dessen wasn't aware that this would generate negative PR for herself. and she is deeply sorry. in the future, she will make sure to tweet stuff that will make people like her more.
― treeship., Saturday, 16 November 2019 17:53 (four years ago) link
Eh, she apologized. Seems okay enough to me.
― jmm, Saturday, 16 November 2019 17:56 (four years ago) link
many people are bad at apologies. they seem incapable of understanding why their apologies are bad, so they never learn. because contrition requires feeling bad and people resist feeling bad.
― A is for (Aimless), Saturday, 16 November 2019 18:12 (four years ago) link
I'm sure dessen did not intend to cause this clusterfuck and feels remorse, I just enjoy the non-apology apology genre
― jesus is zing (symsymsym), Saturday, 16 November 2019 18:19 (four years ago) link
I think she absolutely did intend the initial consequence of her tweet, obv she did not intend the backlash lolEven if the apology showed real self-reflection (it doesn’t) there would still be a healthy scepticism that someone petty & unhinged enough to namesearch & go after a rando who said something innocuous and true 3 years ago would suddenly develop a true emotional maturity two days later
― YouGov to see it (wins), Saturday, 16 November 2019 19:13 (four years ago) link
many people are bad at apologies. they seem incapable of understanding why their apologies are bad, so they never learn.
yes. And I think it's good that you are generalizing this here as "people" as opposed to what seems to be a tendency here on ilx to somehow revoke the "personhood" of artists, musicians, writers, etc. because they are "professionals" or "celebrities" like they should totally separate their work from themselves.
― sarahell, Saturday, 16 November 2019 19:20 (four years ago) link
Also this focus on "professional responsibility" or something like that, w/r/t fans or social media followers -- it's not like fans are the equivalent of the weird deformed rage children from Cronenberg's "The Brood" that go out and murder people their parent is mad at. These fans and followers, for the most part, are mentally competent adults who are responsible for their own actions.
― sarahell, Saturday, 16 November 2019 19:24 (four years ago) link
apology fetishism is a weird one but v interesting to me
― deems of internment (darraghmac), Saturday, 16 November 2019 20:16 (four years ago) link
These fans and followers, for the most part, are mentally competent adults who are responsible for their own actions.
― “Hakuna Matata,” a nihilist philosophy (One Eye Open), Saturday, 16 November 2019 22:44 (four years ago) link
this account one of Jennifer Warner's books makes it sound deranged (apparently it's about an evil book reviewer who gets her deserved comeuppance because she only likes literary fiction and not the kind of stuff Jennifer Warner writes)
https://sittinginthedinosaur.home.blog/2019/11/16/on-jennifer-weiner-criticism-and-what-makes-a-woman/
― soref, Sunday, 17 November 2019 09:43 (four years ago) link
my god, who on earth is that goon anyway
― imago, Sunday, 17 November 2019 10:05 (four years ago) link
roald dahl wd never
― mark s, Sunday, 17 November 2019 11:01 (four years ago) link
seriously though -- the people that participate in pile ons like this with no personal stake are an aspect of humanity that scares the shit out of me. I don't really want to invoke Arendt's "banality of evil" but I feel like there are similarities
― sarahell, Sunday, 17 November 2019 19:30 (four years ago) link
apology fetishism
I am unfamiliar with this term, deems. What kind of thoughts or behavior does is it meant to describe?
― A is for (Aimless), Sunday, 17 November 2019 19:33 (four years ago) link
I just wanna say I admire the pessimism of this thread title which seemed to conjecture there would be so many literary clusterfucks we'd need a new thread every year.
― Guayaquil (eephus!), Sunday, 17 November 2019 19:35 (four years ago) link
I would argue that it is optimism -- that we would be so on top of all the literary clusterfucks and have high-minded, thoughtful things to say about them, and also the optimism that national politics would not totally eclipse the literary in clusterfuckery
― sarahell, Sunday, 17 November 2019 19:37 (four years ago) link
We did spend much of the first week of impeachment hearings complaining about some YA authors though. Hope for the world after all.
― Muswell Hillbilly Elegy (President Keyes), Sunday, 17 November 2019 21:12 (four years ago) link
*hi-fives ilx*
― Guayaquil (eephus!), Sunday, 17 November 2019 21:41 (four years ago) link
xp aimless oh yknow, when ppl hear of an apology theyve been clamoring for and start apology lawyering it as if it was genuine or as if there was a standard that could ever have been met that wouldve placated them, neither of which ever seem to be the case
― deems of internment (darraghmac), Monday, 18 November 2019 01:10 (four years ago) link
apologies should be delivered but never opened, the sum of the parts never total the whole, the apology that the villagers cut the goose open for turned out not to have been the source of infinite golden eggs
look i think ive been clear on this, and if not, im sorry if you feel that way
― deems of internment (darraghmac), Monday, 18 November 2019 01:13 (four years ago) link
public apologies are a fake idea anyway
― Swilling Ambergris, Esq. (silby), Monday, 18 November 2019 01:19 (four years ago) link
public anything
― deems of internment (darraghmac), Monday, 18 November 2019 01:20 (four years ago) link
the only people who should be concerned about an apology are the apologizer and apologized to. Onlookers have bugger all to do with it and may be safely ignored as irrelevant to the process.
― A is for (Aimless), Monday, 18 November 2019 03:17 (four years ago) link
No, sometimes a public apology is valuable to and appreciated by the wronged party. Especially if the initial injury was a public one.
― Suggest Banshee (Hadrian VIII), Monday, 18 November 2019 03:29 (four years ago) link
Of course a public apology in lieu of a private one is probably insincere.
― Suggest Banshee (Hadrian VIII), Monday, 18 November 2019 03:36 (four years ago) link
I''d have said that if you publicly set the hounds on someone, you have to publicly call them off.
― Andrew Farrell, Monday, 18 November 2019 07:53 (four years ago) link
I’m sorry you feel that way darragh
― sarahell, Monday, 18 November 2019 08:42 (four years ago) link
that analogy works more accurately applied to the opposite parties in the new dynamic
xp lol im sorry youre sorry if you feel that way
― deems of internment (darraghmac), Monday, 18 November 2019 08:43 (four years ago) link
I’m sorry you had to see that
― sarahell, Monday, 18 November 2019 08:46 (four years ago) link
having spoken to my wife and sponsors, i can now see the error of my ways and i promise to do better
― deems of internment (darraghmac), Monday, 18 November 2019 08:50 (four years ago) link
Every apology is self-interested therefore true altruism is to not apologize at all.
― pomenitul, Monday, 18 November 2019 10:26 (four years ago) link
yes
― deems of internment (darraghmac), Monday, 18 November 2019 13:40 (four years ago) link
Speaking of YA fiction:
http://epicstream.com/news/JakeVyper/Magic-The-Gathering-Fans-Are-Not-Pleased-With-The-New-War-of-The-Spark-Forsaken-Novel
― pomenitul, Monday, 18 November 2019 14:10 (four years ago) link
by that reasoning, true altruism is killing yourself quietly in the grave you thoughtfully dug for yourself ahead of time.
― A is for (Aimless), Monday, 18 November 2019 16:30 (four years ago) link
How dare this written-for-hire sequel to a sequel to a sequel of a novelisation of a card game be badly written?
― Tsar Bombadil (James Morrison), Tuesday, 19 November 2019 10:35 (four years ago) link
This is what gamer gate was about I guess
― Muswell Hillbilly Elegy (President Keyes), Tuesday, 19 November 2019 13:46 (four years ago) link
https://www.bitchmedia.org/article/very-online-sarah-dessen-social-media-controversy
'“Many authors consider their writing to be political and use social media to discuss their views and opinions,” cultural critic and digital strategist Ella Dawson says.'
lol pwned by a digital strategist
― j., Saturday, 23 November 2019 17:29 (four years ago) link
The author is just asking to be put to death again.
― pomenitul, Saturday, 23 November 2019 17:38 (four years ago) link
another case of "people don't really need to have this explained to them, do they?" vs. "so many people are super fucking stupid."
― sarahell, Saturday, 23 November 2019 22:59 (four years ago) link
https://www.themarysue.com/romance-writers-author-courtney-milan-rwa-ruling/
― j., Friday, 27 December 2019 04:39 (four years ago) link
Sometimes I like to think about how Nathaniel Hawthorne lived next door to Louisa May Alcott and was a petty whiny little bitch about her success until the end— rachel syme (@rachsyme) January 2, 2020
― j., Friday, 3 January 2020 06:04 (four years ago) link
i hate twitter
― american bradass (BradNelson), Friday, 3 January 2020 12:44 (four years ago) link
ya done goofed nathaniel my boy
― american bradass (BradNelson), Friday, 3 January 2020 12:45 (four years ago) link
Now wait a second...
nobody loves the scarlet letter my guy! You done goofed— rachel syme (@rachsyme) January 2, 2020
― jmm, Friday, 3 January 2020 12:46 (four years ago) link
Young Incel Brown
― Muswell Hillbilly Elegy (President Keyes), Friday, 3 January 2020 13:19 (four years ago) link
its about time someone was brave enough to take him down a few pegs. i'm sick of the army of all these House of the Seven Gables fanboys clogging up my TL all day every day
― warn me about a lurking rake (One Eye Open), Friday, 3 January 2020 15:05 (four years ago) link
Finally, a voice of sanity on the RWA clusterfuck
enjoy new no sex tingler NOT POUNDED BY ROMANCE WRANGLERS OF AMERICA BECAUSE THEIR NEW LEADERSHIP IS FROM THE DEPTHS OF THE ENDLESS COSMIC VOID out now https://t.co/rT0bh3B6K6 pic.twitter.com/EPDAQX9Agn— Chuck Tingle (@ChuckTingle) January 3, 2020
― it's after the end of the world (Matt #2), Friday, 3 January 2020 16:14 (four years ago) link
waht is going on here
https://www.sfgate.com/entertainment/article/Romance-publishing-industry-in-chaos-top-awards-14958581.php
― Οὖτις, Wednesday, 8 January 2020 16:39 (four years ago) link
I think I'm would-be-woke-American-genre-fiction-debacle'd out.
― pomenitul, Wednesday, 8 January 2020 16:43 (four years ago) link
"This is akin to putting a neo-Nazi in charge of a UN human rights committee," she wrote
lmao astonishing
― american bradass (BradNelson), Wednesday, 8 January 2020 17:01 (four years ago) link