Very much agree with that statement. One void calls for another.
― pomenitul, Thursday, 30 January 2020 10:38 (four years ago) link
well guess we'll never see her again that fuckin sucks! cheers
― I wanna publish memes and rage against machimes (rip van wanko), Thursday, 30 January 2020 10:58 (four years ago) link
rip indeed
― (darraghpc) vs (darraghmac), Thursday, 30 January 2020 11:01 (four years ago) link
Re: "I'm sorry for your loss", I know that the writer is now awful but this is the sitcom scene that comes to my mind more often than any other:http://www.youtube.com/TKOrr4XRbg8
― Alba, Thursday, 30 January 2020 17:17 (four years ago) link
https://youtu.be/TKOrr4XRbg8
― Alba, Thursday, 30 January 2020 17:18 (four years ago) link
meaningless cant lines in times of most fathomless realities are the most useful words and phrases of all imo
― (darraghpc) vs (darraghmac), Thursday, 30 January 2020 10:36 (six hours ago) bookmarkflaglink
thank you yes, you'd have to be a very special kind of bellend to worry about not being cliched ooh la la when faced with consoling somebody's loss
― GK Chessington's World of Adventure (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 30 January 2020 17:22 (four years ago) link
i mean obviously the drift of this thread is largely for being a very special kind of bellend but still
― GK Chessington's World of Adventure (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 30 January 2020 17:23 (four years ago) link
lol i remember my mum saying almost exactly that to a younger (and more bellendish) me when i was being prima donna-ish abt a condolence letter i was trying to write
― mark s, Thursday, 30 January 2020 17:24 (four years ago) link
well im defending it but im not up for calling anyone a cunt over it like
― (darraghpc) vs (darraghmac), Thursday, 30 January 2020 17:26 (four years ago) link
god i'm *so sorry* your beloved child died, what's that you say, car accident? *yawn* so trite
― GK Chessington's World of Adventure (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 30 January 2020 17:32 (four years ago) link
It is really difficult writing a message to someone - and I have found it harder doing so for someone I know and love as opposed to someone I’ve been out of touch with for years. I am not quite the age/family age to have experienced loads of deaths in my extended family or among friends, so I don’t do it very often. It’s hard! You’re sitting there looking at this blank space and worrying about what to write. What if you don’t want to write the same lines as everyone else but then accidentally touch something off? What if you do the card equivalent of leaving an awkward voicemail message? Will they even notice the words used?When I was talking about this to my mother a few years back - who had lost both her own parents when she was young - she said that she remembered who had sent the family cards, and less so what they’d said. So since then, I have gone with the words we all use. Tl;dr deems largely otm.
― steer karma (gyac), Thursday, 30 January 2020 17:44 (four years ago) link
(Unrelatedish but yesterday I was telling my mam that I thought our old neighbour had died. Can you not check? she says. Check how, I went, they don’t have an rip.ie over here. Pretty sure she’s still shocked over that, but we think ye have awful funeral customs anyway so).
― steer karma (gyac), Thursday, 30 January 2020 17:50 (four years ago) link
remember who, not what is otm
― (darraghpc) vs (darraghmac), Thursday, 30 January 2020 17:53 (four years ago) link
and you dont ime remember who didnt, tbh
She didn’t mean that she remembered who didn’t in a bad sort of a way, but the people who did meant a lot to her.
― steer karma (gyac), Thursday, 30 January 2020 17:56 (four years ago) link
ya im in agreement
― (darraghpc) vs (darraghmac), Thursday, 30 January 2020 18:06 (four years ago) link
Yes it's really tough finding the right words to console someone you've never met over the death of someone you've never heard of on Facebook. Context, dear boy.
― (includes digression on farting) (Tom D.), Thursday, 30 January 2020 18:26 (four years ago) link
― GK Chessington's World of Adventure (Noodle Vague), Thursday, January 30, 2020 12:22 PM bookmarkflaglink
Otm
"Just leave me alone, your words of support are hackneyed and stilted"
― ... that's Traore! (Neanderthal), Thursday, 30 January 2020 18:32 (four years ago) link
Using "that sucks" for major tragedies, on the other hand...
― (includes digression on farting) (Tom D.), Thursday, January 30, 2020 1:26 PM bookmarkflaglink
Context missing from the original post, but how many strangers do people console on a regular basis.
I can't remember a time where I was on FB and said "oh hey, the guy I met at a Grim Reaper concert once just lost his grandpa, think I'll offer my words of support."
― ... that's Traore! (Neanderthal), Thursday, 30 January 2020 18:37 (four years ago) link
You can't be on FB very much, people are forever announcing deaths on there.
― (includes digression on farting) (Tom D.), Thursday, 30 January 2020 18:41 (four years ago) link
That's one thing Twitter has over FB... or does it?
― (includes digression on farting) (Tom D.), Thursday, 30 January 2020 18:42 (four years ago) link
People dying all the time, what a tired old trope
― GK Chessington's World of Adventure (Noodle Vague), Thursday, 30 January 2020 18:42 (four years ago) link
to the tune of 'love and marriage':
thoughts and prayers, thoughts and prayersi suspect that really no one cares
― I wanna publish memes and rage against machimes (rip van wanko), Thursday, 30 January 2020 18:43 (four years ago) link
Xxpost yea but i have a FB friend that is some rando I barely know, even if they somehow show up in my feed, I don't offer condolences if I barely know them. That's just weird.
I won't even say happy birthday on FB to someone who hasn't called me an asshole at least once
― ... that's Traore! (Neanderthal), Thursday, 30 January 2020 18:44 (four years ago) link
Well, what can I say, there's a lot of weird people out there!
― (includes digression on farting) (Tom D.), Thursday, 30 January 2020 18:45 (four years ago) link
Evidently.
― steer karma (gyac), Thursday, 30 January 2020 18:51 (four years ago) link
"Moral bankruptcy".
― ... that's Traore! (Neanderthal), Friday, 31 January 2020 17:00 (four years ago) link
Cursed, now.
― Alba, Friday, 31 January 2020 19:02 (four years ago) link
ok, kind of specific, but when someone guesses the countdown conundrum and the presenter says "let's see if that's right". if it wasn't correct he wouldn't be revealing it, the other person / side would get the rest of the time to work it out.
― koogs, Friday, 31 January 2020 19:14 (four years ago) link
If there’s one perfectly normal word that I can say truly makes me mad to hear it’s “boring”, I’d like everyone to stop calling things boring. Please. Come up with something else to say.
― Swilling Ambergris, Esq. (silby), Saturday, 1 February 2020 04:17 (four years ago) link
Interest deficient
― ... that's Traore! (Neanderthal), Saturday, 1 February 2020 04:30 (four years ago) link
"let's see if that's right"
haha you are not alone on this!
― kinder, Saturday, 1 February 2020 13:53 (four years ago) link
"I hope he gets the help he needs"
― Montegays and Capulez (flamboyant goon tie included), Saturday, 1 February 2020 14:17 (four years ago) link
"A major terrorist incident". I never hear about any minor ones tbh.
― (includes digression on farting) (Tom D.), Sunday, 2 February 2020 20:05 (four years ago) link
Various UK railway station/train announcements:
"The next station stop will be...""This train will be non-stopping at the next station""This train is formed of eight carriages" - I'm not sure if this grammatically correct or not, or what would be better; it just sounds wrong.
― fetter, Sunday, 2 February 2020 20:32 (four years ago) link
i very much hate the the construction "not that good (or other adjective) of a (thing)", is that considered grammatically ok in america or something?
― doo rag, Sunday, 2 February 2020 21:51 (four years ago) link
it's not that elegant of a construction
― don't care didn't ask still clappin (sic), Sunday, 2 February 2020 21:54 (four years ago) link
its not that big of a deal
― BSC Joan Baez (darraghmac), Sunday, 2 February 2020 21:56 (four years ago) link
Gooooooooaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaal
― GK Chessington's World of Adventure (Noodle Vague), Sunday, 2 February 2020 22:10 (four years ago) link
"young people"
― dogs, Tuesday, 4 February 2020 12:29 (four years ago) link
Various UK railway station/train announcements:"The next station stop will be...""This train will be non-stopping at the next station""This train is formed of eight carriages" - I'm not sure if this grammatically correct or not, or what would be better; it just sounds wrong.
― hyds (gyac), Tuesday, 4 February 2020 12:32 (four years ago) link
seeing "simp" used a lot as basically synonym for beta, cuck, thirsty. which is particularly boring because it's being treated as if it were a "new" word or new usage
― otm into winter (rip van wanko), Thursday, 6 February 2020 03:33 (four years ago) link
When it calls me a customer rather than a passenger.
while in line at a pharmacy i was recently summoned with 'next guest, please'
foh
― mookieproof, Thursday, 6 February 2020 03:39 (four years ago) link
I've also heard, "Following guest!" at a store, can't remember where or when.
I used to work retail with a woman who would say, "I can help whomever's next!" and I had to put in a lot of time and research convincing her it was "whoever." It ended up being a whole store-wide argument w/ customers weighing in.
― Lily Dale, Thursday, 6 February 2020 04:09 (four years ago) link
"it's a bop"
― ill fuckin put a paste on those (Neanderthal), Thursday, 6 February 2020 04:10 (four years ago) link
Wait, strictly speaking isn't "whomever" right in this context?I don't get the "following customer, please" thing in the States. What's wrong with "next customer, please"? Do they think next is too abrupt a word or something?
― Alba, Thursday, 6 February 2020 08:09 (four years ago) link
service culture in the states is cringe
― BSC Joan Baez (darraghmac), Thursday, 6 February 2020 09:06 (four years ago) link
gimme a sulky teen barely bothering to avoid you with the splash any day
― BSC Joan Baez (darraghmac), Thursday, 6 February 2020 09:07 (four years ago) link
uh in a catering context youse guttersnipes