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my pet peeve is people who don't know the difference between "excuse me" and "sorry."

THESE TWO ARE NOT INTERCHANGABLE AND IT IS LAZY TO SUBSTITUTE ONE FOR THE OTHER.

like if I am waiting in line to get a drink at a crowded bar and you are trying to squeeze past me to go sit down or go to the bathroom, DO NOT SAY "SORRY :(" YOU ARE DOING NOTHING WRONG. THERE IS NOTHING TO APOLOGIZE FOR. A simple and polite "excuse me" is all that is called for.

Same goes for accidentally bumping into someone. However, stepping on a toe def. calls for an apology.

― g®▲Ðұ, Thursday, 26 April 2007 22:42 (sixteen years ago) link

i never say god bless you either. I have no clue what got into me that day. i usually just say achtung or something when someone sneezes.

someone once ashed near me and the cherry landed on my hand. i just stared at the bright bright ember until the dude freaked out and knocked it off my hand. i was really drunk and had a scar for 6 months. he didn't say sorry.

― Yerac, Thursday, 26 April 2007 22:48 (sixteen years ago) link

sorry lady u drunk

― river wolf, Thursday, 26 April 2007 22:49 (sixteen years ago) link

re: southern people being polite vs. northern people being polite: I think southerners have a bluntness that can come off as pretty rude (we are all really good at saying horrible things in a nice voice), but we observe common etiquette (saying ma'am, sir, excuse me, etc.) moreso than northerners, who maybe don't observe common etiquette as much but are less likely to say "oh you are such a dear" in that incredibly condescending, actually-I-think-you're-an-idiot way.

i know this was like way the fuck upthread but jessie totally otm here. people always think i'm gona be some sweet southern belle because i am from the south but i have to explain to them that that whole southern hospitality thing is a lot of fake niceness in order to make their judgmentalness seem less obnoxious.

― tehresa, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:09 (sixteen years ago) link

one of my good friends is from georgia and she always looks me right in the eye when talking and is sure to include my name in every other sentence. she does this with everyone. it's very disarming and i think she's insulted me a few times but i didn't notice because it was such a pleasant experience overall.

― félix pié, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:25 (sixteen years ago) link

^^^^ i have had this experience multiple times and it really is disarming

― river wolf, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:34 (sixteen years ago) link

I'm sure your friend is a wonderful human, felix, but it's a shame that she's a damn creepy conversationalist, bless her heart.

― Pleasant Plains, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:44 (sixteen years ago) link

I often do that to people deliberately, fellow noise board posters.

― admrl, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:45 (sixteen years ago) link

bless her heart!! 8080, oh man, every time i have a conversation with her she tosses one of those in there.

― félix pié, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:48 (sixteen years ago) link

She sounds like such a goddam stupid fucking idiot, bless her heart!

― Pleasant Plains, Thursday, 26 April 2007 23:55 (sixteen years ago) link

goes along with, 'i love her to death, but....'

― tehresa, Friday, 27 April 2007 00:03 (sixteen years ago) link

I use people's names when talking to them so I never forget.

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Friday, 27 April 2007 14:39 (sixteen years ago) link

I use people's names when talking to them so I never forget.

i tried to do this but it didn't work. wednesday night a friend of a friend met us out for drinks and i said "nice to meet you kelly." and she responded with "we've met. on saturday." whoops...

― chicago kevin, Friday, 27 April 2007 14:47 (sixteen years ago) link

and now i'm not 100% positive her name was kelly now that i think about it.

― chicago kevin, Friday, 27 April 2007 14:47 (sixteen years ago) link

Its pretty rude to point that out to people unless you've met like 7 times.

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Friday, 27 April 2007 14:57 (sixteen years ago) link

Also "It's"

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:00 (sixteen years ago) link

I used to work with this Belgian girl like 9 years ago who told me Europeans think it's rude when Americans say "excuse me" so I forced myself to say things like "pardon me" or "my bad, guvnah" etc instead every since.

― nickalicious, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:06 (sixteen years ago) link

oh boy, this is going to be a goldmine

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:08 (sixteen years ago) link

wtf how is that rude

― am0n, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:10 (sixteen years ago) link

yeah britishers are big on "pardon"

― Mr. Que, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:11 (sixteen years ago) link

exsqueeze me?
baking powder?

― elmo argonaut, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:16 (sixteen years ago) link

http://us.movies1.yimg.com/movies.yahoo.com/images/hv/allposters/99/1800171299p.jpg

― remy bean, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:19 (sixteen years ago) link

total strangers who say "hello" to you in cities other than New York disturb me, cuz if it's a guy under 50 I naturally assume they wanna git down

― Dr Morbius, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:46 (sixteen years ago) link

schwing

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:47 (sixteen years ago) link

haha morbs would be v flustered in minnesota

― ghost rider, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:56 (sixteen years ago) link

"minnesota nice" = passive-aggression + smiling and saying hello at strangers for no reason

― ghost rider, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:56 (sixteen years ago) link

http://www.zelluloid.de/images/szenen/3c1c8ed801517.jpg http://www.homevideos.com/freezeframes1203/fargo178.jpeg

ETC

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Friday, 27 April 2007 15:59 (sixteen years ago) link

I was in Minneapolis once and a deaf-mute guy in the mall-like gay barplex was convinced I went to high school with him.

― Dr Morbius, Friday, 27 April 2007 16:29 (sixteen years ago) link

in NC if you are driving through a residential area and see people walking, they will wave at you.

― jessie monster, Friday, 27 April 2007 17:13 (sixteen years ago) link

lol Gay 90s

― ghost rider, Friday, 27 April 2007 17:16 (sixteen years ago) link

that place is like 75% straight high school girls

― ghost rider, Friday, 27 April 2007 17:16 (sixteen years ago) link

not in '94

― Dr Morbius, Friday, 27 April 2007 17:18 (sixteen years ago) link

in NC if you are driving through a residential area and see people walking, they will wave at you.

Also in little compton ri

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Friday, 27 April 2007 17:25 (sixteen years ago) link

haha sorry morbs i say 'hi' to people all the time

see also: the countryroad steering wheel wave

― river wolf, Friday, 27 April 2007 17:28 (sixteen years ago) link

haha sorry morbs i say 'hi' to people all the time

fucking horndog.

― chicago kevin, Friday, 27 April 2007 17:29 (sixteen years ago) link

see also: the countryroad steering wheel wave

I do this at speed traps

― Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Friday, 27 April 2007 17:33 (sixteen years ago) link

in NC if you are driving through a residential area and see people walking, they will wave at you.

haha I've gotten so used to this that I usually wave to the pedestrians before they do me!

― Curt1s Stephens, Friday, 27 April 2007 18:08 (sixteen years ago) link

haha I've gotten so used to this that I usually wave to the pedestrians before they do me!

huh, i usually have to get the pedestrians drunk before they'll do me.

― chicago kevin, Friday, 27 April 2007 18:20 (sixteen years ago) link

man, America is weird

― Dr Morbius, Friday, 27 April 2007 18:30 (sixteen years ago) link

i like saying "hi" to people on the same trail as me while hiking.

its kind of like: "hello there fellow smart person. isn't it nice to be greeted by others who made the wise choice to spend this afternoon in nature?"

― g®▲Ðұ, Friday, 27 April 2007 21:04 (sixteen years ago) link

i always squint at people and purse my lips and point an index finger at them and spin around and keep pointing at them as they walk past me.

then i go to the store and buy a new bag of conjunctions.

― chicago kevin, Friday, 27 April 2007 21:13 (sixteen years ago) link

my bad, guvnah" etc instead every since.

aye this happens in ghent and bruges the whole time

― 600, Friday, 27 April 2007 21:20 (sixteen years ago) link

yeah britishers are big on "pardon"

-- Mr. Que, Friday, April 27,

i dunno i never heard a british person say this

― 600, Friday, 27 April 2007 21:21 (sixteen years ago) link

i like saying "hi" to people on the same trail as me while hiking.

Absolutely!

― nickalicious, Friday, 27 April 2007 21:21 (sixteen years ago) link

^^^^ well duh. ditto people on the chairlift, which has the potential to be the most awkward situation imaginable: 2-3 people, often strangers, squished together on a slow moving chair for about 10 minutes. you sort of have to talk to each other.

― river wolf, Friday, 27 April 2007 21:27 (sixteen years ago) link

Definitely. I've gotten better at the chairlift chat, though, in my old age. It used to scare me silly.

― Laurel, Friday, 27 April 2007 21:31 (sixteen years ago) link

One time after like 7 days straight camping we came stomping out of the woods (not on the trail) back into the parking area all dirty and ragged and this family was just getting out of their car, we all waved and said hi, they kind of only-barely-politely nodded and did that hands-on-shoulders "hurry-along-now-kids!" thing towards the trail.

― nickalicious, Friday, 27 April 2007 21:33 (sixteen years ago) link

Generally, though, I don't like people and I don't like making a social effort for strangers. :D Also I don't greet people unless I know them, but anything else is really impossible in the city.

― Laurel, Friday, 27 April 2007 21:34 (sixteen years ago) link

Sharing a ferris wheel car with other couple = awkward.

― Pleasant Plains, Friday, 27 April 2007 21:43 (sixteen years ago) link

elevators are awkward

― félix pié, Friday, 27 April 2007 22:11 (sixteen years ago) link

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