Why are you not posting

Is there anyone who knows her offboard that could perhaps reach out to her to see if she's ok?

OK I've read basically most of it. Here is my Fair Breakdown:

j.'s departure was a bit soft imo. yes, he politely and thoughtfully laid out his apologiae for the modern liberal tradition, only to be accosted by Kate, silby et al, but I thought that stuff was largely quite bracing tbh - it was Good Content and I'm sad that j. felt compelled to depart. for sure, there had been ad hominem presumptions of bad faith, but silby was operating from a place that was largely quite funny, and Kate from a place that was above all anguished. what galled j. I suppose was the effort he was putting into his posts, only for them to be met with what might have seemed like dismissiveness. but j. also had a LOT of people largely on board with him and his arguments (ahem), and it seems like it was really that Aimless post that broke him (and I'm not surprised tbh).

My recommendation is that j. returns to ILX and tries to not mind it when, for example, silby gets zingy or Kate gets despairing, but continues to plough his argumentative furrow, because as I say I could detect plenty of agreement towards his posts, and I also think that after he left, the conversation continued to improve (not BECAUSE he left, lol, but if anything powered by the spirit of thoughtful analysis his posting had engendered, and ongoing reflection on all sides).

I'd forgotten what a central role I myself played in that whole farrago, so I also feel a bit guilty for my part in what was, yes, a bracing argument, but not one without its traumas.

I mean i keep rubbing my eyes at the thread title you are doing this in

tl;dr: if you think silby has driven you off ilx then you've misunderstood silby

#onethread

That strikes me as a fair assessment of that FFA btw.

leave Future Farmers of America out of this

The finnish football association would like to make it known that they have no idea what is going on, generally

I have no memory of this at all!

I wasn’t going to post in this thread, because that would be posting, but now I’ve posted

Tbf there's posting and there's posting.

Wow I posted a lot, actually.

^this was exactly my own reaction, haha

I've averaged two (2) posts a month for the last thirteen (13) years, ama.

probably the healthiest posting rate tbh

ama

Are you not worried about breaking your remarkable streak?

Whove yall fpd

why are you not pooping

F'n Post Office holding up my posts. They are stuck in a router in Omaha.

Serves you right for perpetrating posting fraud.

*poster fraud

Postal lurkers strike

maybe I will post tonight

someday i hope to write the greatest ilx post in history

I want to say why Im not posting but my 57000+ posts kind of belie that I suppose. But I'll go with Cruts "Ive embarrased myself enough".

Also, too many dicks on the dancefloor.

Are you not worried about breaking your remarkable streak?

Nah. I usually post a bunch at once, then go quiet for months. See you in November!

Whove yall fpd

I flag posts, not people.

why are you not pooping

There's enough shit on ilx as it is.

wow it's amazing how angry j's post made me, dude fuck off along with your "academic" "intellectual" buddies Oor Neechy and Euler, gee it's such a shame that you can't have a thread on ILX where you deny trans people's lived experiences right to their face without getting pushback (a lot of which was funny tbh). do any of you care that it probably made Kate leave? all three of you suck.

no I'm not posting itt again,no bookmark, fuck you

branwell made kate leave iirc

Can we not with this yet again ugh

sorry, that's just very literally on the record and it should be clear where that responsibility lies.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UsW040wrMNA

0:34

i do not know if the ppl involved were unaware that it's uncool to try to extensively diagnose an old conversation that caused someone to leave, especially when one of the parties involved has not returned either. however that is what happened here, and it's pretty uncool fyi

how old are people here? how do they find time to post?

i guess work keeps me busy

we’re not all flipped McGriddles here, mcpunisher

(sorry

flippin

goddamit

wow FPed sleeve thrice in two weeks, sadly only one of them counts.

Kumbayah, my lord
Kumbayah

Late to post this, but some time ago mike t-diva very kindly sent me an out of print CD set that I was after - a gesture that to me seemed to sum up ILM at its generous best.

Oh, the Dolly Mixture boxed set - yeah, I was sent some complimentary copies, so it was good to pass one on.

For some ex-posters, not posting is the best outcome for all.

FP'd sleeve. dragging Oor Neechy and Euler into it for absolutely no goddamn reason?

I thought j.'s post addressed a wider couple of points that were at least valid to them and the approach taken by ppl since in relitigating the specific thread was nonsense

eh? I had nothing to do with that thread, please keep me out of it.

Yeah, sleeve's post was just bizarre.

I think Brad was otm about not autopsying this. But I'm also not sure how we should respond to posts like j.'s, where a departed poster returns to denounce "us," but then also announces their immediate renewed departure. I reread the posts j. was discussing and disagree with his characterization of what happened (not as vehemently as sleeve did), but I guess it doesn't really matter anymore?

i agree with that sentiment even though i feel like if i get into why i will inevitably be doing the thing i was complaining about

if i relitigated it, it was only because i was heavily involved and feel unresolved about whether my own engagement therein was fine or otherwise. how solipsistic

I'm sorry Brad - at the time it felt like a genuine + innocent question to ask imago to explain a comment that seemed very off the mark to me. But I totally should've realised that it would end up in relitigation of an old topic and talking too much about other posters, it's pretty obvious in hindsight. Sorry to everyone.