Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

'stalkers' are now 'visitors' wtf ;_;

Mine's 'suspended', like my judgement on the quasi-relationship it spawned. Couldn't face erasing just yet, it took too long to answer the questions...

― ljubljana, Sunday, August 2, 2009 8:27 PM

same lol

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3482/3869142549_0f740d8f8a.jpg

yeah i quit okcupid today

87% Match!!

oh hay guyz i gave up on okcupid about a year ago (the women were too intelligent!!) but out of the blue a 32 year old lady msg'd me asking why i couldnt be 5 years older

wtf

hit that imo

thx for the tip

the women were too intelligent!!

Er, what I really should have typed is that most girls on that site are very intelligent but are very serious about that intelligence and I don't think they would appreciate me shoehorning references to 70s British sitcoms in every conversation as a joke, which I have been doing a lot to annoy people!!

^I think this might be a very telling post about you, Pato.

I think I know what KBP means. It's not just the women. I read a ton of male profiles where I got as far as the lines that basically read 'I am deeply concerned with the state of the world and have an intelligent take on this that you are unlikely to fully understand' and clicked 'never show me this profile again'.

Meanwhile my quasi-relationship spawned by OKC seems to be an actual relationship, which is good since I've totally fallen for the person concerned. Wish me luck, it could still implode.

good luck!!!!

Thanks :-) Thinking about you on OKC makes me smile, I think you have exactly the right attitude to it.

and if it implodes, blame the internet ^_^

there's a fine line between taking your profile seriously as a light-hearted but well-written exposition of self, and taking your profile seriously as an uncompromising arsenal of one's unflappable wisdom. it sinks my heart when people cross this line.

haha xp aw cheers :-)

Mine profile is one of lighthearted whimsy and I think it is one that turns the ladies of OKCupid off, as 95% of them these days seem to be "I AM STUDYING FOR A MASTERS IN HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY. I CARE ABOUT THE ENVIRONMENT AND I LIKE TO LISTEN TO JAZZ. DON'T MESSAGE IF BLAH BLAH BLAH."

Which is actually good, because I refuse to have my balls cut off by some jumpy postgrad student.

my friend always fucks fat chicks off this site

I thnk I still have a really OLLLDDD OKC profile that I only created to do those quizzes and comparisons early on - I honestly didnt think of the dating side at all. My profile must show I'm completely inactive and it says "not single, not looking" and has some stupid irreverence in it. And yet I still get dodgy weirdos msging me occasionally... though I havent checked in at least 12 months so NFI now.

At this moment in time, having met a few lovely people from it and taken business to gchat or facebook, I'm only really using it for an epic and magnificent correspondence with a wonderfully-written lass from the other side of the country, who's in a similar situation to me regarding a wish for uncomplicated dating, and a desire not to rush into anything serious. The correspondence has really unlocked me as a writer, and some of my best prose has been committed to screen throughout its duration (I'm challenging the 10,000 character limit at every pop, more or less; we have 6 paragraphs in strict rotation to help compartmentalise the discussion, and her way with rendering only the most essential details in beautifully concise, witty and erudite form enables the discussion to 'reset' in preparation for another one of my expansive braingusts). Obviously I'm not expecting anything more than great conversation at the moment, but I would dearly like to meet her at some stage during the next 6 months or so, because I suspect we'd get on rather splendidly. Even then, nothing much more than great face-to-face conversation would ensue, but the value of this, as I am discovering, grows higher by the day.

KBP, stick to your guns dude, the chicks on there may be principled but some of them know how to kick back and laugh at themselves/everything else as well. Only by being true to yourself will you find people you'd benefit from meeting [/cliche] oh wait you pretty much said that yourself

Also, stridently far-left/ecological/sophisticated people are often not quite so ball-slicing in certain situations. Quite the glorious opposite, in fact. Just sayin'.

my friend always fucks fat chicks off this site

How long have you known Dom Passantino??

This thread begged me to log back on again. I did one of those advanced searches and if this one girl responds than I might be in luck :)

A.D.D., PISCES, CASUAL ENCOUNTERS, LIKES TO DRAW

could be a real winner

a self-identifying pisces with ADD sounds pretty dysfunctional to me.

yeah actually she did come off kind of dysfunctional but CASUAL ENCOUNTERS

ha! then you don't have to worry much about intricate or complex projects that never get finished.

haha. but that sounds like me also though

great! ... okay, I shouldn't post anymore astrology challops ...

She ended up being one of those people that make an OkCupid account but never log in again. Oh and I said her astrological sign wrong. She is a scorpio. I thought I was only searching for pisces with the new search engine filters but I guess I forgot that I added scorpio as well. I'm a cancer and all the water signs are compatible if you are into the astrology hoo-haa. We also get along with the earth signs pretty well.

(mind my grammar mistakes)

yeah actually she did come off kind of dysfunctional but CASUAL ENCOUNTERS

― CaptainLorax, Monday, 31 August 2009 03:57 (1 week ago) Bookmark

dude. no.

things never work out the way I picture them in my mind
thankfully I have never acted upon such things (I have never had a casual encounter from the internet or some other service)
my ego only goes so far.. like typing stupidfully in this OkCupid topic. I am done

tbh, I haven't let my ego act upon much of anything in the past few years. no sticky situations for me, at least

I've only had 2 dates from girls off the internet in the past (5-6 years ago?). one girl was exceptionally boring. with the other girl I made a bad impression but she would have never been my type anyways

nonetheless I will continue browsing these internet dating sites looking for someone compatible

oh yeah, there was a third girl, we slowly meandered away from each other.. there wasn't ever going to be anything there

'reset' in preparation for another one of my expansive braingusts

ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww yucko

I just signed up for this. First experience with a dating site, seems fairly promising. Just sent a couple msgs to matches along with some "winks" along with answering questions. Sooo...we'll see.

A couple of the conversations on other threads inspired me tonight and I got three pages in on the matches in my area and stopped here

I am a Central Florida college student, toiling daily to get by and stay high. I have a healthy interest in the lives of other people and an obsession with visual language.

I receive so many messages it is unfeasible for me to reply to all of them, and honestly I am probably not DTF.

I had to look it up in the Urban Dictionary. Girl was wearing ironic bifocals I guess? Because her other pictures were like aspiring model club kid hipster, heavily photoshopped fashion shots, stuff like that.

dtf . . . dtf. Sheesh.

And one cute girl close to my age within a few pages and I'm thinking, NEERRRRRRRRD. What's going to happen when you've worked through all those Robert Jordon books? Existential crisis, I bet. But that's mean. Just a woman trying to find someone. But the posturing and preemptive social parrying make reading the profiles kind of hard to stomach.

And what is visual language? Like concrete poetry? Typography? Gesture, dance?

I've found plenty of dates online without ever using online dating services. Why bother when you can get to know friends of friends via IRC, livejournal, facebook, forums etc?

Well its worked for me plenty.

^^ braggin

Well, yeah.

I'm curious
did you give pics before you ever met any of those online people you mentioned?

did you ever meet anyone without giving them a single picture at all?

Probably she does.

I just a second ago made a real OKCupid profile with a picture and a couple of things about me and it's pretty complete, if you were to ask me, "Do you think you need to include more for your OKCupid profile?"

so what's the most private thing you're willing to admit

I didn't do that one. It's not a very personal profile and I put a very unflattering picture up as my primary one, one of me after biking fifteen miles and dangerously depressed. I am not trying to pull to hard.

But I will admit that I tweaked it several times until I thought it sounded right. And it still probably doesn't.

did you give pics before you ever met any of those online people you mentioned?

did you ever meet anyone without giving them a single picture at all?

Hmm lemme think.. I think in a few cases, yes (nor did I see their pic). And I'll be honest - some of those were, like blind dates, complete disasters. So that I stopped doing.

But I'mn not talking about "talk once then meet for coffee", I'm talking about getting to know szomeone via other friends online over the course of days/weeks/months before dates happen.

It isnt something I'd do anymore I dont think - notwithstanding the fact I have a partner now (who, incidentally, I origianlly met via Livejournal now I think about it).

Oh geez please excuse my typing, the hell is with me lately.

I'm curious about how somebody has successfully approached someone with mutual, if not terribly close, friends for dating. My experience/theory is that unless you meet them in real life you're not appropriately breaking any ice, so I'm not sure what the FB protocol is for "Hi, I think you're cute, we went to the same school, share dozens of friends and we should hang out some time - I think we'd get along based on the fact you're always cropping up in my newsfeed and I'm totally intrigued by you,"

It should be easier than online dating (which I've never done) but there's higher risk because this person shares friends, and I'm not sure which of the mutual coolege friends could introduce us, if any.

I want to vent about my OKC-spawned 'relationship' and where it is 'going' or not etc. but this isn't the place and there are so many lurve/dating-related threads. Recommendations?

So good they named it twice: The Vagaries of Dating The Vagaries of Dating
The boring option: Internet Dating

lol pinefox: I just registered on a dating website!