stfu octobeard
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 15 February 2023 01:35 (one year ago) link
(I assumed octobeard was using the word positively, by contrasting it with the alternate attitude…)
― more crankable (sic), Wednesday, 15 February 2023 02:10 (one year ago) link
Slut was a bad choice of words in this context. I only meant it in a sex positive way. Replace "slut" with "sexual freedom"
― octobeard, Wednesday, 15 February 2023 02:26 (one year ago) link
Honestly I only ever use that word in a positive way, but ... this is internet. And context, clarity and intent are more important these days when choosing your words.
― octobeard, Wednesday, 15 February 2023 02:29 (one year ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYZYSIl9OL0
― serif don't like it (rock the typeface) (Ye Mad Puffin), Wednesday, 15 February 2023 02:39 (one year ago) link
^ pretty much the only instance I can countenance of using that word in a positive way - the singer applies it to himself with a generous coating of English irony.
I don't think most of us can get away with it, so it is best avoided. But I do think there is some leeway for a self-deprecating usage. Please don't apply it to others without an atmosphere of consent, thxbye
― serif don't like it (rock the typeface) (Ye Mad Puffin), Wednesday, 15 February 2023 02:50 (one year ago) link
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ethical_Slut
― Beautiful Bean Footage Fetishist (Old Lunch), Wednesday, 15 February 2023 02:55 (one year ago) link
Yes, totally get that. My causal, intimate lexicon I use with my partner and friends accidentally bled into ILX, and for that I apologize.
― octobeard, Wednesday, 15 February 2023 03:04 (one year ago) link
Yes, that book is a fav! And its definition of the word is the one I use when I, or the people in my life say it. It was probably front of mind today as I was reading this amusing bio of some local supper club chefs on the rise using the word freely and humorously to describe their food.
― octobeard, Wednesday, 15 February 2023 03:09 (one year ago) link
Yeah, I was also under the impression that "slut" had been reclaimed and self-applied by people who fuck a lot. Surprised to see a backlash on ilx of all places.
― peace, man, Wednesday, 15 February 2023 09:55 (one year ago) link
I'm sorry, octobeard, for my hysteria.
― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 15 February 2023 10:31 (one year ago) link
― here you go, muttonchops Yaz (gyac), Wednesday, 15 February 2023 10:38 (one year ago) link
((octobeard’s post also was not gendered overall, and cis dudes have been a prominent part of the discourse being addressed, especially today, afaict [from scrolling on the train]))
― more crankable (sic), Wednesday, 15 February 2023 11:57 (one year ago) link
Thank you for reminding me to think of the men and that describing a woman as a prude who’s probably a secret slut is actually fine, it’s been a very educational week for me ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
― here you go, muttonchops Yaz (gyac), Wednesday, 15 February 2023 12:53 (one year ago) link
https://i.imgur.com/4YHoEFe.jpg
― more crankable (sic), Friday, 17 February 2023 05:56 (one year ago) link