You Can't Be 20: Old-Person Songs by Young People

The Church's "Almost With You", penned by a 27 year-old:

See the dust that fills your sleep
Does it always feel this chill, near the end?

'But I remember, when we were young..." - 21-year-old Ian Curtis

I'm wondering if this tendency (among boomers) was a sort of second-guessing of "never trust anyone over 30," or an attempt to forestall the criticism?

Could be. Most all of the songs I named date to the mid-late '60s; I'm guessing there was just so much happening so fast, a lot of these people felt prematurely old.

Dylan, as always, goes his own way: "I was so much older then..."

suspect the source of this tendency in the 60s was more to do with the singer/songwriters imitating 20s/30s/40s blues musicians, who also wrote old-person songs when in their twenties.

"Both Sides Now" reads to me as an older person's song, but it was released when Joni Mitchell was 25.

"Lather" by Jefferson Airplane, "Where Did My Spring Go?" by the Kinks, "Pushing Thirty" by Peter Hammill, "Remember a Day" (and maybe "See Saw") by Pink Floyd, all by writers in their 20s; but the Hammill song at least is not nostalgic but defiant about aging, so maybe not thematically in the same area?

Katie Melua's "The Closest Thing to Crazy" used to make me roll my eyes a lot:

"This is the closest thing to crazy
I have ever been
Feeling twenty-two, acting seventeen"

but today I learned it's actually a Mike Batt song lol ffs

kanye: "we wasn't supposed to make it past 25, joke's on you we're still alive"

Jacques Brel wrote “Le Moribond” (source of “Seasons in the Sun”) when he was 31 or 32.

I think he wrote quite a few old geezer songs but they're character songs so I'm not sure they count?

Mostly character songs tbf.

Fair. Hard to draw that line sometimes though.

I mean you’re probably right that Jacques Brel didn’t believe he was dying

this whole thing kinda reminds me of those Twitter threads of people in the 50's and 60's who looked like old men in their early thirties, people just seemed to age faster back then

They did, they were mostly dead before they were 70.

Yeah, I'd count a song where someone's in character as something separate. On a similar note, "Reflections" as a song certainly fits, but having been written by someone other than the singer, that, in my mind, is separate too.

I mentioned "Both Sides Now" too as a possibility: not specifically about feeling old, but it has an old-person's elegiac voice.

All songs are written in character to some degree but that's a whole other discussion

"Memories of a Rock n' Rolla" by Traffic and "Old Wild Men" by 10cc, both from the point of view of aging musicians.

"What's Up" by 4 Non Blondes

25 years and my life is still
Tryin' to get up that great big hill of hope
For a destination

"Hold On" by Alabama Shakes

Bless my heart
Bless my soul
Didn't think I'd make it to 22 years old

Simon & Garfunkel "Old Friends."

Can you imagine us
Years from today
Sharing a park bench quietly?
How terribly strange
To be seventy

And of course "When I'm Sixty-Four"

John Prine "Hello in There" and "Angel from Montgomery" both from the perspective of explicitly elderly folk.

They're both great songs, but I always found parts of the former a little awkwardly presumptuous in their pity

"Old people just grow lonesome, waiting for someone to say, 'hello in there'"

"So if you're walking down the street sometime
And spot some hollow ancient eyes
Please don't just pass 'em by and stare
As if you didn't care, say, 'Hello in there, hello'"

(he was 25 when the album came out)

Kind of interesting that R.E.M. covered "Hello in There," and also wrote "Try Not to Breathe" (a "character song" from the perspective of an elderly person).

michael stipe definitely an old soul

Also some overlap there w/scene-mates 10,000 Maniacs – Natalie Merchant was obv very interested in older people, personal histories from the early 20th Century, etc. The "Trouble Me" video even features her helping out an elderly lady, IIRC

This one's not about the lyrics, but about the way it's sung: the guy who sings "The Letter" sounds about 30 years older than the guy who sings "September Gurls"

Not that hearing aids are necessarily an olds thing, but Morrissey was sporting one from the early Smiths days, for many reasons I am sure but none to do with actual hearing loss.

The reason was Johnny Ray.

xp I see what you mean about those those John Prine lines, but I'm ok with them because they're written from the pov of a specific person who's lonely in old age.

I think Springsteen's Thunder Road also belongs here, for "you're scared and you're thinking that maybe we ain't that young anymore" and also "I know it's late, we can make it if we run."

Springsteen feels a little different to me because so many of the songs have the message/tone that even if you are 18, 20, 25 or whatever, your best days and youthful optimism are already behind you for circumstantial reasons related to your environment, class, means, etc. But Lily Dale you are more of a Springsteen scholar than I!

I think Springsteen is really good at time-stamping and age-stamping all his songs; you can often tell exactly what age everyone is. But I think Thunder Road captures that feeling of having turned 25 or 26 and suddenly realizing that your youth has an expiration date and starting to feel older than you are.

but yeah I agree that Springsteen often has this feeling of "I shouldn't feel this old at this age" which is a little different

Feel like John Fogerty must have written one of these.

xp agree with those thoughts Lily Dale. Another way to put the distinction is that Springsteen is actually convincing about it where some of the examples upthread end up sounding naïve and ironically childish. Like with the Neil Young examples, it's kind of an endearing quirk of Neil's that he always feels like his best days are behind him. Whereas Bruce sells it that for these song characters, their best days actually are behind them

or yeah that it's a deeper more existential feeling anyway

Not sure if the Incredible String Band's "Way Back in the 1960s" qualifies. Robin Williamson was 23 when he wrote it but it's set in the future - in fact he says he's 91 in it, which places it around 2034!

shook ones

Bob Dylan is an interesting one; he's sort of ageless when he's in his twenties, but then when he hits his mid-fifties, with Time Out of Mind, he seems to fast-forward to old age and stay there.

Different thing, but I've always loved that Bob Seger released an album called Back in '72 in January 1973.

Feel like John Fogerty must have written one of these.

I feel like “Lodi” fits, even though there’s no mention of age or aging.

adele "when we were young"

First thing I remember
Was asking Papa, "Why?"
For there were many things I didn't know
And Daddy always smiled
Took me by the hand
Saying, "Someday you'll understand"

Well, I'm here to tell you now
each and every mother's son
You better learn it fast, you better learn it young
'Cause someday never comes

John Fogerty, age 28

I missed a better thread title, also from "Sugar Mountain": Leavin' There Too Soon.

Rod Stewart's "Gasoline Alley"--Stewart was 25--may belong. And "Help" is another obvious Beatles example ("When I was younger, so much younger than today").

MGMT: "Kids" (written in college, IIRC)

Pulp: "Help The Aged" (although Cocker was in his mid-30s when he wrote it)

The Cure fits this thread. Robert Smith was 22 when "Primary" came out. "Further we go / And older we grow / The more we know / The less we show"

I've also read that much of the <i>Disintegration</i> album was written in response to turning 30.

Would Taylor Swift's "Fifteen" fit in here, in that she's writing (at 18) in the voice of someone old enough to look back on 15 as the distant past?

i feel like songs in this category must get quoted a lot in high school yearbooks.

^^Speaking of..."Truckin'"!

(xpost) I quoted "Cortez the Killer" in mine, and that kind of fits.

Kate Bush wrote “wuthering heights” when she was 18. Overall lyrics, music style and the fact that it’s based on a book from 1847 would have made me think Kate Bush was an old lady if I didn’t know better.

True story: On New Year's Eve of maybe 1990 I was on the roof of the John F. Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts with some friends.

Someone started singing "Still Crazy After All These Years." Most of us were twenty or so.

The oldest person among us (who may have been, yikes, and 22) said to stop it, because "all these years" should be reserved for older persons with longer shared histories.

Okay, point taken, but Paul Simon was probably or 32 when he wrote that line

Yeah, but I bet those people are a lot crazier today

idk y'all, everyone has a past. does a 30 year old former child star get to feel old? i'd say yeah, myself.

absolute king of the young old men has to be orson welles though, right? not a song per se, but him doing "hearts of age" at 19...

i read a lot of the songs upthread about being "old" as just depression. or trauma. like, having a friend die, that'll make you feel old.

i think sometimes about dylan's "so much older than" and mitchell's "both sides now" - there aren't in fact two sides, but it's easy for me to fall into thinking that way.

this whole thing kinda reminds me of those Twitter threads of people in the 50's and 60's who looked like old men in their early thirties, people just seemed to age faster back then

― frogbs

i got a picture of me at age 22 where i look twice that age. i look like i'm about to yell at some kids to tell them to get off my lawn. then i got a picture of me actually _at_ about twice that age, and i look, god, i look at least 60 in that one.

i got no idea how old i look now. i got no idea how old i _am_ now. i mean, i can give you a number. i can give you a couple of numbers. i went to a friend's birthday party a couple months ago. she was turning five. she's looking forward to retiring - she's eligible this year.

Most all of the songs I named date to the mid-late '60s; I'm guessing there was just so much happening so fast, a lot of these people felt prematurely old.

― clemenza

that's the thing, right? it gets graded on a curve. if i hang out with people my age, they don't see me as old, but mostly i don't hang out with people my age. the people i hang out with are younger than me _and getting younger_. transfem HRT will knock ten years off your age over the course of two years or so. do things change fast around me? fuck yes, things change fast. when it comes to transition, two years is a generation. i'm more than four years in and i've started aging forward again. candy darling was 29 when she died, "bored by everything. You might say bored to death." how old does she look in that famous picture?

I did not know the song "Class of '57" but I am picturing Charlotte as Charlotte from Sex and the City.

Sort of reminds me of my favorite Dylan line, "some are mathematicians, some are carpenters' wives," though I think it works better as a single line than as an entire song.

Probably why the Statlers haven’t won a Nobel

Marmalade’s “Reflections Of My Life” seems to fit, though like “Heart of Gold” and several other examples, it definitely feels like it swings between old man POV (“all my sorrows/sad tomorrows/take me back/to my old home”) and young man perspective (all the “changing” and “rearranging” the singer is doing of his life). It actually has two singers, with one sounding older than the other. Anyway, neither band member who wrote it was older than 25 at the time.

the class of what, '09? did the class of '09 have dreams? come to think of it '09 was my 15 year reunion.

i don't know. i don't think i can look at '94 and see a bunch of young people who had big dreams. i mean i had 'em. they were pissant dreams, though.

I wonder if any of the class of 57 had dreams of being Country Music artists, cause that seemed to work out for a few of them

Libba Cotten - "Freight Train" age 11

When I'm dead and in my grave
No more good times here I crave
Place the stones at my head and feet
And tell them all I've gone to sleep

When I die, Lord bury me deep
Down at the end of old Chestnut Street
So I can hear old Number Nine
As she comes rolling by

Great revive…

I think people in their mid-20s are often more nostalgic for childhood/teen years than older folks

R.E.M.’s “Catapult” to thread

some are mathematicians, some are carpenters' wives

When I first heard Tangled up in Blue around age 16 it struck me as very much what it might feel like to look back at your life at 35, and by 35 I’d realized it was pretty accurate. A song about aging that is pitched very precisely! It captures a twisting path of memories where you can only see so far back and so far ahead.

Confession: For at least 30 years, I have harbored a secret curiosity about how many mathematicians are also carpenter's wives.

Like, it's perfectly plausible to be a mathematician who happens to be married to a carpenter. Even if one or the other are DIY hobbyists, as opposed to professional practitioners. I would be totally cool with an amateur mathematician married to a professional carpenter, or vice versa.

Many are confused about how such a life path got started.

they're an illusion anyway

"I think people in their mid-20s are often more nostalgic for childhood/teen years than older folks"

interesting topic and thread. I wonder if Simon Reynolds dealt with this phenomenon in Retromania (which I read when it came out but that was some time ago).

agreed, great revive.

Tangled Up In Blue seemed vaguely Deep to me as a younger person, never one of my faves but I dug it. at 42, i find it a lovely mix of goofy Dylan shaggy-dog stuff and a near-magic encapsulation of this sense of having a personal Past. i bet it works whether you've moved around a lot, stayed in one place, become a carpenter's wife, whatever.

Still Crazy has less incident and it's not nearly the same kind of a Rorschach blot, but is so beautifully polished, especially the first verse. it gets at something.

Not quite the same thing, but I had always assumed Jimmy Buffett's "A Pirate Looks at Forty" was at least semi-autobiographical, but it turns out he recorded it age 27.

Billy Stayhorn was 21 when he wrote Lush Life. It was a self fulfilling prophecy because he did become an alcoholic. It has the most depressing, world weary lyrics of any jazz standard i can think of and it shocked me when i learned how old he was when writing it.

Tangled Up In Blue seemed vaguely Deep to me as a younger person, never one of my faves but I dug it. at 42, i find it a lovely mix of goofy Dylan shaggy-dog stuff and a near-magic encapsulation of this sense of having a personal Past. i bet it works whether you've moved around a lot, stayed in one place, become a carpenter's wife, whatever.

otm

I love "Tangled Up in Blue," and in the regular world, Dylan being in his early 30s at the time would still count as young; in a pop music context, less so. Like another song I thought of and decided it was something different: Madonna's "This Used to Be My Playground" (she was 34).

I'm going to posit that Madonna had been through a few things by the time she was 34.

She was tangled up in true blue.

Lol clemenza

I was just listening to Dion and the Belmonts singing “September Song” from 1960’s Wish Upon a Star album and thinking they sound much too young to sing those lyrics. But my benchmark of an appropriately grizzled performance is Willie Nelson’s 1978 recording and he was only 45 when that came out, which now seems a bit young for that death-haunted song.

Willie Nelson is an interesting case. He was already old when most us were born, and he is apparently immortal.

When he was relatively young, and wrote "Crazy," dinosaurs still roamed the plains. It's a bit weird to see pictures of young Willie, because his brand and image have solidified so much into the one we know.