Why do people leave ILX for good?

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Has it gotten any easier now that you're no longer a, you know?

romanesque architect (pomenitul), Sunday, 23 February 2020 17:10 (four years ago) link

Sadly, it's all been downhill since my diaper days.

Expart of Languidge (Old Lunch), Sunday, 23 February 2020 17:31 (four years ago) link

I had an international smash hit single when I was still going by the name Jordy so let's not be too quick to declare a winner here, is alls I'm sayin

― Expart of Languidge (Old Lunch)

dur dur d'etre old lunch

Kate (rushomancy), Sunday, 23 February 2020 19:03 (four years ago) link

Should someone alert fellow "twofer" Geeta to this proposal?

whenever I mention ilx to her, she has warm things to say about a lot of old school ilxors, but expresses no interest in returning to regular posting/reading.

sarahell, Sunday, 23 February 2020 19:12 (four years ago) link

she does have great taste in food/bevs, so if she happens to be visiting your locale, you should definitely buy her drinks and/or dinner, esp. if you are an affluent white dude.

sarahell, Sunday, 23 February 2020 19:13 (four years ago) link

unless you're "that one guy" .... he knows who he is.

sarahell, Sunday, 23 February 2020 19:14 (four years ago) link

I would definitely... oh wait, never mind

mh, Sunday, 23 February 2020 19:16 (four years ago) link

not you, mh

sarahell, Sunday, 23 February 2020 19:18 (four years ago) link

jokes

mh, Sunday, 23 February 2020 19:19 (four years ago) link

DM-ed you

sarahell, Sunday, 23 February 2020 19:19 (four years ago) link

she does have great taste in food/bevs, so if she happens to be visiting your locale, you should definitely buy her drinks and/or dinner, esp. if you are an affluent white dude.

Would it be ok if I'm just a regular middle class brown woman?

We Live as We Dee, Alone (deethelurker), Sunday, 23 February 2020 21:00 (four years ago) link

I think the implication was that the people complaining about a lack of diverse voices earlier in this thread are largely cisgender white straight men

mh, Sunday, 23 February 2020 22:40 (four years ago) link

well, fuck it, i've done my part to increase the number of women _and_ decrease the number of men posting here

of course offering money to posters is a fairly clueless solution - first off y'all can't afford my rates, second off i guarantee you spend enough time even talking about the idea and some asshole will jump out of the woodwork with some bullshit argument about how i "shouldn't count".

Kate (rushomancy), Monday, 24 February 2020 01:27 (four years ago) link

well, fuck it, i've done my part to increase the number of women _and_ decrease the number of men posting here

A+ :D

I'm always completely... fine with people leaving? Like "kudos to you, you managed to get out of here." I don't desire this myself, but I can see why one would, for so many reasons.

Le Bateau Ivre, Monday, 24 February 2020 08:58 (four years ago) link

Trying my best to call out the bullshit. Also doing it for free too. Aren't you all lucky?

xyzzzz__, Monday, 24 February 2020 12:04 (four years ago) link

i prefer to refer to it as privileged

sarahell, Monday, 24 February 2020 16:39 (four years ago) link

two months pass...

Hi all,

I’m out.

I found ilx in ‘03 and have since been a daily lurker and occasional poster. I’ve learned so much here from ilxors like Milton Parker, dylannn, John D4rni3lle, Sund4r, Scott Seward, momus, Ta-Nehisi Coates, and even deej.

Where have they all gone?

Maybe I’m old or too sensitive but I feel increasingly at odds with nearly everyone here. I don’t want to be unkind to anyone so I’ll stay quiet.

My best to all.

... (Yelploaf), Sunday, 10 May 2020 22:55 (four years ago) link

Yelp I'm still here I'm just kinda incognito

TNC posted here?!

TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Sunday, 10 May 2020 22:58 (four years ago) link

Sund4r posts all the time.

My Chess Hustler (James Redd and the Blecchs), Sunday, 10 May 2020 22:59 (four years ago) link

Milton P still posts.

Frank Bough: I Took Drugs with Vice Girls (Tom D.), Sunday, 10 May 2020 23:00 (four years ago) link

Often in the same threads as Sund4r!

Frank Bough: I Took Drugs with Vice Girls (Tom D.), Sunday, 10 May 2020 23:01 (four years ago) link

It's been over a decade since Momus posted here, I think?

reggae mike love (polyphonic), Sunday, 10 May 2020 23:04 (four years ago) link

TNC made exactly 10 posts in 2003, not really an ILXor

trapped out the barndo (crüt), Sunday, 10 May 2020 23:08 (four years ago) link

God only sent Moses Ten Commandments, doesn’t mean he wasn’t an ilxor

treeship., Sunday, 10 May 2020 23:12 (four years ago) link

deej still post regularly also under a different name

Mario Meatwagon (Moodles), Sunday, 10 May 2020 23:20 (four years ago) link

really?

treeship., Sunday, 10 May 2020 23:58 (four years ago) link

I wouldn't discount the likely possibility that I've been extremely confused the last 5+ years, but yes, I believe this is true

Mario Meatwagon (Moodles), Monday, 11 May 2020 00:02 (three years ago) link

Deej is D-40

genital giant (Neanderthal), Monday, 11 May 2020 00:11 (three years ago) link

This is what I thought

Mario Meatwagon (Moodles), Monday, 11 May 2020 00:12 (three years ago) link

I am HOOOOOOWLLLL oh wait gave it away

Ned Raggett, Monday, 11 May 2020 00:13 (three years ago) link

i don't think i've seen many d-40 posts recently

treeship., Monday, 11 May 2020 00:17 (three years ago) link

He doesn't post as much as he had, but definitely still a regular.

Mario Meatwagon (Moodles), Monday, 11 May 2020 00:19 (three years ago) link

I don't think Coates posted enough to count, leaving us with seven ilxors. Four are ostensibly still active to varying degrees, which is more than 50% over a period of almost two decades. That's a pretty good percentage, right? Certainly not enough to warrant a 'where are the snows of yesteryear?'-type lament. Sounds like your main reasons for self-ejecting lie elsewhere, Yelp.

pomenitul, Monday, 11 May 2020 00:26 (three years ago) link

ban yelploaf

brimstead, Monday, 11 May 2020 00:29 (three years ago) link

And indeed, this August -- three months away -- ILX is officially twenty years old.

Ned Raggett, Monday, 11 May 2020 00:29 (three years ago) link

Anyway, this is as appropriate a moment as any to reiterate that I miss Scott.

xps

pomenitul, Monday, 11 May 2020 00:29 (three years ago) link

What can we do special to celebrate the 20th anniversary

Mordy, Monday, 11 May 2020 00:31 (three years ago) link

51 each other.

pomenitul, Monday, 11 May 2020 00:32 (three years ago) link

lower SB threshold to 11, re-enable blink tag, lock 20,000 random threads, make System bump 20,000 others

silby, Monday, 11 May 2020 00:32 (three years ago) link

bon voyage, yelploaf. walk with god. come back anytime to lurk or post.

A is for (Aimless), Monday, 11 May 2020 01:11 (three years ago) link

ilx is old enough to know better

Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Monday, 11 May 2020 01:20 (three years ago) link

So cry, baby, cry.

My Chess Hustler (James Redd and the Blecchs), Monday, 11 May 2020 01:23 (three years ago) link

can you take me back where i came from
honey can you take me back?

Kate (rushomancy), Monday, 11 May 2020 01:47 (three years ago) link

And indeed, this August -- three months away -- ILX is officially twenty years old.

Whoa, this is weird, in my mind I'm a new ILXor but it seems I've been posting for ... three-quarters of the entire history of the site?

Guayaquil (eephus!), Monday, 11 May 2020 03:21 (three years ago) link

thought I started posting as "uh" in 2004 (which I'm not proud to admit), horrified to realize I posted here under my government name 10 times in 2003. which I didn't know until 5 minutes ago.

genital giant (Neanderthal), Monday, 11 May 2020 03:23 (three years ago) link

sorta kills the point of the big goodbye post when you claim ta-nehisi coates was a seminal ilxor

℺ ☽ ⋠ ⏎ (✖), Monday, 11 May 2020 03:30 (three years ago) link

I recently ran into one of TNC's posts while doing an ilx search on an unrelated purpose. Surprised me to see the name used in a year prior to TNC becoming well known. It was articulate, pointed, but nothing deathless, much like your somewhat above-average ilx post.

A is for (Aimless), Monday, 11 May 2020 03:50 (three years ago) link

sorta kills the point of the big goodbye post when you claim ta-nehisi coates was a seminal ilxor

― ℺ ☽ ⋠ ⏎ (✖), Monday, May 11, 2020 5:30 AM (three hours ago) bookmarkflaglink

Otm. TNC posted a handful of posts, addressing one particular topic, no more. This seems like name-dropping for the sake of it. At least Jimmy the Mod awaited the return of his loved ones en publique.

You owe us nothing, Yelp, and feeling out of touch with everyone here is as good a reason as any to leave, obviously. All the best.

Might spend the 20th anniversary looking up TNC's ilx posts. They must've had a lot of wisdom in them for a lurker/occasional poster to remember them in his goodbye post 17 years later.

xyzzzz__, Monday, 11 May 2020 07:10 (three years ago) link


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