Enter... THE DISCOURSE

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One area where the utility of 'the discourse' breaks down is in the acceptance of nuanced opinion and respectful disagreement. There's too often very little wiggle room between 'you hold the correct opinion, good job' and 'YOU ARE A WALKING DUMPSTER FIRE, YOU WRONG OPINION-HOLDING POS', and while the vehemence of the latter take can be useful in reining in (some) shittier takes and cringey opinions, it also kinda eradicates the capacity for people to discuss knotty, messy subjects in a way that allows them to try to truly understand other viewpoints. Because the emphasis is more on getting on the right side of the line as quickly as you can before you get roasted.

I mean this just contributes to the increasing divisiveness in the world today, where you're either right or you're wrong and your rightness or wrongness is determined entirely by who you align yourself with.

There's too often very little wiggle room between 'you hold the correct opinion, good job' and 'YOU ARE A WALKING DUMPSTER FIRE, YOU WRONG OPINION-HOLDING POS', and while the vehemence of the latter take can be useful

Gonna stop you right there. It never is, never will be.

ru calling him a dumpster fire

It's not a rhetorical tack I ascribe to (as should be obvious) and it turns me right the fuck off but I'm not inclined to do a wholesale write-off on the efficacy of shame wrt reigning in shittiness.

The Discourse is Twitter's trending bar but with whatever people you follow are talking about instead of whatever brands are promoting or teens have hashtagged to amuse themselves.

I don't think anyone could disagree that there are 'Topics of the Day,' my objection to its use in the other thread is the idea that there a homogeneity to the discourse and getting caught out on the wrong side of the discourse exposes you to being put in the Twitter stocks and pelted with fruit. There are different sides, different conversations that spin off, different mores about appropriate language, different in-jokes.

ie yeah, it's just people talking to other people but loudly and in public

'YOU ARE A WALKING DUMPSTER FIRE, YOU WRONG OPINION-HOLDING POS'

You should at least attribute this to whichever ilxor you're quoting. It's the polite thing to do.

My online life up through the end of the Rock Hardy era was a case of me self-importantly adding to The Discourse and finally getting smacked way down and realizing a) The Discourse has an almost infinitesimally low signal:noise ratio and b) I have nothing to add to it but more noise. So now I just watch and listen and read and grimace, and occasionally post about cocktails and my cat Jonesy.

i relate to this.

the last time my boyfriend and i had a conversation about politics, we transformed from two people who like each other into two discrete, if very close, points on the discourse continuum. i've always sort of been fascinated by the discourse, it seemed like a key to unlocking something and "getting it right" but the truth is it has never helped me strengthen bonds with others that i need to survive and that i have had few of. so i'm constantly trying to dial back my exposure to the discourse and gain perspective, in order to focus more on ways forward in my material circumstances, outside the internet. taking weekend breaks from twitter helps.

sometimes when i have a few minutes to myself at the end of the day, i get online (twitter or ilx) out of habit and immediately i'm like "this is the last thing i want right now."

no offense to anyone here, there are people here who i've formed more lasting bonds with, just the context of ilx can be very tiring, even the talk about a subject i really love (music)

on the other hand, i think djp put it very well in his op about why "the discourse" might be important or appealing beyond low-stakes imaginary land, and i feel like a sub-section of the discourse (specifically an advice column i won't name here) has helped me make empowering decisions about my relationships irl that i wouldn't have otherwise made, as a white man from a conservative background who isn't used to standing up to, let alone seeing, bigotry.

Yeah, I want to say that it's a place of enormous privilege that allows me to withdraw and become Uatu, and I'm glad of every reminder of that privilege.

Reading the other thread, my feeling about the appearance that the “rules”/prevailing opinions shift is maybe just the nature of Twitter? Someone posts an opinion, their followers by definition have an interest in their opinions and more often than not agree with their views, if it gets enough traction people outside of their orbit see the post and react to it perhaps more negatively, their followers get involved, and if it gets big enough maybe there’s a backlash to the backlash. If you’re following it from the beginning I’m sure it’s disorienting. My experience is more that 90% of these hot topics of the day, especially about morality and individual behavior, are extremely predictable in how the arguments play out, often no one side is completely wrongheaded but none of the posts that get lots of engagement treat the opposing side with any kind of charity.

But sometimes there’s just a libertarian dipshit posting something that indicates contempt for humanity at large and they should probably be told to shut the fuck up every day of their life.

always be blocking libertarians is my motto

belated -- it both is and isn't driven by the people I follow online, just because of how things work. it is, in the sense that people like things and they are shown to me, and if someone likes a post presumably they agree with it. and if that person is someone I know, then obviously I am invested in not wanting them upset with me, and most likely I respect them and trust them and if they say something is harmful then I don't want to barge ahead harming people. with COVID it is particularly fraught since it is literally life and death

the two things that to me:

- first is a thing that I'm not sure has a name. the "fair game" policy, perhaps? for instance, people will insult Donald Trump for being fat, other people will point out that when you say something like that, it reveals what you truly think about fat people, and it hurts them; and then they'll respond "but he deserves it because he's a horrible person and I don't care what you think." the takeaway from this is that everyone is operating with a baseline level of vicious judgment, and the only way one can be exempt from it is not doing anything wrong -- but that the underlying judgment is still there.

- the elevation of non-moral things to moral status. almost every day I see something like, for instance, "people with food aversions deserve to be bullied." I just don't see why someone preferring to eat plain pasta is a moral failing (and this is from someone who definitely does not), but if you express that opinion then you too get bullied. even the normalization of "bullying" is just so incredibly depressing to me

Everyone is constantly judging everything, which is just a function of being a human being with sense organs and a brain. It's what you choose to do with those judgments (and, particularly, what you choose to externalize) that ultimately matters.

T. S. Eliot: 'criticism is as inevitable as breathing'.

even the normalization of "bullying" is just so incredibly depressing to me

it makes me sad to think this, but it seems to be true: bullying is normal human behavior and it has been all my life. I see where schools have been trying very hard lately to de-normalize bullying, but any success they are having is fragile and tenuous at best, because bullying seems to be wired into our brains as an easily available method of acquiring social ascendance, and overcoming the reflex to bully requires the active vigilance and intervention of our brain's moral function, which is at a perennial disadvantage in that struggle.

every day I see something like, for instance, "people with food aversions deserve to be bullied." I just don't see why someone preferring to eat plain pasta is a moral failing (and this is from someone who definitely does not)

This is the point of confusion, I think? You see that it’s not a moral failing (or even question) in the first place - so why do you give the jerk posting that more than a quarter of a thought?

Twitter has a strain of posting where some people appear to just be posting their intrusive thoughts (“bullying lol”) - whether to feed engagement for the serotonin hit or just to make the voice in their head stop for a moment, who knows.

I think bullying is far less accepted or normalized than in most of American history. This is the nightly news problem of seeing murders every night at 9PM - despite violent crime dropping year over year, people think we’re living in The Warriors.

Bullying is delivered to your pocket supercomputer but that doesn’t mean it’s more prevalent in the real world of workplaces and schools. I know that behavior I saw in school in the ‘80s and ‘90s on a regular basis would bring down the anger of the gods today.

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Millions of people thought Denis Leary’s “I’m an asshole” song was the peak of comedy and they all have Twitter accounts.

- first is a thing that I'm not sure has a name. the "fair game" policy, perhaps? for instance, people will insult Donald Trump for being fat, other people will point out that when you say something like that, it reveals what you truly think about fat people, and it hurts them; and then they'll respond "but he deserves it because he's a horrible person and I don't care what you think." the takeaway from this is that everyone is operating with a baseline level of vicious judgment, and the only way one can be exempt from it is not doing anything wrong -- but that the underlying judgment is still there.

i don't think you're wrong about the viciousness of some people. i do think you're wrong to extrapolate from a "they" that is only actually "some assholes" to a takeaway that "everyone" is like that. you're making two assumptions there. first, that "everyone" thinks that way but presumably doesn't say it out loud. that's definitely not true. secondly, you're making the assumption that whenever "they" respond "but he deserves it because he's a horrible person and i don't care what you think" that their response was actually a rational thought and real indicator of their motivations, rather then, say, an overly defensive deflection.

beyond that, even if "he's a horrible person and i don't care what you think" represents a commonly held opinion, that means...nothing? i don't have the patience to read through the last few days, but surely someone's brought up evolution? the recent "stolen election"? huge chunks of the country believe in this stuff, and they are making moral judgments against every day for not being on their side. for that, fuck them!!!!!!!!!!!!!! but also, i'm my own person, thank god, because that means i don't have dumb opinions like a lot of the country

xp -- yeah, I don't think any of this is exclusive to online, that's why "it's just social media don't pay attention to it" also doesn't comfort me at all because it's not like all that disappears

You have random people on a daily basis get up in your grill on the street and yell that you're opinions are shit? That would be problematic.

I mean she does live in NY

One thing that hasn't been touched on is that there are also different levels and types of discourse happening at the same time, obviously. Social media (especially Twiiter) discourse, and much mainstream political discourse, seems important to keep track of, but not get too involved in, at least for me. Why? It is a cesspool, and the returns are fast-diminishing.

I often feel alienated af as a result, but I'm fine with that being my position within "the discourse."

I'm much more into my dumb memes about Deleuze and Kant and obscure poet shit than vilifying someone for going to a grocery store too many times in one week, and the ensuing twitter arguments about it. Tbh, I highly suggest unfollowing any non-friend IG or Twitter accounts that don't make you laugh on a regular basis.

Yeah, this year I disengaged somewhat from social media and just use it mostly to order beer from my favorite local breweries.

The Discourse is a great podcast from leftist weightlifter academic Brandon Sutton/Prettybadlefty and friends

https://m.soundcloud.com/expandthediscourse

This is the proper response to The Discourse IMO

feel free to ignore any hilaria baldwin take that does not boil down to “this is extremely funny”

— Brandy Jensen (@BrandyLJensen) December 28, 2020

I'm done with discourse... Bring me da entree

— dr. dad, PhD (@whale_defense) September 1, 2020

Charles Schulz predicted The Discourse pic.twitter.com/ruzGE4NXVG

— Adam Koford (@apelad) December 30, 2020

Was just coming here to post that.

how do you find the time to keep up with Twitter on top of work/friends & family/cultural consumption? I feel like I'm always playing catch-up to topics and perspectives in the ~discourse~ and by the time I'm caught up everything worth saying has been said and the world has moved on. Is it simply a case of being Very Online and streamlining the subjects you're interested in?

With great difficulty these days, but that’s not a bad thing. I have some nice mutuals who will usually dm me anything I’ve missed.

aw hun that isn't nice, that's *abusive*. ditch their ass. yeet them into the sun. nope nope nope

I don’t try to keep up. I look at Twitter or Instagram when I’m killing dead time, every day there’s some reference to a hot topic that’s completely inscrutable to me and it rarely seems interesting enough to suss out.

I've been advised a few different times now that if I want to pursue freelance writing gigs etc then I need to be active on Twitter and build a personal brand (ugh) but it just feels like I would be shouting into the void, and that void is also a hellscape of negative energy?

The chief hallmark of Discourse™️ is feeling compelled to weigh in, even though you know you don’t have to and kind of don’t even want to. That said, goddammit bean dad

— sarah jeong (@sarahjeong) January 3, 2021

What does it matter if everyone has an opinion on everything if they aren't constantly expressing those opinions to everyone else, is what I'm asking

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how do you find the time to keep up with Twitter on top of work/friends & family/cultural consumption? I feel like I'm always playing catch-up to topics and perspectives in the ~discourse~ and by the time I'm caught up everything worth saying has been said and the world has moved on. Is it simply a case of being Very Online and streamlining the subjects you're interested in?

― boxedjoy, Saturday, January 2, 2021 9:06 AM (two days ago) bookmarkflaglink

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Adjacent thing I’ve been thinking abt is how twitter provides this plugged in proximity to a hit of raw uncut Discourse that, grass being greener, I’d like to leave behind and everyone says I don’t need to pay attention to. Yet it reminds me of the bit from devil wears Prada, where the people disconnected from it don’t seem to realize how much of their opinion (on something of a delay) has been shaped by this conversation. I’ll make a point to some friends that they’re all skeptical of, based on something I read online, only for them to make the same point or one that incorporates it a few days later, but unconsciously, as if they don’t even realize the bounds of possibility have been re-determined for them over this small window of a conversation’s evolution

I think we're basically saying the same thing. It's not that the broadsiders were so much more enlightened, just that there were fewer voices vying for attention and fewer perspectives dizzying up the conventional wisdom. The increased panoply of voices has the upside of adding to the breadth and diversity of perspective but also the major downside of depleting the depth and nuance of perspective.

― You will notice a small sink where your sofa once was. (Old Lunch), Tuesday, December 22, 2020 12:04 PM (one week ago) bookmarkflaglink

there might be a diversity of perspectives out there in reality, but in effect people have become less tolerant of voices different from their own and have buckled down in their own echo chambers.

people are way more likely to engage with an opinion by trying to like "sort" it into some category. "this sounds like what xyz is saying, you are on their side now." we don't have a discourse as much as a great process of sorting, filing, amplifying and cancelling.

Irony died forever in 2015 iirc so the answer here is 'no', obv.

Stare too long into the discourse and the discourse stares back

Also RIP irony

500 BCE - 2015 CE

You had a good run

...

NOT

You were like a black fly in our Chardonnay

And I really do think

Worst Bruce Lee movie

feel like DJP doing sea shanties should be part of The Discourse

I can probably pull together a decent version of "Drunken Sailor" over a weekend

from the thread "What Can't You Find On The Internet?":

thanks, Kate.

so if i could re-write my post, it would go like this.

1. can anyone recommend an interesting / critical perspective -- via book, blog post, article, twitter thread, etc. -- about the ubiquity of content and the techniques of content marketing?

2. seeking recommendations for twitter feeds, blogs, authors, even ILX threads i'm not aware of, that focus on the internet, and particularly advocates for free / open online spaces.

thanks

― budo jeru, Friday, July 8, 2022 10:17 AM

i might be having a different perspective on Content than you do, but to me the salient feature of Content is the way it engages us emotionally; I see Content as monetizing the cycle of abuse for corporate profit. my particular focus personally is on queer discourse, and i like a video lily alexandre posted last week on this topic:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oH-avZlCMpk

if you see content and discourse as separate things i'd definitely be interested in exploring the differences further!