thread to get over a breakup

but man some of the other stuff was purely barbaric imo anyway

did she start IRL "Ban [your name]" threads?

She wrote a 5-page denouncement of me and my evils which reflected partially on mistakes I'd made but mostly on the fact she was going through personal hell at that time. She said she's considered posting it to ILX in order to show me up but had refrained at the last minute. She wanted me to take her back but I decided against it. It wasn't a good time for any of us. I'd rather not talk about it any more, save to say that we're both much better now :)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0tbVPpeUUW8

No I come across really really well in our breakup story mainly due to him setting such a high standard in being a crepey shitbag

Heh ... one of my college ex-es accused me of being an alcoholic, and got me put on house "probation" ... I recalled his overdue library books ... those were simpler times.

Also couldn't resist sticking the boot in at any point for the next few weeks, guilt-tripping even when I'd evinced more guilt than can be humanly tripped. As recently as May when she had a new man, she came out with lines like "In a way I'm glad I had that with you, because now I know what I don't need". (Yeah, a long-distance relationship in the middle of a fecking PhD)

lol ok that's enough

T, am about to enter yr ex's ilx name with a 'Most Recent' posts search :D

LOL sarahel

yeah, but lol, he hung around with all these benign "btw i live in paris now" posts (he was doing a short internship but it was practically Tender is the night by his implication)

T did you get my message? It's strange sending off a number that can't receive.

― o-3ss, Wednesday, 27 August 2008 10:55 (11 months ago) Bookmark

;_; penultimate post ever

it was a joy to go to work at the library at that point to see how much the fines had increased each day. At a certain point, if the fines reached a certain amount, he couldn't check out any more books without returning the overdue ones. I think the guy I broke up with him for (who the ex- was kinda persecuting) hid some of the overdue books, because he had left them lying around a common area.

RIP

it's strange sending off a number that can't receive

^^^^ poetry, real talk, a many-leaved assertion, with many readings

sarahelen of troy

except our side "won" ... he got kicked out of school for poor academic performance.

lol@persecuting btw. anyway don't need to be on this thread as this is all long ago and I'm not the one who has made a crepey replica of our relationship with a guy who looks like me.

basically it was supposed to be an amicable break up ... which lasted for like 8 hours ...

The Oakliad

T what big claws you have! :D

Uh, that was in Providence, RI

srsly if u only knew

you're Wolverine?

subsequent journey to Oakland in order to found [controversial moderator edit] being your subsequent Aeneid

T I am still delving, the bottom will be gotten to

something like that ... the moral of the story is that break ups often lead to shitty cruel behavior on all sides.

also, big wooden horses

crying fathers and sulking in tents

and Priam gets totally slain

having watched his entire family die at the hands of the murderous Greeks

and Brad Pitt in a leather mini-skirt

that movie was not as homoerotic as i was promised btw

yeah ... i was disappointed by that, too.

the tv show Oz is less disappointing in that regard.

i think that's safe to say

What do you love about the same sex
Lion, Scarecrow, Tin-Man: A very ILX Summer with the ILX Gays.

now i just need to find the T-1000

xp - but in that 5 pages did she compare you to Hitler?

"o-3ss" and "i know, right" are ILX's favourite boybuddies from the emerald isle

― Just got offed, Saturday, 26 July 2008 11:32 (1 year ago) Bookmark

tact, meet LJ

no, not hitler. it was made plain that she still loved me and thus this hurt 70x more than it would otherwise do...the sad thing is that she was 100% sincere and that she really was in a bad state in life, having been 0% up-front about its severity, and thought that this was a way to win me 'back' as a better person while we were separated by 2000 miles anyway it's a lot more complicated than i am making out and it was the first major relationship for us both and we couldn't handle the impossible dilemmas facing us and truly it sucked but i'm damned if i'm repeating those mistakes so let bygones be bygones

omg boybuddies? doing my best not to click your links btw

I got compared to hitler! I forgot the context ... anyway, in retrospect it was quite sad, because he was a genuinely nice, sweet person before, and it was the first "true love" kinda relationship we'd both been in ... and I'm not particularly proud of having been cruel ... though I still think the library books thing is funny.

was he saying that you were an idealistic painter? that you loved small children and puppies?

that you had a urine fetish regarding your niece?

i'm glad i don't know much about hitler now

I think it had something to do with house policy and me attempting to make rules to keep the really gross chick he hooked up with as far away from me as possible. All three of us - me, the ex, the new bf - all lived in the same literary house. It eventually got so uncomfortable, I moved out.

oh yeah ... and in retaliation for the hitler comment, the new bf defiled a friend of the ex's kosher cutting board with a bacon cheeseburger ... it's all so petty and juvenile ...

these wacky rushmoresque capers are bracing and formative, not crushing and soul-shrinking like a month of 'you made me feel like a whore but i still love you, also i am seriously ill and it is your fault'

truesay that students are the pettiest motherfuckers on god's green earth however...jesus i hate them nowadays

(most, not all)

that is a lie; i do not hate. cannot hate. feel deeply frustrated by, however, yes.

xp - like gave her herpes ill or mentally ill?

Honestly there was plenty of non-wacky bullying and invective involved in the situation. That part is a less compelling read.

sarahel if i answer this can you not pry any longer

aggravated severe internal problems she'd been suffering since 16 which required an extra-strength hormone pill and were flaring up wagner's ring-cycle style at exactly this time

I promise.

I promise.

groovy! :)

meanwhile i shall pry myself: Lion, Scarecrow, Tin-Man: A very ILX Summer with the ILX Gays. lol it's this dude isn't it hahaha

Pictured: The moment a man punched a girl off her feet during a Facebook water fight what a charmer!

it made me really depressed that he was such an arsehole, esp in light of how awesome i am