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ah sorry to hear about the commute dr. fuck work, is how i break that down. for what it's worth jar and i agree you're beautiful.

I can keep it up way longer if I'm stoned.

One of the more satisfying recent friendships I've begun is with a 23-year-old who applied for but lost interest in the student paper. We met for coffee once and lost touch. Then a year later in summer 2000 he sends a screenshot of one of my Grindr photos with "is this you lolz." He'd already graduated. We started meeting for drinks. He's damn cute but I'm not attracted to him.

Then I gave him advice about his abusive boyfriend. Around Xmas 2022 they broke up. Finally one night we started having sex one time but couldn't finish it. No hard feelings and we laugh about it now.

He has a new boyfriend and he's happy. I'm glad he's in my life.

aww yeah! playing a part in the young lives. i'm not gonna have kids but that doesn't mean i don't want to have a positive effect on people who will be here after me. i especially love to be the one telling guys to cut out their abusive parents / pvmic

Summer 2021, I meant

thanks map <3 fwiw the job itself is wonderful so far and i’m much happier here than i was at my last gig, the commute’s the only bummer thing about it

i now work at a university but i have a strict apps-off policy when i’m on campus. i’m gonna be hiring and training students (mostly grad students) soon and would rather not deal with any potential awkwardness in that regard lol

Totally get that.

It doesn't even occur to me to use the apps on campus

j it makes me really happy to hear that you're getting so much pleasure out of topping.

― ꙮ (map), Tuesday, February 13, 2024 4:29 PM (one hour ago)

thanks! same :) i just needed someone to teach me. i feel like i'm being sent back out into the world as a good top tho i guess i'll find out

Oh the awkwardness when I loaded the apps on my phone after my divorce and started window shopping in the bathroom stall and one of the first profiles that came up was one of my coworkers

I’ve never used the apps— I have a completely blank profile on Grindr but have never used it or any of the others. Honestly I find them terrifying.

it's the sniffies era baby throw those apps away (barely any idea what i'm talking about)

I also admit that while I talked to my shrink about it and he assured me that he’s seen men in similar situations on the apps, I am wary of being on an app and being upfront with the fact that I have a permanent colostomy and no butthole. Mostly would go on there to drown my mouth in twink jizz, but the whole “altered body” thing still gives me pause.

Except for those two things, I have the body of a 25 year old who works out regularly, tho, so maybe I should just go for it.

*googles sniffies* jeez

I’ve used Grindr only on a couple of occasions, and both times I didn’t like it. There’s something wolfish about men in that stream that makes me feel unsafe

I did however have a hilarious power bottom week after a breakup, when I wanted to get fucked into oblivion. My butthole was extremely pliant and clean and it felt like a magic talisman, like I could show hole to any passerby and be ready for loads. I think I took enough dicks in that week to last me the rest of my life

I did meet my current bf on Grindr. I was tipsy and stoned and loaded it up and was fielding dick pics from all directions, just dicks flying at my face for an hour. One guy I was chatting with suddenly broke kayfabe and was like “honestly this chat is so much more interesting than any other chat I’ve had on here and more than hooking up with you I kinda want to go on a date with you” and so we did that and it’s been 3.5 years now

It is funny when blue haired relatives ask us how we met and we just chorus “ON GRINDR” without a lick of shame

I met my husband at a Kink.com Bound in Public shoot.

i've mainly used scruff over the years, ime it's something like 95% a drag and a waste of time and 5% real and good. grindr i don't fuck with, always seemed super sketch to me. i haven't been on any app since last august though. sniffies though, wow, look at that logo. what even is that.

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/3/3e/Sniffieslogo.png/150px-Sniffieslogo.png

xp to fgti, aw that is sweet. we met our current third on scruff last august. one of his opening lines was 'you look like you're a great dancer'.

awwww I love that

:)

It is funny when blue haired relatives ask us how we met and we just chorus “ON GRINDR” without a lick of shame

― a hyperlink to the past (flamboyant goon tie included)

ok i guess i've reached the point where someone says "blue haired relatives" i think of the whole "blue hair and pronouns" meme :)

should prob b clear that i am def of the daddy issues variety myself lol

loving all these thoughts (donna you are not alone bb)

cialis 5mg is a perfect tablet for "insurance", + given drinking etc

Great chat, all.

same time tomorrow?

you can count on it!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=voNEgCKzves

100%

omg that's the first time I've heard that version of Golden Girls

And my constant query about "is this theme song missing a couple of beats?" has been answered

i sang that song at my best friend's wedding once! i was so nervous!

aww yeah the original song is nice! swen i would have bawled hearing that. hilarious synth breakdown. did golden girls ever have a druggy/trippy/dream episode? eric h would know. happy valentine's day lovelies!

i think andrew gold is low key smokin in that video lol

they did have a trippy dream episode! the midnight madness episode. i can't even begin to describe it right now but you should look it up, it is truly unhinged.

A Midwinter Night's Dream - season 7 episodes 20 and 21, one of many synopses online "Blanche hosts a “Moonlight Madness” party and everyone is particularly horny; Rose and Miles decide to get married but Dorothy and Miles kiss, Sophia must break a Sicilian witch’s curse."

how's everyone doing today?

Isn't Andrew Gold the Spooky Scary Skeletons guy?

Doing okay hbu?

Went sledding in Central Park yesterday afternoon and had a missed connection on the subway home. He is probably str8 and I sensed that he wanted to be left alone, but guy close to my age was wearing a koala hat and snow pants and carrying a sled. Nobody over the age of 9 seems to enjoy the same activities as me and nobody gives fewer fucks, I was thinking we would probably like hangin out together.

Good. Got my bf a new pair of Blunstones for V Day. Predictably he wants a different pair (he has a competitive attitude toward gift-giving and always must have the upper hand). He already gifted me something a week ago and has flash-ordered something else to compete with the Blunstones— he will NOT be outdone!

I changed up my psych meds and there was a two week period of pseudo depression that I feel like I’m coming out of, today, which is nice

I’m planning a new big work project and there are enough Great Ideas already manifested that I’m constantly excited about it

sled guy sounds mad cute.

goons your project sounds great - the best feeling.

i'm doing okay! have a cold. my trip to FLL was fun, went to all the gay bars and had some great meals. the clothing optional gay resort we stayed at was cute, there was a guy on oxygen at the pool. the eagle was funny, i didn't realize some rooms were shirts-off mandatory.

amazing post

😂❤️❤️

sorry to hear about your cold swen but the trip sounds like it was fun! fgti i'm happy to hear you're feeling better today. deflatormouse, that sounds like a nice moment. maybe you could set up an app profile that's named "sledder" with pics that are just you sledding and the description is like "wanna go on a sledding date with me?" a terrible idea but that's all i got.

fellas i'm doing well. some things are as no-good as ever (job, money), but i'm the best i ever have been mentally, physically and emotionally. just living day to day and making the most of it.

listen to you!! that's amazing. you deserve it. <3

speaking of doing well mentally, i'm off pot for a while! not missing it!

aw thanks hon. i'm thinking of taking a break myself.

hugs, map

<3

that RULES!!! hope the throuple is having the best valentines day 💗

so i've been having a hard time relaying the message to all my friends that my type has changed - they're still stuck on the twink thing, but i've moved on! much more into hairy dudes with a little meat on their bones. i should issue a press release.

Be sure to include contact info.

hehe

lol

lollol. can u imag. so the other thing though is that i much prefer like a biiit of a dad bod situation as opposed to all ripped. anyone with me on this? sometimes i feel alone.

i mean the general vicinity of "dad bod to toned with still some love handles" is great by me

yeah totally