Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I deleted my profile last month. I met up with one person last winter who was nice enough, but realized then that I am not confident enough in my real life ability to meet people to be meeting people on a dating site. (You might think "well that's WHY you would use a dating site!" but that's not how the psychology works.) But I'm moving to a city where I'm sure there'd be a lot of interesting people on it, so it will remain a temptation.

Two dates this weekend set up via OKC. Unheard of. Both seem not scary, creepy or anything so hoping it'll be fun if nothing else. It'd better be (see co-workers bitching thread).

And...?

Got sick and missed one of them - postponed till next week. Other one was rescheduled for last night. He was a really, really nice guy, and pretty attractive. We had loads to talk about as he'd lived in Serbia for two years, knew Eastern Europe and had just bought a cat. Somehow or other this did not lead to sparkling conversation :-(

The other one is drunkenly messaging me about beer.

we have a winner!

I'm the only saddo still on OKCupid, aren't I?...

I just use it for the tests! </lie>

i'm still there but none of them ever date me. maybe we should date?

itt: dom passantino expressing the emotion "love"

actually, i'm kinda considering this

i killed my okcupid account

this means no more mandee's greatest moments on okcupid thread :(

i did make a fake name and now i just edit people's profiles

dammit WHY ONLY gay straight or bi? is there nothing between straight and bi? no sliding scale?

sorry folks, but straight it is. peace god. ;_;

a few months back i tried it and went on a couple dates, one of them turned into a two-week mini-relationship, but eh. i don't think online dating is for me.

this is a bit innocent smoothie

still on it, haven't done anything with it in a good while. I know if I update my profile I'll only get a fresh barrage of good-hearted but uninteresting 19-year-old nerdies looking my way. (I'm 27, so...) Also I'm moving soon anyway, so why bother trying to find romance?

xposts

Ken, if you can do better than message 'lol I am buzzed' or talk earnestly about Serbia, or achieve something between the two, you're on. It will be a long distance relationship.

Mandee, I have a fake name too so that I can stalk unseen without messing around with my 'real' (ahem) profile settings.

feeling this

Another date today. Don't say 'if this goes well, we could go do X' in the first five minutes for fuck's sake! (Him, not me).

On the upside my next and probably final date has alerted me to this, which at least means he'll have a sense of humour if it all goes pear-shaped.

here's hoping X was philately or Hornby trainset painting or something

X was going to Baltimore, which sent me into a hasty explanation of how much I like exploring cities ON MY OWN

wow! within 5 minutes too! way to blow your load

NB, I do live only 40 mins from Baltimore, so it's not so bad, but yeah.

lol "I will explore my local city ALONE, thanks"

dude should have been all Euro capital on you

I'm the only saddo still on OKCupid, aren't I?...
― ljubljana, Thursday, May 21, 2009 6:14 PM (3 days ago) Bookmark

I'm on okcupid but every time I use the browse feature it's the same old girls in my area that I don't want to date.
I haven't had any luck on dating sites for over 25 years now.

I had a marathon 'match' session recently and I really do think I've met the only two guys I was interested in meeting (of those that that 'match' is finding for me in the top, you know, ahemthreehundred or so), with a third later this week. And that's in DC! I really fancy the third based on his picture so I'm kind of stupidly optimistic about it.

captain lorax you have not been using dating sites for more than 25 years

NB, I am now sending stupid messages to the third guy in order to fuck things up in advance. Fucking things up when really interested must be hard-wired in.

Am yet to gauge quite how immersive this website can be, but it seems to contain multitudes of wasted time

multitudes of time

like 'a myriad of options'. That drives me up the wall.

you know, you don't have to bite the apple ljubljana. you could set an example for women everywhere (because obviously they are all sinful snake listening apple biters)

whaaa

Eh? (I'll consider it, but I'll have to understand it first).

you don't have to fuck things up

Oh. Well, I'll try not to. But it's amazing how your instincts, which seem not to be fucked up at the time, drive you to write very convoluted things in the pursuit of a good impression.

thank you

i fuck things up too

Well, that was... better than the other two dates... a bit trying-too-hard-talking-too-much (him), nodding, smiling (me)

I went on a OKC date tonight. At some point in the evening, the three dudes next to us at the bar engaged us in a conversation, which started out okay. But at some point one of them started going on and on about Freud, so my date ripped into him to the point that the three dudes left the bar in a huff. It was very strange, and honestly I was pretty impressed.

3 ILXors going on dates on the same day was evidently too much for the server facility

you too Louis? Spill all, though Freud-pusher-bashing is going to be hard to beat.

aw i just met up with a cute and extremely open american chick (born within 2 weeks of me) and wandered round london's great parks for about 4 hours, was swell :)

we had much to talk about, and talk we duly did

Oh that's luuuuuuuurvely! Seeing her again?

of course! she has big plans for me. possibly involving her male friends. lol but seriously, yeah! it's only taken us a week to become good friends...and there's obvious mutual attraction too. might not be romance of the century, but it's definitely not a prospective fuckbuddy thing either...we're tight.

tight Adj. 1. To be frugal or not generous. {Informal}
2. Drunk. {Informal}

i.e. a good friendship, with maybe a bit of sex (rather than the other way around), which might or might not develop into stronger things, but which won't prevent either of us dating/seeing others

anyway i find the best thing is not to think or talk about it too much but just to enjoy it as it comes, which is what i shall now do :)

i mean, on a final note, the golden A+ number one rule to how well these things go is obviously communication, conversational compatibility, and meeting someone awesome and on-yer-wavelength for the day is worth ten thousand empty shags

if you end up shagging* them then like haha yeah that's pretty much why i joined this website

*if they're REALLY, like, whoa-where-have-you-been-all-my-life, upgrade to dating, but hey you're only young once

My date just asked to be my friend on Facebook and I said no. No damn way I'm having my friends see potentially cringemaking wall posts. But he seemed ok about it. I think he just chalked it up to my being an uptight Britisher. So, that's how hey, whoo 'you're only young once' I am about OKC.

Erm, mind you I'm not young. I didn't think about that.