If you could pack up and move your whole life, where would you go?

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New Zealand

Gymnopédie Pablo (Neanderthal), Sunday, 29 May 2022 22:18 (one year ago) link

been saying that for the last five years

Gymnopédie Pablo (Neanderthal), Sunday, 29 May 2022 22:19 (one year ago) link

Probably would move to Amsterdam or Brussels - places that have established and long-standing culture, but also where you feel more easily connected to the rest of Europe.

The trouble with London/England is that it feels too disconnected from anywhere else and its depressing and cynical political culture seems overbearing and inescapable.

Luna Schlosser, Sunday, 29 May 2022 22:42 (one year ago) link

There are a number of places in Europe I could happily move to tomorrow, if it were feasible for the family. Planning to leave the UK as soon as I can, even if that's 15 years, too scared of gun violence/ healthcare system to ever consider moving to the US, Asia was good to me but even after a decade it wasn't home.

Portrait Of A Dissolvi Ng Drea M (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Sunday, 29 May 2022 22:55 (one year ago) link

My primary criteria would be climate (cool but no brutal winters), on the coast, lots of green.

New Zealand, Ireland, parts of France and Italy would probably top the list. Don't really care about Major Cities but being relatively close to a city would be nice.

papal hotwife (milo z), Sunday, 29 May 2022 23:02 (one year ago) link

Foggy cliffs would be good, I could spend a lot of quality time staring out into the misty void.

papal hotwife (milo z), Sunday, 29 May 2022 23:03 (one year ago) link

New Orleans or Italy

change display name (Jordan), Sunday, 29 May 2022 23:29 (one year ago) link

I’d fuck w NOLA but I bet it’s changing way too fast for me

OG Bob Sacamano (will), Sunday, 29 May 2022 23:30 (one year ago) link

...it feels too disconnected from anywhere else and its depressing and cynical political culture seems overbearing and inescapable.

― Luna Schlosser

New board description.

nickn, Sunday, 29 May 2022 23:56 (one year ago) link

I used to think Joshua Tree would be nice (I don't mind the heat) but I was there in November a few years ago and it was cold! And I figured if it's this cold in November this place must have at least 4 months of this cold. Also windy there, which would bug me after a while, I think. I'm in the LA area now, but a smaller city that fairly self-contained (Pasadena) and I really like it.

And before JT I thought the San Luis Obispo area would be great to settle down in, weather and culture-wise, but it's as expensive as LA now.

nickn, Monday, 30 May 2022 00:01 (one year ago) link

everywhere desirable in California is expensive now

Dan S, Monday, 30 May 2022 00:19 (one year ago) link

what if your main goal was to live in an inspiring place to paint, to be around painters, and to spend as little money as possible?

― Bruce Stingbean (Karl Malone),

i forgot to make my point - much more important to me than the art world is how inspiring the surrounding landscape and weather and people are

― Bruce Stingbean (Karl Malone), Sunday, May 29, 2022 12:58 PM (seven hours ago) bookmarkflaglink

(landscape very much including buildings and urban life as well as the rest)

― Bruce Stingbean (Karl Malone),

KM fwiw you remind me v much of a friend who in his middle age took up painting seriously and moved to Houston, Tx and he seems to have found exactly what you're looking for there. Currently living at Elder St. Artists' Lofts

The 25 Best Songs Ever Ranked In Order (Deflatormouse), Monday, 30 May 2022 00:19 (one year ago) link

In Houston you absolutely will need a car, or at least a bike/motorcycle.

I feel like I already live in the place I want to in the US, but I’ve fantasized about moving to Canada, Mexico, Sweden (3 friends of mine have recently moved there), Amsterdam, Barcelona, Lisbon, the south of France, and everywhere I’ve ever been in Italy

these fantasies won't come true without a spectacular effort though and I'm not willing to make that

agree with what mookieproof said: "it's pretty hard to make friends as a middle-aged person, so if you move someplace new where you don't know anyone, i think you have to have a plan to be really outgoing and ready to throw yourself into strange situations. and if you're not ready to do that, you're better off being someplace where you already have friends"

Dan S, Monday, 30 May 2022 00:39 (one year ago) link

also Houston is a godforsaken malarial swamp

papal hotwife (milo z), Monday, 30 May 2022 00:39 (one year ago) link

Anyway we discussed it years ago and this friend's answer to your question at the time following p much the same criteria was Guanajuato, Mexico

The 25 Best Songs Ever Ranked In Order (Deflatormouse), Monday, 30 May 2022 00:56 (one year ago) link

a really interesting city, also nearby are San Miguel de Allende, my favorite place in Mexico and very much an artist's town, León, and Queretéro

Dan S, Monday, 30 May 2022 01:06 (one year ago) link

Querétaro, sorry

Dan S, Monday, 30 May 2022 01:07 (one year ago) link

co-sign San Miguel

OG Bob Sacamano (will), Monday, 30 May 2022 01:09 (one year ago) link

I went maybe 12 years ago. Lot of expats (US and Canadian, maybe Euro?). Your Spanish doesn’t have to be on point

OG Bob Sacamano (will), Monday, 30 May 2022 01:11 (one year ago) link

My best friends moved to San Miguel temporarily in 2019 with their daughter, my goddaughter, so it is a special place to me. I went there just as the pandemic was getting to be big news, in Feb/March 2020, and I remember how everyone out of fear was focused on washing their hands. Little did we know. I got back the day that SF went into lockdown. It seems like a different era now

Dan S, Monday, 30 May 2022 01:34 (one year ago) link

also remember experiencing The Day of the Dead in San Miguel in the early 90s, in my memory it felt like something from a Buñuel movie

Dan S, Monday, 30 May 2022 02:01 (one year ago) link

candles and wax flowers (an art form that is fascinating) everywhere, children in strange costumes, parades, marching bands, church bells, paper maché heads, nighttime revelry and total chaos

Dan S, Monday, 30 May 2022 02:12 (one year ago) link

I want an apartment with air conditioning and Internet access, and someone that comes in to do the cleaning that I can't get myself to do and that my husband can't do any more. I can walk places and get food so I don't have to make myself cook. I go from there to a job with steady starting and ending times where I can sit, drink tea or a soft drink and tap away on a computer. I do something on the side that people enjoy. This is pretty much it, and I doubt it will ever happen at this late date.

Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Monday, 30 May 2022 02:45 (one year ago) link

If I arranged air conditioning and a cleaner, you could swap lives with me right now.

Painters' circles that I would have liked to hang with:

Paris early 1900s through to 1920s
Chelsea 1920s/30s
Soho (UK) 1950s
Royal College of Art London late 1950s (Hockney, Kitaj, Boty etc)
New York 1960s
Shoreditch 1990s (also wd take opportunity to snap up a fine Spitalfields Hueguenot house to restore and live/work)

Would probably pass on New York 1950s (too much heavy drinking and less interested in the dominant abstract expressionist scene )

Luna Schlosser, Monday, 30 May 2022 08:13 (one year ago) link

xp what is takayama like?

Many XPs to Karl...

When I first visited Japan I was advised to go somewhere more rural along with the big cities, it was our honeymoon and a travel agent helped arrange it and suggested we visit Takayama.

It's in Gifu prefecture which is in the centre of the country, a lot of it is alpine, gets a lot of snow, and is the heart of a lot of historical culture.

We spent two days in Takayama and I've never been so burned to leave a place in my entire life, I've never experienced that before about somewhere and still can't quite explain why, it just seemed like a perfect place to live.

Anyway, we returned a few years later and made the town our base for a few days while we explored the surrounding area and it really one of my favourite places in the world.

Maresn3st, Monday, 30 May 2022 09:23 (one year ago) link

lmfao at so many of you choosing somewhere inside the confirmed dystopia that is the USA

imago, Monday, 30 May 2022 09:30 (one year ago) link

Eh, if you don't/aren't (insert qualifier here), there are plenty of places in the US where you'd probably be able to live quite pleasantly as you ride out the heat death of this great nation.

I liked Brussels a lot on a brief visit, it seemed like a very livable city, interesting and with a lot of green space and enough room even for the tourists. And I could happily drink Cantillon Kriek every day until I die of cyanide poisoning.

I have friends in Rouen, loved my time there and would love to go back, though the town itself is not particularly interesting.

I liked Bristol a lot, again on a very short visit.

Hard to argue with New Zealand, though. I've been there only once, when I was seven, so my memories are very incomplete and biased, but it really seemed like heaven.

Lily Dale, Monday, 30 May 2022 14:15 (one year ago) link

aomewhere that was not actively facilitating the replication of the novel coronavirus

Yul Brynner film festival on Channel 48... (sic), Monday, 30 May 2022 14:31 (one year ago) link

My wife and I have talked about this a lot. We're at 4 years out from both kids being out of high school, which will remove the most urgent need for us to be in East Tennessee. Don't want to move a million miles away from them either (tho obv I have no real idea where they'll end up). In the last year or so we've started talking more seriously. We travel together a lot and we always joke that we want to move to wherever was the last place we visited. But after some real consideration (Chicago -- too cold, Oaxaca -- too far), a trip to New Orleans in February settled it. It's always been one of our favorite places, my wife lived there for a few years, I have family from there and have always loved it. I agree with the above statement that there are a lot of forces at work on it, definitely not all positive, but there's still a strong New Orleans culture that's very real and ground-level. And it's just not like anywhere else in America (or anywhere — it's always seemed like a bit of a mythological port city to me). Also I feel like it's sort of eternally expecting apocalypse, and they're ahead of the rest of us in figuring out how to live with that.

So that's our current thinking. We have some time to work out the logistics.

i have a few different good friends from the old days who also made their way to new orleans and never left. i've only been a few times, but it's the american city that is the least american and will always hold a place of honor because of that

Bruce Stingbean (Karl Malone), Monday, 30 May 2022 15:52 (one year ago) link

so many of you choosing somewhere inside the confirmed dystopia that is the USA

governance in the USA is very badly broken and in many visible ways we're firmly on the path of conversion to a fascist state, without many remaining exits from that path. if it ever looks like the concentration camps for the 'internal enemies of the state' were immanent, I think my refuge of choice would be Ireland, maybe Galway, Limerick or a smaller satellite town near these. but, as I said, my roots in Oregon are very deep. only a refugee situation is likely to dislodge me.

more difficult than I look (Aimless), Monday, 30 May 2022 16:11 (one year ago) link

We have Canadian passports so were thinking of somewhere boring but pretty in BC, like Nelson

Chuck_Tatum, Monday, 30 May 2022 16:13 (one year ago) link

ha i love how many people have said nz. i would also say nz

i would also move to berlin instantly if i could, the week i spent there was one of the best of my life

flamenco drop (BradNelson), Monday, 30 May 2022 16:14 (one year ago) link

there are so many places i would like to go. i would like to be able to speak the language, though, at least to a level where i can get by. i have been duolingoing spanish so hard the last few months

Bruce Stingbean (Karl Malone), Monday, 30 May 2022 16:18 (one year ago) link

i have been talking about the fucking los zapatos verdes for so long it's starting to materialize in my dreams

Bruce Stingbean (Karl Malone), Monday, 30 May 2022 16:19 (one year ago) link

i think one of my big unresolved desires is that i desire to move to very remote place with zero people and live in a small cabin. i already did it last year for a few weeks, it was one of the best experiences of my life. but when i did that, there was a guy who owned the place who would stop by every week or so to make sure that i hadn't died, and when the water pump broke, he was everything to me. i'm worried about moving to the middle of nowhere with nothing but an ancient time-life How to Fix your Disappointing House book, following the instructions and the thing still being broken.

so until i learn how to avoid dying from exposure and incompetence when i'm in the wilderness, i should probably stay near a supermarket

Bruce Stingbean (Karl Malone), Monday, 30 May 2022 16:23 (one year ago) link

I often consider moving back home to New Orleans but I'm not quite ready. I visited over the holidays and it was a pretty grim scene, as I had a hard time distinguishing between what was post-Ida destruction and what was just standard neglect and deterioration (of the city and my family). If you're moving from somewhere rural/red then you're probably already inured to covidiocy/trumpism but otherwise it can be a very frustrating experience. I still miss the place dearly. If anyone does plan on moving there and is looking to get a handle on the city's corrupt politics I'd recommend following @skooks on twitter.

Chyiv Kyiv (Fetchboy), Monday, 30 May 2022 16:25 (one year ago) link

It's a slogan I know but I basically believe it -- nothing much about your existence is going to change as a result of changing your physical location

― Guayaquil (eephus!), Sunday, May 29, 2022 12:43 PM (yesterday)

uhhhh ... I'm going to assume that this was meant in the context of Karl (a cis-white dude) wanting to move somewhere and not really a universal "your," where other people would experience significant changes related to racism, homophobia, transphobia, the right to get an abortion, general acceptance and tolerance of "otherness" ... and have moved for those reasons?

sarahell, Monday, 30 May 2022 16:39 (one year ago) link

Oh yeah, I know just enough about New Orleans to expect dysfunction, poverty, racism, violence. On the other hand we hear gunshots in our Knoxville neighborhood all the time and I’m surrounded by check-cashing places and opiate addicts living by the creeks, so … I have a reasonable tolerance for urban dystopia. But New Orleans also has a lot to counter all of that.

KM you could move to Fairbanks and live in a cabin that feels remote but is actually within a twenty-minute drive to a supermarket.

Lily Dale, Monday, 30 May 2022 16:44 (one year ago) link

I’ve wanted to move to New Orleans since my first visit in 1988, but I realize moving to a place I’ve only
visited for a week at a time (albeit many, many times) is probably a pipe dream. I’d like at least spend a few months/half a year there to start. But yeah, the decay mixed with the gentrification both give me pause. Plus, my wife’s dream move is the north shore of Minnesota, so we’re definitely at odds there!

Three Rings for the Elven Bishop (Dan Peterson), Monday, 30 May 2022 16:49 (one year ago) link

that does sound intriguing, lily! and i have often dreamed of living in a really cold place, for a while. but honestly i think i would like to move somewhere that is not cold, for once. i'm in STL now, the warmest place i've lived in a while, and it was nice when the snow came and everyone was freaking out about it, and i thought it was a mild and disappointing snow.

moving to warmer climes gives you a temporary boost of wellbeing compared to where you recently lived. you get to take your coat off a month before anyone else, it's amazing. it's similar in some respects to moving from a place with a high cost of living to one with a relatively low one. your monopoly money from the previous city is worth more, at this other one.

in other words, the trick might be to start at the coldest, most expensive place in the world, and as you live, gradually slide down to drinking water on the equator

Bruce Stingbean (Karl Malone), Monday, 30 May 2022 16:56 (one year ago) link

I hope I’m wrong but I keep waiting for like Disney to swoop in and just buy the entire Quarter and turn it into an Epcot version, mouse ear silhouettes everywhere. The real estate prices are way out of wack with average salaries. And the state/ local politics there are beyond fucked. But even so, if I thought my gf could stand a summer there it would be at the top of my list in the US.

OG Bob Sacamano (will), Monday, 30 May 2022 17:00 (one year ago) link

xp idk moving from somewhere where it was on average 90 degrees every day all summer (no air conditioning) to somewhere where it was on average 70 degrees ... the ability to wear a sweater or ... any clothing for that matter and not be uncomfortably hot and sweaty and gross ... that was a great boost of well-being

sarahell, Monday, 30 May 2022 17:04 (one year ago) link

lmfao at so many of you choosing somewhere inside the confirmed dystopia that is the USA

it might be shocking to you but there aren't many places left to live outside the US that aren't headed towards dystopia either. and leaving the country is also massively expensive.

Gymnopédie Pablo (Neanderthal), Monday, 30 May 2022 17:12 (one year ago) link

idk maybe could we keep 'destination shaming' out of the thread

Gymnopédie Pablo (Neanderthal), Monday, 30 May 2022 17:12 (one year ago) link

i think some of us Americans are just being practical in terms of relocation costs and "would we legally be allowed to be residents and work there" ... I could totally fantasize about chilling on a gorgeous beach eating & drinking dope-ass food in the South of France, but ... the French government would probably deport my American ass after a short while idk

sarahell, Monday, 30 May 2022 17:25 (one year ago) link

Bulgaria has nice beaches and also cats ... I know a few words and phrases of Bulgarian

sarahell, Monday, 30 May 2022 17:27 (one year ago) link

if you don't want to be a citizen and you're employable there are plenty of options in europe. not necessarily easy/good options, especially if you have a family.

I recently read that Estonia is actively seeking expats. They have what's called a "digital nomad visa". I've seen pictures of Estonia; it's pretty. A guy I know, originally from NYC, lives on an island there now.

but also fuck you (unperson), Tuesday, 28 June 2022 19:25 (one year ago) link

*immigrants

Osama bin Chinese (gyac), Tuesday, 28 June 2022 19:29 (one year ago) link

(xp) I imagine it's fine if you don't mind Putin breathing down your neck.

Eavis Has Left the Building (Tom D.), Tuesday, 28 June 2022 19:33 (one year ago) link

Southern California, at least until it runs out of water.

immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Tuesday, 28 June 2022 19:38 (one year ago) link

I like the Estonian PM.. but it's a pretty tiny country, like 1.5 million or something

Andy the Grasshopper, Tuesday, 28 June 2022 19:42 (one year ago) link

I have an American born-and-raised friend with Estonian citizenship because a grand or great grandparent grew up there; her two children (also born in the US) also have it but her husband does not. They’re apparently pretty open based on family lineage due to having so few people.

This family’s lived there on sabbaticals and fullbrights for extended periods on two occasions now but he actually got deported last month due to some visa screw up. So they’re not just taking everyone and I don’t think it’s trivial for him to actually get citizenship there despite being married to one but long term residency might be easier.

joygoat, Tuesday, 28 June 2022 20:03 (one year ago) link

I’d be a brain in a vat thinking it’s seeing Husker Du at Goofy’s Upper Deck…forever.

Antifa Sandwich Artist (Boring, Maryland), Tuesday, 28 June 2022 22:30 (one year ago) link

Was very disappointed to find out that I would have qualified for Canadian citizenship via my grandmother (native, so my dad would have been automatically eligible) if I had applied before 2009.

papal hotwife (milo z), Tuesday, 28 June 2022 22:37 (one year ago) link

I'd like to say a medium-sized island in the finland archipelago but as a californian I would probably wimp out on the brutal winders, oh well

Andy the Grasshopper, Tuesday, 28 June 2022 23:05 (one year ago) link

last i checked, my own best chance for eu citizenship would involve (somehow) accessing a mess of birth & marriage certs going back a century, getting them professionally translated into italiano, explaining the part about the bigamy and aliases, and accidentally dropping generous bribes on a lot of desks

bule bulak oying (cat), Tuesday, 28 June 2022 23:17 (one year ago) link

It would have been cool to early gotten some nice land around Taylorsville lake area, somewhat in driving distance to Louisville for work before the money hit town. It's really nice there and will be getting completely transformed into a big money house place especially with the new Ford electric plant.

I like to think I could hang with a place with more winter, but I don't know that it is reality unless I got a snow blower.

The Artist formerly known as Earlnash, Wednesday, 29 June 2022 01:06 (one year ago) link

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xyzzzz__, Wednesday, 6 July 2022 10:02 (one year ago) link

xp some family friends actually packed up and moved over to that exact city in Portugal. went to visit them in February and it looked like Portugal's version of the French Riviera.

I have no idea what the Austrian immigration options are but I've really enjoyed the time I've spent in Vienna. Good walking city with lots of public transportation.

Western® with Bacon Flavor, Wednesday, 6 July 2022 11:10 (one year ago) link

New Zealand

spacedaddy, Wednesday, 13 July 2022 07:04 (one year ago) link


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