fuck cancer

Very sorry to hear it, Calzino.

he's a legend for once posting a huge clump of weed to my mum wrapped up in a magazine. It had got intercepted en route and the result was an early morning drugs bust at my house when I was like 6 years old. Me and my brother were like: this is cooler than an episode of The Sweeney!

My sincere condolences, calz.

rip calz

sorry to hear that calz, he sounds like a great guy

Very sorry for your loss, Calz

Sorry to hear that, man.

Sorry for your loss, Calzino.

Sorry for your loss :(

My wife passed away on Sunday. I don't have much to say at the moment but I knew I would need to tell people at some point and I am trying to get things done, partly to keep myself busy I think so the grief doesn't completely overwhelm me.

My heart goes out to you, CP. Just take things slowly, allow yourself plenty of time to grieve, feel whatever emotions you want to feel and do whatever you want to do (save for the more drastic measures, of course), get plenty of rest, don't overwork yourself too much with the funeral arrangements, etc. Please reach out to me via private communications if you need a rock to lean on.

Also, once again, fuck cancer.

My beautiful, socially conscious, left-wing cousin who is an island of sanity in my life has just entered hospice care for the stage IV breast cancer first diagnosed two years ago. Right at the New Year the chest infection she was fighting turned into pneumonia and while battling that, the cancer that was already in her liver and bones got too serious to treat with chemotherapy. She is mother to two boys, who are 9 and nearly 5, and I cannot begin to imagine what it must be like for those kids.

Additionally, 20 years ago she fell out with my mum and sister for a long list of reasons including their criticism of her choice of husband. Honestly, I can’t blame her for doing that, because they say the kind of things well-adjusted people never would because once aired, they can’t be taken back. I am having to manage them being alternately upset and shitty about her - my mum in particular is testing my nerves.

As some of you will know, I am a survivor of a serious childhood cancer myself so losing Kelly to this shitty disease is a cruelty I can hardly bear. I love her so much and I can hardly think straight right now.

A lot of love and strength to you, Suzy!

I'm so sorry, suzy. I can only hope that it's not too late.

awful news, sorry to hear that Suzy.

I’m trying to get to Minnesota next week and hope I'm there on time. It would be very Kelly to check out on leap day to give her boys an unhappy anniversary that only comes up every four years.

I'm very sorry to hear that Suzy, love and strength <3

Very sorry to hear this Suzy.

so sorry Suzy. I think we talked about your cousin at a FAP once, since what she has mirrored what my wife had. it is a cruel disease

Thank you CP. It means a lot to me that you took time out to send good wishes in your own time of mourning.

Kelly died today at 2.45 Minneapolis time, with her husband and boys close by. I am bereft (there is no other word for it).
Fuck you, cancer.

So sorry for your loss suzy

2020 has just been straight garbage on this cancer front. Fuck cancer.

I’m sorry, suzy.

Suzy, sending you much much love.

i’m so sorry, suzy

I’m really sorry, Suzy.

so sorry, Suzy. It's all unbearably unfair.

I’m trying to be thankful that the hellish, non compos mentis part of Kelly’s illness was so short. Right now, I’ll take what I can get.

sorry for your loss Suzy.

Also thinking of the improvising guitarist John Russell this morning, who has just had a cancer diagnosis. Fuck cancer.

sorry to hear that Suzy, what a wretched month it has been.

My sincere condolences, Suzy. Fuck cancer.

best wishes and hugs suzy, and CP too and everyone else in the thread :(

i'm so sorry suzy <3

Christ, hugs to you, suzy, and to you, calzino.

My deepest condolences, suzy and calzino.

My condolences, Suzy

I'm really sorry to hear of this Suzy, my condolences.

2020 is a shitfest.

I’ve started a Facebook fundraiser for CLIC Sargent, who continue to support us with Casper (who is very well), because it’s my birthday next week and charity donations have fallen through the floor because of corona lockdown. Thought I’d link it here because, well, why not? If it raises an extra £10 that’s worth it.

Condolences to everyone who’s lost someone. Strength to everyone dealing with cancer right now.


https://www.facebook.com/donate/268997987568882/?fundraiser_source=external_url

Is there a way to donate other than through Facebook? I’d like to contribute.

My wife’s running the London Marathon for the same charity - she’s deferred to 2021 due to covid, but still fundraising. You can donate here:

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/ForCasper

Thank you!

You’re welcome!

i’ve not been able to handle this thread for a while due to the absolute shitfest my incredibly good and beautiful and wholesome and entirely selfless friend has had to endure for the past 18 months. rupert murdoch lives on but the best and most deserving man in australia doesn’t. the first person i came out to in 20 years; the man who set me on the path to accepting myself, and to conquering internalised phobia and losing my shame; who helped thousands and thousands of people to be proud and to be themselves; who always put his own astronomical problems on the backburner to help everyone he possibly could; who lived his best life as fiercely and as proudly as was humanly possible. taken down by this cold fucking disease.

huge huge condolences to everyone in this thread who has dealt with unimaginable shit. you have my deepest and truest love. cancer is fucked.

Goddamn what a cruel situation to be in. My heartfelt best.

Lots of love, man.

indeed, take care autumn almanac. :(

:(

Wishing you all the best, AA.

Awful and cruel. All the very best AA <3

I had to take time away from this thread (and ILX in general), but..

Colonel Poo, I thought of you and your wife often during my absence, and after reading the thread just now, want to send you a lot of love.

Everyone else dealing with the loss or illness of loved ones, I also send you a lot of love.

I should say: my tumor counts are non-detectable as of a month ago.

My white blood cell counts continue to be low, but low immunity seems to be something I'm just going to have to deal with for the rest of my life.

Thank you all for being so kind and supportive in 2019. I hate this thread but love the support it provides.

xoxo

thanks table, and best wishes to you

AA I'm sorry you've had to deal with this shit too

thank you everyone. i’ve not been in the headspace for this thread. massively appreciate all your thoughts. the funeral was live streamed because we’re still dealing with the rona here, so we’ve not seen anyone in person and are unable to feel any sense of closure.

tabs & poo: i don’t have sufficient words, except that life is fucking unjust and i’m standing with you. tabs, your non-detectable tumour counts is/are great news.