Stonewall the QUEER SUMMER 2019

better than porn that's for sure

One of which starred a close friend.

*bows*

don't you mean *blows*?

surm!

i have thoughts about kink and i have a weird relationship with it. i'm definitely in a non-kinky phase of my life atm. i also have thoughts about the appeal of bathhouses and saunas lol. my first sexual experience was in one and for years i gravitated towards them (and cruising). for me the appeal has/had a lot to do with growing up in a conservative, repressed, patriarchal culture. at this point i'm pretty much over all of that though.

fgti i know the shirts of which you speak, they're so bad. i have no idea what clothes to wear these days. i work from home so i don't have to care.

also fgti the thoughts you're having about your boyfriend sound crushing and if i were in your situation and i wasn't dependent in any way on him i would ditch him asap. you deserve to be supported. that's like an entry-level requirement lol.

In the first dream I'm in the back passenger side of a full cab, my friend pressed against me. He massages my knee, arm, neck, says I'm cute. He's on molly, I think. Then he gently massages a pill between my lips. "You asshole!" I said. "It IS molly." He assures me it's a small hit.

I haven't touched the stuff in more than a decade, nor have I ever lusted after this friend.

i'd much rather dream about Adam Dr*ver than anyone i know, but that never happens

I've never dreamt about Jake :(

@ map, we have been having a weird month, some adjustments being made, but as I said, we're blissfully happy and he's a really good person :)

This week has pushed me closer to contemplating if not accepting the end of this relationship than I’ve been for years.

To put it bluntly, I’ve been listening to the Eagles’ “I Can’t Tell You Why” damned near constantly these last couple days.

It must be pathological then

Yeah, we're both basic dumb bitches

best kind

(w/out the Eagles)

We're def both melancholy types

I admire the bravery of anyone plunging into an intimate relationship

And this is the longest we've spent apart since being together, so ...

Ry is asleep on the couch before he comes and cuddles me for one of the last times before he moves out of my house

Every moment is really special, there are no hard feelings, just a love that needs to change, and it will be miserable when it hits me

But for now it is what it is

sending love and late-night golden girl hugs to everyone in relationship transitions

Yes I will need the girls no question

Wow, booze definitely helped take me there last night. Embarrassed.

What happened???

you guysss i'm finally getting my tennis game back, like a little

Fuck August really is quiet
Ok who's got a life update cuz I got a lot

I cut back on the drinking considerably since the lake, partially because it was getting out of hand, and also I'm getting a new puppy!!!

(Provided he survives cleft palate surgery.)

I got nothing, just domestic bliss and a lot of music writing. Swimming every day, too.

I'm eating a sandwich and reading Typee, the latter queer enough.

Interviewed for a teaching position this morning that we frankly need if we are going to keep our house. Did recently get an article accepted for publication, though.

wow, congratulations

Thanks!

medical treatment being rejiggered, gonna be a copay September

so much for getting a staff job somewhere, as i continue to bleed money

going to lots of films while i still live in New York

Obamacare sux btw

I will take u to ifc anytime morbs

I got too drunk last night, but I managed to grope and lightly make out with a theoretically straight boxer.

No "but" needed, the one follows the other

like a hangover

a boxer! Goddamn. It wasn't Oscar de la Hoya?

a lightweight in many respects

lightweights are cute

i’m a welterweight myself

i'm glad you are boxing! i would be too if my bones weren't, you know, made of chalk.

ha, have not technically sparred yet, just glovework with classmates/instructor, but i really love doing it and i’m definitely improving! (also most of my classmates are queerz, which is pretty rad)

i really love my boyfriend, like a lot. the end.

Yay

And same

I think I'll keep him.

i really love my boyfriend too but he's very far away from me. every day is excruciating.

"i'll be alright, it's just a thousand cuts" -- taylor swift

it must be, u can't even answer emails

John Cameron Mitchell otm

You said in an interview that you don’t so much identity as gay any more or certainly not as strongly. Why not?

MITCHELL: Gay has become a marketing niche. Like “top” and “bottom,” “man” and “woman,” and “comedy” and “drama.” You slice and dice so you can sell or be sold to — or to decide what show belongs in which Emmy category. Life has no niches, it’s a complex continuum with nuance and surprising juxtapositions. I don’t like to be marketed to and told what I am or should like because of my gender or sexual preference.

You’ve talked a lot about empathy, queer folks’ special skills at it, empathy being the opposite of “cancel culture.” Can you explain?

MITCHELL: The gift of being “other” is having empathy for the downtrodden and oppressed. “Woke” without empathy is just another form of control. Here’s an example. If you believe in prison reform and rehabilitation then you can’t cancel people. We, as queer people, have been canceled for centuries. Let’s make folks accountable and safe but let’s not co-opt our oppressors’ bullying ways.

https://www.gaycitynews.nyc/stories/2019/18/john-cameron-mitchell-podcast-2019-08-12-gcn.html