Buying A House: C or D?

i can't believe i missed the new series of sparkle motion's neighbor's son.

Houses have too much maintenance.

I bought a new house two or three weeks ago--leaving the city, moving to a small town of 5,000 (with a Baseball Hall of Fame...not Cooperstown). The idea was to make retirement money on the changeover. I'm halfway there; got the new house for under my upper limit, now I have the anxiety of selling this one. I have till mid-November, at least. (The new house is really nice and not a fixer-upper, something I'm ill-equipped to do.)

Houses have too much maintenance.

it's true

i am not particularly handy and even if i was i don't really have the time. our upstairs bathroom door broke so we just didn't have a bathroom door for 6 months until my dad came over and fixed it

let me recommend obtaining a teenage son, they love to fix shit and whatever they don't know how to do they just watch a youtube video and go for it

hopefully the white nationalists / misogynists haven't figured out how to channel those videos into redpill land, but I'm not sure what I'd do if they have, I really need the help

youtube videos are so valuable. I've diagnosed and fixed the ignitor on my stove, found out about the reset button on a stopped garbage disposal, opened a stuck front load washing machine door, redid all the caulk in my apartment from youtubes.

when the father in law vacates his full workshop im moving out west and working my way through the entiyah noo yenkee werkshaap

Currently on year 3 or 4 of kitchen remodel

How old is the neighbor's son btw? Is he single?

ha! My guess is that he's over 50. The parents have to be He lives nearby, presumably, since he stops by their house often. He rides around on a bicycle with a trailer that carries his weedwhacker & leaf blower and wears a jumpsuit. I have no idea about any friends, partner he may have. He's very friendly but for this one particular topic

My dad's been my handyman since I bought my house in 2014, but he's 70 this year and I don't know how much longer I want him pushing himself too hard. Gonna have to start hiring people for shit soon.

Today was day one of two solid months of going in and out of stores muttering, "Are there boxes here? Have you seen any boxes?"

I’m in the purgatory of having failed to buy several houses. The Australian system is, of course, nuts in that everything is sold as seen do if you don’t notice any defects before bidding that’s on you.

Flat 1 - went to auction, thought we had a good shot, budget sufficiently over the asking price in a down market, we thought, auction breezes past our limit
House 2 - get ready to bid on this, on final inspection, find some cracks in an outside wall that our building inspector missed, don’t bid, it goes for way under the asking price, someone got a bargain or a world of troubles, happy about not winning that
Flat 3 - EOI process, building inspector say building is about to come apart at the seams and points out a lot of defects, don’t bid, it goes for way over what we were prepared to pay for it
Flat 4 - current one, come back with a revised budget, EOI process, miss being first bidder so we have to bid blind and have no right to counter, scrape the bottom of the savings barrel to make an offer, prepared to do this because I’ve been doing this for a year and don’t want buying a house to become a lifestyle and I can go back to playing frisbee on Saturday mornings- to be continued

Seems like it is a great flat in a great building (former knicker factory) in an area we hadn’t originally considered. I know at least one person who lives in the building and we had a chat with the chair of the residents committee, it seems well run, unusually detailed and thorough accounts and minutes from the committee, possibly because the chair is an accountant.

ah, I was thinking house vs apartment and houses being a bigger pain. Good luck!

I now have schrödingers flat.

My bf has found a house he likes very much and wants to buy. I'm not so sure about it, for the following reasons...

1. the road is unadopted by the council and I don't like the idea of being liable for repairs in front of us/having them not done if neighbours won't pay. also it looks tatty and uneven imo, and iirc unlit

2. money worries - I think it'll be tighter than he's realised, as I think he's bunged our major outgoings into a mortgage calculator but not looked at the whole budget inc. food, bills, etc - but if I talk about budgets a finger-pointing argument about my minor extravagances will ensue, so meh
(we could both stand to tighten our belts a bit but also need to be realistic)

2a. not sure this is a good time to buy with Brexit

3. there are a few other small worries for me like a stained section of kitchen ceiling from a previous bathroom leak but "it's all fine now" say the owners and "it's probably fine, the house-buying survey will tell us if not" says my bf - hmm

However, it is the nicest thing we've seen within our budget locally - and pretty much the only thing still in that category as prices keep on going up.

Dunno what I'm asking here really. Any advice re decision-making? Anyone lived on an unadopted road? Is there any risk from old water damage that the survey may not turn up, or am I being needlessly paranoid?

Is there any risk from old water damage that the survey may not turn up

There's always a mold risk, but especially if there's been established water damage.

I don't know about UK, but in general, those mortgage calculators leave out a lot of important details like home insurance, property taxes, escrow, etc.

I think if I entered in my house's price, the calculator would show a sum that's about two-thirds what I actually pay each month.

2. money worries - I think it'll be tighter than he's realised

Different country, different life circumstances, so take this for what it's worth. My first year (2003) was tough, next year somewhat less so. I got through it, and 16 years later--retired in the spring, sold my house last week--it was worth it many times over.

Possibly relevant: early on, my house had a tiny leak into the basement for about five minutes after you took a shower. The home inspector completely missed it (or, more likely from what I've read, chose to ignore it), even though there was clear evidence on the basement floor (bare patches) that I didn't pick up on till later. I put up with for a few years, eventually redid the bathroom, no problems after that.

xp Yeah, here in the UK they also leave out a lot of one-off taxes and fees surrounding the purchase, and then there are monthly expenses like council tax as well as utilities and insurance.

I think we've factored in the big ones but there are probably more that we've forgotten about, and you don't want to be surprised by an extra bill when you're already stretching your budget.

Thanks, everyone! I really think we need more info about water damage/mould and about road upkeep obligations, but it was v hard getting information out of either the current owners or the estate agent. We're already being hassled to put an offer in and stop asking questions. Which is another thing that doesn't feel right, but the bf also wants me to hurry up and says that there won't ever be a house that I won't overthink until it's too late. He might be right...

could you ask a neighbour or two about the road thing?

My in-laws live on an unadopted/private road (since 1999 I think) and mostly over 20 years it's been fine. BUT it's on a steep hill and maybe 5 years ago the road needed work and shoring-up to prevent subsidence into the gardens of houses on the road below. The work got done and has solved any problems, but it took a long time to organise and was expensive and awkward. This road may not have the steepness and subsidence issues, and maybe all you need to do is be careful of your car tyres. But it's there as a possibility. In our first flat their was no management company and it was awkward when we needed to do some (minor, drainage) work to the outside of the building. So maybe find out if there's some kind of management company for the road, or could you set one up with neighbours, and all pay in to a pot to cover any shared expenses should they arise?

Stained ceilings from minor leaks could well be nothing, but they also could be big issues - unless the surveyor is pulling up floorboards you simply won't know.

Re: expense - buying is expensive and you will need to be frugal. That's the same for almost everyone.

everyone otm, anticipate way more expenses than you think, buying and owning a house costs so much damn money

I bought a house with a bf when I was 26. You both need to fully communicate what your expectations will be with money, payments, maintenance, repairs. If it causes issues right now, good. I wouldn't think the ceiling is that much of an issue unless the inspector finds something else with it. You can always eventually pull out that part and put mold resistant drywall. No house stays in perfect condition.

imo budget to pay the same/less as on rent, try to allow leeway, but invest in a decent survey (you can get someone round specially for the damp) and get a good solicitor who can chase everything up for you and a mortgage broker if you can get recommendations

rents are mb disproportionately high up here tho

My 50 yr old good friends (longterm couple) are getting ready to buy their first house ever and keep asking me how much money they should have (we are on our 3rd place right now). They live a very not frugal life and continually don't understand how much money is involved when buying property and how much money you need after it's done. They also don't share any finances with each other which I just....phew.

ay yi yi that makes me nervous by proxy

based on what you said they seem like the type to buy more house than they need or can be afford

I think it's a terrible idea but I am staying out of it. I don't understand how you can be in a relationship for over 10 years but still venmo each other money to pay for your share of dinner.

Here's an actual look at the home-buying process. Each step costs the consumer about $/£500-750.

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Hmm, the road is on a hill - the road itself is approximately flat but there are steep banks separating the parallel streets up and down the hill, so the possibility of subsidence is a good call. Elsewhere on the same hill a road was shut for months due to badgers undermining the road (!)

We don't know any neighbours and knocking on a door to ask questions seems a bit weird but I guess we could. Someone at work lives not far from there so I'll see if she happens to know anything about the street - not necessarily about that, but she may know someone who lives there or have heard some kind of local rumour if there are any problems.

They live a very not frugal life and continually don't understand how much money is involved when buying property and how much money you need after it's done. They also don't share any finances with each other which I just....phew.

ha, it us

well, sort of. we are "not very frugal" but maybe not "very not frugal"? but so far our finances have stayed separate and we have both been lucky enough to get used to being able to buy whatever little luxuries we like without counting the pennies in terms of buying a bottle of booze or having a meal out in a not-super-fancy restaurant just because we feel like it, so going back to tight budgeting might hurt

I'd bite the bullet and knock on doors - can't see how else you're going to find out. it's not weird. the seller and agent have no incentive to find out for you.

I am possibly scarred by past experiences but I would avoid as much as possible having to have any financial responsibilities that ultimately rely on the mental health of your neighbours.

re the road and shared maintenance

responsibilities that ultimately rely on the mental health of your neighbours

haha a v valid point, brr

I bought a house, in Australia, which is probably a terrible investment but I can sit on my roof in a post barbecue haze, and watch the bats fly out from their roosts by the Yarra and feel pretty good, even if I did some yesterday dealing with the fact that the previous owners never attended to their drain traps and I had to remove some unspeakable horrors.

Congratulations Ed! on the house AND the crucial drain trap work!!

congrats Ed! hope you continue to feel pretty good abt yr house for many years to come

If it makes you feel any better about buying a house, I am buying a HORSE which is like 10000 lbs of the worst investment ever.

congrats!
you should get a boat to put the horse on and then it will multiply the badness of that investment. ( i know nothing about horses)

On the hunt right now and I’m struck by how grotesque building trends have been in the last couple decades and also how inequality seems to have created a weird and unsustainable market in my area where there are these small, cramped houses on tiny lots that are affordable for us and then there’s this huge price jump to MASSIVE houses that are way too expensive and I don’t see myself even wanting to live in, and nothing in between. Maybe that’s also unique to NYC suburbs.

On the verge of making an offer now - great town/area/school district, nice street, decent lot, house and yard need some work. House is a good price for the area but I'm struggling to add up in my head whether everything it's likely to need is worth it vs just buying something in better shape but a lot more expensive (there just isn't anything in between on the market rn).

Do you like Work?

I like it some, and I also intend to pay for some of it to be done, which is more doable given the price

Embrace it

I expect it will need a new roof, new boiler, and new water heater all fairly soon, and I don't plan to do those myself. Yard could also use landscaping beyond my capacity I think. I may attempt to build the small ground level deck we want though.

When you buy a house it will always need a new roof, boiler, water heater. It's just the rule.

I have a gut feeling it will need to be rewired as well. Fingers crossed no plumbing issues. It’s block construction so at least no termites or mold.

General observation for anyone on the fence. I've made some bad decisions in my life; the two houses I bought--in 2003, and again last year--were easily the best.

General observation for anyone on the fence. I've made some bad decisions in my life; the two houses I sold--in 2012, and again five years ago--were easily the best.