thread to get over a breakup

haha no, he actually said leave before we play believe it or not

i think he meant come to see the first band and just hang out with him. hes kind of a pal tbh

okay, him being a pal makes the exchange make sense ... otherwise it was kinda wtf.

haw, sorry to confuse

Yeah, I totally read it like "oh no, they're going to play like seven songs with "emily" in the title and that's the awkward bit" too :-)

thats still a distinct possibility afaik

definitely don't go

i dont think i will. i dont want to see dude. havent clamped eyes on him since february

whoa thats pretty much total crepestore right there

http://www.looptvandfilm.com/blog/joelies.jpg

Yeah, I totally read it like "oh no, they're going to play like seven songs with "emily" in the title and that's the awkward bit" too :-)

have seen this happen (ok it was just one song) and it was really, really awkward not just for the singer/ex, but for everyone else in the room that knew the backstory/that this particular song was about him.

this will happen as long as people write break-up songs, it is pretty much necessary for music

a while back, a couple of friends - who were married - were in a band together, and some of her songs were pretty clearly about problems with their relationship ... they are no longer married.

damn u knew lindsay and stevie

that was my first thought 2

plenty fish in the sea btw u guys

been listening to the mac so much lately been thinking about starting a band with a couple tumultuous couples i know that play music together and like slipping them love potions or something

like oops you're all divorced and we just made the most kickass album ever...d'oh

uh i play drums obv

oh jeez rox

Ran into the recent EX at lunch and she told me that her "friend" (I suppose she means the other man, the one that she is in love with and broke up with me for) is gonna be in town this weekend. She thought I should know in case I ran into them on the street, so it wouldn't be awkward. Well, it won't be, cuz if I see them, I am turning around and walking far away.

Why couldn't she just use his name, wtf?!
Man, she dumped me over lunch, too. Never eating with this chick again.

maybe she feels guity?

I'm sure she does, I'm just having a bad week.
It's nice that she told me, I guess, but there's no way the three of us running into each other wouldn't be awkward. I'm a little butthurt over this long-distance relationship blossoming while we were still seeing each other. But the fact is that we needed to break up, so I should just STFU and get over it, I suppose, but it's rarely that easy, is it?

no, it isn't. Your story reminded me of something that happened to a friend of mine ... he was married for 13 years, and then his wife left him and moved to a different state with a "friend." He later found out from other people (not her) that she was having an affair with this "friend" and not long after the divorce went through, she married this "friend." He ran into her at a show while he was on tour, and the "friend" was there. She introduced the "friend" as her roommate, but she was aware that he was aware of the relationship.

It's not easy, especially when you know she was falling for somebody else while still seeing you. I've been on the shit end of an identical situation and, well, you're handling it much better than I did.

I think that she was always in love with this guy, is the thing. HURTS.

i dunno, TM, "my new 'friend' will be in town so don't feel awkward if you see us" is like a sideways brag disguised as a public service announcement.

I've been in both positions in that situation, and it's just really shitty.

-- I think the fact that she referred to him euphemistically implies that she isn't bragging.

I think she wants me and the new guy to be friends, or at least friendly.
WAAAAY too soon for anything like that to happen, though. (we dated for two years). Just going to avoid any of the places that they may turn up, which shouldn't be too hard. I've got a date this weekend, too, so that eases the pain a bit.

Thanks for sharing, everyone. It actually helps.

I think as long as:
1. you've accepted the relationship is over
2. you don't have plans to get revenge
3. not wanting to be unhappy/hurt is a major goal for you

you're on the right path.

hi hoos' ex!

^ this is the dude we named our fish after btw

hahaha

hahaha

hoos' ex i hope you did not undertake the task of renaming aforesaid goldfish lightly...'tis a noble heart you cracked

um, if your ex knew about ilxor, that would be post breakup stalking 101

my ex found out about ilxor while we were together (by checking her computer history), didn't tell me, and used the fact I'd posted WDYLLs of us together without consulting her as ammunition for my character assassination

was she successful

uh, there is much more powerful ammunition here though.

because you're still a character, imo

:D

on the day before it all kicked off, I'd been pestering her to send me a couple of pics taken on my final visit, and she did so, as she later admitted, as a 'test'. "sure enough, when i checked an hour later, there it was on WDYLL"

:-/

lol you guys :D

uh, my ex harrassed me through ilx and then the guy he cheated on me with decided that he was an ilxor now and was going to be hanging out on the gay thread until me and sur ambushed him and I crashed his portfolio website.

yeah ... if she only used the fact you posted pics of her as ammo, then she was probably fairly nice, all considering ...

That was it as far as ILX-related stuff went down (although indirectly not, for my alleged overuse of computers was integral), but man some of the other stuff was purely barbaric imo anyway yeah history lol haha good times

need i remind you fellas about the "face is everything" guide to the internet

lol T, let the sleuthing commence (o-3ss being he who cannot be named right)

yes she did say WDYLL

btw my fiancee posted on ilx a couple dozen times, before i ever posted here and before i ever met her and she knows several ilxors (britishes mostly) and a couple of other friends of hers are good friends with ilxors. we had a good lol over that one.

i wonder who IKR's ex was...

but man some of the other stuff was purely barbaric imo anyway

did she start IRL "Ban [your name]" threads?