no boys allowed in the room!!!!

I got a new gyno in a spanish speaking country so I have been having my spouse come with me to all my appts because I'm not sure I will be able to communicate well enough for what I need. So it's like, making sure he can relay that I have new painful rectal cramps when I have to poop during my period and new lower back pain during ovulation and my period. But then the gyno ended up having gone to school in Virginia and spoke perfect english which I found out while in stirrups. He still had to chaperone the transvag ultrasound and mammogram though. Anyway, fibroids!

Fibroids were the cause of my uterus eviction, which I which I'd done sooner. Like, when I was 16.

i started back on hormonal bc to hopefully get a grip on my pms issues
so far so good but it has only been like a week

i am through to the other side of menopause (it was not at all an easy transition, especially the chronic anxiety) and i think i’ve never felt better. i love it. it’s so underrated.

I think I may be perimenopausal, at least that is how I explain the fact that my brain is getting mushy.

The other day I was thinking "oh god I'd be so fucked if I had to do organic chemistry again!" then I'm like wait there is zero need for me to do organic chemistry again ever in my life, what does it matter.

how I explain the fact that my brain is getting mushy.
i looked at my grocery list today and it said "green beens"
it didn't occur to me to blame my hormones but maybe it's a sign i'm getting stale

my anti-anxiety meds make my brain mushier -- i had to change them last year (what I was on before did not have that effect). On the one hand, less anxiety, on the other, I actually can't remember what all the businesses were on the block of Grand Ave. between Broadway and Webster St. in 2001.

"oh god I'd be so fucked if I had to do organic chemistry again!"

I do remember about half dozen of my housemates in college expressing feelings of fucked-ness re organic chemistry, and they had fresh 20 year old brains!

q, i just did a search through this thread and did you manage to obtain pics of the uterus eviction when you had it done?

Oh damn I did not! I wish I had. Apparently the thing was the size of a 3 month pregnancy. Fibroid babbies.

I do have pictures of the inside of my left knee joint from recent arthroscopic surgery. The ortho pointed out "crab meat appearance" of some articular cartilage and damn if that was not the perfect descriptor.

https://sextile.files.wordpress.com/2015/03/ferrari-sex-life.jpg

...not that I'd know what to do if I had either...

(Do not read if you hate me. I've had alcohol for the first time in...several days, and I'm having all these...honest feelings. Also, I'm reminded of being an adolescent and imprinting on Charles Dana Gibson's more strong-jawed male characters. I can't even.)

HI DERE

HI!

hidere!

Sup!

👋🏻

Good afternoon.

As it happens, I was not only getting my period, but coming down with a cold. While I'm mostly physically recovered, mentally and emotionally I'm still depleted.

Schönen Tag aus Berlin!

Ja, ich bin jetzt deutsch.

Word, Roxy

I also have a cold, jlu. Feel better :(

I think I may be perimenopausal, at least that is how I explain the fact that my brain is getting mushy.

I'll be 46 this week. Divorce can certainly cause brain mushiness IME. It gets better with time. <3

Yeah. Sleep deprivation. I haven’t slept properly in two years. I fucking hate it.

i take drugs. sleep is great. I am a sleep evangelist.

i take antihistamine sleep-aids all the time now. not benadryl, the other one. store-brand unisom. like the 90s commercial said, it's non-habit forming! otherwise i'd be sleeping every other night like i used to.

I fall asleep very quickly but I also wake up super quickly, which kind of sucks. I started needing to wear an eyemask so I won't wake up with light. I also started keeping around melatonin this year.

Nobody ever tries to fix me up with anyone, and no one ever asks me "Why aren't you married/don't you have a boyfriend?" Does that mean the universe has mysteriously but indelibly marked me as an old maid?

My friend told me to stop contacting musician. I did. For an hour. Back to flirting. This is not gonna end well. Fuck this. Makes me feel crap and great at the same time.

J.Lu no guys messaging you? Facebook is like Tinder for me. Very weird. 🙄 I got three dick pics in about two weeks. Christ.

My friend told me to stop contacting musician. I did. For an hour. Back to flirting. This is not gonna end well. Fuck this. Makes me feel crap and great at the same time.

― nathom

my experience in such situations is that the "crap" considerably outlasts & outweighs the "great" :(

I know I know. :-(

xxpost Guys don't message me. I've never gotten a dick pic, unsolicited or otherwise. And in my current headspace, I'm convinced that this is another symptom of some mysterious mark of old maidishness.

(The more rational explanation is that I somehow maintain boundaries and self-respect of a nature that repels fuccbois. The problem is that I seem to also repulse the more decent and mature specimens of the gender.)

I've never gotten one either, jlu, and I did online dating for over 10 years although not on Tinder. Yeah I was gonna say, maybe they are correctly reading your level of intolerance for bullshit. Although I was primed for all the bullshit in those years, and I put up with a lot of nonsense. But no dick pics.

I thought people only fix up other people in movies?

I have also never received a dick pic unless it was from a gay friend sending me porn for discussion.

I don’t take offense at these pics. And they quickly realize it doesn’t impress me. They flirt and I don’t mind. But I rarely if ever engage. I have quite a few who have shown interest. But eh. Especially when it’s based on my love for music. Except now this one guy. Don’t know how this escalated so quickly. We’ll see where it goes.

Guys don't message me. I've never gotten a dick pic, unsolicited or otherwise

if it makes you feel any better (or worse) one of nathom's 3 recent ones is from the same person I got one from a number of months ago -- I would be shocked if he wouldn't extend the gesture to you as well ...

🤮

Lol. Yep. 🙄 I was not impressed.

Decided not to obsess over married musician. Even when he tells me how much he loves me, asks what I want for our first dinner,... I decided, fuck it, stop obsessing and see this as a really great friendship. He is suuuuper sweet.

https://i.imgur.com/rVC4huj.jpg

I thought if I never got that first cat I couldn't become a crazy cat lady, right? Life, uh, found a way. This is Baby, one of my mother's cats, and she is a SPOILED BRAT. She constantly yells to be fed, tries to help herself to anything I'm eating or drinking, and bit me on the nose one morning when I wouldn't get up and feed her.

So I suppose it's appropriate that I'm feeling the effects of what I assume is perimenopause--my last period didn't properly end so much as diminish to a trickle over the last two weeks. I suppose I ought to contact my doctor, but I expect to be told it's part of the Mysteries of Menopause, and can't be treated other than with powerful hormones and/or major surgery. I don't even mind it that much, except I continue to live in hope of finally meeting a man who DOESN'T retreat when I try to show interest, and maybe getting laid once more.

[Nathom: My instinct is to tell you to stay away from married men. But I've never known what to do with men, other than keep them at arm's length.]

Oh wow that’s a beautiful cat!!!

She sheds enough to make a new cat every three days. But she has surprisingly few hairballs for such a longhaired cat. And I had to physically remove her from my computer desk to make this post. But sometimes I'll be watching a movie on my laptop, and she'll snuggle up between me and the computer and purr.

Just want to say that is a beautiful tortoiseshell cat! Ours is similarly bratty and demanding, but she’s so cute I can’t hold it against her. She’s tiny and bullies everyone in the house, including her brother, who’s twice her size.

Bumping cos I’m sure we’ve done this before but think I have accumulated even more shit last time. Want to discuss what people carry around with them day to day cos my mother picked up my bag the other day and was shocked at the weight of it. So yeah, in terms of my literal baggage:

- water bottle (stainless steel)
- foldaway reusable coffee cup
- 7 different lip balms
- portable charger
- 4 cables to charge this plus every other device I have
- 2 plugs
- Music player(I can and do listen to music on the phone but this holds more and I use the phone for sampling). Plus I’d rather use my phone space on pictures.
- face wipes
- moisturiser
- the usuals (keys/wallet/phone)
- hairbrush
- paracetamol
- tweezers
- sometimes a kindle
- sometimes my headphones (usually I wear these)
- deodorant
- tissues
- menstrual supplies

My mother thinks this is a ludicrous amount of stuff BUT as a commuter who is forever on packed and noisy trains, to me most of this stuff is essential, esp if delayed. Plus on more than one occasion I’ve been able to help someone out with a charge, so useful not just to me.

Tell me about the stuff you carry for day to day survival, even if just not to make me feel like a terrible hoarder?

Btw j.lu if you don’t have an undercoat brush for her already you should get on, it’s the best way to groom her of hairs shed and ours absolutely loves it (though probably because I’m paying her attention).

i bought a giant purse so i can throw anything i want in there - the large stuff (like shoes and soda cans) gets taken out when not necessary, but the rest just sort of accumulates in the bottom.

really enjoying seeing the guys (some non-guys have been brave enough to post, but really it's mostly guys) pontificate on whether or not "physical attractiveness" is important over in that other thread

I work from home a lot, and when I work elsewhere, I drive there -- though I don't keep much in my car because of potential theft. Just wanted to preface this list in a way to in no means make you feel like a hoarder

- house keys
- car key
- cigarettes and lighter
- wallet
- spare tampon
- two different lip balms
- one lipstick
- handkerchief
- car registration paper
- phone
- iPod
- one or two pens

xpost that seems like a lot of extra stuff but if you use it and you are fine carrying it around, keep on!

I can't carry a lot in my bag anymore because it starts to annoy my lower back. So even the compact umbrella gets left behind unless it will be raining hard.

wallet, keys, phone
tampons
pens
comb
reusable tote
headlamp
emergency face mask (they handed these out at work)
kindle
one lip balm
2 loose emergency advil in my wallet

I should probably add a small bottle of spf in there now that I am thinking about it.

I keep a comb by my computer and use it on Baby when it occurs to me to do so. She loves the attention. But that doesn't keep her from yacking up hairballs on the rug.

Standard items in my purse: Wallet, phone, personal keys, office keys on a lanyard, 2 folding reusable shopping bags, sunglasses in a case, contact lens case in a small designated coin purse, tampons in a small designated coin purse, lip balm, gum, bus pass (in a leather holder with an emergency bill hidden inside), a handkerchief, a tangle of pens and emery boards, and probably the receipt from my last restaurant meal. I've taken to carrying a second (canvas) bag, to hold a couple more reusable shopping bags, an umbrella, a book and/or a magazine, and my lunch if it's a weekday and I don't have my gym bag. I have long bus rides most days and must have something to read.

I am feeling adolescent in the worst way. I am longing to lash out in some way, and don't know what to do because I have always been such a good girl. Officially I don't take Valentine's Day "and other Hallmark-driven holidays" seriously, but there's a fuckton of sour grapes underneath that.

i bought a giant purse so i can throw anything i want in there - the large stuff (like shoes and soda cans) gets taken out when not necessary, but the rest just sort of accumulates in the bottom.

really enjoying seeing the guys (some non-guys have been brave enough to post, but really it's mostly guys) pontificate on whether or not "physical attractiveness" is important over in that other thread

@Yerac what is a headlamp in a non-miner context?!

I like having my hands free when I need a light so I don't like using the light on phones. I like to have it in case like, the subway goes out and have to walk in the tunnels. That is my fantasy use case. Realistically, I have used it when I went walking and got lost and stuck in someone's random field at night and in parking garages when someone has had engine trouble and we had to pop the hood. Also I pull it out if the lights go out at home so I can do stuff that needs two hands. Like I made fresh pasta once while wearing it.

I originally bought it for camping. But it's very useful for any situation you could need someone else to hold a flashlight for you.