start a victory garden and ration your IRRATIONALLY ANGRY feelings, part 3

lmao

omg what's their name

let me guess

the Tripping Billies
SatelLive
the Proudest Monkeys
Crash into Us

The Ants Go Jamming

The Between Space

White Caps

Neanderthal’s first guess was the correct one.

loooooool

haha!

That's hilarious. I actually knew that, because I used to do the listings for a few places, and I'd always see Tripping Billies playing somewhere so had to look them up to learn their deal, since I didn't know the DMB reference. But I guess if I was going to be in a Dave Matthews tribute band, I'd definitely want to be in the midwest's top tribute band.

OK, here's a perfect example of an IR inducing act: when you're doing a sink-full of dishes, and someone comes by and puts another dirty dish on top of the pile in progress. Like, I get that it has to be washed, and I'm going to get to it. And yet, there's something about the blase "oh, while you are cleaning up, clean this up, too" attitude. Which is fair - dishes gotta be cleaned - but also, simultaneously, an insult/affront.

Perfectly irrational anger.

worse when they stick it straight in the bowl.

bowl? i don't wash up in a bowl. sink.

The shipping date is not the same as the date when you slapped a label on a package which you then let sit in your home/warehouse for another week. Fuckers!</hank_kingsley>

when people get mad at you for sending a message on Messenger at an "inappropriate time". i.e. "come the fuck on, I can't answer this right now!"

Just because someone sent you a message doesn't mean they EXPECT YOU TO READ IT AND REPLY RIGHT THIS VERY MINUTE. I mean sure there ARE people like that, but fuck them, they're the exception, not the rule.

i remember being at a dinner with friends after we'd seen Endgame and one friend who couldn't join us but had seen the movie with us messaged in our group chat, discussing Endgame and asking people what they thought about certain things. And some of the friends at dinner started audibly bitching about it, like "JESUS CHRIST does this girl think I'm going to have a discussion about Endgame while I'm AT DINNER" and after about three people had whined about it, I said "You know you can mute the convo on Messenger, wait until later to read and reply to it, and that your loud bitching is way more annoying to me right now than the message our mutual friend sent, right?"

I get IA when I think about how there exists all this technology to warn tech users of likely spam and scam calls (see iOS/iPhone incoming call tags, email filtering, etc.) but when it comes to cutting this stuff off closer to the source, before it inundates the end user, it's all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

(yes I realize it's not quite that simple, but I have to imagine that putting even 1/8th of the energy/tech spent on labeling and sorting on the user end into chasing it off at the source, things might be slightly less obnoxious)

Something like 95% of the phone calls I receive are from my good friend Spam Likely.

Sorry, Scam Likely. Spam is his wife.

good news: here in Canada, Bell wants to use proprietary "artificial intelligence" ML tech to block spam/scam calls at the source. How they will do that and how you would know they were fucking it up is, naturally, a secret

tbc: these calls are an extreme nuisance (I was getting lots of fake CRA [our IRS] calls for a while), which is why it's so galling that one of the country's worst companies is leveraging perfectly rational anger to undermine the regulatory control

one thing I find hilarious, and it's not even spam. back in 2010, Fandango had these little tasks you could do in order to earn free movie tickets. some of the stuff involved purchasing shit so of course I wasn't about that, but some cases it was just signing up for a trial or something. so me being relatively tight financially, I signed up for a consultation on health insurance plans. of course I got flooded with texts and calls about it for a few weeks.

every so often I still get these messages because I'm still on their list and have no idea how to opt out.

I'll go you one better:

One summer when I was 11 or 12, I got bored and called every toll-free number I could find in the house, asking for catalogs, stickers, promo products, etc. Our mailbox filled with up so much crap. Hammock catalogs, Coca-Cola schwag, free records for the blind (I mean, how were they going to know over the phone?) The rural letter-carrier, driving her sedan with the wheel on the wrong side, started driving straight up to the house to drop off bags of this junk mail.

It eventually died down, but that hammock catalogue kept coming well into this century. Hell, it might still be going to the new owners up there.

Any email or article that starts with "As you may already know..."

Know what? I didn't know. No one tells me shit. Thank you for reminding me of that.

Of all the irrational things to set me off:

"As some of you know, we are no longer using the calendar on the intranet to request a room reservation."

Idk why it bothers me so much, but I get really annoyed when people say "asymptotic" when they mean "asymptomatic"

me too but I suspect it's autocorrect in a lot of cases

I don't know that it's anger as such, but it does verge on it at times, and it's certainly irrational... My worst hours of the day are between 5-7pm - generally when I'm at home. I feel restless, unsettled, emotionally troubled and often close to snapping. I have no explanation for it and can't tie it to any particular experiences or ongoing issues.

I say this because I'm currently sat in a bleak Starbucks (it's cavernous, like an airport at the end of the world), waiting for my 13yr old daughter and her mates to finish filling their foodholes in Nando's, and I feel utterly at peace, thoroughly glad I'm not at home where I'd be pacing, wondering what to do with myself. (I have a loose theory that it's to do with thresholds. I find the dawn oddly hard to navigate too. Shrug.)

Does anyone else experience this or anything like it?

i have hours of irritability between the transition from work to outside life, mostly because I'm already anticipating what I have to do after work before I've finished work and it annoys me because then the 'freedom' i was going to get becomes ....not freedom.

also those are the hours that if I plan to do something that night, I figure out what I plan to do, and if I have no idea after 7 pm, I get annoyed and restless.

that's the closest I get to it.

When I'm at home I think about all the "home projects" I should be doing but am not, and this, I think, contributes to the restless anger. When I'm out there is nothing I could be doing to those ends even if I wanted to, so it doesn't bother me.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/alzheimers-disease/expert-answers/sundowning/faq-20058511

Ah, so it's just incipient dementia. Nothing to worry about then :)

I totally have the 'projects' thing too. My house has the best people, music, film collection and books but it's the one place I don't really seem to be able to relax and enjoy those things. Weird (but probably not that weird). I totally recognise the threshold between home and work thing neanderthal. The promise of freedom vs the reality.

on a serious note part of the reason for sundowning w dementia (as i understand it) is a lot to do with the long shadows & low light

dementia affects their eyesight/ability to process light & shadow so as the shadows get longer it causes anxiety because they perceive the shadows as gaping holes in the floor/walls etc - its v scary for them

I would move to Quito.

JUst been ht with teh first Custos charge since Brexit postage took effect. Dang really not sure what is being charged so is An post taking 3.50 Eur for something as well as VAT needing to be payed.
oh my, pretty broke anyway so possibly should take a long break before buying new stuff but god really could do without this.

So for any minor charge on VAT or anything to do with customs An Post can charge an Admin charge of €3.50. Drag like totally.
Won't be buying cheap buttons from China again then. Or free p+p cds from UK branches of cd shops.
Do hope Ugly Things isn't automatically €5+ more to get to me.
Anybody feel like overturning Brexit at all?

Lidl changing its loo roll unit size from a portable, fits in the bag 4 pack to a bulky inconvenient 6 pack. Wonder if that is now too big to fit in people's storage space too.
Now if they'd just asked me I woulda told them NO. It just ain't right like.
May have even worked out cheaper per roll but can you carry and store it? I mean prioritise innit.

Why haven't Lidl done an "Ooh Aah... Just a Lidl Bit" ad campaign yet?

Idiot bus driver yesterday. I pressed the bell for the next stop as we pulled away from the previous one. This driver pulls back out of traffic and opens and closes the doors to cancel the request. I ring the bell again to make sure my request is logged. I think he's actually blocking traffic and manages to miss a light by doing this. I don't get it I've rung bell for next stop as we have just passed or left previous stop for years. I've seen others do the same.
Traffic had just been at a standstill for the previous couple of stops. so I'd wondered if I needed to get out earlier and walk from the previous stop but it had cleared by this point. Wouldn't have been helped by this guy. Doubledecker bus at a narrow point of the road.
I know the layout of streets around there so know where to take shortcuts to get to places. I was also running later than I wanted as it was which is why I'd been looking at the road to see state of traffic.
Just trying to work out if he'd seen me trying to see what traffic was doing so craning neck to see road. Which would be ablist attitude anyway even if it wasn't just nosy. & I don't think has any justification for this. Aargh . I'm puzzled by this cos as far as I'm aware it is pretty normal to ring bell for next stop as you go by previous one or leave it.

Also weird to see traffic full enough to be behaving like that. I don't think it has done for months but I only go into town a couple of times per week.

I now have an irrational hatred of Dutch cooking (which I used to love) because my brother married a Dutch-American girl and at every family get-together, they monopolize the kitchen, especially the stove.

We used Italian recipes, so our family -brother included- has initiated a food war. We use the instapot for sausage and I force my way onto the table by making Italian dishes at home that can be heated in a microwave.

I know it's petty and passive-aggressive, but there are some things you don't do to an Italian.

Plus seeing my brother show up his own wife and her family is hilarious.

lol

I thought the Dutch were good at going 50/50 on everything.

Got irrationally annoyed the other day at the elderly woman sharing a lane with me at the gym pool. It's a reservation system, the lanes next to the wall are extra wide and they let two people in at a time. Pretty much everyone chooses to split the lane rather than circle swim, to the point where splitting the lane is automatic - you still ask as a courtesy, but it's the default choice. This woman got there after me and was like, "Do you want to circle swim?" I said no, I'd rather split the lane, and she looked all doubtful and said, "But if I swim by the wall I bump into the stairs." Since I was there first, normally I would have taken the pool side and left her the side by the wall, but I wanted to swim, not argue, so I said I'd take the wall if we could split. And I did and it was fine; she stayed out of my way. But she proceeded to do the slowest, most erratic old-lady workout ever - a little bit of walking in the water, some resting, a little bit of quasi-breaststroke, resting, some very slow swim, resting, and then she put on her fins and zoomed for a lap or two. And I'm just like, "What in God's name made you think you could circle swim with anyone?" I'm not a fast swimmer, and I still would have had to weave around her on every lap. So even though she didn't manage to ruin my swim, I'm irrationally annoyed that she tried to.

The dreaded "circle swim" used to be the bane of my exercise routine. If you can't be allowed to maintain your own pace when swimming it ceases to be exercise and becomes, I don't know, slapstick in the pool. Will never forget the one woman who thought the idea of circle swim was to swim the length of one roped-off lane, then swim back down the adjacent roped-off lane (and thus presumably to swim a circuit through all lanes of the pool). Which meant she swam right into my face as I was coming up the opposite direction and socked me in the head.

Gah, that's awful. Yeah, circle swim pretty much only works if you're in a class where everyone's doing the same workout and the teacher has sorted you into lanes according to speed. Or if you're in an Olympic-sized pool where there's tons of room. One reason I joined a gym in the first place, instead of going to the public pool, was to avoid the four-people-to-a-lane circle swim where you're too busy dodging people to get any exercise.

Of course someone like the woman at the gym pool has probably always been the slowest person in the lane, so she's never had to pass anyone; she can just do her little routine and let everyone else worry about going around her.

Mindlessly stupid set up with queues in LiDl.
Difficult to tell whether there was one queue for 3 aisles or what.
& that is a stupid set up . I asked what the story was on queues in the shop and got treated like i had 3 heads or something.
I had joined at what I saw was the back of the queue but may have been better heading to the back of a separate queue.
I just couldn't tell if this vague free standing queue was supposed to cover all of them or just a pair or what.
Stupid idiotic system.
Luckily the aisle next to me opened so I got through it .
But jeez you'd think there would be some clarity.
& some help if there was confusion. Not sure if it all got sorted out by the opening of the new aisle and they wound up closing then reopening a different aisle one of the ones I might have joined.
BS System

Now realising that the one response they have for that kind of confusion is to open a new checkout.
Well maybe any form of trying to herd people in a different way wouldn't work. Saying stand here for queue for this checkout aisle. & I think it is a ll a result of pandemic social spacing which I'm not sure anybody is following now anyway.
I saw that Dunnes has a yellow circle with footmarks and a giant cross across it to show where not to stand which is continually seen asa point to stand. But is not supposed to be cos it is right in the middle of the walkway.
& probably should have just walked over to the other aisles and started a new queue which I think I was just thinking of when the new checkout opened.
BUt maybe you just get used to chaos and arbitrary crowd movement when you are working in a place like that. Oh they're all stupid all the time. If people want to act like that they will , if the product is in the shop you will either find it or not.
Gorlumme.

Oh & drag taht it appears that fennel has gone out of season. I was just getting into the flavour being in the mix of the food I prepared weekly. Ho hum.

Just add anisette, Pernod, Ricard, or absinthe in its place