Posts you had second thought about and decided not to post - put them here

literally have no idea why i post here anymore

<3

think i'll just devote my time to reasonably engaging with transphobes so they dont' get radicalized further

:(

Aw man Brad, your Hum and (unexpected) Phish contributions have been inspiring lately.

fwiw brad i appreciate your presence esp. on the lgbtq thread.

i am barely on the lgbtq thread! maybe that's part of the problem

think i'll just devote my time to reasonably engaging with transphobes so they dont' get radicalized further

maybe more of ilx needs to learn the economic equivalent of "how to properly install and vent a water heater" ... maybe y'all just pretend you don't know for fun ...

fwiw get fucked Brad, calling Branwell a transphobe is a new low for you.

That’s really out of line, that is not remotely the post being referred to.

What's all this about?

Andrew screw off

“New low” for brad, the gall

this poster popping up to make threads about them and bring truscum discourse into 2020 is a noxious pattern and I can't believe anyone's falling for it as a valuable contribution

a new low!!! wow!!!!!!!

That’s really out of line, that is not remotely the post being referred to.

If I've got it wrong, I sincerely apologise, I do fuck up sometimes - what is the post then?

Pretty sure I've got silby's number, though?

6?

i would never call branwell a transphobe but i would broadly call people who hold the views of "terf"s... transphobes. i agree the word "terf" sucks and no one likes being called one, golly what a surprise. i think the focus on gender assignation is a genuinely negative thing for trans discourse and it happens literally all the time with this specific poster so i was frustrated. i am frustrated by people genuinely rising to the defense of this poster, who, maybe more than any of us, has a fucking History on this board, but sure, they're the reasonable one, and i am the difficult person who is sinking to new lows

also it is not impossible for trans ppl to hold anti-trans views. fuckin obviously

the high tolerance this board has for toxic ass people based on like, their tenure here, or their contribution to the discourse bc they write in full paragraphs, is fuckin noxious and i'm guessing it's why a lot of people leave?????

otm

If I've got it wrong, I sincerely apologise

And I have - sorry Brad. I am a fucking idiot.

xpost - more than most, I have a History with Branwell, but they've been one of the more valuable posters here, even discounting the amount of shit they get every time they pop up. Not that I'm trying to convert you to this view! Sorry again.

listen, thank you for apologizing andrew, but you're not a fucking idiot, because of the degree of pushback on some level i suspect i am being a fucking asshole, and i think that means i'm not getting anything valuable out of posting on this board anymore

does this mean the apocalypse is cancelled?

(that was an actual second thought post, not a reply to brad)

brad not posting would be another nail in the dang coffin around here but I don't think it's apocalyptic

Plz don't go Brad

i think that means i'm not getting anything valuable out of posting on this board anymore

I've had this thought a few times lately which is why I've been making a conscious effort to be much sillier on here and try to break up the acrimony a little bit where possible but I'm beginning to think it's futile

some people just bring out dark bad things in one another ... I think Branwell is often a really thoughtful, brilliant, articulate poster ... and the amount of bullying and ganging up that they have received here (compared to other posters) over the years really bothers me. ... not to dismiss your response, Brad, just that from my read of the thread, it seems like two quality posters triggering one another and taking each other to shitty places.

same, and i'm sending my male peers a thank-you note

This is utopian, of course, but I do wish we could acknowledge that it's utterly, absolutely, completely impossible to be 100% in agreement with everyone on ILX and that good faith readings are preferable to the obverse even when it's personally hurtful. Fwiw I have been genuinely unsettled by things that specific posters have said in the past but I certainly do everything within my power to look at the issue from their perspective, even when I happen to vehemently disagree, and I still respect and appreciate their continued presence (unless outright bullying is involved). I think ILX needs more rather than fewer posters, entropy be damned.

<3 Brad

A quick check of 'My Recent Posts' suggests I'm not getting or putting anything valuable out of this - there's weirdly a lot going on outside of ILX at the minute, and I'm both shitposting and resenting the new answer page. I should definitely take a break. (and I'll cop that I'm doing so in a loud annoying way to help it stick)

is a new low for you

This is absolutely me being an asshole by the way, I've not encountered a single bad opinion from Brad that I can remember.

sarahell otm

<3 to you Brad too, please stay, nobody thinks you're an asshole

simon -- your tactics are appreciated!

:)

Plz don't go Brad

― XVI Pedicabo eam (Neanderthal), Wednesday, July 29, 2020 12:50 PM

^^^

honestly I <3 brad deeply but I am in full support of bouncing from ILX if it's not enhancing your life. be free. live life. count stars! take up jogging! etc.

^ otm

jogging rules

Ikr it made the top ten in last years poll!

Simon H. otm though. Wisdom and excelsiors, damn son, it can only go down from here!

oh shit, Simon's about to have his New Jersey?

please let that not be a type of fart described by its physical sensation

<3 Brad. I too have found that taking occasional ilx breaks has been good for my well-being, but know that you were much missed last time.

brad I don’t mean to sound glib but recently I was thinking about the band A Mountain Of One and wondering what ilm poster BradNelson’s thoughts were on them... peace unto u

Brad should not leave (or should come back if they do go chill)


Most posters with interesting perspectives generate conversation by talking about things they're interested in. Sometimes this doesn't work, because there's nobody else standing in the room at the time who wants to talk about that thing; this is not a conspiracy, it just means that people are doing other things elsewhere.

If a poster regularly takes months away from ILX then reappears in order to complain that people aren't talking about the thing that they want to talk about, in the style that they want to talk about, and that they are being excluded because of this -- over and over again -- then the strategy of just talking about it might be a more productive option.

If each of their posts typically contain the following quantity of personal pronouns within two or three posts of returning, then other people in the room can be forgiven for inferring that the poster mainly would like the talk to be about themself.

(One can understand that such a poster's conscious intention is to genuinely defend theirselves, while also understanding why many would infer otherwise.)

I walked in... I was referencing... not exposed to the suspicion and accusations that I am... the problem is ~my~ attitude... But the problem is ~my~ attitude.

If I even mention... I am screamed at, told [...] that I'm not welcome... let's be clear who has been excluded here - it has not been Brad. It has been me. If I mention... I get screamed at ...

... twisted to mean I am somehow ...

But the problem is ~my~ attitude?

The problem here is not my attitude.

...It's uncomfortable for me to be here... But having me here also makes things uncomfortable for you (pl.) because my presence ... you project your discomfort onto me. It's *MY* fault, my ... the problems I have here...

To name a problem is to become the problem.

only a few months ago, in my "DO NOT POST IN THIS THREAD" thread, Mordy and deems had a 1-2 joke about death of the author and "is that a threat?". this poster was involved in a similar misunderstanding years ago in their beef with Mordy, but the "death of an author/is that a threat" joke had been occurring on ILX prior to that incident in question.

out of nowhere, this same poster showed up in thread and accused us of all being assholes and saying we are constantly mocking that incident from a few years ago, when nobody was alluding to them at all.

This is the most confusing thread on ILX

That's because this is the #trve0nethr3ad.