Are You Cut Out for Social Media?

tumblr banning porn and then this are honestly shocking to me. really didn't realize how institutionalized sexual repression is in the u.s. i kind of thought the internet ended all that, lol. like, my personal journey was the one that everyone else went on. nope!

the word will literally burn up before americans aren't horrified by their own sexuality

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onlyfans shutting down the sexy vids has everything to do with them having issues getting funding and nothing to do with a moral stance.

why do you think they are having issues getting funding?

exactly

too many butts

why do you think they are having issues getting funding?

The Bloomberg and Axios articles say they are. Apparently, some investment firms are prohibited from investing in adult businesses, and others just don't want to.

Here's the thing: OnlyFans had over a billion dollars in net revenue last year. Why the fuck do they even need outside investors?

And my follow-up question: What do they think they're going to do for money after this? Nobody goes to OnlyFans for non-explicit content. Do they think celebrities are gonna flood in and make it something like Cameo? Cause that's never gonna happen. This is just a stunningly bad idea.

I missed this poll, but my answer is (increasingly) no.

I don't think it's venture capital that's the reason. I have a friend doing her phd on the online porn economy and she pointed me to:

Potential legal trouble: https://www.vice.com/en/article/4avpe3/ann-wagner-fosta-onlyfans-csam-doj-letter

MasterCard recently changed their rules for "adult businesses": https://www.xbiz.com/news/258606/heres-what-the-new-mastercard-rules-mean-for-adult-sites-producers

All equally speculative I suppose, but these seem more convincing to me

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The Evangelical women trying to make onlyfans disappear don’t realize if I lose that income I’ll start fucking their husbands for money again

— Sydney Leathers (@sydneyelainexo) August 19, 2021

Don't know why that link posted twice; in a follow-up tweet, she called out Ann Wagner by name.

My theory: pivot to OnlyFeet incoming

A good Twitter thread that explains a lot:

A lot of people are getting the OnlyFans story wrong, and the reality of it is a lot more damaging and concerning to both the livelihood of sex workers and online freedom in general.

— Post-Culture Review (@PostCultRev) August 20, 2021

Thanks for that background, it’s illuminating.

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ok then: https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2021-08-25/onlyfans-drops-plan-to-ban-sexually-explicit-content-amid-uproar

fucked around, found out, decided to continue to fuck around

What did they expect the reaction to be?!?

Nope

Not really

I'm attempting to build a modest music career, and the extent to which everything revolves around social media now is disheartening.

Yes, and I don't think that speaks well of me

I know how to do this, breaker 1-9 a copy...

Yup, sure am!

Those best cut out for social media are probably those that realize they should cut out social media. (Though not Soto.)

Yes, and I don't think that speaks well of me

― Guayaquil (eephus!),

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Why wouldn't it?

ILX and an extremely scrubbed, adblocked, chronological FB feed are more than plenty for me, so I think the answer is probably not.

I used to be quite good at Twitter and Instagram and now can barely be arsed with even WhatsApp. So I guess 'no'.

I don't know who social media is for any more, nobody seems to enjoy it or get anything out of it, and it's completely useless for sharing anything you've made.

idk I still get quite a lot of engagement and conversation on FB, even X. I know my life would be poorer without the friends and acquaintances on them.

Quitting sm for a day led me to speak to people irl
Now I’m trying to combine sm with real life

For me, there is a category of person for whom Facebook (or whatever) is _exactly_ the right amount of contact. It's my stepsister's husband or my ninth ex-girlfriend or the person I was in a band with that one time.

I do enjoy and treasure those connections, but I want to calibrate my closeness very carefully. Do I want to lose them forever, and completely forget our shared history? No. But do I want to invite them over for Thanksgiving, and have them stay in my guest room? Fuck no.

If you are careful about curating friends and feeds and keeping appropriate boundaries, social media can be a good tool.

Tl Dr there are some people in my life where social media allows me to stay exactly the right distance from a lot of people

Is it weird to want to get to know someone on sm before you meet them in person? This friend is always proposing irl meetups but I just don’t have the appetite until I get to know them better

No.

Thanks YMP

it's not "weird" but if you want to get to know them better i would meet in person. IME even if most of the interactions you'll have are going to be online, spending a small amount of time together in person will give your online interactions some important context you are missing otherwise. it's necessary to understanding who they are.

anyway i am not cut out for social media because i'm susceptible to that co-option of my thinking space and attention. i broke my scrolling addiction when i deleted my socials several years ago, but it's become a problem again since i got my first smartphone in late 2020. i could stare at the ceiling all day without getting bored, mobile internet is a danger and i need to go back to using a dumb phone.

I think my hesitation has to do more with the fact that I just don’t want to get to know this person better. Ugh

yeah, that's what i was hoping to clarify.

i think dial up aol with chatrooms and instant messenger and usenet all tethered to a desktop was the right amount of internet for me.

ty dm!

Why wouldn't it?

Fair question. I think being "good at social media" is related to but not identical with a certain kind of .. I don't know, is glibness the word? I am also good, in real life, at coming up with a succinct turn of phrase, and I think I habitually use this to sound as if I know more about something than I do, or have thought more deeply about something than I have. It's a bad habit in real life and on social media it's very explicitly rewarded. So I think of this particular skill I have as something that it would be better for me to resist deploying or further developing.

well put

I think I have the opposite problem. I can follow what is happening from loads of different sources and get a reasonable grasp on events and then sound like a clueless numpt when I post about it .. lol it can always be be worse.

Stance on this has hardened a bit since this thread was posted. Quite important to have more sources than ever as things develop in places we know little about.

Sometimes we can do something with this information at the moment -- such as marching -- sometimes there is little.

More locally I only see things getting worse and degraded. In Europe I see much of the public become more divided and more with right wing (or worse) parties elected to power in response to Western made catastrophes like climate change. This week: Dutch elections, riots in Dublin.

So I just think it could become an issue of safety as well, and/or not despairing as very good people are speaking out on issues.