in HS

just got back after a very, very long (but fun) week in nyc and am going to bed like now

http://blogs.villagevoice.com/dailymusto/2012/04/so_young_people.php

Apparently Pride was this weekend (I missed it).

There is no pride in April.

and sometimes it snows

The parts of that Judy bit that I read, I heard in Chris Cocker's 'LEAVE BRITNEY ALONE!' voice, despite trying not to.

Wait. Chris CROCKER.

hey y'all. stopping in for my periodic 'just-letting-ya-know-i'm-alive' bit.

except for the whole homeless thing, i'm doing okay. been shuttling between a friend's and my boyfriend's. working a lot. keeping busy.

i gave a talk on David Wojnarowicz at the Berkeley Art Museum last Friday. that went well.

th3o and i have been together for a year or so!! fuck yeah!

we've been going mushroom-hunting a lot.

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! <3

l really wants to go mushroom hunting on the reg.

http://www.mundusloci.org/fungus/culture/cage2.htm

t3d is there a video/transcript of yr DW talk?

Errrrrrrrrrr...

i gave a talk on David Wojnarowicz at the Berkeley Art Museum last Friday. that went well

i caught a bit of it -- really good -- also t showed off one of his tattoos to the audience.

jo3, if you mssg me yr email address, i can send you what i read from. parts of it are 'rough' per se, and it also involves looking at some of his images, but if you put it together, it works.

also wow, sarahell, didn't even seeya there. guess i was caught up in the moment. thx for dropping by!!

it's my last name and the letter j @ gee mail

thx!

Gays, I've traded movies-to-see lists w/ this wonderful queer fellow who owns a vintage shop across the street from my work and would like to hear yr comments on the following films:

The Children's Hour
The Killing of Sister George
Les Biches
The Anniversary (Bette Davis)
Suddenly Last Summer
Mademoiselle
Interiors
Belle de Jour
Boom!
Persona
Women in Revolt
Berserk (Joan Crawford)
Ma Vie En Rose
Le Ceremonie
Secret Ceremony
Myra Breckenridge
Enter Nous

sister george, suddenly and myra b are OTT in kind of annoying ways, mademoiselle and boom! are OTT in amazing ways. persona isn't really OTT (and i never think of it as 'queer' really) but is worth seeing all the same. haven't seen the rest.

(and now i am waiting for KJB to come along and yell at me for everything i've just written)

I wouldn't watch Women in Revolt until you've at least seen one of the Joe D. trilogy (preferably Trash, but Flesh might be the easiest point of entry). Then watch Women in Revolt and behold.

Dude's clearly a Liz Taylor fan.

welp, bf and i just had 'the talk'

or a talk. or talks.

bout stuff

i need to fuck

what's 'the talk'?

and word (re: rev's comment)

i need to fuck

― hologram ned raggett (The Reverend), Thursday, April 19, 201

De facto summer gay thread, btw: MAGIC MIKE, the male stripper movie starring channing tatum, matthew mcconaughey, dir. Steven Soderbergh

also, seriously, all of y'all in insufficiently queer and/or dtf jurisdictions need to come to montreal.

pause. not in like a 'i am offering' way. in a 'this is a city substantially populated by attractive young men who are dtf' way.

I had to look up that acronym!

It's been about two months, which is not terrible but it's you know spring and I have a tan.

attractive young men dnwtfm

also, tans must to avoid

me & my boy are doing pretty great right now

i'm so hungry

Perfect transition.

'a talk' was about the idea of my going to visit him this summer when he's in argentina for a month. and whether our relationship is open or closed.

(jury's still out on former, and so far we're 'closed' in the sense that neither of us wants to be with anyone else)

oh, seattle's fine as far as dtf-ness (2nd gayest city in america and all). I'm just stranded out in the burbs and never get down there. and the few young gay men i meet out here are kind of on the dnw side of things.

Seattle is the second-gayest city in America?

Why have I not visited? Hm. EMP 2013 sounds promising.

I am thinking of a Montreal trip in the next few months, Alex – my first time in Canadia!

i may be in seattle in december!

I would've been back to Montreal by now if you still had a baseball team.

Ugh. Don't remind me.

We miss the Expos.

Stupid Washington Capitols.

Nationals but don't sweat it.

Trip to Midwest in June/July still up in the air for me.

I think part of my problem is I never go to gay bars.

Not just as far as like hooking up goes, but as far as having a gay social circle. I have like, no gay friends in town.

Blargh. Morbz. I know that. I do.

I'm just in the middle of exam season and the only things on my mind are (a) passing my awful awful exams on Monday and Friday and (b) hockey.

And yes, I know hockey = CapitAls not CapitOls. It's a bit of a day.

Having gay friends in town doesn't nec help in getting gay sex in town if you don't want it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7DqetlH_4bY

*NOT MINE*

i love this so much

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fPwa_p4l6x4

was funny for like the first 30 seconds, didn't make it to the end

the original text is here: http://noah-cicero.blogspot.com/2007/05/kathy-ackers-hello-im-erica-jong.html

hi, i'm going out to dinner tonight in midtown. lou do you want to meet up after and buy me a drink?

I like the assertiveness!

i'm hungry

I may be in Chelsea til 9, getting on the standby line for Tribeca fest's Big Gay Movie.

And then both of you could meet me at Fire in the Hole!

http://newyork.gaycities.com/events/135451-fire-in-the-hole-at-nowhere-bar

ramz- you should text me when you're done. i'm going to hot yoga to try to fight off a cold (yes, this has worked before), but you might catch me afterwards.

ok

My butt itches.

hot yoga is good for that too ;)

I think it needs to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nYPTw4Vd188

Just had a post-finals viewing of Heathers with two of my girlfriends. Raining outside. Today is a good day.

I haven't seen it in years but Christian Slater was one of my first hard-ons.

So badly I want to sip cocktails w surm and talk Six Feet Under.

so.

badly.

just saw the new Ira Sachs movie Keep the Lights On, which will probably be deservedly regarded as one of this year's major films. Really brought back those '90s memories of phone sex and smoking crack.
Gay cognoscenti in attendance, incl JAMES BIDGOOD! (who has a cameo)

Did he bring his pink muse?

Also, regarding OP, never realized George Clinton was the guy behind this TV theme song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KZ2UJIlMRnk

The '80s were weird.

oh yeah the Sachs film is mostly scored w/ Arthur Russell.

My buddy 4d4m was involved w making that film and I think is running the website! Is that finally out?

been hearing a lot of buzz about that film

happy birthday to lou iirc

hbd lou!

no, KtLO comes out in July, this screening was at the Tribeca fest... but it took place in Chelsea, which means the wave of cologne when I entered the theater almost knocked me out.

the sweetest musk hangover

happy b'day lou!

^^^ that too

thanks e'rybody!

so long 20s...

Up until maybe six months ago, I would've said 30s kicked 20s' ass.

I also just read some junkfotainment article about how 33 is the best age to be if you're a man.

I missed the part where someone told me Jeremy Irons' son is really rawr.

http://images4.fanpop.com/image/photos/24200000/Max-Irons-max-irons-24228901-364-549.jpg

His hair is like that because I licked it into shape.

He's the product of Irons, James Franco, and a good Rhone wine.

a little Rock Hudson too.

33 is the age where I successfully (so far) swore off roommates forever, so maybe.

Of the two stars of the Ira Sachs film, the fine-boned one who plays the crack addict (foreground) is more conventionally rowrrr, but the other is a gap-toothed Dane who suffers really well. I also saw him in a Euro film where he fell in love w/ a white supremacist; guy plays characters who sure can pick em...

http://anthem-uploads.s3.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/KeepLights.jpg

happy happy bday lou!

yaay happy bday lou!

yay lou!

Thx to tabes, I sometimes use the phrase "butt disco" in daily conversation.

hmm can you share an example? i would also like to use the phrase "butt disco" in daily conversation.

Someone said they laid a bed of '70s porno music underneath a reporter track at work and I said "You mean butt disco?"

Dazz Band's "Let It Whip" is butt disco.

thanks guys!

That's not butt disco. That's boogie.

It's close, tho.

I think the last time the topic came up, I posted this track from My Tutor. It pretty much embodies the sound imo.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xBuLJ16UHxE

butt boogie then

blame it on the butt disco

I will, when it happens.

i'm picturing disco balls that fart tbh

an anatomical miracle!

The movie Bunuel was born this way to make.

starring Fernando Rey as the avuncular, sluttish Spaniard who loves licking ostrich balls after he's farted on them

And Delphine Seyrig as Karen Lynn Gorney.

Good afternoon, fellas. And happy b-day, lou! xoxo

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Caption: That "My Tutor" track is deliciously awful. We love this butt disco.

I butt they do.

i want a kids incorporated t-shirt

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pWx8wIOG-hw

ok, maybe not.

The Kid, however, is now a queer.

i hope little rahsaan reaches his rainbow's end.

I want a Chapi Chapo shirt.

i still want a stevie d couture original

i just got a CK suit

let rahsaan patterson cook

i still want a stevie d couture original

I am working on it \(^o^)/

Paging donna rouge, your ABBA poll is up next, but there's some discussion of jumping in with a Beastie Boys poll while sentiment for MCA is at a peak. Please go to one of the white courtesy phones at the end of the concourse -- Thread for coordinating the order and timing of ILM ballot polls

thx, wmc, i'd forgotten i even signed up to do a poll lol

oh, god.

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/06/fashion/chris-hughes-and-sean-eldridge-are-the-new-power-brokers.html

i kinda have a thing for chris hughes

didn't know him until I read the article

he looks like an adult member of a boy band.

ilx is kinda dead of late, huh

(not this thread specifically, the rest of it)

No, it's this thread too.

let's SPRING to life!

my boyfriend and i are housesitting / dogsitting for his vacationing co-worker and her partner. they are a nice lesbian couple who live in a sterile little house in a new development. the decor is heavy on 'live, laugh, love' bullshit and illustrations of big-titty mermaids. we have been asked to take our shoes off inside the house and they don't use paper towels. i kinda hate it there.

lol tig-biddy mermaids

So I still don't want a boyfriend/partner, but I wouldn't mind a tragic story.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pR9gyloyOjM

I met Corey's boyfriend this weekend after semi-unexpectedly running into them and hanging out. Cool guy. They look *very* alike.

Argh! What is that piece of music at the very start of this video? I can't place it.

(oh yeah, hi gays!)

Claire de lune, Debussy

er, Clair

Nah, I mean the part just before that--the buzzy strings with the mournful little piano bit, before it goes into "Clar de lune."

(sorry, my language for describing non-pop music isn't too sophisticated. though i'm sure some would say the same for my language for describing pop music too...)

Sounds like Thomas Newman, maybe American Beauty.

i had to mute the sound on that video

did corey remove himself from here/FB?

noteworthy things in my life lately:

- i had a derby party at my apt last weekend and it was superfun
- made a shit-ton of chicken and spanish rice last night
- bf still rules/is adorable
- just watching a lot of tv otherwise
- more or less that's it

awesome, dr! miss you.

I saw that corey was taking a break from the interwebs on FB but that mighta been 2 months ago.

Corey got rid of his computer. It's a very Corey thing - arbitrary self-deprivation. I don't see how he manages to do school work since so many (maybe most) assignments are issued, completed, and submitted via Blackboard only. Seems like a pain in the ass to be tethered to the school computer lab.

And he requested to be banned from here.

Disappointed in you gays. I thought more of you were into horror.

THE VAULT OF ILX Top 100 HORROR Movies Poll Voting Thread (voting closes May 9)

I was busy with the 1990s! Could do it if you give me til Satyrday.

If it means crossing the 50-ballot line, I will wait.

never was a horror guy tbh

I've found there to be so much cross-pollination between the loci of gay, cinephile and horror fan.

But then, I'm looking.

And he requested to be banned from here.

― Pita Malört (Je55e), Tuesday, May 8, 2012

really?

he's a studious li'l guy. i admire that.

And he requested to be banned from here.

really?

We've all been there.

Keeping away is not the same as requesting to be banned.

I passively requested to be banned here once and seem to remember being told that it would only hold for 24 hours or 3 days or something like that.

in the throes of grad school i thought about asking to be banned. sort of wish i had in retrospect

But I guess it is possible to be http://mlkshk.com/r/1SU9

lol what movie is that from?

one of Eric's horror movies

It's from Troll'd 2.

And he requested to be banned from here.

― Pita Malört (Je55e), Tuesday, May 8, 2012

really?

― Exile in lolville (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, May 9, 2012 11:36 AM (48 minutes ago) Bookmark

It was nothing against ILX, he just wanted to be offline *completely*. Like I said, he got rid of his computer.

Now officially this thread's Ted Kaczynski.

You haven't seen my apartment.

Except that he still communicates by mobile phone and text message.

Though, really, is it *communication*? Think abt it.

btw bf and i might be in SF in june, to all parties whom it may concern

FUUUUUCK I forgot to post in that horror poll!! I already assembled a list of movies i've seen; maybe I can order it rly quick.

I'm quietly holding polls open until I get a ballot from Morbs or, alternately, he lets me know it ain't happening. So jump on it.

I voted!

i self-banned once but i came back

Standing outside a packed straight bar with friends last night, I was accosted by a wild-eyed drunk Croat who brought me over to his two friends -- a Hispanic who may have been a former or current lover and a blond very bro native-born American. Croat asks tentatively if I've a girlfriend or...a boyfriend? When I assure him I'm gay he hugs me tight and babbles about how cute I am, how nice I seem, and so on. He might've been cute himself but his sloppy state made it hard. We exchanged phone numbers and I returned to my circle.

Half an hour ago he sends me a text. I'm thinking of responding. Guess which in his group I was most attracted to though...

50 / 50 ?

or maybe it's a trick question and the answer is the Croat

"Dubrovnic! Yes, I've read Rebecca West and David Remnick!"

no -- the straight or straight-acting dude.

When in doubt, always choose the straight or straight-acting one.

That's MY jam, anyway.

i'm only straight-acting when i'm sad.

there are so many straights to act you gotta jazz it up with things like spandex

non-ironic spandex!

Only straight hipsters wear spandex.

unless they actually have the body for it :(

I went out last night and danced very gay at a straight club that usually has some homo-presence, but it was total heterosexuville there. When a guy finally hit on me very late, he was so far from my type it wasn't funny.

you sure it was a guy?

he was a very aggro-looking white dude

i always hit on the black dudes tbh

sry 4 brushing you off

it's ok, i went home and trimmed my soul patch

haha

tsk tsk, buying into "straight-acting" even in jest, report to my lecture on Monday morning

Tonight is the first of four weddings I am subjected to this year. TONS of straight people dancing to Bizarre Inc. Fulfills my EVERY need.

you know you godda be bide

R1ch Juzw14k just told me I had fantastic taste on twitter and I am like totally starstruck.

treasure it!

Donna Rouge, sorry to keep bugging you about ILM stuff on this thread, but the ABBA poll is due up in a day or two.

hmm...

http://www.out.com/entertainment/music/2012/03/19/100-greatest-gayest-albums-all-time

assignation with the Croat in thirty minutes

charming! have fun!

Un, they seriously want us to click through 100 pages? For real?

no janet!?

*throws vase and storms out of thread*

donna, i was actually wondering the other day, "when is donna rouge gonna come and visit." but alas, i am out of town for most of may :-(

i mean june. june. *sleepy*

also in other news, i'll be on the east coast in july. let's hang.

bummerz :/

we are going to joshua tree for memorial day wknd, and booked an integratron visit. i am STOKED

that went well -- a couple drinks apiece, mild cuddling at his place. After last Friday's somewhat erratic meeting much better than expected.

Thrift store I volunteer at has repriced the dollar-bin Donna Summer records at like $8-$10 today. Is this despicable/should I say something?

I mean it's an AIDS-charity shop so

i think SIDS-charity gives them carte blanche

sudden infant death syndrome

AIDS, whatever

Thrift store I volunteer at has repriced the dollar-bin Donna Summer records at like $8-$10 today. Is this despicable/should I say something?

What are you, a Communist?

yeah i mean if it's a worthy charity then i wouldn't fault them for it, it's not like donna summer LPs are a rare commodity and if they can squeeze a little more out of the spike in demand then fair is fair. people paying $10 for a dollar record are suckers anyway, and if they cared about Donna Summer on vinyl then they'd already own it. Think of it as a poseur tax.

Almost all the comments on gay blogs focus on the comments she made about AIDS. :(

Sorry, the comments she "allegedly" made.

i mean, i understand your reaction but the primary function of a charity thrift store is to generate income from donated goods, right? it probably feels icky to profit on the death of a musician, tho, i get that. *shrug*

xp

How long ago did Donna Summer die?

Like 32 or 33 hours ago maybe?

Oh duh that makes sense.

Things I learned today:

- Donna Summer is dead (though I didn't know that she wasn't dead before)
- Donna Summer was African-American. I realized that I have always conflated her with Suzanne Somers!

Jesse you are starting to serve Tuomasian realness all up in here.

:D

Br3nt and I saw Dina Martina last night and I was fucking crying with laughter throughout, she is amazing

Like I don't really go for drag performance much but she's kind of next level

Jealous!

I read those posts from the bottom up and as soon as I saw "Like I don't even like drag etc etc" I was like "oh I bet he saw Dina Martina"

Anybody read this: http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/21/nyregion/Some-Gay-Rights-Advocates-Question-Rutgers-Sentencing.html?pagewanted=1&hp

Also: the Croat and I just finished our second meeting. We cuddled last week and had dinner tonight (I had to pick up a friend at the airport). He's exceeded expectations both times. I know he likes me already but the Old Hesitation kicks in, demanding I keep him at a distance.

just found out one of my favorite gay bars here (and where we ended up last night) is closing in a month >:(

Oil Can Harry's?

actually probably shouldn't say which because i don't think it's officially been announced yet, but no, not OCH

Oil Can Harry's is the name of a real place. That's awesome.

*first sentence was a question.

oh, I met a nice man last night. If he turns into my summer fling I would be pleased.

Wish some of you were here to go to Thundercrack! tonight.

http://www.ifccenter.com/films/thundercrack/

almost time for a thread change

after only 400 posts :(

Not much of a spring.

Spring affair when love continues to ignore you.

(The tautological flip of that is the real truth.)

Summer isn't unti mid-June, no? Weather notwithstanding.

I met a, uh, nice man, too. I was walking home on a quiet residential street late Saturday and said hi to the guy I passed, then a minute later we were making out and such, and then he got a text from his girlfriend who was at home waiting up for him. And such was the sum of my springtime romantic activity. <3

This happened a few doors down from jaymc's place, now that I think of it.

then he got a text from his girlfriend who was at home waiting up for him

horrible!

the sum of my springtime roantic activity:

and my romantic activity too

Yeh, I kind of wanted to interview him when he told me that. It would be a sort of "debriefing," if you will. xp

you should've sent the girlfriend an Instagram

do you know what's funny? when i found out Donna Summer died, the first person I thought of (other than Donna Summer) was you, Stevie.

i feel love

Not sure how often he (or anyone) checks this thread, but Happy Birthday, KJB!

HBD KJB! also you better vote in my ABBA poll!!!

heard on the Julius' jukebox last eve:

Donna Summer - "State of Independence"
Liza Minnelli - "Rent"

in the jukebox? Obscure!

well, so are the patrons.

I have four hangovers stacked on each other and have to go to work in an office this week while RG is on, something has gone v badly wrong with my life

On the other hand I spent yesterday afternoon and evening on a friend's penthouse roof garden overlooking London - we were looking down on all the other roofs - blaring an epic R Kelly mix and drinking rum so that was a bit of a life pinnacle

a bit woozy meself after a weekend of pina coladas in Marco Island.

I am sunburnt from the ballgame. I guess I need a flatmate to remind me when summer has started again and I need to smear myself.

This thread is horrible.

I think ILX can finally call itself post-gay.

not enough smearing?

He means not enough Shining I'm guessing

These walls can no longer cage us.

my boyfriend is out of town this weekend so i've been lazying about the house, laying in my room where the A/C is cold, and intermittently masturbating. more or less.

we just crossed the sixth month mark o_o

his apt has central air (and cable!) and i have the keys so i've been very tempted to basically live there while he's gone since it's like 97 degrees here but i'm not sure how his roommate would feel about that

usually when he goes away i find my self sorta relishing time alone but once it actually happens i just get really bored

People with A/C. Ugh. Today it's finally temperate again but the weekend was spent with two fans attempting to lower the heat/humidity in my third floor apt.

The boy met my dad yesterday and it was totally unremarkable, which was kind of nice.

my bf lives in a garden unit below a family... really nice place w/ a few downsides (can't smoke weed in the house, little kids making noise 24/7) but CENTRAL A/C WOW

Oh! And yay @ j0rdan for six months! I think we're almost at a year and a half. I've pretty much just stopped counting at this point.

Side note: sudden painful one-side-of-head headaches during sex - not something to worry about, or impending Six Feet Under-style stroke? Google is giving me mixed messages on this. Apparently this is a common thing. But also a potential indicator of DOOM.

xxp yeah that's nice

the dad of a friend of ours died last weekend so his boyfriend is meeting the family for the first time ever at the memorial, no word on how that went tho.

Oh wow. That sucks. I think I finally will get presented to the family at the end of the summer? It requires a 6 or 7 hour trip to 'les régions' i.e. very far away from big cities, and a total lack of English. It'll be fun. And vaguely terrifying.

that sounds terrifying/ripe for slapstick humor

Eh. I'm not scared of the small towns or the lack of English. It's more like - making a good impression on your bf's parents is already terrifying, let alone in your second language, let alone when you're doing so in a province where language IS politics.

talking of politics are you much involved in the protests alex? bill 78 outraged me

Alex, are your headaches happening only while having sex?? Or during other physical activities?

I'm happily sporting a sunburn on most of my body. Looking forward to having even color this summer for the first time in years. Torso is a little too scorched, after some peeling it'll be toasty brown.

Less than some, more than others. Ideologically supportive, was constrained during the semester because my (Anglophone, upper middle class, international) university's faculties did not for the most part vote to strike. McGill tends to divide itself from the res of the student movement in the province, though, even compared to the other Anglo university, so the fact that four or five student unions got on board the strike was a big deal. There were always a decent minority of people in the law faculty who were supportive but after Bill 78 tons of friends who were otherwise dismissive of the movement have gotten on board. Unconstitutional laws apparently piss off law students. Go figure.

Anyway, I've been going to more of the daytime marches and then casserole-ing in the evening. Night marches freak me out a bit because the cops are more aggressive then but I'll probably go to a few of them with some friends over the next few weeks.

I have to squeeze every drop of Floridian from my corpuscles before I get used to homes without central A/C.

congrats to you both btw

not a burn if you're happy

Ooo jurlfriend, it's a burn all right.... I don't get many sunburns, so it's novel and it feels almost invigorating. Might be riding a Vitamin D high tho.

Burns are not happy unless you are also into whips and sounding.

A few years ago it got up to about 105 here and everyone was completely dead from the heat because NO ONE in Seattle has A/C. It usually only goes above 90 a few days a year, if that. Some summers it doesn't even break past the high 80s.

it gets relatively hot here in the summer, but it also gets crazy cold in the winter and the buildings are old and apartments are cheap and students be poor.

br3nt and i spent the weekend in joshua tree, hiking and looking at crazy outdoor sculpture and drinking at pappy and harriet's and a visit to the INTEGRATRON and mad hotel room cuddlez (specifically the hotel where gram parsons OD'd!). we just passed the three-month mark ourselves, and (work pending) we'll be going to SF for a week mid-june. i'm still super-crazy about him.

and now off to a bbq!

Hey, my friend wrote a piece for the HuffPo about stalking your high-school crush pre-Web!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mark-allen/the-value-of-facebook-in-gay-lives_b_1556110.html

http://i50.photobucket.com/albums/f308/sotoalf/527004_10100584798022058_884525304_n.jpg

Farewell party, not drunk yet.

by coincidence i went to a farewell party tonight and am myself currently drunk

His watch is too big, but I'll let it slide.

I offered him a choice: a new watch or dinner.

There was a third option, wasn't there?

Haven't been checking the thread lately but thanks for the b-day wishes, y'all! xoxoxoxo

donna, after the horror debacle, no more polls for me. :)

soto, are you moving?

Terrible movie: Shame (still better than Drive, though)

meh, Drive was a little funnier (intentionally, even)

Shame was garbage.

I'm guessing that wasn't Alfred's farewell.

donna, after the horror debacle, no more polls for me. :)

Yeah, it must have been rough to see so many of your ballot given representation on (horror of horrors) an ILX poll.

lol, oops, I just assumed that was Morbs posting.

Still hoping to find a convincing defense of Shame from a gay critic. It should've worked on me, but nope.

I'm guessing that wasn't Alfred's farewell.

"Shame was garbage" was what Mank originally had in place of "Fasten your seat belts - it's going to be a bumpy night."

I went to a belated-birthday gathering at the Monster -- West Village mainstay that I hadn't been inside since the (early) '90s -- and some patron around 80 went to the piano to sing "Over the Rainbow." Gayest happy hour ever.

Why, was there an orgy going on simultaneously?

no, I mean post-sexual gayism.

(ie if I'm singing "Hand in Glove" in a bar in 30 years, shoot me)

LOL, oh you meant gay as in BAD!

yeah in the formerly slanderous way

Prideiest happy hour ever.

Yesterday I brought/introduced my "friend" to a bunch of family at my bro's grad party, which is the first time I've ever done the pretend-not-boyfriend thing!

Your brother wouldn't care, right? Which reminds me, how's your mom situation these days?

Oh, and what was the band whose name inspired a gay thread in the last year?? I cannot remember their name for the life of me. I keep wanting to say The Clash or The Cult, but it's not them. And I don't remember any of their songs. Halp.

The Fall?

I went to Dyke Day in the park yesterday and it ruled. Made some new pals, got fairly burnt. Later we went to the soon-to-be closing bartender made us two xxxxxtra strong sidecars that I am still reeling from.

soon-to-be-closing piano bar where the bartender*

ARGH! Yes, The Fall! Thank you. That was driving me nuts.

Oh he knows and he's totally cool w it, and I'm suuuure the rest of my family suspects now. Things w mom are going p great these days!

So I go to the annual Folsom East fair near the NY Eagle, when I can manage it, even tho I'm not (hugely) fetishistic. Wondering if this will be the last (borderline nsfw?):

http://vanishingnewyork.blogspot.com/2012/06/folsom-east-eagle.html

I won't post any pics of the pie-eating contest right now.

Please pose pics of the pie-eating contest right now.

i'm hoppin' on a plane to SF after work but will likely be avoiding pride-related activities (if any of them are even going on)

we are going to a gay shabbat dinner, tho

Morbs, your screen name thingy is to die for.

There's only one thing worse than a screen name being talked about.

thx KJB, it's my special Prideful June screen name.

Coincidentally ...

that's what yours is?

It was a cheap/easy punchline, admittedly. (But it did come from a gay YouTube vid I just saw a couple days ago, for real.)

im lying here letting my stomach take baby steps out of a food poisoning wormhole. i just gawked at erik rhodes tumblr and got sad (same age and all).

coconut water is good for this

hi guys, i broke up a fight involving a crazy lady and a coworker, and after a little recon, it turns out CL is my ex-next door neighbor's mom.

who?

i just abbreved "crazy lady", sorry

xxxxpost Sad. But man erik rhodes sounded fucked up.

So, um, is there a process (initiation ritual?) by which I must go through to transition from lurker to active participant in these threads? I know, netiquette and all but this seems like a particularly tight knit group here. Love reading these threads but am hesitant to just jump right in. Kinda feel like the guy at the party at the back of the room sipping on soda and not talking to anyone.

naw, welcome to the gay thread!

aw jer -- welcome!

we are tight knit, and occasionally have a needle-stabbing party.

Before we allow you to join our swollen ranks, jer, you must weave in a quote from All About Eve at some point in the next 48 hours or confess your misadventures with an inaccessible boy. Whichever comes first.

to welcome jer.fairall, pie is served.

http://www.nextmagazine.com/sites/dev.nextmagazine.com/files/styles/hero/public/field/image/NWPETE~2.jpg

Too many boys have been inaccessible to me.

Also, not too sweet on ALL ABOUT EVE...will this get my membership immediately revoked? Does it help that my common criticism--I am, after all, a critic and a commentator--of it is that it's no SUNSET BLVD?

(also, see what i did there?)

And thanks guys for the warm welcome. Esp. Morbs with...that.

It's OK, jer, I hate ABBA.

No initiation other than to enumerate the ways from which you are distinguishable from your average gay guy. You passed the test already!

New blood's always welcome though. Feels like most of the thread's old regulars have fallen off over the last year or so.

Was it the ALL ABOUT EVE thing? SUNSET BLVD doesn't negate that?

Yes, but it was mostly a joke about how this thread's participants have frequently spent much time talking about Gay Thing This or Gay Thing That and how they're not into either or both.

(I might be the only person in these threads mental enough to have gone on the record, tho, in including actual gay sex among the Gay Things he can't really stand.)

I am not unique in that regard.

Dear jer,

Hi it's me, if you know what I mean. I said it's me. My name is Kevin and I want you to see that positive people live longer. Don't be negative (negative), just be positive (positive). Yeah! Ah ha!

xokjb

P.S. Taking in three (3) 1950s Joan Crawford flicks compensates for not loving All About Eve enough.

I'm so happy you're happy.

i'm not actually really that into the gay sex thing either even tho it is something i frequently crave

How nice for everybody.

Weird that I would find myself in what I can only assume is the only online gay clique that isn't really into gay sex.

A thread of so many rare qualities.

jer, remind me to tell you about the time I looked into the heart of an artichoke.

xpost soooo do not include me in that clique.

jer, remind me to tell you about the time I looked into the heart of an artichoke.

oh so you DO like gay sex

This is the most ghoulish conversation!