Friend Infected With Right Wing Brain Worms - What to Do?

Left and Kate otm. The Venn between 'crystal New Age hippies' and 'racist conspiracy quacksalvers' is quite large. I lived in Mt. Shasta and worked at the organic grocery store in town, and let me tell you some stories about that experience....

Table I have family in Mt. Shasta and this is (some of) them...! Not racist maybe but chem-trailers/Loose-changers

How long ago did you live there? I wonder if you ran into my cousin at that store.

Hadrian, I lived in the area from September 2015- August 2016, first in Weed and then in McCloud. Worked at ye olde Berryvale from December 2015 til a few days before I left.

I actually really love a lot of people whom I worked with and in that area generally, but the wingnut factor was really high.

There were Trump supporters in 2016 who also believed in magic fairies that lived in dew coming and blessing their blankets at night. They'd explain all this and then literally yell at people speaking Spanish in the store cafe. It was shocking and insane.

Also the reactions when Prince died on one of my shifts was 'who?'

my 40 year-old cousin took us to a crystal shop that sold chai. He talked to me and my daughter for a while about the Lemurians or whatever that live inside the mountain, then on the walk back to my aunt's house he threatened a passing stranger that he would break his kneecap with a "socket wrench." Cool place.

It was while living in that area that we started living with a loaded shotgun next to the bed, so yeah, I get the vibe.

when Prince died on one of my shifts

Lol yeah, I read that after posting it and realized it was a bit off.

I enjoyed going up there occasionally to escape Redding's heat, but I couldn't have lived there without biting my lips off.

I also lived in Los Molinos and Chico for a spell..I'd take the Shasta area over that bullshit anytime.

Like at least the Shasta area is pretty.

lol, yes

_when Prince died on one of my shifts_
Sorry but this made me lol... sounds like bagging groceries is what did for poor old Prince

lol

Lol breastcrawl

lol

I'm mad that that is funny

hahaha

irl lol at Dan's infuriation

https://shop.totallyvinyl.com/img/uploads/images/prince/PRINCE_PAISLEY_PARK_SHAPED_PICTURE_DISC_and_DISPLAY_1.jpg

The Onion never misses. pic.twitter.com/87P4rtdpqe

— sadvil 😎 (@sadvil) August 14, 2020

A friend of mine posted something innocuous like 'Great Michelle Obama speech' on FB last night and one of his friends, whom I don't know, replied 'Don't you mean Michael Obama?' Turns out there's some conspiracy theory that Michelle was born male, is a beard for gay Barack, and something to do with Joan Rivers' death. Is this some QAnon shit, because these people are too stupid to live.

yes and yes

Jealous that it took so long for this heinous shit to reach your ears, Dan. It's been around for ages (your description is missing a 'Muslim' or two, though).

Trump is popular with black voters because although they hate him they hate crime more. He is also going to legalize marijuana

lauren southern dated the biggest loser on the planet pic.twitter.com/SeGs5lMWLM

— raandy (@randygdub) October 16, 2020

sounds like bullshit, potatoes are from North America

Pedantic alert: potatoes from which contemporary potatoes derive are from southern chile iirc

correct, I meant to type “the americas” and had a brain failure

My French FIL has now reached the point where he still doesn't like Trump BUT you gotta admit that he made the right call regarding the pandemic, which is all a ploy by big Pharma to get us all inoculated with fake antibodies that are simultaneously useless and a health hazard. It's literally a cult and my wife has almost completely stopped communicating with him, which is depressing as fuck.

but trump was all over the experimental drugs in hospital. was that not big pharma?

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But there’s almost quarter of a million Americans dead???

someone hasn’t heard of crisis actors

He hasn't gone that far – yet. For now it's more like 'people die of stuff all the time, you see, there's nothing unusual about this'.

flu kills a lot of people too, etc

and yet the police are never happy when I make that argument about all the people I killed...

What drives me up the wall too is that he spoke of Trump's 'attitude saine' ('healthy/sane attitude') towards covid, which sounds like pure trolling yet isn't – he buys into this shit hook, line and sinker. And the whole 'sheeple' thing ('vous [my wife and I] n'êtes que des moutons') makes it even dumber and more predictable. All of this coming from a man who is otherwise intelligent and educated and who has been unwavering in his commitment to the left since his youth. Bah (aka baaaa, amirite?).

And the whole 'sheeple' thing ('vous [my wife and I] n'êtes que des moutons') makes it even dumber and more predictable. All of this coming from a man who is otherwise intelligent and educated and who has been unwavering in his commitment to the left since his youth.

If I can take a crack at this, I think of it as something along the lines of 'Covid policy has lead to increased inequality and wealth concentration, its a real thing but is it as dangerous as we originally thought? Tons of people die anyway just looking at raw figures doesnt tell whole story. People's willingness to go along and accept the above including expanded police powers to enforce that they might not give up is fairly docile'

I think you can construct something like the above without going anywhere near right wing territory (one for the left wing worm thread?)

That's a very charitable reading, but then again, I forgot to mention that he's a complete luddite and the pandemic is also an excuse for him to flex his hypochondriac muscles. It's a perfect storm of things he finds terrifying and which he (deliberately) makes no effort whatsoever to comprehend: the state, medicine and technology. When push comes to shove, he's really just an aged hippy who was too much of a wuss in his late teens/early 20s to hop on that train wholesale and who is now striving to make up for it before it's too late. And yeah, this isn't quite the right thread for him – Trump's supposedly 'sane approach' is what threw me over the edge when pondering where to post this.

One more thing: he's been living alone for decades now and has recently become closer to one of his brothers, who is the Real Deal: a certified chemtrails/UFO/séance/anti-vaxxer/survivalist/antisemite/covidiot/truther (and I'm probably forgetting lots), so I suspect that this radical turn towards increasingly more batshit ideas is partly due to crazy bro's influence. Tbh that whole part of the family is just messed up – there are a lot of underlying psychiatric issues that I won't get into but whose causes are mostly known to me, so that's always at the back of my mind when I'm interacting with him.

Found out that a cousin-in-law of mine, older guy, has gone Q (or some kind of Obama-related conspiracy theory about how they're all out to get Trump, this came to me third hand.) Probably in his late 70s, nice affable guy every time I met him, well-educated, not a guy you'd think of as going haywire. Heard this in the context of him and his wife splitting their votes. It's the wife I feel sad for, imagine this happening to your spouse and knowing this is probably gonna be what the rest of your life looks like. Maybe they just don't talk about it.

I don’t actually know if people are asking “what to do?” anymore so much as just blowing off steam when this happens to someone they know?

But Whitney Phillips shared this, this morning, which she contributed to, on techniques that work and don’t work when addressing it:

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/10/25/opinion/qanon-conspiracy-theories-family.html

Some stuff which has been discussed in this thread, some stuff that hasn’t.

Here is an observation, based on the past few months that I have spent back on ILX, not directed at anyone individually, nor a comment on anyone on ILX, (because I genuinely don't think that there are any genuinely right-wing people *left* on ILX, just various different flavours of left, some of whom definitely have hobby-horses or left-wing brain worms of our own, who see different solutions, or even just different priorities around what needs to be fixed, or indeed fixed first.)

So this is just an observation about human dynamics, formed while watching (and participating in) groups of people who are supposed to be on the same "side" trying and sometimes failing / sometimes succeeding at trying to change people's opinions or change people's minds.

That there are two kinds of approaches an attempting opinion-changer can take: that there are approaches that basically "here are my views, let me show you them, and why my views are good and your views are bad and wrong" which often feel really good and righteous to DO, and do genuinely serve a purpose, that the attempting opinion-changer expresses something and gets it out there. And then there are approaches that actually *work* at changing opinions and more importantly changing *behaviour*, which don't always feel good or righteous, and often involve levels of humility and holding back and actually listening to and engaging with people who one cannot stand (and who do genuinely hate you / some of your friends / other groups of people). And these approaches do not overlap as often as one would like, especially on emotive topics.

And I often wonder, in these conversations - "what are you trying to *do* here?" is an incredibly important question for us to be asking ourselves. And sometimes the answer is, genuinely, I need to blow off steam, and that's fine if you're honest that is what you are doing. But also, try to understand, that if you do actually want to change someone's mind / opinions / behaviour, that a different tack is neccessary.

I am going to have massive second thoughts about this post the minute that I post it, but I'm not going to put it on the "second thoughts" thread, because it seems that thread is no longer for second thoughts, but purely for meta and I don't want this to degenerate into meta. Maybe I should start a different thread...

I think that's all true. Tbh in general it feels presumptuous to me to want to change somebody's beliefs - part of why I hate all forms of sales pitch. And I see ilx more as a venting/commiserating space. Of course getting angry with people you like almost always feels counterproductive, but then trying to express anger in ways that aren't long term harmful is a good maybe necessary exercise in itself

And maybe sometimes everybody needs to hear legitimate anger, even if it alienates them, because I think a lot of horrible opinions fester in a space where people allow themselves to believe that opinions and beliefs are only abstract language games

I do agree that people do *need* a place to express legitimate anger. And I also agree that sometimes people do *need* to hear legitimate anger, for the reasons that you say.

But I'm also painfully aware of all sorts of power dynamics which shape and warp whose anger is seen as "legitimate" and whose anger is dismissed and deligitimised.

This needs a different thread.

(And in fact, not just whose anger is delegitimised, but for whom, anger - legitimate or otherwise - is seen as inherently delegitimising *them*)

Yeah, that web of dynamics is spread thru everything

And sometimes - I put my hand up - is used as an excuse for bad behaviour, something I think we all fall into sometimes

I made a new thread:

Times where someone / something genuinely changed your mind about a Political / Ethical / Social Issue