thread to get over a breakup

after I graduated, he mounted a putsch and went from being house troublemaker to president ... in revisionist history those were seen as the "dark years" ... after his two years of glory, the pirate acappella people took over, much to our dismay.

so wait, the pirate acappella people = GDR? seems to fit.

meanwhile, here's some more brilliance from our favourite T1arnan rip-off: Sexual perversion in Ohio

I probably shouldn't go into further detail ... Hi Dere's former roommate was witness to these proceedings.

He was at one point the leader of the metaphorical "weimar republic"

except during the metaphorical "nazi" regime, there was more drinking, dancing, boozing, artiness and homosexuality.

was this not the case in the real nazi regime or have i seen too many movies

well, if you look at it from the perspective that the actual nazis sent homosexuals to death camps, and the metaphorical nazi regime of the literary house I lived in in college, encouraged queer students to join - it's kind of the opposite.

unless the literary house WAS the death camp

makes you think

tbh it sounds like the kind of nazi regime i'd have half bitten my own hand off to have studied under...british university was k-dry in most regards

but that would imply that the nazis were killing themselves in death camps ... anyway, it's been well over a decade since all this happened, and I'm pretty sure everyone involved has moved on with their lives and view it as "lol college"

I was kinda jealous that the place got "cool" only after I left, though I was mainly responsible for "new bf" not getting kicked out at the beginning.

you were the neville chamberlain of that literary house

no, those would be the people that secretly loathed him, but didn't want to suffer even more heated meetings on the subject of kicking him out.

ok john foxx then ;_;

probably closer to Henry Ford ...

midge ure = pirate acappella

hey this one actually works

The pirate a cappella thing embarrasses me still. I mean it's a combination of two oppressively annoying whimsical things.

it's like a perfect storm of student kook...done by AMERICANS

a cappella groups are the bane of the Ivy League ...

my ex found out about ilxor while we were together (by checking her computer history), didn't tell me, and used the fact I'd posted WDYLLs of us together without consulting her as ammunition for my character assassination

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loooooooooooooooool

deej - you're late to the lol here.

btw hoos' ex if you are reading this there are salutations buried amid the hidden messages

are we supposed to be encouraging or discouraging hoos' ex from reading?

i think it is too late for that; we can but soften the blow. hoos' ex you are warmly welcomed to 'thread to get over a breakup'

if she chooses to reopen the thread by now she is probably loling heartily so

well, I've got about 90% of my stuff out of the condo, minus my furniture. looks like this breakup is actually going through.... can't believe I'm actually doing it

:(

moving the stuff out is the easy part ...

i can't remember a single thing about moving out after my last breakup. following month was like a total shellshock, can't remember fuck all of it.

wouldn't mind, i wasn't even drunk tbh

I'm probably going to take another week or so to get picking up the rest scheduled... then there's the fact that she's on my health insurance (as domestic partner), since she has been pretty much jobless since she went on medical leave for mental issues in April. So I still feel like the asshole who's walking out on an ill person, which she had to bring up in the 'official breakup session' we had last Friday. But, as my friends and family keep telling me, there's only so much you can do.

maybe I actually need a "thread to complete a breakup" for a while, since I can't actually get over this until all the connections are severed, right?

You can, but it takes longer and requires more mental trauma on your part.

you're not over someone until you don't hate them any more.

if you don't hate them yet: wait

We're here to listen, man. <3

Called my ex to tell her that she hurt me deeply and she apologized. I accepted that and feel better. It is definitely in my best interest to maintain a cordial relationship with this woman because we work in the same building (separated by three floors, but still). Not going to lunch with her anytime soon, still.

Hah, I've already hit an amazing spectrum of emotions in the last few weeks, from frustration to grief to anger and beyond.

fyi, since I only mentioned it briefly elsewhere, this is the girl I have been with almost two years, live with, got engaged to early July (amazingly bad timing and poor decision in retrospect) because I'd decided things were getting much better than they had been, and maybe she was right that it'd make the atmosphere of things better if we knew where things were heading.

Then she pretty much went on vacation, told me I didn't need to mail her her antidepressant when I found it back at home, flipped out right before coming back because she got drunk and kissed some guy while out, after having been off her medication for six days, and then tried to kill herself in front of me in the living room when I woke up late the night she got back.

good times, I tell you what

Jesus that sounds awful. :-(

oh yeah, and my huge year-long project at work goes live in a week. I am so very thankful for great friends and family right now.

"Grief Anger and Beyond" is the worst place I have ever shopped for home accessories, by far.

Anyway, the lesson here is to stay on your meds, kids. Nothing but empathy for you now, mh.

Okay, tell me if there is a shred of truth in this theory/observation:

I ran into a friend of mine at a show the other night, who had broken up with his girlfriend of 10+ years a few months ago. He was now sporting a relatively scraggly beard, while when they were together, he was generally clean-shaven. I'm thinking that with a number of guys, the sloppy beard is a stage in the post-break-up process. It seems to come at some point when the guy has accepted his singleness and is trying to make the best of it, and isn't quite ready to be in another serious relationship.

There may be something to that, but in all probability it's because shaving your face is totally inconvenient.

yeah, rather than being a 'post break up phase', scraggliness is more of a 'i'm glad i don't need to do this any more' thing.

well, in the theory of it being a post break up phase it would begin in the "depression" stage and continue into "acceptance"

I thought scraggly beards were the in thing this year? Maybe he was just looking to hook up with indie hipster girls?

it would begin in the "depression" stage and continue into "acceptance"

yeah, acceptance that mach 3 blades cost a fucking bomb

lool. i grew my beard in the wake of an unpleasant breakup and never bothered shaving it off again

thing is, on most guys the unkempt beard is just not a good look.

i carry it beautifully, tbh. hides three of my chins, and most of my pimples

in fact i only shave to drive unwelcome girlfriends away