Tea With the Flames: A QUEER New Year to Keep You Warm in WINTER 2020

What are our thoughts on Queen Latifah?

excellent in Set It Off

I probably should see Last Holiday.

The ALEC GUINNESS version? (also queer)

the flatulent effects of late-night dairy consumption

my new screenname in a nutshell

did i tell u guys that i noticed a new line on my body? yes. during my bimonthly physical evaluation of myself in my 80" tall mirror, i noticed something. at first i thought it was fat and I was looking pudgy, but then i looked closer and it was A LINE. like A MUSCLE. i was shocked. it seems to be a pectoral muscle, and it's barely visible to the naked eye, but it's there. this is shaking my world.

put some pesto on it!!

honey, i said pectoral muscle, not pestoral muscle

i need a pecture of yr pectoral

oh no
i am definitely not a picture pec
what a beautiful day of rain here in NY today

Met a dude last night after I blasted a karaoke crowd into submission with my cover of Blondie's "Atomic." The hair in the back was rather long for my taste, but we chatted at the bar, bought each other beers, and tongued quietly.

Overheard: Girl to boyfriend: "They're having more fun than we are."

:) i just discovered the Blondie Autoamerican album on my own and i'm really into it

did you make out at the bar? i always wonder if people are judging me when i do that. i wouldn't judge you. been there plenty and it does sound fun :P

A gin and tonic and two beers and I'm ready to make out gladly with Elizabeth Warren.

lol. i just found out that apparently red lighting makes you look really good, which is probably why i always wind up in somebody's arms at the local bar.

three-drink slut eh

i'll keep red light in mind if i make it to Nowhere tnite

i am talking to this guy online who likes to be "obedient"
you know, i really can get into this thing of like ordering people around and being really mean lol
it's not really in line with my brand but i find it super fun in the BR

Send him down to scrub my stall.

lol. i also...like to smack people sometimes and get really rough with them! who knew! i mean, OBV if that's what they want.

have we already talked about what are our thoughts on w/s in here

we dont use I Love TMI anymore, eh?

omg sorry lol

i don't really care, but it depends what ppl think of their employers' monitoring

totally. :P eek! my lifestyle is too much for people to handle!

I bet not!

Morbzy are you seeing anything at BAM this season?

Every dollar I spend that isn't rent or medical bills is... debt

so no

feel you <3
STILL adjusting to paying double the rent ever since my life partner of 18 years left the nest
sorry just feel the need sometimes to spell it out to remind myself that i'm like going thru some shit and i'm allowed to take a minute with it

i've been taking almost two years with it

(not intentionally)

i know and i certainly don't mean to compare my empty nest with your battle. i'm glad you've been posting here for at least a diversion.

well, i need to kill time while doctors and social workers aren't calling me

(btw the medical shit has been going on 7.5 years; my accelerating poverty just the last two)

ugh. you're so strong my dear. we love you.

well, you know, my week really sucks so if anyone wants to tell me about how their week sucks it would be appreciated

My week doesn’t suck, but my anxiety has been acting up. Cutting back on coffee. Smoking much less, down to 8 a day yay

ok that definitely counts as commiseration, thank you
i quit coffee for three years and it definitely helped
i'm still using the Juul device, whatever
anxiety is my life but i've come to like, not let it bother me as much
still, it's bitchier than Michael Kors on Project Runway on a bad day so, i feel ya

hi!

my week is looking up cuz i'm moving into a nice place with my boyfriend on friday! he's like really clean and he doesn't mind that i'm a slob (!?!?)

amazing! congratulations!!!

thank u :)

as the neat freak in my former life, i can say it's definitely nice for the other person. i kept our house spotless. but i would make sure you do some cooking or dishes or whatever you can offer to keep things balanced :P not that you need my advice but there it is

I've only had one drink since January 3, the day I started back to work after a particularly stressful holiday. Not fun, but I rarely actively miss it. However, my husband and I just arrived back home where we'll be staying for a week to look after some stuff for my in laws, and there's no way I'll be able to make it through this week without booze.

My problem drinking miraculously evaporated post-breakup. Weird, huh. A relationship-gone-bad will make you DRINK.

I've been enjoying my time with this new guy, though. The sex continues to be unspeakably good. He made dinner for me last night-- ravioli with sausage and rapini. We talked today about me going to visit a long-time on-again off-again lover next month, and he's cool with it. I'm cool with him continuing to see his own side-piece once every couple of weeks. It's all so blissful.. and a little boring? Like, I'm so used to relationships feeling like I'm teetering on the edge of a precipice at all times, not this comfort and safety.

map I hope you're prepared to do the cooking in exchange for the cleaning! (It's such a good trade-off)

that's so nice, flambo. i aspire to find a new relationship like yours some day! the guy i was hanging out with just moved to Hell's Kitchen (he was right in my hood in BK). before he moved he reached out and said he missed my giggles <3 so i think maybe we'll hang out more. i continue to be really happy with how big his d is and how skillful he is between the sheets.

cryps don't beat yourself up for having a few necessary drinks

A gay friend: "I had this vegan boyfriend once who was so committed that he didn't eat honey or swallow my jizz"
Me: "Did he at least let you pour honey all over his face"

wow, is the jizz not vegan??? had no idea tbh

o like bc it comes from a mammal?

Do people with annoying laughs bother you at work? If you hear them several times a day? There's one here I silently label "Gay Hyena."

oh yes. i had a gay hyena. it was awful. i have a loud laugh but people can't resist it.

Is there a drink cart update?

Also, I am very into rowing. Watch videos on proper form, most people at gyms are doing crazy things on it and I wonder about them.

UM

weird timing because i FINALLY tried the machine last night after watching videos. IT. IS SO. FUN. i had no idea!!!!!! what a fucking cool machine! i never knew moving your body could be that cool. totally want one in my home.