things you once thought socially acceptable which now horrify you to remember

• People not automatically buckling up after getting into the car. "But what if I go off a bridge upside down? I'm not Houdini!" WHAT IF YOU HIT A CAR OR A TREE AND GO FLYING OUT THE WINDSH–

My dad didn't buckle up for a year because he was protesting the idea that insurance copies were influencing cops to write tickets for something that should be a "personal choice"

He stopped, thankfully. I half expected to find him in a wrecked, burned out car, dying, yet moaning "haha, take that, guys"

pom i know women say it and i got no problem w that. a bit like if a woman said "I'm going out with my bitches later". but something about the way this guy so casually dropped it.. i dunno i found it extremely unpleasant! maybe a bad example for this thread tho.

by the way he worked in finance

It's nowhere near as aggressive as 'my bitches', even in a friendly context. It's pretty neutral, just very familier and maybe slightly young-ish, much like mec. I had a conversation about this with my (French) wife earlier because I wanted to make sure I wasn't talking out of my ass and she very much agreed.

That said, there's definitely a sexist, possessive way of saying it, so I doubt you were imagining things. I just don't think it's embedded into the word per se.

Besides, France is notoriously conservative when it comes to linguistic norms, although some headway has been made in recent years (see: 'auteure/autrice').

Words like the following are still deemed fine by most French people, though, which speaks volumes:

https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tête-de-nègre_(pâtisserie)

there's a plot point in Revenge of the Nerds which in retrospect feels absolutely insane

feel like it used to be more common to see kids being hauled around town or down the highway in pickup truck beds. i was one of those kids a few times no doubt. occasionally i'll see someone with their dog back there and it pisses me off.

Watching hours and hours of sitcoms with the family, or comedy panel shows, repeats of Simpsons etc
― Robert Adam Gilmour, Saturday, July 13, 2019 12:11 PM (two days ago)

is this not socially acceptable anymore? i mean, prob not wise to spend your days doing this as an adult, of course
― (The Other) J.D. (J.D.), Monday, July 15, 2019 5:22 PM

I'm horrified by it but I don't know how younger generations feel about it. Plenty of the older generations still watch tv in the majority of their free time and I wonder what they'd be doing otherwise, would they be a nuisance otherwise or would they flourish?

It's not that internet and videogame addiction cant be awful but I feel sorry for generations of people who have such a low quality addiction as television that they've spent much of their decades on. ((( I like "I don't even own a TV" people better than most people)))

Part of the problem was that I and many others felt we should spend more time with family but I think doing it watching television doesn't really work. You just end up watching shit mostly and not really getting much from their company. Whenever I ask people why they watched some trash, it's always a friends/family thing and I've done plenty of that myself. I completely regret it. More I think about this subject, the more hideous it is.

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Yesterday I was at the supermarket and there was a woman wearing very buttock revealing shorts. As soon as she left, two women working at their cash tills loudly agreed "it's her own fault if she gets raped" while serving customers.

I was surprised they thought that was socially acceptable when surrounded by customers.

the term 'lads'

don't get your lad out itt

are punch and judy shows still a thing?

We saw one a while back in Whitstable.

Tête-de-nègre

:O

things US ILX seemed to think were socially acceptable 2 years ago: those fucking boorish loudmouthed chapo dickheads throwing about the r word about with abandon. ho ho ho very out there etc.. edgy!..with vile disablist speak like that coming from nominally "lefty" fat bearded loudmouthed twats.. I say enjoy your neo-lib hellscape forever lads.

That gets to my inability to understand the usefulness of this thread. It is a continuum, full of all kinds of behavior that I happily participated in or acquiesced to, and now I’m at a point where it’s all terrible and WTF.

I expect this to continue until I enter my dotage and wither into a hopeless socially conservative basket case who hates everyone. A more interesting discussion might be “behaviors you thought would never become socially acceptable and then they did”

guys fucking each other

smoking weed

that's all I got

I used to go into Windsor Town centre on my own, we lived in a block of flats that were attached via ramp (still are, I believe).

This would be around 1968,so I'd be seven. Sometimes I'd go in with my sister who was three years younger, but I was always told to look after her, and I would, like the responsible young person I was.

I practically brought up my younger brother at the of 14 whilst my mum was going through a divorce and a nervous breakdown. But my fave example of 70's parenting was when I'd get passed to a neighbour to babysit me and they'd decide to go out on the piss as well. But at least I got to watch The Medusa Touch on a colour television!

We saw one a while back in Whitstable.

― gyac, Monday, July 15, 2019 1:57 PM (one hour ago)

i mean I'm not necessarily horrified by them but it's a funny childhood memory. i think i found it slightly unnerving as a little kid, but i definitely liked it also, to some extent. mr punch slapping the shit out of the copper with his stick.

i remember my mum telling me that my grandparents went on multiple holidays and had her at 12 years old and a year or two older look after her three younger brothers, the youngest being around 4 the first time it happened

I practically brought up my younger brother at the of 14 whilst my mum was going through a divorce and a nervous breakdown. But my fave example of 70's parenting was when I'd get passed to a neighbour to babysit me and they'd decide to go out on the piss as well. But at least I got to watch The Medusa Touch on a colour television!

― calzino, Monday, 15 July 2019 21:41 (forty-three minutes ago) bookmarkflaglink

same but there were three of em, one was older, it was the nineties, + alcoholism

but tbf im not sure it was socially acceptable

anyway yeah idg thread are we as a we not prone enough to eughing ourselves and each other for forgiveable human lapses in present day without doing that endearing competitive mea culpaing about past transgressions not only out of context but also when we were young which is iirc itself forgiven everything and anyway there'll always be one along in a minute to tell you that you still fall well short why arm the succubus further anyway you're all ok by me i think is what the point may have been

exactly my point

yep but wordier which cmon

Smoking indoors is one that I still can't believe I was militant about... like I'd get angry if people told me i couldn't smoke inside.

you could do a whole thread about how this idea intersects with SEINFELD episode plots

First office job I ever had was open plan and you could smoke at your desk, and people did. It must have been hell to be a non-smoker in those days. I remember you could even smoke in cinemas in London - allowing people to light up in the pitch black, amazing there weren't more cinemas burning to the ground.

My local cinema in London had smoking and non-smoking sections, I was always amazed that people thought the actual smoke would go along with this instead of drifting across the entire auditorium. In fact this must have been in place even for kids' films, thinking about it. Nowadays nothing - nothing! - gives me more pleasure than seeing tobacco addicts hunched outside in the rain, sucking on their death sticks and looking embarrassed. Probably churlish of me I know.

It's still fairly common to see people smoking inside Romanian hospitals but weed is a one-way ticket to jail. Wearing a seatbelt is eccentric behaviour. Sexist, homophobic and antisemitic jokes are part and parcel of informal discourse. Almost none of the things cited itt apply in Eastern Europe (and across most of the world, I assume).

going to church every sunday....amirite??

Paedo priests seem to have gone out of fashion. I used to go a church that was an old converted ww2 cinema. The parish priest at the time, Father Crowley, ended up doing a long stretch for paedophile offences in Bradford, Portsmouth and Hudds. One of his sermons once was TLDR version: it's none of your fucking business what I do outside of this church!

>First office job I ever had was open plan and you could smoke at your desk, and people did.

One of my first jobs post uni (mid 1990s) was data-entry for a big insurance company. First day I went for a piss and saw a senior underwriter draining a hip-flask in the toilet at 9am. Lunchtime, the entire office decamped to the pub where most people would have at least three pints. The office was no smoking until 4pm, at which point ashtrays came out of desk drawers and cigarettes, cigars and pipes were lit in unison.

I'm still not convinced that lunchtime office drinking is socially unacceptable, at least in the UK and depending on your profession. Three pints a day at lunchtime probably is though, even if you're not working in I dunno a hospital.

When I used to go for liquid lunches we'd be downing strawberry alcopops, the idea was the site manager wouldn't smell the booze on your breath with pop. Obv getting fresh at lunchtime is very big and clever when you are working at heights on tower scaffolds, but it was considered completely socially acceptable amongst the degens I worked with.

ha in France lunchtime work drinking is certainly not socially unacceptable. not exactly obligatory but completely normal.

if it wasn't for the camaraderie and fun in pubs spilling over into working hours at times, then our working lives would be just utter misery and hard graft!

it very much depends on the company - I worked at a property portal website company in Soho for several years and 3 pint lunches were fine there, sometimes had more, and some people did it every day

if I did that at my current company it wouldn't go down well. I can drink at lunchtime but 3+ pints, no

It's still fairly common to see people smoking inside Romanian hospitals but weed is a one-way ticket to jail.

Back when I smoked I actually once found myself surrounded by armed police in Romania for daring to make a (tabacco) rollie in public. It took them an excruciating ten minutes to establish there were no drugs involved.

I'm guessing that in the US it would be considered degeneracy and cause for an intervention but especially at this time of year with all the sport on you see people doing it all the time. (xpost)

Hum in France, business lunches mostly include wine.
Over the years it has become acceptable NOT to drink but it's still almost putting yourself aside...
That said, I talk about government business lunch. It might be different in the private sector and especially in IT companies, start-ups etc.

at my university cantine most people generally don't drink wine with lunch, though it is available, but that's because lunches there tend to be short (like, only 45 minutes instead of 2 hours).

And organizing a private dinner at your place and have no wine is borderline social suicide !

i worked as a researcher for a tabloid reporter for exactly one day, and that day included a three-pint pub lunch with sausage and mash. it defeated me. i was not asked back. (thank god! speaking of looking back in horror..)

Back when I smoked I actually once found myself surrounded by armed police in Romania for daring to make a (tabacco) rollie in public. It took them an excruciating ten minutes to establish there were no drugs involved.

There's a pretty good film from 2009, Police, Adjective, that points out the absurdity of Romanian laws (and attitudes) towards weed. Sadly, not much has changed since.

As a side note, why is there no ILX en français?

I remember going to a restaurant in Manhattan with my father once where the smoking section was the first floor, and the non-smoking section was upstairs. It was one of the most passive-aggressively dickish things I've ever experienced.

I've always thought it was because French people prefer hating things tbh

xpost

lol, touché.

Let's just assume the 'L' stands for 'loathe'.

Speaking of France my French uncle (age 90) told me at the school cantine in the 1930s the kids would be served a carafe of wine - vive La France!