I'm at the age now where my among my friends everyone who is going to get married probably has, everyone who wants kids does or has moved on, and the first round "we made a mistake" divorces have happened. Friend's kids graduating / marrying / having kids is still to come, along with some number of "we've grown apart and the kids are grown" divorces.
But right now seems to be the "friends get cancer and die" stage and it fucking sucks. A former colleague's husband died in December, a very close friend's wife died last night, and former colleague of my wife is starting hospice this week. I kind of knew this was inevitable but the randomness of fate and mortality is just sad and awful.
― joygoat, Thursday, 13 February 2020 14:40 (four years ago) link
When I celebrated my 50th birthday I told people that, realistically speaking, I was now in 'the death zone', where age-related mortality rates begin to rise. It seemed important to acknowledge that. It still does, now that I am mid-60s.
― A is for (Aimless), Thursday, 13 February 2020 18:24 (four years ago) link
50 years ago today pic.twitter.com/FrRIjUXQrF— Geezer Butler (@geezerbutler) February 13, 2020
― mark s, Thursday, 13 February 2020 22:33 (four years ago) link
"Geezer" indeed
― Brad C., Thursday, 13 February 2020 22:53 (four years ago) link
Forever young in the UK tho.
― romanesque architect (pomenitul), Thursday, 13 February 2020 22:55 (four years ago) link
think i'm about to receive my first invitation to a friend's child's wedding
― mookieproof, Thursday, 27 February 2020 00:25 (four years ago) link
Christgau's newest post--"The 77 Year Old Rock Critic meets his 77-year-old body"--is quite sobering.
― clemenza, Tuesday, 3 March 2020 14:15 (four years ago) link
Forgot that he gives the okay for sharing; if you don't subscribe and want to read it, it's here.
http://robertchristgau.substack.com/p/my-thigh-hurts?r=1jtu0&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email&utm_source=copy
― clemenza, Tuesday, 3 March 2020 14:39 (four years ago) link
Okay, finally, a couple years into this bogus 'forties' bullshit and the joint pain has finally begun in earnest. I can tell a nor'easter is on its way jist by listenin' to m'knees, a-yep. Yessir. (returns to whittling while rocking on the front porch of the general store)
― Lake Meat (Old Lunch), Tuesday, 3 March 2020 14:44 (four years ago) link
Picked this off my shelf out of the blue the other day; highly recommend it to anyone over, I don't know, 50 or so.
http://phildellio.tripod.com/cowley.jpg
― clemenza, Tuesday, 3 March 2020 14:51 (four years ago) link
Starting a physically demanding job this summer has really shown me the limitations of this aging flesh-suit. My wrists and feet are mad as hell at me.
― (show hidden tics) (WmC), Saturday, 10 October 2020 14:19 (three years ago) link
Much empathy for that, WmC - oldness + fatness means compression socks every damn day and icing as much as possible to keep foot pain from being completely crippling.
― Jaq, Saturday, 10 October 2020 17:24 (three years ago) link
I may have to look into compression socks, thanks Jaq -- in the meantime, since my previous post I tried Aspercreme on my wrists and it worked surprisingly fast!
― (show hidden tics) (WmC), Saturday, 10 October 2020 17:37 (three years ago) link
I've been juggling a whole bunch of medicines the past few weeks as tests have been eliminating things (on top of all the pills I was already taking for chronic conditions).I got this vision of an older me fumbling with those confusing wee pill sorters are supposed to help and realised it's probably not that far away.
― here we go, ten in a rona (onimo), Saturday, 10 October 2020 18:26 (three years ago) link
Which is better, partial or bridge?
― tots & pears (doo dah), Saturday, 10 October 2020 20:09 (three years ago) link
waking up at night to pee
― cum dude (Princess TamTam), Tuesday, May 10, 2011 10:48 AM
My biggest complaint atm. Last night was the first night in months that I made it through without having to get up.
― Miami weisse (WmC), Saturday, January 18, 2020 10:12 AM
Starting generic Flomax plus diphenhydramine (Zzzquil) has been great for my nights. I still have to get up to pee but don't have to struggle to squeeze any out, and I can fall back asleep afterward.
― Motoroller Scampotron (WmC), Saturday, 26 December 2020 16:41 (three years ago) link
^ a report from the front lines
― Respectfully Yours, (Aimless), Saturday, 26 December 2020 17:21 (three years ago) link
Am sixty next year...
Option VotesReduced energy levels No. Deteriorating hearing No. Memory problems Yeah. Metabolism slowdown No (not sure what this means) Bowel/elimination problems (including hemorrhoids) No (I think I know what this means) Longer times to recover from injury or exercise No. Deteriorating vision Yeah. Growing hair where you don't want to grow it Abit. Papery skin/loss of elasticity in skin/wrinkles No, no, some. Dental problems No. Fear of falling/fear of injury/loss of physical courage No. Reduced libido No. Graying hair A bit. Slower reflexes Don't think so. Thickening/yellowing of nails one or two toenailsEating/Digestion problems No. Moles hmm, a couple. Melanin deposits/age spots Dunno, possibly. Losing hair where you don't want to lose it Nope, all there
― Mark G, Saturday, 26 December 2020 17:47 (three years ago) link
Where are back and joint pain in this list?
― Brad C., Saturday, 26 December 2020 18:29 (three years ago) link
A fatal omission, must repoll.
― Motoroller Scampotron (WmC), Saturday, 26 December 2020 19:50 (three years ago) link
I have this thing lately where I feel a faint sense of panic when confronted with technology (I'm going to go all Baudelaire: like feeling the wind of the wing of madness). I'm pretty computer literate and am happy to jump in with most tech but last night I had to change the clock on the boiler (oh, the glamour) and it all seemed horribly complicated - to the point where I was just staring at it, and getting that 'thunk' sound Windows makes when you're asking it to do something it doesn't want to. I'm hoping it was mostly tiredness, but ffs.
― Vanishing Point (Chinaski), Wednesday, 31 March 2021 13:23 (three years ago) link
I'm 35, and my wife & kids recently took a trip to see her parents, which I didn't have the vacation for (not having your kids in school eats up a lot of it!). So I'm home alone, and I just realized something about getting older...you don't really know what's up anymore. Like in my early 20's I always knew where the party was, who's at the bar, who's got a poker game going, who's staying in getting high, etc. A lot of those people are still around but either they don't do much anymore or I just don't know about it. Obviously Covid is a big factor right now but even if there wasn't a pandemic, I wouldn't really know what to do with myself. Or what even I *want* to do with myself!
― frogbs, Thursday, 12 August 2021 03:52 (two years ago) link
I'm 59, and this may not happen for another 20 years, but I know that my first hip replacement is going to be my right hip.
― Hideous Lump, Thursday, 12 August 2021 04:52 (two years ago) link
Hipeous Lump
― bobo honkin' slobo babe (sic), Thursday, 12 August 2021 05:17 (two years ago) link
I was pretty sick for a few months years ago, when I was around frog's age. After recovering, I realized that I didn't know what was going on around town anymore either. Hell, I had also lost touch with the whole world, in fact. (I recently read on wikipedia that The Police reunited about 10-15 years ago? Had no idea.)
But looking back, I'm not sure if the cause of that was getting sick or if it had more to do with ... getting older.
― pplains, Thursday, 12 August 2021 13:30 (two years ago) link
Alas, the two are not unrelated
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Thursday, 12 August 2021 13:46 (two years ago) link
1:00 this afternoon: "I should go spend some time on the bike before the gym closes at 3:00." 2:00: "I don't really feel like it."
3:00: "Okay--I'll drive into London, have dinner there, and go to that rep screening of Nightmare on Elm Street." Four hours later: "Forget it--I'll just make dinner here and watch something at home."
8:30: "I should at least go have a coffee at Tim Hortons and do some reading." 9:00: "It's kind of cold outside."
― clemenza, Sunday, 31 October 2021 02:51 (two years ago) link
When you see the moans you posted in this thread 10 years ago and think "lol that kid knew nothing"
― maybe these baps are legends (Noodle Vague), Sunday, 31 October 2021 02:57 (two years ago) link
They were dressing up in costume at work yesterday. The Clueless girls as well as Forrest Gump were represented. So I ask Dionne Davenport, What's up with you millennials dressing up like 30-year old movies? She says they didn't seem 30 years old when they were running nightly on TBS while they were growing up.
I say, TBS? I saw Forrest Gump in the theater! And the look in her eyes when I said that, like I had just unwrapped myself to reveal myself as the Mummy. Good thing I didn't mention how amazing I thought the CGI was at the time.
― pplains, Sunday, 31 October 2021 04:32 (two years ago) link
my dewey youthfulness is due, in part, to never having seen forrest gump
― mookieproof, Sunday, 31 October 2021 05:00 (two years ago) link
I was forced to watch it five years ago as a DYING MAN’S LAST(ish) WISH and I am still pissed about it
― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Sunday, 31 October 2021 14:40 (two years ago) link
On the bright side, he's dead now ...
― Milm & Foovies (Eric H.), Sunday, 31 October 2021 14:48 (two years ago) link
Most millennials are in their 30s so yeah 30yo films are what we grew up with
― siffleur’s mom (wins), Sunday, 31 October 2021 14:50 (two years ago) link
I don't remember ever dressing up as Godfather or Deliverance characters.
― pplains, Sunday, 31 October 2021 15:10 (two years ago) link
lol
― siffleur’s mom (wins), Sunday, 31 October 2021 15:21 (two years ago) link
Let's not go too far down the path of what the preceding generations dressed up as for Halloween.
― Milm & Foovies (Eric H.), Sunday, 31 October 2021 15:24 (two years ago) link
cut my tongue on the mouth hole
― When Young Sheldon began to rap (forksclovetofu), Saturday, 6 November 2021 06:50 (two years ago) link
It's Friday night, and you find yourself watching an episode of Celebrity Bowling from the '70s with John Beradino, Greg Morris, and Frank Gorshin and his wife.
― clemenza, Sunday, 28 November 2021 02:59 (two years ago) link
now on day five of my covid experience and the whole thing would be significantly more tolerable if every single cough and sneeze didn't wrench the fuck out of my lower back
― mookieproof, Friday, 31 December 2021 00:50 (two years ago) link
Oof
― pandmac (darraghmac), Friday, 31 December 2021 00:52 (two years ago) link
sorry dude
― i cannot help if you made yourself not funny (forksclovetofu), Monday, 3 January 2022 15:52 (two years ago) link
*huggles* mookie
― (I'm Not Your) Steppin' Razor (James Redd and the Blecchs), Monday, 3 January 2022 16:06 (two years ago) link
sorry mookie! hoping you recover quickly
― Blues Guitar Solo Heatmap (Free Download) (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Monday, 3 January 2022 16:34 (two years ago) link
lol @ me for not including gout and sciatica in this poll. today sciatica is the culprit.
― DPRK in Cincinnati (WmC), Wednesday, 2 November 2022 14:12 (one year ago) link
Not so much reduced energy levels, but aching joints. Combined with a sudden surge in energy, the results can be like the dancing contest in the final episode of Black Books.
― gonna win all over your face (snoball), Thursday, 9 August 2012 08:39 (ten years ago)
In the last ten years I've lost weight - ten years ago I was 38, probably at my heaviest when I was mid 30s. Last couple of years I've made a concerted effort to lose a bit more. Also I've really ramped up the exercise in the last eight years. There's a real difference between aching joints that are a result of exercise and aching joints that are a consequence of being out of shape. Same with feeling tired generally.
― Being cheap is expensive (snoball), Wednesday, 2 November 2022 14:44 (one year ago) link
Feel better WmC. My dad is suffering sciatica and it is quite debilitating for him.
― sometimes you have to drink to kill the paranoia (PBKR), Wednesday, 2 November 2022 15:00 (one year ago) link
One sciatica symptom for me is that my left testicle feels like it's Shemp's head in the vise in "Brideless Groom," and Satan is saying "NOW will you marry me!?"
― DPRK in Cincinnati (WmC), Wednesday, 2 November 2022 15:43 (one year ago) link
"Join balls you lovebirds"
― Eric H., Wednesday, 2 November 2022 15:44 (one year ago) link
hahahaha
― DPRK in Cincinnati (WmC), Wednesday, 2 November 2022 16:03 (one year ago) link
Reduced energy levels Eh, my energy has been substandard as far back as I can remember.Deteriorating hearing No. *knocks on wood*Memory problems Again, this has been disappointing me as far as I can remember.Metabolism slowdown Again, my "metabolism" (as such things are commonly understood) has been disappointing me as long as I grasped the concept.Bowel/elimination problems (including hemorrhoids) No.Longer times to recover from injury or exercise Not as I see it.Deteriorating vision Eh, I've been nearsighted since at least high school.Growing hair where you don't want to grow it Yes, but nothing that couldn't be conquered with some (expensive) electrolysis.Papery skin/loss of elasticity in skin/wrinkles No, but I've had a skin care regimen since my 20s.Dental problems No.Fear of falling/fear of injury/loss of physical courage No.Reduced libido Ha ha ha no. The libido is there, but the men I'm interested in ignore me and the men who express interest in me are the human equivalent of a windowless van with "FREE CANDY" painted on the side.Graying hair A little, but I don't know if anyone else has noticed.Slower reflexes Not that I've confirmed.Thickening/yellowing of nails My toenails have been grody for years.Eating/Digestion problems Occasionally, but usually connectable to a recent indulgence.Moles None that have made significant recent changes.Melanin where you don't want to lose it Slight age spotting but I don't know if anyone else notices it.
Missing options, in no specific order:1) Physical and/or financial dependence on others.2) The loss of family/loved ones/other people dear to one.3) Arthritis and other physical deterioration.4) Age discrimination (in workplaces and elsewhere).
― Infanta Terrible (j.lu), Wednesday, 2 November 2022 23:42 (one year ago) link