John Cameron Mitchell otm
You said in an interview that you don’t so much identity as gay any more or certainly not as strongly. Why not?
MITCHELL: Gay has become a marketing niche. Like “top” and “bottom,” “man” and “woman,” and “comedy” and “drama.” You slice and dice so you can sell or be sold to — or to decide what show belongs in which Emmy category. Life has no niches, it’s a complex continuum with nuance and surprising juxtapositions. I don’t like to be marketed to and told what I am or should like because of my gender or sexual preference.
You’ve talked a lot about empathy, queer folks’ special skills at it, empathy being the opposite of “cancel culture.” Can you explain?
MITCHELL: The gift of being “other” is having empathy for the downtrodden and oppressed. “Woke” without empathy is just another form of control. Here’s an example. If you believe in prison reform and rehabilitation then you can’t cancel people. We, as queer people, have been canceled for centuries. Let’s make folks accountable and safe but let’s not co-opt our oppressors’ bullying ways.
https://www.gaycitynews.nyc/stories/2019/18/john-cameron-mitchell-podcast-2019-08-12-gcn.html
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 27 August 2019 15:49 (four years ago) link
Very otm!
― flamboyant goon tie included, Tuesday, 27 August 2019 18:41 (four years ago) link
Hello! Glad to hear all the updates. Morbz where r u looking to move?
Boof is packing up today and leaving by Friday, just had a good cry in his arms and banking on a few more. Hoping to figure out in what ways we will remain in each other's lives sooner rather than later. We'll seeee.
― surm, Wednesday, 28 August 2019 21:02 (four years ago) link
anywhere that's cheap as possible, surm :/
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 28 August 2019 21:03 (four years ago) link
agh New York will not be the same without you!
― surm, Friday, 30 August 2019 18:15 (four years ago) link
Where will you end up, though, Morbs?
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 4 September 2019 03:07 (four years ago) link
Regret to inform I'm still obsessed with "I Can't Tell You Why."
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Wednesday, 4 September 2019 03:08 (four years ago) link
where we all end up, Eric
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 4 September 2019 05:21 (four years ago) link
Canada?
― flamboyant goon tie included, Wednesday, 4 September 2019 05:31 (four years ago) link
:)
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 4 September 2019 05:44 (four years ago) link
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Tuesday, September 3, 2019 11:08 PM (yesterday) bookmarkflaglink
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius),
well, yeah
― TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 4 September 2019 11:06 (four years ago) link
id say 'beyond salvation' if I knew what that was
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Wednesday, 4 September 2019 11:58 (four years ago) link
"Beyond the clutches of Don Henley"
― TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 4 September 2019 12:03 (four years ago) link
just feel the need to drop in here and say fuck straight people. can i get an amen?
― cheese canopy (map), Wednesday, 4 September 2019 19:30 (four years ago) link
are you ordering us to fuck straight people
― TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 4 September 2019 19:33 (four years ago) link
as soon as i posted that i thought 'alfred's going to make a joke about fucking straight people" so i'm cheers-ing you with my 32 oz iced coffee
― cheese canopy (map), Wednesday, 4 September 2019 19:35 (four years ago) link
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― TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Wednesday, 4 September 2019 19:53 (four years ago) link
I mostly hang out w/ the str8s
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 5 September 2019 00:44 (four years ago) link
lol alfred
― Dan S, Thursday, 5 September 2019 00:47 (four years ago) link
We all mostly hang out w/ the str8s tho
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Thursday, 5 September 2019 01:47 (four years ago) link
if anything the straights get their jollies these days by flirting with diffident us.
― TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Thursday, 5 September 2019 01:50 (four years ago) link
Diffident, firm, yielding us.
― Pauline Male (Eric H.), Thursday, 5 September 2019 02:01 (four years ago) link
thank God I can never tell when someone's flirting
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 5 September 2019 05:38 (four years ago) link
i'm debating whether or not to befriend more straight men sometimes i like them i dunno
― surm, Thursday, 5 September 2019 15:33 (four years ago) link
happy almost fall!!!!! I'm quite enjoying having a bachelor pad I mean, I can basically do whatever I want whenever I want itIT'S NOT BAD
― surm, Tuesday, 10 September 2019 06:51 (four years ago) link
This dude I dated for a few months before we decided to be friends instead, I love him so so muchToday I spoke to him on the phone, he was expressing some body image issuesAnd I told him that, in fact, he was so beautiful that it felt cruelHe liked that!
― flamboyant goon tie included, Wednesday, 11 September 2019 02:29 (four years ago) link
aw that is so sweet i think i would really like to hear that if i were in his shoes
― surm, Wednesday, 11 September 2019 19:03 (four years ago) link
congrats on your move surm
― cheese canopy (map), Wednesday, 11 September 2019 19:50 (four years ago) link
thank you!!! you know, i actually kept the apartment so while it wasn't a move, it really feels like a brand new home with just me there. i have to do a lot of redecorating soon....
― surm, Wednesday, 11 September 2019 21:25 (four years ago) link
The new Azealia Banks mixtape has gotten a lot of weird ire online but I just listened to it twice through and it fucking rules
I don't know where else to put that statement
― flamboyant goon tie included, Friday, 13 September 2019 04:52 (four years ago) link
<3 i can't stop listening to Kelly by Kelly Rowlandlike over and over
― surm, Friday, 13 September 2019 14:35 (four years ago) link
packed house at Lincoln Center last night to see Lily Tomlin & Jane Wagner
lots of women, gayz, couples
a line I'd forgotten from The Search for Signs of Intelligent Life in the Universe is "What's the point of being a hedonist if you're not having a good time?"
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Friday, 13 September 2019 15:21 (four years ago) link
Oh yeah a friend of mine was at that thing and posted about it on FacebookMy bf saw the update and said "I do not understand a single word of this Facebook post"
― flamboyant goon tie included, Friday, 13 September 2019 15:25 (four years ago) link
There were superfans rushing the stage for selfies with Lily at the end. What the hell is wrong with people?
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Friday, 13 September 2019 15:27 (four years ago) link
tbh i have a limited number of people i would want selfies with but lily tomlin is one of them
― Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Friday, 13 September 2019 16:27 (four years ago) link
i might too, but not in the middle of a scrum.
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Friday, 13 September 2019 16:44 (four years ago) link
no, agreed; that's always a bad look up to and including the most famous of people
― Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Friday, 13 September 2019 18:20 (four years ago) link
I have a photo of myself with Lily but it wasn’t a selfie and I hadn’t planned on asking for it - on the rare occasions I meet Very Famous People I don’t usually ask for photos. But she was very nice about it.
― donna rouge, Friday, 13 September 2019 22:23 (four years ago) link
so liiiiikei'm getting together with a guy tonight who's super into this dom sub stufflike i think he wants me to slap him around which don't get me wrong, i'm totally intobut it's been a hot minute sooo i just hope i haven't lost my touchalso i have a 4th date with a reallllly nice and handsome guy on Friday. he used to be a runway model so i have no idea what he's doing with me but I'LL TAKE IT
― surm, Monday, 16 September 2019 20:07 (four years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hOMvs_1UFCk
― cheese canopy (map), Monday, 16 September 2019 21:14 (four years ago) link
:P :D :D
― surm, Monday, 16 September 2019 21:52 (four years ago) link
IJustTook advantage of the "open" nature of my relationship for the first time in a year-and-a-half. It was a total surprise! A friend came over for lunch, he lingered, it was clear he was interested, I offered, he pretended to act surprised, etc.
I wasn't especially attracted to the guy? But I like him a lot personally? But it was weirdly, still, the best O I've had in a long, long time. It was really hot and the dude was clearly very happy about it too.
But then, of course, after he left, I became Lady Macbeth, scrubbing the condom smell from my hands, laundering literally everything in the house, showering shaving making dinner basically had an extended domestic explosion in response to this
I get it but I don't get it, really. Monogamous Sex That Is Just Fine is so perfect, problem free, reliable, easy, I am still so confused by this dynamic.
― fgti (flamboyant goon tie included), Saturday, 21 September 2019 23:54 (four years ago) link
well, that is a very domestic goddess dynamic
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Sunday, 22 September 2019 04:22 (four years ago) link
“I learned to cook this good because I was always cheating on my boyfriend”
― fgti (flamboyant goon tie included), Sunday, 22 September 2019 05:08 (four years ago) link
yeah p much
― surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:16 (four years ago) link
it's also like a primitive thing thosex with strangers, in terms of evolution speaking, is not as safe as the one you know it makes sense that after he leaves you would want to expound upon the safety and tranquility of your home
― surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:17 (four years ago) link
not that your friend is a stranger but you kwim
― surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:18 (four years ago) link
Pro-tip: if you're gonna have sex with one of your closest friends, be sure it's at least good sex and not mediocre sex like I endured Sat night/Sunday morning.
― TikTok to the (Alfred, Lord Sotosyn), Monday, 23 September 2019 16:36 (four years ago) link
mediocre is often good enough.
not ready to start a fall thread yet (maybe cuz it's 89 F in NYC today) but i can't think of a good title.
― a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Monday, 23 September 2019 16:39 (four years ago) link
fuck. so ready for 65 degrees.
― surm, Monday, 23 September 2019 16:45 (four years ago) link