Sex in movies: conventions, tropes, and educational moments

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JejtHRn9R7g

Surprised that sic has never heard of film execs asking for a romantic hook to be inserted into a story to make it more sellable, it's an incredibly common trope.

tbfttm I didn't say "film" or "common"

I'm still convinced most extreme prudes, especially the woman repulsed by actors kissing, are serious poly desiring sluts deep down, but can't get over their childhood indoctrinated guilt to live their life the way they want to.

"sluts"... really?

stfu octobeard

(I assumed octobeard was using the word positively, by contrasting it with the alternate attitude…)

Slut was a bad choice of words in this context. I only meant it in a sex positive way. Replace "slut" with "sexual freedom"

Honestly I only ever use that word in a positive way, but ... this is internet. And context, clarity and intent are more important these days when choosing your words.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYZYSIl9OL0

^ pretty much the only instance I can countenance of using that word in a positive way - the singer applies it to himself with a generous coating of English irony.

I don't think most of us can get away with it, so it is best avoided. But I do think there is some leeway for a self-deprecating usage. Please don't apply it to others without an atmosphere of consent, thxbye

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ethical_Slut

Yes, totally get that. My causal, intimate lexicon I use with my partner and friends accidentally bled into ILX, and for that I apologize.

Yes, that book is a fav! And its definition of the word is the one I use when I, or the people in my life say it. It was probably front of mind today as I was reading this amusing bio of some local supper club chefs on the rise using the word freely and humorously to describe their food.

Yeah, I was also under the impression that "slut" had been reclaimed and self-applied by people who fuck a lot. Surprised to see a backlash on ilx of all places.

I'm sorry, octobeard, for my hysteria.

Yeah, I was also under the impression that "slut" had been reclaimed and self-applied by people who fuck a lot. Surprised to see a backlash on ilx of all places.

((octobeard’s post also was not gendered overall, and cis dudes have been a prominent part of the discourse being addressed, especially today, afaict [from scrolling on the train]))

Thank you for reminding me to think of the men and that describing a woman as a prude who’s probably a secret slut is actually fine, it’s been a very educational week for me ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

https://i.imgur.com/4YHoEFe.jpg