Lucky for you, I got all these daddy issues: Queer Summer, 2021 (LGBTQQIAAP+++)

red vines are ok, just think of the mention of them as sexual come-ons

just that that kind of banter sounds flirtatious to me

hey so i went on a date with a costume designer with a mustache - i think there might be a second date - he's real sweet. tall and handsome, thinks i'm cute. not mad about it.

Elvira is one of us!: https://www.avclub.com/elvira-actor-cassandra-peterson-comes-out-1847719555

Just in time for Halloween!

i saw that! she's so gorge

hey so what are our thoughts on manscaping

i've just had a bit of a buzzer accident lol....

Mandatory for much of the population.

yes ... granted it does make me look beefier lolo

the only thing i take a razor to is my face

ok let's be VERY CLEAR - i take no razors literally anywhere on my face or body lol

ugh gross

Having my first come-over date since early 2020!

ok let's talk about this - have you met in person before?

No razor except for the neckbeard, but clippers in plenty other spots.

you can't have that much fur tho yah?

xp i'm just sayin' - i had my first coming over date since lockdown started a few months ago and i realized only AFTER i opened the door that i should have done a more exhaustive quality check

Yes! We had one petting session four weeks ago; now I hope to perfect it.

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I'm can only accept a beard for the first couple of days, it looks good for those two days only, then I have to shave

i don't really do any manscaping but you know what bothers me more than ever these days is my eyebrows. i have to snip random wild hairs every few days, they drive me crazy. there are always more a day or two later. i had a dream about it last night lol.

honestly trimming and shaving is such a pain in the ass but i always feel so much better afterward. i'm still doing the covid buzz. i've gotten used to it. going to a barber used to feel like a luxury but now it just seems like a big headache.

i much prefer under manscaped to over manscaped tho i generally found most guys to be w/in some acceptable normal range. a teeny little trim is prob all i require tho in the end

i had a fun summer, we went to provincetown for the first time and wow, lots of naked guys and having sex on the beach. we had sex on the beach! (twice). we met this one kid there (he was prob like 22 or 23) who came down from montreal by himself & had just had sex w/ a couple behind us while we were having sex. we talked for a while and then went and got drinks, then we dragged him to a party w/ some of our friends from new york who happened to be there at the same time. then the three of us went back to our hotel room but he had taken too much ketamine so we didn't end up doing anything except sleep in the bed chastely & then he had to leave the next day. i really don't like ketamine! i've never taken it but it's very popular here & i find it turns ppl into zombies

I tried ketamine once on Fire Island, I liked feeling loose but it was only momentary bliss. We had to prop my friend Joe up because he almost passed out

I trim my underarms and my chest hair, but not down to the nub, just to a manageable level. Having a haircutting kit with multiple different sized stand-offs is very useful.

Keta is a gross thing that I'm convinced has taken root in the back of my brain waiting to jump out like the old couple in Mulholland Drive.

I don't even drink rn.

Probably why the hair's growing faster than ever.

am a little concerned about by my eyebrows too since my haircutter always trimmed them, but am wondering how long they can grow

with my head I just bend down over a hardwood floor with a mirror and trim it in every direction using a #3 standoff until I'm sure I've done it all, then use double mirrors to completely shave the back of my neck. it is so much better than sitting for a $96 dollar haircut

sex anywhere outdoors is kind of a logistical challenge ime. how did you deal with sand or was it just like bjs and such? lol i guess that was an angle for more details.

i think i still have some 'gay party' itches to scratch but i don't know what to try / where to go next. guerneville sounds like fun. i've always been attracted to the eagle type crowd and so has my boyfriend but gosh there's a lot of masculinity theater and insecurity and general conservatism and bad vibes with those folks and i'm feeling a little burned out on that. it's hard to know where i'd be comfortable and enjoy myself. we want to open things up but we're both pretty hesitant about the locals here for various reasons. doing it when on vacation seems like it would be ideal.

i've never tried ketamine and it's confusing to me - like it's for depression but also a party drug? i spent a year doing a lot of gbh when i had access to it, that was fun and i miss it tbh, it was a better social lubricant than alcohol, the second dose made you really horny, and no hangover to speak of (although i would get g-overs which were like, just feeling pleasantly haggard). i've been totally sober for about a month because i ran out of w33d (and i quit drinking a year ago) but we're going to colorado next weekend thank god. it's been good to take a break i guess.

I learned a great deal from MDMA, life-changing shit.

have had sex a few times on North Baker Beach in SF, that part of the beach is separated and is hard to get to

I was sleeping nude on the main Baker Beach and was awakened by a ranger on a horse, asking me to cover up! It was embarrassing

I met a hot bisexual guy there

if it could teach me how to stay up past 9 pm on weekends i would ask you to mail me some. xp

i think i've been to north baker beach! it was fun. i like nude beaches. i've had some fun at san onofre in san clemente. it's really beautiful there.

aren't there like some old cement-block ruins on north baker beach? i seem to recall having a few encounters around something like that lol.

honestly at least once a week i wonder why on earth i'm not living in california, i really like it there. oh right no money. but utah is so incredibly shitty it will drive me out of here one of these days.

xps It could teach you how to stay up past 9 a.m. on weekends

lol i forgot it's a stimulant. i've done it once! but it was after 2-3 g doses so i didn't really feel the effect.

re North Baker Beach, there are old WW2 military fortifications above the beach

sex anywhere outdoors is kind of a logistical challenge ime. how did you deal with sand or was it just like bjs and such? lol i guess that was an angle for more details.

yeah i just mean bjs and such. tho we did see a couple one day having actual sex. otherwise it was just guys sucking each other off & the like, pretty cruisey, some impromptu group action (of which we were observes not participants) etc. quite fun to be around esp this summer after like a year plus of not being able to go to parties where you might run into such a thing, tho in nyc that's not quite my scene

i've not minded being around ppl on ketamine when it's like 6 am and they're coming down off ecstasy and looking to taper off or whatever, in that context i get it. you can smoke some weed and chill out in a similar manner. but at least ime recently it's replaced molly, coke etc as a night time party drug and while i'm sure it's fun to be on, it's really not fun to interact w/ ppl while they're on it. they kinda just stare you in the face and you're like "is any of this going thru?" mdma is a more social drug and more fun to be around ppl who have taken it

guerneville is fun map - we went to lazy bear with friends a few years ago and mostly found it very friendly/flirty

shrooms are the hardest thing i’ve ever done, when they hit right i get real cuddly on them. never tried gbh but have kind of an unpleasant association with it from a grindr hookup i had years ago where the guy seemed incapable of doing anything in bed without it

It's strange, I feel like maybe I scratched all my itches a long time ago...gay destination stuff and gay bars just don't ever really appeal to me or enter my mind anymore as something I'd like to do. I'm still pretty gay, tho, and have a lot of gay friends...just kind of left party culture.

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I go back and forth. I was super relieved to have all my gay places reopen after lockdown. but also super unimpressed with myself that I could still so easily get stupid sloshed and forget how to talk to anybody before winding up at the all-night diner at 3:00 a.m. eating banana cream pie all. by. myself. although TBH I was grateful for the reminder of the pie, which I had totally forgotten was a thing.
I used to micro dose MDMA and special K back in high school. for a kid with crazy nxiety but it really is a whole other thing tbh

Oh man, come-over petting sessions are what I miss the most. NYC transit-dread and had pretty much killed any interest I had in going out at night by the time I was 21.

Are shrooms harder than coke? If so, they're the hardest thing I've ever done, too. Coke never really did anything to me other than give me a headache, so I have to assume I'm doing it wrong. But the last time on shrooms was a nightmare, curled up in the foetal position for hours in absolute misery. I've had the cuddlies with them, mostly coming down. But never again.

I don't think there's a one-size-fits-all approach to manscaping. I think the ideal is a moving target for most people, too. Age does its thing. I still trim most places but not as aggressively or as frequently as I used to when I was 25.

I recently buzzed my hair for the first time in a few years. I am embarrassingly good at doing haircuts of all kinds, and my short, brushed back curls were simple enough to maintain at home - I just felt the urge. Buzz cuts are hot, I would have loved to have a date do it for me.

The thing I remember about outdoor sex (it's, uh, been a while) is not thinking about the logistical stuff, having a reckless attitude, invariably having an even more reckless partner, doing unnecessarily stupid things like trespassing and generally being sloshed enough not to notice cuts and bruises until the next day.

Eating a banana cream pie alone in an all night diner probably appeals to me more than talking to people in a club most of the time, I never know the right way to talk to anybody no matter how sober I am. I've unwittingly rejected every guy who's made a move lol.

I loved reading the last several posts. This weekend I’ve been reflecting a little more about where I’m at, what I need or want. We’re in rural western Colorado - nice outdoors, grim town.

Had great birthday sex last night after a lovely day of smoking weed and tromping around with the dogs.

good to hear, 💯

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jeremih's power....

No manscaping ever!!!!!