Stonewall the QUEER SUMMER 2019

Last night I watched the Press Your Luck reboot with my BF and it seemed like the right thing to be doing.

how long have you guys been together?

More than 3 years, somehow! (We were friends for 7+ years before that though.)

<3 :+) :+)

The real bummer about this set-up, and one which has set up a fairly big potential landmine up for us both, is that we respect each other too much as friends to actually go through with some of the fights that I think it's necessary to have with a significant other. (Not all of them; we have fought. Just not with the id fully unsheathed.)

necessary fights = why i have avoided having a S.O.

No Drama Morbama

You'll note I've started a tad fewer pointless fights on ILX these last few years.

i do know what u mean
conflict avoidance can backfire
but honestly sounds lovely!

Possibly controversial belief alert, but relationship fights, I think, are a useful tool in helping people better themselves.

they take a huge toll on me,
but admittedly
sometimes they have made me grow
(in a big way)
currently reading "why buddhism is true"
i like it!!!

i like to grow alone

lol
you can grow your own way!

Play the way you feel it
But listen carefully to the sound
Of your loneliness

like a heartbeat
drives u mad
in the stillness of remembering...

hey, i haven't posted this in years!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GoEJQ6ZDzIo

What a mixtape we could all make.

Five songs in: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5HSbx72tmvR7QNK2233wcs?si=GcIkMYT-RlOmbuAEosXLPw

excited!!! now if only spotify's web player would work

When it does, it's a collaborative playlist so add whatever gives you life this summer.

so amped, i will work on it from my phone too

can you add to it you're on free spotify? i stopped paying for it recently because i rarely used it.

anyway, someone add this on my behalf, please

https://open.spotify.com/track/7815vygbItI6iQg8DTkofq

I'll Do It Again gets such a wild response.

That's not the Steely Dan track right? (Link isn't working.)

https://open.spotify.com/track/7815vygbItI6iQg8DTkofq?si=DR8mu7jGTY6M_y9kCliM8g

I'll Do It Again by Omar S.

Added!

it's a good 'un!

Thanks Eric x

Not going to put it in the playlist, but this was the song I was listening to the most during pride month this year:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXmmWBzS-_o

^^^ what a jam

Not terribly queer tho, tbh.

Just added a slew

I need to get laid this weekend

Do u ever think about sex and it becomes really weird in your mind? Like you can't believe it exists? And you've been doing it for all this time?

"Somebody Else's Guy," perfect choice!

Do u ever think about sex and it becomes really weird in your mind? Like you can't believe it exists? And you've been doing it for all this time?

― surm, Saturday, July 13, 2019

That's how I think about people generally.

I usually can't believe it exists while i'm doing it

Lol
Thank u Eric!!!!

I had gay sex this morning! It was terrific, highly recommend. We listened to "Erotica" afterward and danced around the kitchen in our underwear

Pose is so sad, I can't believe I'm watching it and crying the whole time. I must admit I generally avoid AIDS-centred books and movies and TV and plays (still haven't seen Angels Of America, i.e.) after I had nightmares for a month after reading The Line Of Beauty.

No gay sex for me today, and I feel like I'm in the masturbatory equivalent of The Discreet Charm of the Bourgeoisie.

my hair down there fell out during radiation, and tbh i kind of don't mind that it's coming back much thinner... fine with crown and some ball hair, but my shaft we pretty hair and now it's not, so...great!

you will have a gnarly renaissance, tabes

also the barren parts of my scalp are showing signs of hairy life, kinda like the Genesis planet at the end of Wrath of Khan

my keyboard is obviously having trouble..."fine with crown and some ball hair, but my shaft was pretty hairy and now it's not, so...great!" was how that should have read lol.

<3 u guys. you are both amazing men.

so i met someone on grindr who is like totally beautiful...we were sexting for like 8 hours yesterday. but he's kind of out of my league. i'm p nervous to meet him what if he thinks i'm a shmo? oh also he's bi!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hiiii. In recent news, my boof and I are splitting up after 18 years. In the famed words of Brenda Cushman, bye bye love, hello pop tarts.

Oh no! I mean, I'm sure it's a complex situation that can't really be answered in words like "oh no" but I'm sure it's not easy.

Wow!! Congratulations on such a long relationship! Hope you both adjust to singledom smoothly

You don't sound sad, sure, so let me freshen your mug with a sparkling wine. We're hitting the town tonight.

in other news: seeing/quasi-dating a bi man has had few of the disadvantages I've been told. It helps that he lives on the west coast.

i think unless you own a Lear jet that's not really "dating"