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omg a dancer from old money

well Alfred you're a very stand up guy

highest up the ladder i’ve gotten is a CFO i think

!!!! i want to hear that story

lol it happened the first time i visited LA. way back when i had a much stronger tolerance for alcohol than i do now, i went on a solo WeHo bar crawl since I’d never really been to the area before and also didn’t know very many people in town. i had one drink each at five different bars. at bar #5 a man who was drunker than i was started aggressively flirting with me, and, well, he was handsome so i yielded. he drove (😬) us to his house in Beverly Hills where we did the deed (twice!). right as i was about to drift off to sleep he asked me if I wouldn’t mind leaving because he had to catch a flight the next day and wanted to get a good night’s sleep. this was around 2am and i was living in the valley (ie far) at the time. he gave me a couple twenties for cab fare (this was pre-rideshare) after I told him where I lived and he sent me on my way - it wasn’t enough to cover the cab ride.

he shared a first and last name with a former US president. he also absolutely couldn’t remember my name and kept calling me “trouble”, like “ooh, you’re trouble.” obviously i never saw him again after that, and they all lived happily ever after.

lol that's great

I went out with a guy a couple times years ago who'd mumble "mmm you're trouble."

right here in river city

with a capital P

he shared a first and last name with a former US president

living for this blind item!

I'm legit terrified of sex with strangers. I remember a Grindr-happy friend once expressing confusion about the act of "picking up at a bar", like he couldn't even process the idea that you might want to first converse socially with somebody you intend to be intimate with

In the early 2000s I picked up somebody in a bar in Austin who drove me back to his place, we hooked up (it was lame), and then he drove me back to where I was staying, pointing out all the fragile parts of the South Austin moraine landscape that his development company was intending to steamroll over. Me at age 23 in the passenger seat nodding as he talked about his problems with "environmental activist lobbyists" etc.

I just finished a draft on Erotica (30 years old tomorrow) and tried not to lean too hard into the terror of sex in the early '90s. But it was difficult. And I didn't succeed.

I have had sex with online hookups, but only bad and unfulfilling sex. The only fulfilling hookups I had were with people I met in bars. I met my husband at a Kink Bound in Public shoot in a bar, ffs.

I say this with love ... that tracks :)

https://www.slantmagazine.com/music/madonna-erotica-retrospective-review/

I say this with love ... that tracks :)

why does fetish footwear have to be so goddamn uncomfortable?

First line in your memoir!

Hooked up with a 21-y-old at a Halloween party on Saturday, introduced to me by my friend the host. He was pretty drunk, I mildly drunk, and we were going at it in the bathroom 20 minutes later.

that sounds fun!

oh my the queers and their halloween costumes and photos. i'm supportive fron the sidelines. i stayed home all weekend and i'll be in bed by 8:30 tonight. it's spooky season for many but it's depression season for me.

haha, anyway, alfred did you have a costume this year?

New Romantic FIU Footballer. I hope the subtle makeup isn't too subtle.

https://i.imgur.com/KOwM7dS.jpg

very handsome

today i dressed up as 'office worker on casual friday' so i could give even less of a fuck than usual

oh my the queers and their halloween costumes and photos. i'm supportive fron the sidelines. i stayed home all weekend and i'll be in bed by 8:30 tonight. it's spooky season for many but it's depression season for me.

― ꙮ (map)

I hear ya. Normally I can't stand Halloween

i do get an idea or two for a costume every year but it just seems like another project i have to do. i swear one of these years i'll just go for it. maybe i need to do mushroom / ketamine therapy and a little bit of magic queer pixie dust will rub off on me.

yesterday i had a strong image of me djing in a dress. like a nice designer dress. putting that one on the 'maybe some day when i have less baggage to carry around all the time' list too.

We were supposed to do an Airbender themed couples costume this year, but my weekend in hospital dashed those dreams— I can’t even eat any candy at the moment, on a “full liquids” diet until Friday

Negronis!

oh no, i hope you're feeling better soon

table, I hope you got my message on the other thread. Hugs.

I did, thanks Alfred and map! staying away from booze for a bit as i believe it might have been a booze-induced chowdown that caused the obstruction in the first place, but i am planning on hitting the vape for the first time since Friday, longest i’ve gone in years without weed ?!?

I'm not sure taking someone younger and more inebriated than yourself into a bathroom for sex, moments after meeting them, is the way you want that hook-up story to sound

We didn't have sex. It's fine -- we talked yesterday, we're meeting for coffee tomorrow night.

i've never really loved halloween - the pressure to think of an original/funny costume, running all over town to get the stuff you need for it, then actually executing the idea (and in my case, more likely than not doing a shitty job of it)...i know some gays treat it like it's their christmas and i'm happy for them but it's not really my thing. i'm also really ready for those spirit halloween costume memes all over IG to be over and done with lol

i agree very much with all of that, except the doing a shitty job of it, i don't think that's possible for you

i look forward to the day i can hire my own temporary costume designer to execute my halloween costume for me (must have seen one too many of those vogue look back videos today)

I'm not sure taking someone younger and more inebriated than yourself into a bathroom for sex, moments after meeting them, is the way you want that hook-up story to sound

you aren’t allowed to have drunken bathroom sex until you’re at least 22

xp yes, that was uncalled for imo.

shit, hope you're ok table and wish you a speedy recovery.

i've worn the same costume every year for the last 5 or 6 years, initially it was based of a playful yijing reading ("someone tethers his cow; the traveller's gain is the townie's disaster", no particular question). I had this great 1890's fringe jacket that i bought to flip but never got around to selling. a year later i added a hobby horse.

can we see the jacket?!

omg i love all of that xp

apropos of nothing here's a hobby horse from wikipedia

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/7/7b/Morris_dancers_Thames_at_Richmond.jpg-

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/7/7b/Morris_dancers_Thames_at_Richmond.jpg

when i'm dancing with my straight friends

awww look at those straight people

ok i had to laugh at the fb friend whose costume was a "spirit halloween costume" template printed out as a giant card they're wearing

Had sex with my husband this morning, rolled over and said “Now let’s vote.”

Yeah, because all your gay friends wouldn't go https://t.co/oAV3dl1eyV

— extremely hardcore naomi (parody) (@H0NEYRIVER) November 17, 2022

Had sex with my husband this morning, rolled over and said “Now let’s vote.”

― ex-McKinsey wonk who looks like a human version of a rat (Eric H.)

Wish Morbs were here to see this

So would he, if memory serves

the taylor swift tweet on the other head i wouldn't wish on him

I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, tbh

I miss Morbs’ sense of humor … and that he had one

"At least two people inside the club confronted and fought the gunman and prevented further violence, Vasquez said. “We owe them a great debt of thanks,” he said."