See you later
― calstars, Saturday, 25 June 2022 02:14 (one year ago) link
i had this horrific/hilarious Apatow kind of scene in my head recently where a parent is taking their baby/toddler to a public pool. after some time the parent takes the kid out of the pool and eventually recognizes the kid shit in their diaper while in the pool.
....so
― Western® with Bacon Flavor, Monday, 4 July 2022 22:29 (one year ago) link
you mean a swim diaper? idgi
― kinder, Monday, 4 July 2022 22:40 (one year ago) link
water may eventually leak out of a diaper, even a swim diaper...?
― Western® with Bacon Flavor, Monday, 4 July 2022 23:08 (one year ago) link
Yeah, they're not designed to hold water.
― kinder, Tuesday, 5 July 2022 08:17 (one year ago) link
Our 2 year old run around the house in a swim diaper yesterday.So now I've learned the messy way that they don't absorb water. Which, given a moment's thought, I probably should have known.
― Øystein, Tuesday, 5 July 2022 09:14 (one year ago) link
re: basketball: the only time i played competitively with my dad, it was horse. this worked for both of us
― flamenco drop (BradNelson), Tuesday, 5 July 2022 09:24 (one year ago) link
whenever my kids want me to scroll through the hundreds of kids shows available on any given app they say "go up!" meaning move the visible thumbnails up so we can see what's below. I always take them to mean scroll up / move the visible thumbnails down so we can see what's above. hilarity always ensues.
― dear confusion the catastrophe waitress (ledge), Saturday, 16 July 2022 13:11 (one year ago) link
repeatedly misunderstanding child’s instructions to increasing humor of parent and increasing frustration of child is an evergreen genre of parenting. It feels like surfing, I like to see how far I can push it before they completely lose all patience
― Lavator Shemmelpennick, Saturday, 16 July 2022 13:20 (one year ago) link
That reads more sadistic than it actually is, there is an element of corny “dad joke“ type humor to this dynamic as well, that I did not capture
― Lavator Shemmelpennick, Saturday, 16 July 2022 13:22 (one year ago) link
yeah, that's a good bit
― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive), Monday, 18 July 2022 13:22 (one year ago) link
4yo has been in a shitty mood all afternoon because we briefly visited a farm and 'the cows looked at me' and 'they were stupid to look at me' and 'the stupid cows shouldn't have looked at me'.(Think he was a bit scared of them, he wanted to go see a tractor but he'd have had to go past a big barn of cows and they are a bit freaky tbf)
― kinder, Wednesday, 20 July 2022 17:44 (one year ago) link
7.5 year old is really into old metal at the moment and wants to listen to Metallica and Black Sabbath whenever we ride in the car. Does NOT like Iron Maiden or Anthrax because of the "screechy" vocals, thinks Slayer is sometimes too offensive on purpose, and seems to like Mastodon but I need to play more of it.
Anyway we were at the beach the other day and he ended up building sand castles and shit with some random other kids who happened to be there and I heard him asking them "who do you like more, Tony Iommi or Randy Rhoads?" before lecturing them about how influential Black Sabbath is.
― joygoat, Wednesday, 20 July 2022 18:11 (one year ago) link
yeah, anger is often a response to some other emotion that they don't know how to deal with. I wouldn't sweat it too much, sounds like normal 4yo stuff xp
― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive), Wednesday, 20 July 2022 18:11 (one year ago) link
This is going to be one of the lamest things I have ever said (and there's a lot of competition for that), but what do you guys think of kids watching the Simpsons? It's probably too late now anyway, but my now 10yo started watching it obsessively during the pandemic, and I actually in retrospect feel kind of weird about it. There's such a deep level of cynicism and callousness to the show, especially in the post-prime seasons (which she loves for some reason). But, like, I watched it when I was her age or not much older, and likely a lot of worse shit too, so \o/
― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive), Wednesday, 20 July 2022 18:13 (one year ago) link
my parents definitely thought it was too cynical. they preferred cosby and cheers. these days when you stack it up next to something like family guy or south park or rick and morty it looks like fucking anne of green gables
― Tracer Hand, Wednesday, 20 July 2022 18:15 (one year ago) link
It's very weird and uncomfortable to actually "get it" now about why parents didn't like it back then. I feel in a weird way like it exposes her to too much too soon, like she is getting a lot of negative and cynical messages about so many different aspects of family, education, govt, etc. and it's not like there isn't some truth in those things, it's just that she's getting the cynical version before even getting the uncynical version.
― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive), Wednesday, 20 July 2022 18:16 (one year ago) link
Tried with the 8 year old and she was totally bored with the Simpsons. Said it was too weird.
― Jeff, Wednesday, 20 July 2022 18:19 (one year ago) link
Yeah my younger one finds it totally uninteresting, older one has I think literally watched every single ep available, some multiple times. I guess that sort of makes it too late for her anyway.
― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive), Wednesday, 20 July 2022 18:22 (one year ago) link
I guess on that note, Stranger Things seem alright for a 10yo? My gut says yes, it's scary but not depraved, but I only watched half the first season and that was a while ago.
― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive), Wednesday, 20 July 2022 18:23 (one year ago) link
it gets steadily scarier as the seasons progress. everybody’s different. watching with them is pretty key if you’re unsure imo.
― Tracer Hand, Wednesday, 20 July 2022 18:30 (one year ago) link
these days when you stack it up next to something like family guy or south park or rick and morty it looks like fucking anne of green gables
― Piven After Midnight (The Yellow Kid), Wednesday, 20 July 2022 18:41 (one year ago) link
Speaking of kids and music, my 12 year old just clicked with the Beach Boys. I played Pet Sounds which made a big impression and then talked to her about their relationship with the Beatles and the Smile sessions. Then played Brian Wilson’s Smile which blew her away and afterwards SHE ASKED TO HEAR THE BEACH BOYS VERSION OF HEROES AND VILLAINS SO SHE COULD COMPARE THEM
PROUD DAD PROUD DAD PROUD DAD
― Cow_Art, Thursday, 21 July 2022 01:06 (one year ago) link
#hero
― terminators of endearment (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 21 July 2022 01:21 (one year ago) link
I definitely wouldn't let a 10yo watch Stranger Things xpsThere's some pretty brutal & gory deaths across the seasons
― groovypanda, Thursday, 21 July 2022 15:52 (one year ago) link
My daughter, 11, has no interest in watching Stranger Things, but a number of people in her D&D party have seen all of it(with their parents).
― peace, man, Thursday, 21 July 2022 16:42 (one year ago) link
My daughter, 11,
The age 11, not the Stranger Things character.
― peace, man, Thursday, 21 July 2022 16:43 (one year ago) link
lol!
― kinder, Thursday, 21 July 2022 18:06 (one year ago) link
My 19-year-old wrecked the car I let him drive. It was pretty clearly his fault. Thankfully, he was not hurt, and the car is salvageable. No one else was involved. I am probably going to make him pay the insurance deductible and take a remedial driving course, but am wondering if there is anything else I can do to help him understand how he's put everyone out. Oy.
― immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Thursday, 21 July 2022 19:12 (one year ago) link
Jesus, kids and cars...
My 18-year-old just got his license last fall. He was delayed slightly due to covid, but also due to a bunch of behavior stuff around age 15-16 where his mother and I were just like "you aren't ready for a learners permit yet." In retrospect, despite passing the test, he still isn't ready for a driver's license.
Anyway, he's been working hard at a shitty job since last spring. Bought himself a used pickup the day he got his license. Crashed it in March, the week of his 18th birthday. Not hurt, but damaged someone else's property and had to pay for it. Took the truck around and found that it would cost more than it's worth to have it fixed at a professional mechanic so he decides that one of his friends, who is an amateur mechanic, will help him fix it.
Without telling us, spends $1,000-ish on a BACKUP car to drive while he's "fixing up the truck." So now we have 4 cars in our household, one just taking up space in the driveway. In early June, he skids out driving too fast on a wet road and crashes the backup car. Fortunately, no one is hurt and this car remains driveable. A week or two later, he gets pulled over doing 60 in a 45 and gets a ticket, which under the terms of the provisional license means he has to go to traffic school, and the next offense will be a suspension.
Before he has a chance to go to traffic school, he goes to senior week (every graduating senior in the state ends up in Ocean City, which must be pure hell for anyone who is not a teenager). Rents a fucking MOPED and gets into an accident on THAT. Gets tickets for operating too fast for conditions and NOT WEARING A HELMET.
So he's looking at a suspension, but we're going to a hearing to try to get him out of it so he can have a car to drive to community college in about a month.
And I still have to help him get registered for community college...
― peace, man, Thursday, 21 July 2022 19:38 (one year ago) link
sending up sanity prayers for both of you, that shit is stressful!
― terminators of endearment (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 21 July 2022 19:49 (one year ago) link
UUUUGH, reflexively/sympathetically saying WHAT WHERE YOU THINKING ?!? to myself in reaction to all that.
― Cow_Art, Thursday, 21 July 2022 19:52 (one year ago) link
plus the fear of what could have happened to them in any of those accidents! i imagine it is hard for that not to compound your reactionlike as a parent that all would be so terrifying to me
― terminators of endearment (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 21 July 2022 21:27 (one year ago) link
It is terrifying, but somehow you learn to live with it.
I console myself with the thought that I did plenty of stupid shit at that age and survived. But . . . sometimes it was just out of pure dumb luck.
― immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Thursday, 21 July 2022 21:31 (one year ago) link
My daughter, 11,The age 11, not the Stranger Things character.― peace, man, Thursday, July 21, 2022 12:43 PM (yesterday) bookmarkflaglink
― peace, man, Thursday, July 21, 2022 12:43 PM (yesterday) bookmarkflaglink
Catching up on the thread and cannot stop loling irl at this
Many xps but I think with the Simpsons, at least during the classic seasons, a lot of the more cynical stuff goes right over kids' heads. Or, they get the basic vibe of why a situation is funny but not the granular details that might lead to actual cynical beliefs about society/life/whatever. otoh, it's also possible that kids are exposed to so much more now that they are more fluent in parsing the cynicism.
Cow_Art, love that post about the Beach Boys! A Beach Boys greatest hits CD of my parents' was one of the first "adult" albums I ever took an interest in as a kid myself at age 8 or 9, though it was then another 15 years before I came back around to exploring them. I am looking forward to my kids geeking out about music but also emotionally preparing myself that it may not happen to the extent of my dreams
― Lavator Shemmelpennick, Friday, 22 July 2022 15:40 (one year ago) link
I kind of caved on Stranger Things because she has been stuck home sick for days and because she has several friends who watch it and has this really strong "wanting to feel mature" thing lately. I try to check in with her about it since I can't watch with her. I asked her not to watch the 4th series because it's not appropriate for her age, but I guess we'll see if that stops her. I've been trying to talk about some of the scary parts with her just to see how she feels about them and how she's handling them. She does kind of like dark stories so I'm not surprised it appeals to her, plus it has a strong and somewhat introverted female lead character, which I would bet she relates to.
― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive), Friday, 22 July 2022 19:41 (one year ago) link
Seeing how much grim/dark TV our daughter can tolerate is one of my favorite things. Recently we watched Puella Magi Madoka Magica, which I love and she was really in to. I don’t think we’re ready to level up to Death Note though.
― Jeff, Friday, 22 July 2022 20:20 (one year ago) link
I was pretty surprised at how unperturbed they were by the Harry Potter Movies, which they started watching at like 8 and 5 respectively
― longtime caller, first time listener (man alive), Friday, 22 July 2022 20:31 (one year ago) link
my 5 year old daughter loves Spongebob and I feel that show is a little grotesque for her
― frogbs, Friday, 22 July 2022 21:00 (one year ago) link
Oh lord I had at least 4 different kinds of car accidents between ages 16-22, one of which was hitting a deer in the dark which is the only one that was definitively not my fault. Sorry to hear things are so rocky.
― Ima Gardener (in orbit), Friday, 22 July 2022 21:51 (one year ago) link
i recommend raising raffi by keith gessen.
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― 𝔠𝔞𝔢𝔨 (caek), Monday, 8 August 2022 19:40 (one year ago) link
are we all having fun?
My favourite study of "how often does a family with small children get a respiratory infection?" is this one, from the USA: https://t.co/fepEzs4A6Q Children <5y have one of 16 common respiratory viruses detected in a nasal swab 50% of the year! pic.twitter.com/xvkTPXqyQc— Dr CJ Houldcroft 🕷️ (@DrCJ_Houldcroft) January 3, 2023
― 𝔠𝔞𝔢𝔨 (caek), Wednesday, 4 January 2023 22:46 (one year ago) link
Yep, we might not have had actual life disrupting infections for 50% of last year but it certainly seemed like it. Usually impeccably timed, our 6 yo missed her one school theatre trip and one christmas cinema trip of the year.
― ledge, Thursday, 5 January 2023 09:33 (one year ago) link
my kids have been coughing for like 3 months straight
― frogbs, Thursday, 5 January 2023 14:22 (one year ago) link
my kid has, too. super-hard to tell if her cough this morning was the remnant of an old infection or the beginning of a new one.
― horseshoe, Thursday, 5 January 2023 14:40 (one year ago) link
my 5 and a half year old has had a late night post-nasal drip cough for weeks. Totally find during the day, then every night hours into sleeping, she's coughing and sitting up for a bit.
― dan selzer, Thursday, 5 January 2023 14:51 (one year ago) link
hi horseshoe!
― Tracer Hand, Thursday, 5 January 2023 15:11 (one year ago) link
I remember our pediatrician's rule of thumb was that kids get sick 8 times a year until they're five then five times a year until they turn eight.
The first part of this was totally true but covid wrecked our data for the second part.
― joygoat, Thursday, 5 January 2023 15:34 (one year ago) link
hi Tracer!
― horseshoe, Thursday, 5 January 2023 15:36 (one year ago) link
'Welp, enjoy working at Dollar General for the rest of your life' is a thing I say now.
― The morally corrupt Faye Resnick (sunny successor), Thursday, 12 January 2023 20:14 (one year ago) link