Lucky for you, I got all these daddy issues: Queer Summer, 2021 (LGBTQQIAAP+++)

thanks deflatormouse! the weed is good, i got some very nice microdosable 1:1 cbd/thc gummies and a decent vape cartridge.

Thanks map. Tbh don't know when I'll ever be there, but I do appreciate the offer. Likewise to you, if you're ever in Philly.

(And all of you, duh. Just need a heads-up, and you have to be okay with dogs and two sloppy gay men being crazy around you)

never tried that! i started smoking again in very small quantities during the pandemic after quitting several years ago. it affects me very differently now and i only seem to enjoy it when also drinking. otherwise, the smallest amount gives me the fear :(

xxp

you have to be okay with dogs and two sloppy gay men being crazy around you

^^that sounds great! who wouldn't want that??

Well, let's just we're not the cleanest people.

i haven't cleaned the toilets in weeks though i pour a little bleach in every once in a while to cut the smell.

i never fold laundry. i take it from the dirty pile on the floor, wash it, put it in the clean pile on the floor.

omg

lol

i just spent a $135 on dry cleaning. but differences realllllly do make the world go around. i would hate me if i were another person. 100% on the place to stay in Brooklyn btw.

that waitress story though. so, funny thing - "incredible waitress". it's just a great thing to say, and think. it happened to me the other night when i was out with a girlfriend. i was like - that waitress is incredible. my friend was like she literally just smiled at you and took your order. i was like yea and i guess you were probably pretty used to that growing up as a gorgeous straight white lady. i cannot hold my tongue in situations like that. wd prolly get beat up quick in CO

i plan on being baked all wknd btw hope yall can join in on the fun. movie recs pls. i v been wanting to watch dazed and confused lol.

have 2 films I'm currently in the middle of - Only Lovers Left Alive and The Holiday

it's Practical Magic time of year as well weeeee how's everyone's weekend?

I hope you mean the Cary Grant/Katherine Hepburn Holiday!

spent the last few days in big bear

o my gosh no i'll add it to the list! xp

ugh i was having the best morning, y'all, and then i was about to go for my favorite bike ride and i had a flat— a pinprick puncture, very difficult to keep track of, and by the time I'd done everything I need to do, I didn't have time for the ride anymore.. :-(

nooooooo. that's so annoying! what are you going to do to make yourself feel better with your day?

Get baked and listen to nice music while I work, seems like!

lol

listening to this one in anticipation of the LOW poll. am i the only queer who adores LOW?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mYhIcT1nFsw

me!! had been an on-and-off fan starting with ‘secret name’, then ‘double negative’ made me reevaluate their whole back catalog and am now a permanently-on fan

i used to be but i'm just not feeling em these days.

i've posted about this before but i have baggage re: mormonism and this band that makes it hard for me to respond to their music at this stage in my life with anything other than an eye roll. it makes me happy that other people get a lot out of their music though, we all need that.

i do still love "sunflowers" though

i used to be but i'm just not feeling em these days.

Same, although I always like two-step and a few others.

I'd loved them long before I knew they were Mormons, and tbh, I just don't care. But I wasn't raised in the church, so it's easy for me to say such a thing.

your day sounds great T
I'm trying to make edibles my regular jam as opposed to flower
it's a work in progress

(can't beat flower for making music though)

I use a vape pen of a light sativa hybrid during the day and switch to straight hi-thc indica in the evening.

did i tell you guys about my crazy THC overdose situation early in the pandemic? last may i was having several nights straight of bad/no sleep and my husband suggested i try this THC oil that he had gotten from a dispensary. we both ended up taking some that night, the same dosage each, sublingually, except i'm a lightweight and i woke up in the middle of the night giggling my head off because i was SUPER stoned. like, higher than i'd ever been in my entire life probably. it was fun for about five minutes and then it swiftly became extremely not-fun. i kept having to get up to go to the bathroom (steadying myself along the wall as i went because i felt so woozy/disoriented) in order to drink water to counteract the dry mouth - like four or five glasses at a time, and then i'd feel parched again fifteen minutes later. i then somehow managed to convince myself that i'd choke on my own tongue if i fell asleep (???) and i started panicking. woke my husband up (he had none of these issues and fell asleep promptly) and i made him hold me and calm me down and then maybe after an hour or so i eventually fell asleep. good stuff!

anyway, w33d remains a once-in-a-while thing for me. been doing a lot of reading about vitamins/micronutrients lately. i've started taking magnesium glycinate pills before bed and i think they've helped with sleeping, plus i feel a lot less groggy in the morning when i take them.

the pandemic turned me into someone who had weed around but didn't use all that much all that often into someone who has a medical card, a vape pen, and several methods for smoking flower, including a bong shaped like a dick that Theo made me.

woke my husband up (he had none of these issues and fell asleep promptly) and i made him hold me and calm me down

awww this is what husbands are for lmao <3

and kitties tbqfh

had a bad day at work where my supervisor made a decision for me about some stupid nit-picky little thing that doesn't make any sense and said she was "pulling rank" :((((((

ew

who says that

clearly anyone who says she's pulling rank doesn't have much rank to pull. doesn't sound like a good human day for her.

DONNA - that is terrifying! i've had some horrible experiences involving too much weed but i don't think anything that bad. geez. you made it <3

my weed smoking hit its peak during the pandemic… spending like $400/m. then i quit for two months and now only smoke socially, don’t have it in the house. i still haven’t completely rewired my brain to not want it after a long day or on a rainy weekend afternoon but i get by

i will say I'm not sure it's done any wonders for my short term memory. have absolutely no idea why I walk from room to room half the time.

ugh i was having the best morning, y'all, and then i was about to go for my favorite bike ride and i had a flat— a pinprick puncture, very difficult to keep track of, and by the time I'd done everything I need to do, I didn't have time for the ride anymore.. :-(

― I'm a sovereign jizz citizen (the table is the table), Monday, October 25, 2021 12:20 PM (yesterday) bookmarkflaglink

I got puncture-proof tires from Firehouse (above Satellite) and have never looked back. One's a Gatorskin and the other's some other brand I don't remember bcz I got them several years apart but I've had the Gatorskin for like 5 years without a single flat. They're pricey but worth it in the long term imo.

gay sex is gonna be in my life this year, after about 20 years. been talking out non-monogamy w/ my partner over the pandemic and it's going really well. i'm so excited tbh. when i was last with guys i was a teenager and i didn't know who the fuck i was, sexually, emotionally, in any regard really lol

look at you!

i know! i am proud tbh. i want it all

I know it isn’t for everyone, but I heartily endorse exploring non-monogamy! It’s improved many aspects of my life in the five years I’ve been practicing it. My pandemic would have been so much worse without my metamour in the picture!

Oh, metamouuuurrrrrr
Expanded my heart
now I'm achin' for youuuuu

LOVE these posts. marcos that's so exciting!! nicole how wonderful <3 yay options!

We've been happily non-monogamous since 1985, with very few problems along the way (I mean, there's always scope to act like a dick, and sometimes that's inevitably happened on both sides, but with no lasting damage done, and the good times have vastly outnumbered the bad). The same level of trust is required as for monogamy: instead of trusting that he'll never stray, you trust him to always return. Full disclosure on both sides; prior disclosure to any potential third parties; and them's all the rules we've needed.

That said, I reached the point about eight years ago where hook-ups were no longer for me, and so I stopped. The last time it properly happened, I had a moment of clarity halfway through, and that was that. Meanwhile, his activities have now mostly reduced to a long-time shag buddy in another part of the country. So there's been an arc.

had a bad day at work where my supervisor made a decision for me about some stupid nit-picky little thing that doesn't make any sense and said she was "pulling rank" :((((((

― Linda and Jodie Rocco (map), Tuesday, October 26, 2021 12:45 AM (eighteen hours ago) bookmarkflaglink

lol that i blurted this out on this thread, but we talked about it and cleared the air.

on the non-monogomy subject, i've been talking with my boyfriend about opening things up. we played with a third once in the summer, but my boyfriend wasn't that into the guy, and the guy ended up becoming too demanding, so i guess our first foray wasn't successful. i've always liked dark rooms and cruising and that sort of thing, and my boyfriend isn't necessarily opposed to that, but i'm honestly not sure what i want. we're going to try a couple scruff profile - that way we can block the ex and look for chemistry and so forth.

Full disclosure on both sides; prior disclosure to any potential third parties;

^^this is def necessary if you're gonna be open. we had a long talk about it at first where we laid down ground rules (friends are off-limits, if we do anything with anyone we tell the other person no matter what, etc), even bought a book to guide us through the process. our openness has evolved as time has gone on; at first we were doing things with other people whenever, but right now we're at a stage where we only do things with other people if one of us is out of town. having said that, i quit using hook-up apps even before COVID struck, haven't rejoined and don't particularly want to. (i did have a finsta for a spell but have since deleted that too.)

I'm glad that hook-up apps weren't around in my heyday; they're not for me. I had Grindr for about a year, 2010 to 2011, but mostly used it to chat to my friends. It did come in useful while I was working in Manila for six weeks, when the only other social alternative was visiting the same ex-pat sports bar with my colleagues night after night. My best hook-up from that time is still a friend to this day, and he's stayed with us a few times.

We've been with friends! Hasn't been a problem!

We've had hook-ups here and there and had a regular third with a friend for a while, but nothing in a long time. I think if Covid hadn't happened, we'd probably have had a more recent conversation about opening things up, though we're still technically open. Tbh, I just really want to suck dick more often! But I'm fine with waiting, too.

Fwiw, we were friends with that regular third, and while I wouldn't say we're "not friends," let's just say that they tested our boundaries in a way that pissed us off, and we won't be inviting them back to bed any longer