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omg lol

we sexted about it while i was eating hamburgers on sunday night. anyway i think it's probably game on. i'm more worried about outdoor activities together since we all like to do different things.

Saludos from Clewiston!

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I'm here btw: https://vitambi.com/

oh that looks lit!! is it a 'natural' resort?

Doing fine here,
lovely to see you Swen.

actually everything is cuckoo but i am dealing with it okay 🙂

we go to Hawai’i to visit my husband’s family next week… with my parents, who have never met anyone from the Chinese-Native Hawaiian side of his family. should be lovely but also a little insane, he has like a gazillion relatives, but we’re staying at a chill hotel away from Waikiki.

Lovely!

But I'm not entirely sure what the (non-anarchic) alternative is in this particular culture war?

― fair but so uncool beliefs here (Eric H.)

i got into real trouble with my friends defending target here

the allyship we need is for allies to be willing to literally put their lives on the line for us, because goddamn our lives _are_ on the line every day and there's only so much we can do about that

if target corporate leadership wants to mitigate the effects of this on their underpaid retail workers in states where the risk is particularly acute... the optics of it are shit but honestly, when it comes to things that worry me about florida "target moved their queer merch to the back of their stores" is not at the top of the list.

a lighter post.

My friend was telling me last night about this podcast.

"They ask you a hundred questions, and the last one is always this: You're sentenced to death. How do you want to go - death by blowjob, or death by hamburger?"

"Mmmm. I'd love to choke to death on a big fat cock."

"That's... not what they mean by that question."

"WELL THEN THEY NEED TO BE SPECIFIC ABOUT IT."

lol oh boy
lighter indeed!!
i'm ready for some summer fun i'll tell you that much
tabes that sounds like a fantastic trip! i'm sure you'll be able to find moments of joy in the potential awkwardness of it all

I've had to wear collared shirts the last two days if ya know what I mean.

A++++! anyone interesting?

i don't mean to barge in and interrupt, but we're back from our little desert getaway and tryst and i must update. farm banker was fun and ridiculously puppy-dog handsome but i don't think a friendship is in the cards. 'farm banker' is a very apt description of him overall, he's very earthy and ambitiously acquisitive. he did not seem open to any imaginative or playful interactions which is a turn-off for me. he did have a serious plow and was focused on getting the deed done, much to the satisfaction of my husband. incredible tasting cum. that is all.

fantastic update map. sounds like best possible scenario overall! mazel!! puppy dog handsome - a very good kind of handsome imo.

👍🐶

poetry

I've had to wear collared shirts the last two days if ya know what I mean.

― the dreaded dependent claus (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn)

meanwhile my preference is to leave the shirt and just wear the collar

<3 <3 <3

back atcha, what's going on?

I'm at The George, the Dublin gay bar. Slow night.

omg. jealous.

scene report?

Happy birthday to Morbius/Bill in gay heaven. P.S. To map, Bucks Fizz: "I Hear Talk."

― Kevin John Bozelka, Friday, April 21, 2023 6:22 PM (one month ago) bookmarkflaglink

a belated thank you for this reminder about legendary Morbz

MAP, i'm getting excited for summer. work has been an incredible slog this school year and i'm in dire need of some time to get things done for myself. i'm pretty terrified to go the dentist - i know, exciting update - because there are some aches that i believe are going to cost me significant time and money!! :////////

PS - just finally caught up on all the thoughtful posts from a month ago. love hearing folks expound on all these issues!! :-)

my dentist visits grow sadder each passing year. teeth are weird and bad but i sure miss the two i've had to get pulled.

omg where were they

I left after an hour. More women hanging out with platonic friends than gay male couples (safe space). It was also early. I was also jetlagged. I'll return tomorrow later for a full report; the drag show was about to start. It's four minutes from my hotel on foot.

went to the dentist on saturday, clean bill of health but i had to get new x-rays which i HATE more than anything, i gag every time and it’s horrible

two pride-y events this upcoming weekend, also a toddler birthday party on saturday AM

whatcha doin in dublin alfred? vacation?

top back one side, top mid on the other

yay for pride events! tho i'm all prided out tbrr

Yep! My parents jumped on board unexpectedly, but they're cool-ass people if we don't discuss politics: they eat well, drink me under the table, wanna stay up late. I had to tell them last night, lol slow down, I need a nap.

I'm here till Friday.

I re-read parts of the gays ILTMI thread tonight, as part of some sort of ongoing psychic work, I think. anyway, it was great, if only because i got a new DN out of it thanks to a Whiney comment many years ago.

lol that thread is such a trip, just went thru it again myself

ultimately opted to attend 0 of the pride celebrations happening here today. dyke day picnic in the park and dance party/drag show at a local-ish bar yesterday were plenty for me. the weather was so gloomy this weekend that i didn’t feel like leaving the house, plus i’m taking antibiotics for a random infection that popped up on friday so couldn’t really get debauched anyway. it’s fine. instead i ordered a pizza and watched to die for and started putting together my late-june pride DJ set.

i'm too scared to open that thread lmao. to die for sounds good, i've never seen it! pride sets are fun. my inclination was always to go "deep and profound" but i recently realized, like in the past two or three years, that most people just want to hear lady gaga. which ok, "rain on me" is kinda profound anyway, so is "911". club mixes of those two have probably been my mvps over the last year.

yall i'm so busy right now i have no bandwidth for social stuff i should make time for, let alone uhh cleaning. and my day job is where i waste the most time! whenever i can take a breath i just want to be a plant for a few hours. so it goes.

not much new gay stuff to report.

Spent some time wandering around The Village in Montreal, which was overrun by bachelorette parties. I would not have had a strong opinion on this five years ago and I was a little surprised by how strong of an opinion I had on it now.

i mean i'm assuming you are not in favor

Haha that was unnecessarily ambiguous

No, I was not in favor. The groups drinking in the bars were perfectly fine but there was another woman lambasting the bouncer at a strip club for the behavior of one of the servers as we walked past and I was very surprised by the snap judgments I was making based on the overheard conversation. I don’t want people to feel unsafe or disrespected but it sounded from what I heard that she was angry that the bride wasn’t getting more attention and I kept thinking “… You are a bunch of women at a gay male strip club, I am not quite sure what you are expecting here”

At first I thought someone got handsy but that didn’t seem to be how the conversation was going; granted, I didn’t hear all of it

I was very surprised by the snap judgments I was making based on the overheard conversation

i've had enough drunk white straight women treating me like a human jukebox as a dj at gay clubs that i don't think your snap judgment is surprising or all that unfair frankly, even if you didn't catch everything. there's definitely an archetypal behavior thing going on in this kind of situation and with practice you can suss it out within 30 seconds lol.

straight women behaving badly in gay spaces is a little hard to talk about with other gay guys without going overboard ime but it's also objectively Pretty Annoying at the least & psychopathic at the worst imo

ugh seriously though read the room

(in ref: to DJPs Montreal tale)

so my pride activities have been VERY quiet. easing into this summer pretty slowly. a lotta people in ny recently saw kylie in concert - i guess she's taken over the summer huh? thoughts on padam padam?? i'm a little less gagged than everyone else.

haha. i like it. the older i get the less discerning i am, maybe.

it makes hooking up sound exciting again imo

fair point. i like it too!! i'm just a little confused why her voice sounds like she's singing through a soup can in a nyc tunnel. but other than that i'm in!

also the heartbeat thing. when it feels like we're all just information and economic status receptacles, it's a nice reminder that we're alive i think.

xp oh yeah, the production is weird. it's very "what us dance music sounds like right now" unfortunately.

yes the heartbeat is engaging - into that observaysh

slow summers are good. mine is fine, i'm busy and tired tbh. trying to get ahead a little bit. i might go to a leather / kink sex party this weekend. 50 / 50 odds tbh.

oh fun! do you think you'll partake in activities?

also related q - how much of a turnoff is a manscaping accident? like i accidentally went way too short lol and the lines are a bit off. oops!