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when i'm dancing with my straight friends

awww look at those straight people

ok i had to laugh at the fb friend whose costume was a "spirit halloween costume" template printed out as a giant card they're wearing

Had sex with my husband this morning, rolled over and said “Now let’s vote.”

Yeah, because all your gay friends wouldn't go https://t.co/oAV3dl1eyV

— extremely hardcore naomi (parody) (@H0NEYRIVER) November 17, 2022

Had sex with my husband this morning, rolled over and said “Now let’s vote.”

― ex-McKinsey wonk who looks like a human version of a rat (Eric H.)

Wish Morbs were here to see this

So would he, if memory serves

the taylor swift tweet on the other head i wouldn't wish on him

I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, tbh

I miss Morbs’ sense of humor … and that he had one

"At least two people inside the club confronted and fought the gunman and prevented further violence, Vasquez said. “We owe them a great debt of thanks,” he said."

mfer was 22 years old.

i've been to club q, once. it was the second to last day of a week i had to spend in colorado springs attending an antiquarian books seminar. i took an uber out there. i remember black and white checkered decor. friendly people. there was a bathhouse attached to it, pretty bare bones but charming. i had a great time. played hooky the next day. my best memory of the whole week by far. a little oasis stuck in the futuristic lower case sans serif gay 2000s and perfect for it. colorado springs is such a horrible place overall, has to be one of the worst cities in the u.s. that bar was really the only gay bar in the city iirc. what a nightmare.

how conservative is Colorado Springs, map?

i mean, i don't have numbers and i haven't checked recently, but it's the ultimate armed forces town with a whole mess of defense contractors and so forth. there's literally nowhere good to eat in the city. the whole place is basically a run-down suburb. the city itself outlawed recreational weed, you have to buy it 30 miles outside of town.

wyd

Popping Advil for monkeypox vax-induced chills.

:| feel better soon

i'm in a meeting

calling in sick in a few, air quality got me feeling crappy

I’m about to go into a meeting

HI

jesus fuck i've missed you all

i'll skip the update on my life and just say - love the invocation of Morbs above, and lovely to catch up on some stories.

how are the meetings? i'm on a hybrid schedule now so there are a lot of meetings with my kitchen blurred in the background happening. i look pretty cute on camera though, i think because it blurs my features slightly so i'm ok with it.

o also it's so funny to see the community finally catching up to my k + caps microdose therapies. who knows if they're working but sometimes it's nice.

I'm going to sell my Jeep (because I can't afford it) and attempt to live a year without a car (except the one my husband owns)

well that should be fine, right? what does your hubby own?

that's sad about your jeep though, i'm sorry :(

meh, I liked it a lot but it's not going to break my heart at all ... not much of a car person tbh. My husband's car is a Beemer

not a fan of cars either.

i griped to my partner about how much i hate salt lake city and utah for the millionth time last night and it sounds like Project Move Out of Utah will be moving forward at the beginning of the year, with a 1.5 year eta instead of 5 years. potential destinations include colorado and oregon.

My husband just signed a contract so we're stuck in Minny for another 3 years at least

i still don't have a driver's license. my permit's still good until late january but i haven't been behind the wheel in months and tbh i'm not really feeling up to practicing rn. i find driving kind of terrifying but i also feel a little silly that literal 17-year-olds can drive with confidence and i can't.

it's ok! if you don't absolutely have to have it, why bother? my 50 year old partner hates driving and is very nervous about it, he can do it if he has to but would much rather not. i've always been a confident driver but have become very tired of and frayed by it over the past few years. people are psycho death machines out there and i feel like it's gotten significantly worse since the pandemic. i would like to live in a city where driving would be unnecessary but feel like maybe a small-to-medium sized city is a better fit for our preferred pace and it's harder to thrive in those places without a car generally speaking, at least in the western u.s.

xp to eric h. are you happy with minneapolis?

I'm from here originally; maybe just a midlife wanderlust crisis

T and I both love driving, but I drive a majority of the time because I grew up in the area where we live so know how to get everywhere without looking at a phone.

In case anyone has free time this afternoon, I'll be reading some poems (about anal) at the end of this event, which is a conversation between the director of Visual AIDS and Ted Kerr, an artist and AIDS activist. https://brooklynrail.org/events/2022/12/08/visual-aids/

(It is happening now)

i don't think i've been to a party where i wasn't djing since maybe before the pandemic, maybe longer than that? when i quit drinking i basically quit going out because being social in a group setting was too difficult. we went to a joint birthday party last night at a house downtown owned by someone my husband dated many years ago and still has a little crush on. it was a little awkward because of that and because a lot of the people who were going to my sunday tea dance over the summer were there. with almost all of them i made some noise about wanting to get together and then just kinda ghosting and ignoring them. one guy's name i forgot and asked whereupon he scowled at me, playfully i hope. one couple we had agreed to have a play date with, we've been out to dinner with a few times, but now we're realizing we don't have any chemistry with them so i guess that's just going to be awkward now.

anyway, in spite of all that furtive anxious energy and feeling like a weird scraggly boo radley, it was pretty enjoyable. i had the handsomest fellow give me doe eyes whereupon i immediately froze like a deer in headlights and made a beeline for the porch outside. there was a drag show to watch and i had one good conversation. an old friend showed up with a new boyfriend, it was warm and then weird. we were only there for an hour. i gotta start forcing myself to do this more often or i'm not going to have any friends in my 40s.

this morning i had a really hot rendezvous with a big meaty batch of muscles from the gym. he hit me up for it, gratefully, i'm glad i was able to attract him. great energy, lots of talent in bed, husband material for a go-getter but a personality i can only take limited amounts of and i'm happy with my goofy beautiful husband who i have a deep and basic love for. feeling really happy i can have both as i start consuming only clear liquids the day before my first colonoscopy.

omg what a packed post! listen it sounds like you're properly living.

also I don't think it has to be awkward with that couple, I mean shit happens - like all the time. I've learned the hard way that you know what - you survive awkward. ya just do.

:)))))

thanks swen! haha i was autotyping because i was hungry i think?

how i see this time of year is that we have a little over a week and a half and i get the wonderful gift of no more christmas music, but i hope you all are doing your best you as we slide into the solstice!

i meannnnnnn

my best might be a stretch but i am being creative in my spare time which was not the story for a hot minute

lmme ask u - push ups v bench press?

i love the bench press

the realest thing to do laid out on your stomach imo is https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bhujangasana or https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dhanurasana

omg i do that!!!!!!!

omg i do that!!!!!!!

whenever I'm done with my push-ups I get into that pose and it feels fucking amazing

cobra pose that is

the other one i would kill myself

whenever I'm done with my push-ups I get into that pose and it feels fucking amazing

― Swen, Saturday, December 17, 2022 7:53 PM (one week ago) bookmarkflaglink

hell yeah.

honestly no shade but i will NEVER do matching xmas sweater / pyjama selfies over the holidays. yours are all cute of course!

especially djp's, you guys are hot

I used to be so effing good at Dhanurasana pose -- I will be again soon

it's a tough one, i can get halfway there. breathing in it is a real challenge for me. these days anything that helps decompress my lower spine from sitting too much is my jam.