making our way back: reclaiming queer space in the SPRING of 2021//LGBTQIA+ Vaccine ed.

I always thought it was the other way around honestly, like I can tell you that New Yorkers on the whole are very eager to shed our winter layers, and will do so the moment the thermostat hits 72. It's like a cathartic thing, almost. Maximum skin exposure from the first nice day in April as a rule.

I haven't spent enough time on the west coast, but my sense is that in Southern California it's mostly just the tourists who dress that way in milder weather. Californians might have fewer opportunities to wear that favorite sweater or jacket.

I got ugly stares and called an ugly name when I wore my DICK BINGE shirt with cut-off sleeves on the east coast. I'd wear that shirt into shopping malls in conservative parts of California and no one would look twice. Sometimes I'd even get a compliment!

There are other personal anecdotal tales, I just find that people on the east coast are much more likely to straight up call me a faggot to my face if I dress a certain way, and I literally had that happen once, maybe twice, the entire time I lived in California.

That sucks :(
NYC isn't going to be the most representative sample of the east coast as a whole. New Yorkers are famously desensitized to pretty much whatever and anything more conventional than a bologna sandwich as hair accessory (at least 1 documented occurrence) is unlikely to turn heads.

I def experienced quite a bit of that in Long Island when I visited friends in the 90's, not that I wore anything too out there. But I later lived in a couple of pretty conservative towns in northern Nassau County (and one very small town that's really hippie) and it wasn't an issue. I don't know if times changed, or if it's the age difference.

So I know what you mean, it totally sucks, it's just been a while since I personally encountered that so maybe I've become overly optimistic about the state of things.

Actually living in these quite affluent parts of Long Island, my lifestyle and living conditions were very incongruous, more or less like a squatter. Car-free, at other times heat and plumbing-free also. I probably looked more 'different' than I realized at the time, but it was very conspicuous in other ways too, and I was constantly surprised at how tolerant the neighbors were.

To what extent I encountered resistance... It was mostly young kids who were obnoxious.

grew up just outside nyc and lived there for a time before moving to LA. pretty sure the first time anyone ever called me a faggot was when i was visiting SF for the first time.

i tend against ostentation generally but i've thought a lot about my clothes this year and how boring they all are and how i want to change that. but i also find clothes shopping fundamentally stressful - i know some people love it and are super-good at it but i have never really been one of those people. i just want some fun, stylish, durable clothes that are like...not fast fashion but not bank-breaking either.

What's convenient for you to get to in terms of stores? What general silhouette r u thinking?

It's summer y'all

texting with a beautiful boy I met at a friend's political debut

I see - and what age does boy mean nowadays?

Anyone know what this one's about?

holding poppers while posing for pictures with pop starts isn't a personality but y'all really stay in love with a mediocre white man who said racist shit in the past

— the morally corrupt juan barquin (@woahitsjuanito) July 19, 2021

from a followup tweet: this guy (no, me neither):

lol @ dumb bitch jordan firstman being a super spreader https://t.co/0htv0ZNYFS

— the morally corrupt juan barquin (@woahitsjuanito) July 19, 2021

lol that Tweet's by a friend/former student/local film writer

(no, me neither)

Truly.

Apparently it's this https://www.distractify.com/p/jordan-firstman-tweets

tbh I'm just glad I'm old now

Hello! Do we have a summer thread yet? Cuz it's summer y'all, and "my hair is comin' down" (name the movie and actress without googling and win a fun gif of what I think best represents your posting style! 🌈💰

hi surm! i have no idea but i'd appreciate a gif

New thread?

yes plz

is there a new one

haha you do it i suck at titles

Lucky for you, I got all these daddy issues: Queer Summer, 2021 (LGBTQQIAAP+++)

fill er up!