Real love -- I'm, like, searchin' for that Queer Love -- LGBTQIA+ Love // A Thread for the Real Ones

my red state decided to make juneteenth a holiday, so i get monday off!

i'm subbing in for the saturday dj at da gay club

got all the rihanna and ariana i was missing

― the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map)

words that confuse me unneccessarily:

1. "subbing"

lol

I get Monday off too but I need to call a board member in the morning and ask for his 25k which should be fun

Awesome news, cousin Swen!

xoxoxoxoxo

hi tbh

I have an assignation on Friday with a longtime acquaintance -- we graduated college together and have several common friends without he and I ever becoming friends ourselves -- who after 20 years realized I'm hot.

you are hot!

what does he look like

He's actually a public figure -- or was. He was the boyfriend of a dude who starred in "The Real World" in the mid '90s. He's now a reporter for a major daily.

do we ever give in and spy on exes online? pretty sure i know who my last x's new boyfriend is and it's very funny.

Of course! We wouldn't be fully human if we didn't yield to pettiness.

omg lol
from public figures to Carmen Sandiego over here
an interesting time to be an ilx gay today

you don't have to be crazy to work here but it helps!

grrrrrrrl i wrote the BOOK

although recently i'm learning that apparently i present as "high functioning" lol

I know who all my exes’ partners are, but I don’t have too many exes.

most of my exes have little to no online presence. my first boyfriend (the only other really serious relationship i’ve had) got married shortly after we did, he and i don’t talk very much these days but they seem like a cute happy couple.

although recently i'm learning that apparently i present as "high functioning" lol

― Swen

oh my god do you know how totally fucked up it is that i am a high-functioning and respectable trans woman? _me_?

anyway i'm going to literally lie back down in bed and go back to sleep

i honestly wish i could be reasonable and high-minded about my breakups but they were both really traumatic ruptures. it's been a lot of years though and time heals wounds. i don't think back often any more but when i do i still experience the weird dislocated feeling of having created whole lives twice only to feel them vanish overnight without a trace.

alfred i hope your assignation with the reporter goes well. if he was boyfriend of a real world star he must be a silver fox now.

one of my exes is one of my best friends & we have a much healthier and more supportive relationship as friends than we did as partners. the other one i haven’t talked to since we broke up and he has me blocked on instagram. i get both sides

Both of my serious exes remained friends and we don’t really interact in real life any longer, tho still message each other and such on IG

My partner’s ex before I came along was/is a college professor who taught many of our younger friends, which is kind of funny

I'm friends with all my ex's, including women!

Well,, an exception for the Trekkie who gave me crabs in 2000.

won’t it be strange when we’re all fully grown

He's actually a public figure -- or was. He was the boyfriend of a dude who starred in "The Real World" in the mid '90s. He's now a reporter for a major daily.

― Malevolent Arugula (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, June 30, 2022 1:21 PM (yesterday) bookmarkflaglink

haha i know which "star" you mean but there were plural boyfriends. that was the only season of the Real World i watched, my parents canceled our cable that year.

i'm friends with all my exes pretty much, but they were mostly short-term relationships and i've had deeply traumatic 'breakups' with platonic friends that i can't seem to heal from and it's debilitating to the point that dating is completely out of the question now.

To be clear, it was "Real World -- Miami."

Oh, i know- i caught bits and pieces of the previous seasons but was a little young to really watch 'em

memba Danny from Orleans?

that soul patch though lol

hope yall are enjoying a day off

currently in a cabin in southernmost mendocino county with husband, friend and godson. leaving today to go to a county fair and then spend a night by ourselves in boulder creek. tentative plans tomorrow to see some pals, a lesbian couple whom we haven’t seen in years, then driving home. relieved to be missing the LA fireworks, they’re always kind of intense.

oh that sounds really nice. we're going out to the sticks next weekend for some r&r, it's been a few months since we've gone anywhere and i'm really looking forward to it.

sounds lovely you guys

sooooooooooo FIP is coming up in 2 weeks and it's going to be kind of weird bc i'm still coming out of the health stuff and suddenly things are firing on the boys front but i haven't been able to hook up since chemo bc, well, not cute

should be interesting!

anyone amped for bastille day? ;x)

thought i'd post this here. it's a really beautiful essay imo. most relatable to cis gay men i think so ymmv.

https://thebaffler.com/latest/dicks-pics-dark-rooms-nathan

anyone else tryna get the monkeypox vaccine? I got my first dose, another in a few weeks.

nice. how are you feeling?

local gay org person who everyone likes brought in a few hundred doses the other day. there was a line out the door and they ran out in the first few hours. my boyfriend didn't make it in time.

did not feel a thing. also got covid boosted today so feeling nice and hopped up. :D
how are you bubby?

I also just want to add in response to article linked above that my d pics are not aesthetic failures. proud of myself for bringing it all these years.

haha i'm sure they are

i'm good! it's hot af outside.

I'm hot as fuck inside.

HO

Hoe is right!!!

lol

hi gay! on my second bout of COVID two weeks before my family is flying out here to visit :) :) :)

oh no! sorry to hear it.

nooooo. are you feeling better? I've definitely had it 3 times and counting.

map i just bought myself a new wearable fan, have you ever? shaped like headphones and you wear round your neck, 2 little fans on each side. I also have a mini portable handheld. gorge.

what! that is fan-tastic