Innocuous things that make you irrationally embarrassed

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God, I used to hate going to the hairdressers. I had a stammer that was much more pronounced when I was a kid and the hairdressers was the perfect arena to intensify it: small talk, social anxieties with strangers, earnest young women, the strong sense of being isolated and observed. My issue was always 'W's and I could sit there for minutes at a time, blushing furiously, with a 'where/why' question stuck like a pebble in the antechamber of my mouth. I have a clear memory of being about 14, sitting in the chair with the little cloth cape around my neck, the hairdresser, a whirl of skin and perfume right there right there and my mum pressing a pound into my hand saying loudly 'give this to the lady'. The burning hole of shame is as fresh and livid as if it was yesterday.

So yeah, I grew my hair after that and got it cut professionally maybe twice? I skinned it in my mid-30s and now it's once a week, clippers with the guard off. I use a mirror for the front and my hands and ears to check the back.

Vanishing Point (Chinaski), Tuesday, 24 May 2022 19:41 (four months ago) link

whew chinaski that sounds awful. i have my complaints about barbers but didn't realize the extent to which they make so many people uncomfortable.

i went back to the "new guy" i found and he's perfect, the place is perfect. online appointments. music playing overhead is not great but not loud and ignorable. no small talk. he did a fantastic job on my beard trim / shave and used like 5 different products that smelled like cement but in a good way. when he did talk it was about what he was doing and he was very accurate in his questions / descriptions. pricey but worth it, somewhat reasonable for just the trim. why i'm posting this here i have no idea.

the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Tuesday, 24 May 2022 23:38 (four months ago) link

i guess i've gotten into the shave part and the hot towel and mini spa treatment, it's nice.

the cat needs to start paying for its own cbd (map), Tuesday, 24 May 2022 23:39 (four months ago) link

Oh, I love getting a barbershop shave. It is like a mini spa treatment. They always do a much better job than I ever do, and it feels damn good.

immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Wednesday, 25 May 2022 00:43 (four months ago) link

two weeks pass...

I got a haircut yesterday. I paid way too much and the haircut was not what I asked for but the conversation was really good.

brimstead, Tuesday, 14 June 2022 19:51 (three months ago) link

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